8 Reasons The Sex Is Always Better In A Long-Term, Committed Relationship
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8 Reasons The Sex Is Always Better In A Long-Term, Committed Relationship

It gets better. It gets so, so much better.

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8 Reasons The Sex Is Always Better In A Long-Term, Committed Relationship
Caryn Whiteford

Being young and single can be the best time of your life. You're attractive and free and there's a world of commitment-free sex just waiting to be had.

But, when you finally find that one person who makes you want to put that all behind you, your sex life will change as well. And as a former proud single girl who had my fair share of 'fun' in college, I can tell you that nothing beats the sex you will have when you finally find that person.

1. You've mostly given up on shaving

When you're single and mingling, you need to be ready for any kind of intimate touch that may come your way. And while you still like to surprise your SO with your silky smooth legs, you know that they will find you sexy regardless of the thick winter coat you have yet to part with.

2. Your favorite post-sex activity is cuddling and watching Netflix

Gone are the days of awkwardly pulling on your pants, finding your bra, and wondering if your Lyft driver will judge you at 2:30 AM.

Now, you happily enjoy laying around naked, watching Neflix, and just soaking up all of the love.

3. You have had mature conversations about what you would do if an "accident" happens

Even after years of being together, an unplanned pregnancy is still a scary thing.

But, because you've shared so much of life together, you have learned how to handle the tough conversations like adults. You've got a plan a, and probably some Plan B, and a plan c just in case an accident happens.

4. Sex can be awkward, and you've learned how to laugh at yourselves

Sex doesn't look like it does in the movies. It's sweaty and wet and it has its own set of sounds and awkward positions. Sometimes you knock your teeth together when you're kissing and sometimes you get a charley horse in the middle of trying out the One-Legged Wheelbarrow.

But being able to laugh about it all makes sex that much more intimate and enjoyable.

5. You're comfortable enough to talk about trying new things

When you're with someone long enough, chances are you've gotten into a sexual routine. Whether you stick to two or three key positions or you've shortened your foreplay or you only have sex once a week, you have talked about ways to spice things up.

If you've been with your partner long enough, you can have open and honest conversations with each other about your weirdest and kinkiest fantasies.

6. And you're comfortable enough to point out when you're not that adventurous

But, you have probably discovered one or two of your partner's kinks that you aren't quite on board with.

And rather than letting things get awkward or agreeing to do something you're not comfortable with, you are both understanding and can talk about what things you want to try and what things are an absolute no-go.

7. The intimacy and closeness makes for even better sex

Sex and intimacy are inherently connected, but intimacy extends beyond getting naked and bumping uglies.

I love having sex with my boyfriend, but I enjoy laying in bed on Saturday morning talking and joking and watching Netflix just as much. The intimacy we have with each other has always kept us close and that closeness has led to better and better sex over the years.

8. You've just about given up on your insecurities and have learned to love yourself

When you're enjoying being single and the freedom that comes with being unattached, there's always a chance that a new hookup can bring new insecurities. Whether you're worried what they think of you when you're naked, if the noises you're making mid-climax sound too much like a porn star, or you're afraid of saying something stupid, the hookup game can seem like a battlefield.

If someone loves you, they will make you feel sexy and confident every second of every day. You could be bloated and full from eating too many slices of pizza and they will still think you're the sexiest person in the room.

And when you feel that kind of love, it's hard not to love yourself.

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