20 Romantic Gestures That Do Not Include Buying Flowers

20 Romantic Gestures That Do Not Include Buying Flowers

Because roses are SO overrated.

Though you're not exactly sure about how you want to go about expressing your feelings to your sweetheart, you definitely know that a bouquet of flowers isn't even an option. While sweet, a bundle of even the prettiest roses or daisies is so overdone and isn't unique by any means. But your love deserves the absolute best, so if you're in a rut, here are a few ideas for romantic gestures that you can use on your mission to steal their heart

1. Give them an annotated copy of your favorite book

2. Take a copy of a page from their favorite book and make them a blackout poem

3. Write some sweet thoughts on Post-It notes and put them around their room

4. Dramatically recite Shakespearean love poems to them

5. Slow dance in the middle of the room with the lights turned down

6. Surprise them with their favorite coffee from their favorite café

7. Send them a series of love letters or cute postcards over a few days

8. Dress up in some of their clothes and surprise them with your new outfit when they come home

9. Film a quick video of yourself and talk about all the things you love about them

10. Take them to an art or history museum and narrate your visit like a silly tour guide

11. Spend an entire weekday morning relaxing together in bed

12. Go somewhere scenic to watch the sunrise, then go out for an early-bird breakfast

13. Get the two of you matching coffee mugs

14. Go to Walmart late at night and chase each other through the aisles

15. Leave a trail of breadcrumbs from the front door to the kitchen, leading your love to a home-cooked meal

(and offer to vacuum later)

16. Go to a ceramics studio and paint each other mugs or plates

17. Go to the pet store together and buy a fish that you can both take care of

18. Fill up the gas tank in your partner's car just because

19. Do your partner's laundry when they've had a rough week

20. Hold their hand when you go for a drive (but be safe!)

You've been armed with some of the best, most romantic ideas that you can use to woo your significant other over and over again. Go get 'em, tiger!

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8 Qualities That Still Hold Up When Looking For The 'Perfect Guy' In 2019

He hasn't come along yet, but I'll know him when I see him.


Ah, the mythical "perfect guy." Technically, he doesn't exist.

But there are guys that seem perfect to the people who love them despite their flaws. Over the years, I've compiled a mental list of things I look for in a guy. The list has changed over the years as different things became important to me. It's probably as complex and comprehensive now as it'll ever get, but I can't be sure.

The following are in order of importance, at least for me. Here are the best qualities to look for in a man in 2019:

1. Having strong faith.

This is crucial! I'm Christian, so for me, that means if he's not a Christian, it's a dealbreaker. My morals and beliefs are very strongly linked to my faith in God, and I just can't be with someone who doesn't share that conviction. I wouldn't marry a man who's not a Christian, so why even bother dating one?

"Imagine a man so focused on God that the only reason he looked up to see you is because he heard God say, 'That's her.'"

2. Kind

This is also very important! I've liked guys in the past who had some of the other qualities I looked for I but weren't kind. A relationship without kindness is toxic. Everyone deserves someone who treats them well, but that person should treat everyone well. They shouldn't discriminate with their kindness.

3. Funny

I need a guy who can make me laugh! He also needs to be able to understand my sense of humor, which is mostly sarcasm. I find a lot of things funny: jokes, puns, memes, no matter how seemingly stupid. If you've got those, you're golden.

4. Smart

Intelligence is attractive. It's true. I want a guy who's smart but isn't conceited. He knows he knows a lot but he doesn't think he's better than everyone else. He doesn't have to be a genius. He could be really smart in one subject, or kind of smart in many subjects. I just want him to know a thing or two about a thing or two.

5. Hardworking

My guy needs to be ambitious. He needs to have goals that he works toward. He can't be lazy. I believe that it is primarily the man's duty to financially support his woman. This is most applicable in marriage, but it works in dating relationships, too. I don't want someone who is unable to provide for me. In order to do that, he needs to be able to provide for himself.

6. Cute

You knew I'd get to this! I'm not blind, after all. Trust me, I think it's important for a guy to be attractive. But it's not as important as everything listed above this. I've been told I have weird taste in guys in terms of looks. What I see as cute doesn't always line up with society's definition. The important thing is that I'm attracted to him. Physical attraction is important in a relationship. To be picky: I don't like facial hair or too much muscle. I do like chest hair and back muscles.

7. Creative

This can mean a lot of different things. He could draw, paint, write, sing, play an instrument, etc. As long as it shows that he's inclined to use the right side of his brain. I'm a writer, so I'm naturally more drawn to people who prefer creativity over logic.

8. Interested in Me

Despite being last, this is extremely important! Without this, none of the other things matter. It's just like every other crush I've ever had. Nothing different. Nothing special. While I've been able to find guys who exhibit the first seven qualities, the eighth has been much harder to come by. I've never been in a relationship, so I imagine it will be really wonderful when I eventually find someone who reciprocates my feelings.

