You Shouldn't Have To Ask For The Type Of Love You Know You Deserve

You Shouldn't Have To Ask For The Type Of Love You Know You Deserve

You shouldn't have to question whether or not someone cares. If they care, you'll know.

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I genuinely do not understand why I ever put up with anything less than I deserve in relationships.

I've always thought of myself as a nice person. I like to go the extra mile for people, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. My parents have always taught me that it's important to be willing to do things for people without expecting anything in return.

It's really not that difficult to do. There are people in my life that I care about a lot, and I want them to be happy. If you need someone, I'll be there, no matter what. I'm the "mom" friend, and I hold that title with pride.

However, whenever friendships or relationships would end, I'd always end up questioning everything I did for that person. Were they my friend just because of everything I did for them? Did they only like me because I was always there, but when I suddenly needed the same from them, they decided it wasn't worth it?

It really hurts when you suddenly find out people won't do the same for you as you've done for them. No one wants to feel like their friends don't care about them, and it sucks when you realize it's true.

But, some people just love differently than you, and that's OK.

Sometimes, the expectations that you have for people are just a little bit too high. Sometimes, people can't do for you what you've done for them. But, that doesn't mean you have to put up with it.

If you're genuinely struggling, the people you love should be there for you. If you need someone, you shouldn't feel like a burden. I never realized how important this was until I found people that genuinely treated me like I deserve to be treated.

I spent my entire life going an extra mile for people and loving them like I want to be loved while receiving almost nothing in return. That's bad, and I've learned to stand up for myself when people start treating me badly. I won't put up with things that don't match what I need and want.

Just because someone loves you, doesn't mean they care for you. That's a hard lesson to learn.

In the past, there were so many people that I would go to when I was sad or just having a bad day and wanted to vent, but that wasn't important enough for them to spend time or energy on. I thought it was a problem with me when it was actually a problem with them.

I've always felt sort of alone when I go through things. In the past when I've reached out, no one really helped me in a way that I needed, even when I asked. That's wrong, and I refuse to accept that ever again.

Now, if I'm feeling sad, my friends don't stop bugging me until I talk about it. If I need something or just need to vent, I always have people there with no judgment. I don't have to ask them to treat me like how I deserve, and that's the best thing that I could have ever asked for.

I never realized how badly I was treated until I found people that actually help me and care about me, and I can't settle anymore. I shouldn't have to question whether or not you care. Actions speak louder than words, and it's pretty easy to see the truth when you start paying attention to the right things.

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6 Insanely Real Times Jim And Pam Had Moments Very Similar To Your Own Relationship's Moments

You always want that fairytale romance, but it rarely happens now-a-days.

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Being like the famous Jim and Pam is a dream come true. Yes, they started on rocky terms, but they eventually found their way towards each other and lived a happy life in each other's arms. I was like that with my boyfriend, and hope that our little hiccup doesn't last too long.

1. In relationships with other people

Jim has been longing to be with Pam for years, almost since he first saw her when they started working together. I realized I wanted my current boyfriend when I was with my ex.

2. Occasional flirting (without realizing it at first)

Throughout the entire first few seasons of The Office, Jim and Pam would be constantly flirting: without the other person knowing its flirting. With me and my boyfriend, we texted for a whole week where we would be flirting, but I didn't realize that's what it was until he told me how he felt and for how long.

3. Going through bad relationships, realizing they want each other

When Pam found out Jim liked her, she was still with Roy, but things were not going that great, she just did not want to accept it. I was having trouble with my now ex, but I was too scared to admit it because he was my first love. Once I started talking to my current boyfriend, I realized I should have ended things because I shouldn't be unhappy in a relationship just because I didn't want to be alone, or lose my first love.

4. Helping through the rough patches of each relationship

It is obviously a while before Jim and Pam realized they were meant for each other, but in the meantime, they helped each other through their relationships. They don't want the other to be unhappy, even if deep down they know they would be happier if they were out of their current relationships. During the first month I and my current boyfriend were talking, I helped him get through his rough patches with his ex while he also helped me with my difficult times with my now ex. Eventually, we both realized that we don't want to be with our significant other, we wanted each other.

5. Get together, but keep it a secret

This relationship happened like in a fairytale. Jim came back after breaking up with his girlfriend, and he immediately asked Pam out. I had only just recently broken up with my now ex, and my current boyfriend asked me out almost a week later because he did not want to lose the chance again.

6. Have a big fight, don't know what to do

This isn't how these 2 end their relationship, but they do have a huge fight about what they really want from the other. In the end, they both realize they are happy together and will do anything, like move around a lot, if it means they can be with each other. With my relationship, I am not sure what is happening at the moment. We never got into a fight, but things happened that we can't be together-together, and all we can be for now are friends until things cool down. I am hoping this isn't the end, and I can have the same happiness that Jim and Pam got in the end.

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6 Things You Learn Living With Your Boyfriend For The First Time, All Within, Like, 500 Square Feet

Love is patient, love is kind.

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Last summer, my boyfriend and I were at a crossroads in our relationship.

At the time, we had been together for over a year and a half, and I had just made the decision to move seven hours away to Los Angeles to finish school. Realizing we didn't want to spend the next two years apart from each other, we made the huge decision to move in together in the new city.

While living with my partner has had its ups and downs, I've learned a lot about our relationship. Here are six of the biggest lessons I've learned while living with my boyfriend for the first time.

1. There is such a thing as too much time together.

Most of the time we can't get enough of each other, but there are times when we definitely need some alone time. Spending all hours of the day cuddling on the couch can feel super good sometimes, but in order to keep our relationship healthy, we have realized that it is important to have outside interests, hobbies, responsibilities, and friends. This just makes it so much sweeter to come back home to each other at the end of the day.

2. Our relationship won't always be "50-50."

In an ideal world, we would split all of our mutual responsibilities equally. However, the real world is messy, and sometimes one of us needs to pull more weight than the other. When I'm sick, my boyfriend has no problem doing the laundry and dishes and then lavishing me with back rubs in bed. And when he's working long hours or having a hard day, I will do the same for him. In the end, we both care and love for each other equally, and that's all that matters.

3. We have different ideas about cleanliness.

I'll admit, I'm a bit of a neat freak. My boyfriend is by no means a dirty person, but little things like leaving shoes and clothes lying around bother me a little more than they should. Part of living together has been learning to accept one another's natural tendencies, being patient, and compromising. While my boyfriend still has a tendency to leave things scattered about, he has learned to be more conscientious, and I have learned to relax (a little).

4. Having different schedules can be challenging.

While my days tend to begin pretty early in the mornings, my boyfriend works night shifts, so it can be difficult to schedule mutual activities together, particularly SLEEP. However, the longer we've been together, the better we've been able to accept these differences and work around them. I'm okay with the few hours cuddling in bed together each night, especially because I know this is only temporary.

5. Living together is surprisingly easy.

One of the best things I have found from living with my significant other is that it is actually REALLY EASY. Sometimes I'll hear those nightmare stories about couples who move in together, only to find out that their lifestyles aren't compatible at all. I've been really lucky to find someone who lives so harmoniously with me. For the most part, my boyfriend and I work perfectly together, and that's one of the ways I know he's a keeper.

6. Our relationship is only growing stronger.

Honestly, my boyfriend and I might as well be married already, because the more we learn about one another, the closer we become. I love living with my boyfriend, I love being with him, and I have a feeling that we'll be together forever. Cohabitation is a beautiful thing, and it's one of the most important ways to figure out or wants and needs in a relationship. I just feel lucky I've found my number one.

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