5 Subtle Signs You Could Be In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

5 Subtle Signs You Could Be In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

Emotionally abusive relationships are still abusive relationships. Let's take a look at some of the signs.

Kodie
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Trigger warning: domestic abuse and violence


In my mind, I thought it was love at first sight. I met a boy one night and we instantly hit it off. For the next few months, I spent every chance I could with this boy. Slowly but surely I realized that he was not the person I thought he was. Eventually, I had to cut things off. Our relationship had become so toxic that my mental health went completely down the drain.

I made the mistake of not recognizing the signs of an emotionally abusive relationship. I would like to share some of the signs that you are in a relationship like this with examples from my own experience.


They control who you can and can't talk to 

While I was dating this boy I started to notice he would get really upset whenever I would spend time with other people, even including my family (ridiculous I know).

I wouldn't be able to hang out with my friends without him getting mad at me for it. In the case it was a male friend I was hanging out with, he would get livid. Due to this, I would have to purposefully stop hanging out with the people closest to me. I would start trying to look for reasons as to why I couldn't hang out with them.

I would even have to assure him that I didn't want to hang out with them (even when I did), just so he wouldn't say anything to me later about how I don't care about him. I lost a lot of my dearest friends because of this. Take my advice: DON'T DO THIS.

They constantly stalk your location or ask where you are 

Okay, boys who do this are the worst. I seriously couldn't go to a restaurant with my parents without him asking me why I was there and who I was with. He would later ask me about every place I went to.

Keep in mind I was extremely loyal and never gave him a reason to doubt otherwise. You are a human being with free will, you can go to places and do things! I felt like I was on a leash constantly.

You are still your own person and you are allowed to go places and do things. Your significant other shouldn't have that much control on your life.

They make you apologize for everything

Even when something had nothing to do with me or wasn't my fault, the only way to end an argument or fight with him was to apologize. I remember apologizing once because he had a dream I left him for someone else.

Ridiculous right?

You shouldn't feel obligated to say sorry over things that he makes up or over things he does. Apologize when something is your fault and no more than that.

They constantly take but never give 

I remember being in this relationship and going out of my way to make him happy, but he would hardly ever do anything for me.

Relationships should be balanced. You both should be giving and taking. When one person starts to only take it is no longer a relationship, you are now a slave to them. You have your own needs and they should understand that.

You are less happy WITH them than you are without them 

When you are with someone, you should be happy. You should feel like you're a better person. While I dated this boy I began to realize that I no longer felt happy.

I was sad constantly and hated waking up each morning knowing I was never going to be good enough for him. Look at your situation, because your mental state is so important, and when you start to sacrifice that for someone else, it's time to give them up.

No relationship is ever going to be perfect, but you should feel happy, secure, and loved. Emotionally abusive relationships are still abusive relationships. Take a look at the situation, if you aren't gaining anything and only sacrificing yourself, maybe it's time for a change. Be careful and remember that there is always going to be someone out there who is going to treat you the way you deserve.


Kodie
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12 Things To Know Before Dating A Girl Who Loves Country Singers More Than She Loves You

They’re just as important as you, babe.

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If you're about to fall for a girl who falls for country singers, prepare yourself by knowing the following:

1. The playlist 

My playlist will go from Luke Combs to Blake Shelton and you'll have to deal with it. Your playlists are not an option. I will go on and on about how beautiful their voice is, but don't get jealous.

2. Releases

I will set alarms for new releases like Luke Combs "The Prequel" and you HAVE to be as excited as I am. I will be more excited about these releases than I am about anything else in life, but suck it up buttercup.

3. Concerts

I will give up time with you to go see my favorite singers and you’ll just have to understand. You can either join or not, but the plans aren’t changing.

4. Lyrics

You will hear me quote their lyrics more than I’ll say I love you, but just know I still love you.

5. Car rides

Every car ride will include country music, while it will most likely be Luke Combs or Adam Doleac blaring on the radio, you better enjoy every bit of it.

6. I will talk about how beautiful they are.

You’ll hear about their looks often, wether it be Luke Combs eyes or Luke Bryan’s voice, the looks will be brought up. Don’t get jealous, you’re just as handsome.

7. Their voices

Their voices are BEAUTIFUL. While I personally favor Luke Combs, just know I love yours too.

8. Phone backgrounds 

My phone background is most likely some country singer and not a picture of us, but you’re important, I promise.

9. Home Decor 

I will have pictures of Faren Rachels and I up before I have some of us, but realize I have plenty of pictures of us and one with her.

10. Awards

Whenever any awards are on, they’re number one priority compared to your Braves games. You can always watch recaps.

11. Singing 

I will randomly start singing any song by them and probably interrupt any story you're telling, sorry they're on my mind.

12. Dates

I will make sure any release dates for new songs, albums, or concerts are on my calendar; however, I will probably forget our anniversaries.