Some people may think my standards are too high, but I refuse to lower them. I believe that God has someone out there for me who lives up to these standards and even exceeds them. I just have to be patient and trust His timing.

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10 Thirsty Texts From Real Life Fuckboys Who Tried To Slither Back Into My Life

If you're not interested—stop texting me, stop giving me attention and I will happily do the same by cutting you out of my life.

Elle Hong
Elle Hong

Here's my rule of thumb when it comes to dating: If you're interested in me—prove it.

Don't just make plans with me or "promise" to come see me on some random Thursday. Make the effort to stick to that promise and get off your ass to actually come see me.

Don't just send me a plethora of Snapchats as a sign of affection for me to ooh and ahh over because honestly, that dog filter looks hideous on you.

It's plain and simple. Call me when you miss me, text me when you're thinking about me. Be direct, up front and keep the conversation going, or GTFO and stop wasting my time.

It baffles me how so many boys out there are willing to play this endless game of slightly showing interest, developing a promising relationship, then leaving you for a few days/weeks only to come slithering back into your life.

Call it "ghosting" or "orbiting"—I call it complete bullshit. Because you know what? Boys don't seem more manly or masculine for being somewhat "less clingy" as they might perceive it to be. And when they try to hit you up with a text in order win you back, they're really messing around with your feelings to break your heart all over again.

Here's a complication of 10 ACTUAL texts I personally received from real life fuckboys who tried getting back in my life by using the most cringe-worthy excuses to follow with it. And ladies, here are some ways how you can successfully clap back at them the next time this happens to you.

1. The mysterious case of the lost/broken phone

Best reply: Sent from my iPod

OK, so this is misleading because I'm mainly confused as to whether you LOST your phone or BROKE it or did both. Did you break it first? Lost it at the club only to find it broken after you found it? Please, one excuse at a time. If you lost/broke it, how did you send that text if you didn't get a new phone yet??? This requires a full-on FBI investigation

2. The sob story

Best reply: Sorry to hear that. Must've been a loonngg trip to the vet!

Shit happens, but were you really at the vet for the entire three-plus weeks that you didn't text me? I'm crying actual tears while reading this but your dog's misfortune isn't a one way EZ pass back into my life.

3. The Father Earth, Mother Nature

Best reply: Nah it's cool, I was out glacier hunting, no biggie.

Oh dear, this fuckboy needed a break from reality and decided to go on a freaking BACKPACKING trip across California and Arizona (throw in Nevada just for fun). You should try glacier hunting next time you're at it. That way, you can be gone longer than a few days and still have a great excuse, you pretend tree hugger.

4. The howdy

Best reply: Let's keep it that way :)

Nothing like waking up to a morning text like this. I've been great, actually. We haven't talked in SO LONG that I decided to delete your contact and my phone no longer recognized you. Report Junk! Report Fuckboy Alert!

5. The workaholic on lunch break

Best reply: Enjoy your lunch break and leave me alone :)

How uneventful is your lunch break that you decided to whip out your phone, scroll through your list of contacts only to send ME a text? Wow, I am truly honored. Would you like a side of I-Could-Give-Zero-Fucks with that Teriyaki Chicken plate?

6. The aggressive

Best reply: Ghost emoji

I mean, if he's leaving on some extravagant trip tomorrow you might as well do the deed and ghost him first. Also, I just love when guys decide not to reply, only to blame YOU for not texting back...? Do the logic here, something doesn't seem to match up.

7. The send some noods

Best reply: You will hear from my attorney.

This culprit just reached a new level of fuckboy-ness by going straight for the kill on the first try. Maybe a “How are you" would've led me to snap a topless pic for ya...NOT. Ask for a picture one more time and I'm dialing up my attorney for invasion of my privacy.

8. The say my name, say my name

Best reply: May I fuckin' help you???

Yes, that's my name. Yay! You spelled it right! Now, do you remember how I pronounce it? Bet you don't.

(Hint: It's not L, its [/eh-lee/])

9. The airplane mode

Best reply: Sorry I received this text notification, my b

This could go two ways: either his phone was on airplane mode and all notifications were muted OR he saw the notification and just ignored it only to follow up on it a few days later. Either way, I'm sorry you had to swallow your pride to have to text me this afterwards. To your self esteem—RIP!!!

10. The classic I miss you

Best reply: Sure, I miss you. But my aim is getting better.

Aww, my pretty face was thinking about the different ways I can take a swing at you the next time you decide to show up at my house to see me again. Sucks that you miss me, all I can say is that I wish that I felt the same!!

To conclude this article, a final message to all the fuckboys in the world: If you're not interested, stop texting me altogether, stop giving me attention and I will happily do the same by cutting you out of my life.

Elle Hong
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