20-Somethings Dish About The Most Romantic Thing A Partner's Done For Them In Bed

20-Somethings Dish About The Most Romantic Thing A Partner's Done For Them In Bed

And, well some people are less of the freak in the sheets and more of the romantic in the sheets. *wink wink*


When you think about it, sex is weird AF.

I mean that might be the most immature way of looking at it but hey, that crap is a little weird to think about. Sometimes the awkwardness and tension can easily be taken away if you are with someone that's more of a romantic than a freak.

So, with that being said, I asked some ladies and gents some of the most romantic things that have happened in between the sheets, and here's what they had to say.

Making it official under the sheets seems to be popular these days.

"During sex, and I mean right in the middle of sex my current boyfriend asked me to 'make it official' and as I said yes, well he finished, right on my back. I mean I can say it was during my favorite position. I think this made me love him even more than I already do but, also I knew that this was what he really wanted—to be with me. In a weird way, I think that it made us closer, and more comfortable with each other. After all, if the sex isn't good, why you with him?"

I really don't know how to respond to that. I mean they are right, why not ask them to be yours in the most intimate way possible, right? Cardi would be very proud of you- your favorite song should 100% be "I Do" by Cardi and SZA

You'll get the reference when you listen I swear. Get back to me once you have. *wink*

Here's another lover who's sex lead them into a relationship...

"The night after my homecoming, we were on the couch in my basement. It was awkward but sweet. When it happened it was everything I expected it to be in a good way. The new experience was something we had been wanting to do for a while. We waited a year and it was just like a release of all those pent-up emotions. We cuddled afterward and slept so close to one another I could smell his morning breath the next day when I woke up. Lol. It was like we were glued to one another and we've been together ever since. Going on six years now. I remember driving him home the next morning and while I was sitting in the seat all I can remember thinking is 'my crotch hurts.' But I had and still have no regrets."

My heart is oozing with happiness! I can only guess that one of the reasons you stayed with you boo was his morning breath? or maybe the fact that your crotch can hurt after sex? That has to be a good thing right?

Does this happen every time? If so, you need to find some of our single ladies a friend like him.

It's always nice when your S.O. gets what you've been through? Or some tough shit that's hard for you to handle like this next lady:

When Your S.O. understand where you came from, it can make sex even more romantic.

This shit matters gentleman, this is how you "get the girl."

It's always nice when your S.O. gets what you've been through? Or some tough shit that's hard for you to handle like this next lady:

"Honestly the most romantic thing was with my current boyfriend. I was sexually assaulted and when we were going to have sex for the first time I was scared. But he was so romantic because he asked for consent and would ask how I was doing all throughout. He made it all about me and my feelings."

This is another one of my favorite posts. Girl to girl, I'm so glad that you found someone like this. You won the LOTO girl.

Sometimes things said in the bedroom can make the sex even better than it already was, and I'm not talking about calling him Daddy. I'm talking about those three words: "I love you."

"The most romantic thing that has happened to me during sex is when my boyfriend finally said 'I love you' to me. Yes, I know it sounds pretty cheesy, but he stopped and looked me in my eyes and said 'I love you so much.' It led to a more rougher pace of sex, because Jesus if that doesn't turn on your freak in the sheets than what else? But, seriously, we've been together for almost three years so I know he wasn't just about the sex part. I think that makes it even more romantic, right?"

Can I get a collective, "awww?" Nothing is better than that extra "oomf" during sex to let your S.O. know that you're still in love with them.

Girlfriend, you are not alone. Here's another lady who's had the same thing happen to her with a little something extra on the side.

"I guess if you want to say 'sweet' things that he has done is grab my face and make me look at him while he tells me that he loves me so much. He also is super awesome at aftercare when we have done an intense scene (BDSM). He will cuddle me, bring me water and my fluffy blanket, stroke my hair, etc until I come down and can form a normal sentence."

Did you know? Happy cries during sex are also a thing too?

Hopefully, you're not agreeing with me because he hurts you, or anything of that nature. But here's a girl who told me that she's actually cried during climax because it was 'so good."

"So is it just me or has anybody else ever cried after an orgasm? I think it scares my husband or he thinks something's wrong and I'm just like no it was so good."

Crying can give that romantic vibe, right? I mean if the sex was good, and the orgasm was good maybe tears are the only way to show your S.O. that is was a great time, right?

This girl is not alone—because here's a girl who agrees that she, in fact, did cry, and she actually thinks that it was romantic.

"I cried once...blew my mind. I was like...how many places is fluid gonna flow from."

Like I said, sex is weird. Fluids come out of places you forgot they could come out if. It's an out of mind experience. But, when you have a boo that can bring you back to life and be cute and romantic, it makes is all worth it.

I have to say, some of you may have Noah from "The Notebook," and some of you may have a Christian Grey from "50 Shades."

And if he's both, well...

Good luck ;)

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

I Am A Hopeless Romantic Living In A World Where One-Night Stands Are The Norm

It's the little things.


In today's society, it can certainly start to feel like no one takes love seriously anymore.

Whether it's that one couple who has broken up and gotten back together more times than you can count, the two friends-with-benefits no one can figure out, your local womanizer, or just hookups in general, love and lust are a huge part of specifically college life and culture.

As a hopeless romantic, being part of a generation that "just wants to have fun" can be really frustrating, especially when you just want to find something real. It is so easy for people to put on a fake act just to get what they want and sometimes this can be extremely hard to see through. I'm sure we've all had some kind of incident with someone who played nice but had ulterior motives and the sad truth is that it can be impossible to recognize a person's artificiality.

I am a hopeless romantic.