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I Asked 10 Brides What They Wish They Had Done Differently While Wedding Planning And Their Responses Ring True

When the engagement celebration sets in and the wedding planning begins, 10 brides give their advice on how to plan a kick-ass wedding.

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Maybe it's just me, but I was almost in a state of denial after our engagement. I was on this cloud and I didn't want to start thinking about what's next. But a week later we started thinking about possible dates, venues, and budgets and that when the stress began— which wasn't fun.

It's hard not comparing one's wedding and planning processes to those of the movies and other friends. But every wedding is as different as the couple themselves are; that's what makes a wedding spectacular and amazing! So with wedding planning, I have found some of the best advice I have received has been from first-hand experience. These 10 Brides have something to say when asked the question, "What is one thing you wish you hadn't stressed so much when planning your wedding?"

1. Too much pressure on the event.

"Putting too much emphasis on the event, rather than the reason for being there. Make a commitment to God and each other to make it through the good and the bad times. That's what really matters!" Denise, married December 24th, 1994

2. Take in the moment and live it!

"About the wedding day being perfect, it's gonna go how it's gonna go. Don't stress about it, just take in the moment and live it. Oh and don't be a bridezilla. Ruins the day and the mood." Kayla, married December 9th, 2016

3. Do only what you want to do!

"Worrying about everyone else! It's YOUR DAY! Do only what you want to do!" Ashleigh, June 7th, 2017

4. Don't stress the small stuff!

" Planning wasn't that stressful for me! But when it came to the actual day, there were so many things that I was like, 'this literally doesn't matter.' Such as the flowers or decorations or the little details. Of course they were all great and everything looked amazing. But little details you don't even notice on your wedding day. For me, the day went by SOOO fast! Everything was so fast paced and so I didn't even have time to glance at the decorations table or card table. Don't stress the small stuff! Because on your actual day, it'll be the last thing on your mind! Because you'll just wanna see your groom so bad that nothing else matters!" Kelsie, married August 19th, 2018

5. Too many little details that nobody else cared about.

"Too many little details that nobody else cared about that I cared about too much! So much time went into it which I loved, but it's more about spending time with all the people that you love in your life! They don't care how much money you spend on the day or if everything goes perfectly. They just want you to have a good day and they want to celebrate you and your love and marriage!" Savannah, married October 1st, 2017

6. It's about you and your spouse.

"How much other people thought things are important to them. Dang this is my day and what's important to me and my spouse is what matters. It's about us." Denise, married July 28th, 2007.

7. Having the "perfect picture" like everyone else in my mind had.

"Definitely all the details that you don't really notice, like the seating chart at the reception. Don't stress about getting things done the week of the wedding, if it doesn't get done then it doesn't get done. You're going to get married regardless and no one will even notice it. I also had to keep reminding myself, it's about the marriage, not the wedding. Pictures/video were a big thing I stressed about because I wanted it all to be "perfect" pictures like everyone else in my mind had...I spent so much time finding pictures and trying to match those pictures that I didn't enjoy the picture finding process. I would also say that the night before the wedding don't stress too much about all the details that you hadn't gotten to because it's going to be beautiful and you need sleep, especially if you are going on your honeymoon right away because then you wind up sick...
One big one I stressed about a lot was how well all the pinks in my wedding matched (I'm OCD) Cloth napkins, table runners, the bridesmaid dresses, to the decorations." Presley, married August 18th, 2018

8. The guest list

"Honestly I stressed about the guest list the most and still do even now. Since my fiance and I are both from a small town and both have big families, it took us quite a while to get the guest list figured out. Our wedding budget was also a factor in determining how many people we wanted to have as well. At the wedding you want people there that are an influence on your life and it's hard looking back thinking of all the people that have been a part of it over the last many years. Once that was figured out it was a big relief, but it has also been fun planning everything. Even the guest list." -Morgan, getting married in June of 2019.

9. Thinking too much about making it different or comparable to other weddings.

"I'm a people-pleaser by nature. And because we are young I worried about people looking at our wedding and judging based on what we didn't have. I compared it too much to my other friends' weddings, YouTuber's weddings, and the stuff you see in the movies. And finances were a big stress in the early stages as well. But once we took a step back to just process what our wedding meant to us as a couple and what we want our marriage to be, we were able to lighten up a lot and have more fun! Yes, we had to refocus our finances and savings, but really we just kept reminding one another that this was one day to the rest of our lives together as husband and wife. The best is yet to come. - Megan (Me) Getting married in September of 2019!


It's easy to get into the mindset that your wedding has to be "perfect" and it has to look like weddings in the movies or in the pictures of other people. But that's what's amazing about weddings. They are uniquely yours. If you have a hard time getting out of this mindset like I do a lot of the time, just think about your fiance. Remember that you are committing forever to the one you love. Marriage is more than just one day.

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