Yes, I Am The 'Relationship Type,' But That Doesn't Mean I Can't Handle Being Alone

Yes, I Am The 'Relationship Type,' But That Doesn't Mean I Can't Handle Being Alone

I could be single if I wanted to.
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Since I was about 12 years old I have been dating.

This sounds crazy, I know. I began my dating endeavors when I was 12 years old and dated that same person until I was 18 and in college.

Then, when I got to college I was enamored by my best friend and actively tried to pursue a relationship with him for about six months until it inevitably failed.

Now, I am in a new relationship that is bright and very loving.

However, I have come to realize through my few relationships that I could be considered a "serial monogamist."

I am constantly dating or in an exclusive relationship. Don't get me wrong, the only relationships worth mentioning have already been stated above, which is not that many, but it has come to my attention that I have been seeing someone more often than not since I was 12.

Yikes.

I know what you're thinking; the same things I always think when I see people who are constantly dating.

"They must be afraid of being alone."

"They must be insecure."

"They need to focus on themselves for once."

I get it. I have seen it. But I don't think I fit in that quota.

Although I have been in long-term relationships for most of my adolescence and adult life, I do not believe in the slightest that I need to be with someone.

I’m just the commitment type.

I’m not ashamed of it. I don't have a fear of being alone. I don’t feel vulnerable, and I don’t consider myself to be needy or clingy.

I don’t need the comfort or security of a relationship, but I want it. I have the ability to uphold a relationship while still finding myself.

These days the dating scene is depressing. Everyone just wants casual sex or thinks they deserve praise for being single.

Everyone thinks they are too good for a relationship because they don't need anybody, and they are so empowered by their single lifestyle and having "freedom."

Now, being single isn't a bad thing as long as you're happy. Just like it's not a bad thing to choose to be in a relationship (as long as you're in it for the right reasons.)

I do believe I have only chosen to date people for the right reasons.

I did not choose to date any of these guys just because it was easy meeting new people in college. I did not choose to be in a relationship so I could get stuff out of dating them.

I did not choose to date people because they showed the slightest amount of interest in me. I did not choose to continue to date people just because I was with them for a long period of time.

Those would be the wrong reasons to date.

For me, there is a lot to be said about being the “relationship type.”

I have learned valuable lessons about myself and what I want in a partner from each of my relationships and friendships I have had.

Throughout these relationships, I have always told myself I do not need a boyfriend, but I am lucky to have one.

A common misconception about being in a long-term relationship or being a notorious dater is that I don’t know myself.

However, I believe all my relationships have been mature and had the right amount of freedom to help both parties grow.

While in relationships I still have learned how I like to spend my time alone.

I have still been able to get to know myself.

Over the years I have discovered that the best part of my days is jamming out in the car alone. I have learned that doing art alone in my room is when I feel the most comfortable in my own skin.

I have learned that reality shows are just a thing for my friends and I, not for my boyfriends and I. I have learned that I will probably never get the courage to dance as crazy as I do alone in my underwear.

I have learned that I am moody. I can get hangry. I am opinionated.

That is OK though.

So, yes, I am a notorious girlfriend. But that is not all I am.

I am so much more.

From the few times I have been alone and while I have been in relationships I have found within myself, and not with the help of a partner, what I want to do with my life and what kind of person I am becoming.

You can discover yourself in a relationship.

You can be comfortable being alone, even if you are labeled as “taken.”

I am me. I am comfortable being me in a relationship or if I was single.

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10 Signs The Guy You're Texting During Sylly Week Will Be Your Boyfriend By Finals Week

Trust me hunny, if he is actually interested, you can tell.

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We've all had that guy in our message thread that we have a crush on but can't tell if he does too. It's a little nerve wrecking because us girls don't want to say to much and make him flee. It's a give and take kind of game that can be fun or stressful. When texting a guy, it's always a gamble.

Here are 10 signs that will tell you if he actually likes you:

1. He texts YOU first 

This is super, super telling. If he really likes you, he will want to initiate conversation. Plus, this means he is thinking about you.

2. He sends long, thought out messages 

Typically, guys aren't the biggest texters. They usually send short and to the point messages, but if he is sending you long and carefully constructed texts, you are heading in the right direction.

3. He texts you when he wakes up 

Everybody knows this is of extreme importance. There are so many things a guy thinks about when he first wakes up so if you receive that message it means you were one of the first things that came to his mind.

4. When you don't text back right away he asks what you were doing 

The longer you take, he either wont think anything of it or he will think nonstop why you're not responding. So, If he asks what you were doing you know he's interested.

5. He makes it a point to text throughout the day 

Guys typically hate texting and don't do it often. So if he texts you all day long you are important in his daily life.

6. Compliments, compliments, compliments 

Compliments tell it all! If he constantly is genuinely complimenting you he is 100% interested.

7. He is always asking you questions about yourself 

If he does this he wants to get to know you better, which is a very good sign.

8. He tries to make you laugh

Making a significant other laugh is normally incredibly important. So if he is always trying to make you laugh and it's successful, you are on the right track.

9. He lets you know what y'all would be doing if he was with you 

This means he is thinking and fantasizing about you and imagining what it would be like to be with you—the best sign you could receive.

10. He texts you when he is drunk 

Listen up girls, if he is texting you and he is blackout drunk then this is tell tale sign. Guys can rarely even remember their name when they are drunk let alone text. So, if this happens you are definitely on his mind.

There are always signs to let you know if a guy really likes you. Here are just a couple to give a little insider, but if he does these then girl you've got nothing to worry about. Go get him, girl.

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10 Reactions You Have When Your Ex-Boyfriend Has A BABY, As Told By Michael Gary Scott

"Oh, my God! OK, it's happening!"

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I don't know if I'm still too young or already old enough for my ex-lovers to start having children but either way, I'm freaking out.

Whether it's my ex or my friends, I am in utter shock because it's a reminder that I am not getting any younger. I'm stepping into a realm that I've never traverse before, and in all honesty, I don't think I'm ready.

There's nothing wrong about them having a child, settling down, and doing their thing but how the hell did time fly so fast? It's just that I can barely make my bed every day, let alone change a miniature human's diaper.

These were my reactions while stalking my ex on Instagram, as told by Michael Scott:

1. When you first hear the news 

2. "Wait how old were we?" 

3. "How old am I?" 

4. "No I'm not THAT old... am I?" 

5. "Can someone please tell me how and when did this happen?" 

6. "OMG, it's so small and chubbers" 

7. Two words—baby fever 

8. Then you remind yourself that you can't even take care of yourself 

9. Miss emotions about the whole ordeal 

10. You're actually really happy for them 

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