I have always classified myself as such, and it has remained true. Sure, I can make the most of the freedoms I have as a single college woman, but deep down I just want to find my person.

I've had my fair share of letdowns, and I think we all have, but being a hopeless romantic makes it that much more difficult to get past the "what ifs" and fantasies that come along with starting something with someone new. We may already have our hearts set on a person when they decide they've gotten what they wanted and leave.

For me, I find myself caught up in the little things that someone does. I have always been someone who picks up on small details in situations, and sometimes this works against me.

I pick up on the small facial expressions that he may not even realize he is making; the ones that tell you when their guard has been let down, even just for a split second.

I pick up on the way he sits our two cellphones side by side on the nightstand, taking care to line them up perfectly as if that's just their spot.

I pick up on the short moments of laughter where he actually lets himself laugh and forgets about the act.

I pick up on things, and sometimes I end up hurting because of it.

When it comes down to it, though, I wouldn't change the way that I am. I wouldn't change the fact that I find myself in the search for more in a society that mostly only offers me less.

The trait that tends to hurt me most is also the one that I value most. Even if noticing all the little things is something that contributes to my own heartache, I love those moments. There is something beautiful about those tiny things shared by two people, even if the connection ends there.

Sure, it can be hard. But so can everything.

It's just a matter of finding the beauty.

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5 Movie Sex Scenes That Would Never Go Down Like That In Real Life

There's a lot of time, scripts, makeup, and lights that are involved in these scenes that make them what they are, unlike the sex that happens in real life.

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When I was a child, my idea of sex was confined to what I saw in the media — two people rolling around underneath the sheets of their bed. I didn't understand what was going on at the time until my parents had the birds and the bees talk with me, but still, sex was not something that was discussed regularly in any setting so I couldn't help but use the movies and television as my main source for sex education. When I was a teenager, I started watching rom-coms so my idea of sex expanded to a scenario where two people who loved each other effortlessly fall into a euphoric experience and then they live happily ever after.

Then something about the idea I had changed as I watched the series premiere of "Secret Life of the American Teenager," a popular teen drama from ABC family about a girl who struggles with being a mother in high school. One of the first and most memorable scenes of the show is when Amy Juergens talks to her best friends about what it was like to have sex for the first time. Her friends were ecstatic for her at first until she revealed her dismay, telling them "I didn't exactly realize what was happening until, like, after two seconds, and then it was just over. And it wasn't fun and definitely not like what you see in the movies, you know, all romantic and stuff."

I heard those words and was immediately taken aback. As a 13-year-old, sex wasn't on my mind much, but I couldn't help but hope that I could experience the magic I saw on screen. Then eight years later I have sex for the first time and I realized that what she said was right...not about the part about it not being fun, but more-so about the part that sex is not actually like what is depicted in the movies.

Here are five examples in movies that created unrealistic sex scenes for its viewers:

1. "Skyfall"

This steamy scene between Bond and Severine make shower sex look passionate and trouble-free, but do its expectations match reality? No. What they don't show you is the sting from the water getting into your eyes, the awkward positions your bodies have to accommodate with if there's a significant height difference between you and your partner and the fact that water is a terrible substitute for lube because it strips away the natural lubrication your genitals produce.

2. "No Strings Attached"

Sometimes there are those moments when you want to have sex, but you don't have that much time on your hands so you have to fit in a quick session before work in the morning, in between classes, or right before the kids come back home. Though Natalie Portman's "O" face is spot on, the main thing that makes her quickie with Ashton Kutcher's unrealistic is that she still manages to climax after 45 seconds without any kind of foreplay, lube, or toys involved. The female orgasm is still possible during a quickie, but in real life, there will still have to be creative measures involved so that enough stimulation outside of penetration is involved to get her warmed up.

3. "Fifty Shades of Grey"

As much as I enjoyed the playfulness behind Ana and Christian dipping ice cream on each other's bodies and licking it off each other, I couldn't help but roll my eyes at how over exaggerated it became. Yes, I understand that when something feels good, a moan or some type of vocalization will happen, but getting some kisses and licks on your thighs isn't going to have you arching your back like a demon going through an exorcism.

4. "Mr. & Mrs. Smith"

Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie's chemistry and passion in this scene is undeniable and it almost makes you want to start a fight with your partner just so you two can have some hot, angry sex just like them. Here's the problem though. They go from nearly killing each other to being boo'ed up like nothing happened. While angry sex can be a way for some couples to express emotions through adrenaline, it isn't the answer to our problems and shouldn't be a substitute for healthy communication.

5. "Titantic"

The moment in the movie when Kate Winslet's hand slams against the door of the car and drifts down as we stare at her steamy handprint and secretly wish we were sleeping with Leonardo DiCaprio will always be a classic. However, this scene is still a scam for those who hope car sex is as passionate and heartfelt as that. Truth be told, there's limited space to feel comfortable so leg cramps are inevitable and sliding against leather feels awful on your skin. To top things off, if you aren't careful enough, you may get caught by the police and ultimately have to register as a sex offender depending on your state's laws.

I truly hope for the day that sex in the media is represented in more of a realistic way, but until then, we just have to remember to take movies for what they are. Acting. There's a lot of time, scripts, makeup, and lights that are involved in these scenes that make them what they are, unlike the sex that happens in real life. As a matter of fact, sometimes sex isn't romantic. Sometimes it's not a fairy tale. There are times when it can be mind-blowing and other times when it's awkward, funny, or simply not what we expect. Do I appreciate fictional sex? Of course. But mainstream entertainment should also take the time to show us more than the sex we supposedly fantasize about and also show us sex that we can look at and see ourselves.

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