The topic of sex is one that can function as a highly polarizing and political topic, ranging from the right individuals have to their sexuality, the ability for them to have sex, who to have sex with and when to have sex.
One particularly polarizing topic is the notion of whether to have sex before marriage or to wait until you say "I do."
Quite frankly, there is no right answer to that question. Each healthy, consenting adult should have the ability to make decisions they feel is right for them about their own sex life.
Other people though, prefer to determine and police the acceptability surrounding sexual conduct, and shame individuals from making decisions about their sex life.
This type of behavior is present in a recent, viral article on this platform entitled "If The Bible Can't Convince You To Save Sex For Marriage, Maybe Science Will."
The subheadline of this article makes a good point, claiming that "sex shouldn't only be a faith-based decision."
Sex, casual or otherwise, should be a well-informed decision any adult makes regarding whether they choose to have it or not. One's faith (or lack thereof) level of comfortability, desire for sex, partner of choice and circumstances are all intersecting factors that one may consider when it comes to having safe, consensual sex.
One popularized notion regarding the study of sex is that of oxytocin, a hormone released during sex, childbirth, and breastfeeding. Oxytocin is colloquially referred to as the "love hormone."
People call oxytocin this "love hormone" since it can increase the feelings of attachment one might experience or influence one's sociability one has when it's released from the hypothalamus.
And while oxytocin is proved to function in pro-social behaviors, including sexual activity, it is not proven to "bond" someone for life.
So while the science recognizes the sociable and potential bonding effects oxytocin can have between individuals, it is not accurate to suggest that it is responsible for something as monumental as a lifetime of emotional bondage.
Therefore, making claims that a woman releasing oxytocin "connects her to the other person for the rest of her life" and that oxytocin "is also the reason so many girls feel so miserable after a short-term relationship ends" are not only false usages of scientific data, but they shame individuals who have decided not to wait until marriage to have sex.
There exist plenty of women who have can have casual sex and not feel bound to those sexual partners for life. Women also release dopamine during sex, meaning that their pleasure and happiness levels arise during sex similarly to men.
When short-term relationships end, the disappointment and misery more than likely comes from other emotional factors, not due to a woman's body bonded to a man for life.
Suggesting that a woman's sexuality and emotional stability is so heavily determined by one hormone not only denies many women of their healthy sexual expressions but is scientifically inaccurate.
So if you believe that saving sex before marriage in accordance with certain interpretations of the Bible, then please, save yourself. Those are your beliefs, and I respect that decision wholeheartedly.
Science, however, is not up for interpretation. There is no scientific, blatant fact that states oxytocin binds one to another person eternally, nor is the primary reason why women are unhappy when relationships end.
Attempting to enforce one's non-secular ideas through the misuse of science is not a logical, nor respectful way to articulate your beliefs, especially when your beliefs potentially infringe on someone's personal decisions.
So no, endocrinologic studies cannot directly tell you that it's better for everyone to save sex before marriage.
The decision on when to have sex comes from you and your beliefs, and so long as those decisions ensure you are safe, happy, healthy and respectful of those around you, they are the correct decisions.