7 Signs Your Single Friend Might Be Better At Dating Than You

7 Signs Your Single Friend Might Be Better At Dating Than You

They might be dating geniuses and you don't even know it.

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We all have a go-to friend who gives THE BEST dating advice. Somehow, whether they're single or in a relationship, they always know just what to say. Pretty soon, you can't help but wonder if your single friend might actually be better at dating than you...

1. Their advice is the best and you ask for it quite often.

Don't get me wrong here, asking for advice to someone is always a good thing because others may offer a clearer and more objective perspective of your relationship problems. However, if you are constantly recurring to the same person in order to get advice and that person happens to be your single friend, then you're probably not the best at making your own decisions like he or she might be.

2. They are more selective than you are.

Sometimes if you stop and wonder why they are not dating a lot or anyone for that matter, you may think they are either weird or questioning their own sexuality. Truth is, they're actually just looking for a person they know they can have a long and stable relationship with, and as you may know, those are kinda hard to come by.

They don't simply try to date anybody they've just met because they know their chances of making it work are slimmer than dating a person they know well. In short, they are more selective because they know what they want whereas you may not just yet.

3. They helped you find your current girlfriend/boyfriend.

Because they also probably know you better than you know yourself, they are also the best wingmen or real-life Tinder matchers. More likely than not, they probably helped you or contributed to finding your current lover. They might have helped you choose between one person or another or they might have simply made a suggestion on why you should date someone and you went ahead and followed it.

If you think about it, I'm sure you might remember a time or two when they were right in those kinds of situations.

4. They are not clingy.

After dating several people for a while and having experienced a lot of things, it is almost inevitable that sometimes negative thoughts will pop-up in your mind such as jealousy, the possibility that your counterpart might be cheating on you, or the need to do everything with them because you don't want to lose them. This sense of attachment and fear of losing your counterpart might suggest you to be with your couple all the time.

But in reality, giving each other space to breathe is essential, especially if you want to have a good relationship. Your single friend probably understands this concept better than you because since he or she has been alone for a long time, he or she probably values his or her time alone more than you do, making them less susceptible to be clingy.

They know that balance is key.

5. They are better at learning from their own mistakes than you.

If you think about it, dating is a constant cycle that revolves around screwing up and then making up. For this reason, when you're in a relationship, you always get the chance to always keep learning from the mistakes you make—whether that is by not dating someone who's crazy like you did in the past, or by not letting your significant other be too controlling or manipulating.

However, for some reason or another, your single friend seems to never fall for the same thing twice. This most likely means they learned something and they are probably going to take more precautions when considering other dating prospects. By the way, this also explains why they tend to be more selective.

6. They are more independent.

Don't know if you have heard this before but usually, people who are more independent and confident are overall more attractive than those who are not. Knowing how to be independent is a key characteristic in both life and dating. But when you've been dating a little too much and have not spent some time alone, you're probably lacking in this area. Mainly because by dating too much you can unconsciously develop a feeling of dependence upon someone else that your single friend most like does not have.

7. They understand timing and its effects.

If you have dated multiple people you probably know what I am talking about. At times you may find yourself in a situation where you seemingly find the ideal person to date but you can't because you either live far away from each other or either one of you is going through a situation that is not allowing you to date. This problem is quite relevant among relationships but a lot of people foolishly chose to date anyway while knowing they will probably won't be able to hold a sane relationship.

Single people, including your friend/s, have probably seen how this affects other people's relationships and they want to take no part of that. Thus, they avoid going for those kinds of relationships altogether because they rather invest their time in something that has greater chances of working out.

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I Am A Hopeless Romantic Living In A World Where One-Night Stands Are The Norm

It's the little things.

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In today's society, it can certainly start to feel like no one takes love seriously anymore.

Whether it's that one couple who has broken up and gotten back together more times than you can count, the two friends-with-benefits no one can figure out, your local womanizer, or just hookups in general, love and lust are a huge part of specifically college life and culture.

As a hopeless romantic, being part of a generation that "just wants to have fun" can be really frustrating, especially when you just want to find something real. It is so easy for people to put on a fake act just to get what they want and sometimes this can be extremely hard to see through. I'm sure we've all had some kind of incident with someone who played nice but had ulterior motives and the sad truth is that it can be impossible to recognize a person's artificiality.

I am a hopeless romantic.

I have always classified myself as such, and it has remained true. Sure, I can make the most of the freedoms I have as a single college woman, but deep down I just want to find my person.

I've had my fair share of letdowns, and I think we all have, but being a hopeless romantic makes it that much more difficult to get past the "what ifs" and fantasies that come along with starting something with someone new. We may already have our hearts set on a person when they decide they've gotten what they wanted and leave.

For me, I find myself caught up in the little things that someone does. I have always been someone who picks up on small details in situations, and sometimes this works against me.

I pick up on the small facial expressions that he may not even realize he is making; the ones that tell you when their guard has been let down, even just for a split second.

I pick up on the way he sits our two cellphones side by side on the nightstand, taking care to line them up perfectly as if that's just their spot.

I pick up on the short moments of laughter where he actually lets himself laugh and forgets about the act.

I pick up on things, and sometimes I end up hurting because of it.

When it comes down to it, though, I wouldn't change the way that I am. I wouldn't change the fact that I find myself in the search for more in a society that mostly only offers me less.

The trait that tends to hurt me most is also the one that I value most. Even if noticing all the little things is something that contributes to my own heartache, I love those moments. There is something beautiful about those tiny things shared by two people, even if the connection ends there.

Sure, it can be hard. But so can everything.

It's just a matter of finding the beauty.

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Dedicate Your Summer To Bettering Yourself For Yourself, Not Your Ex

Why waste energy on an ex who doesn't care about you anymore?

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I'm single for the summer (yet again, no shock there) but this summer there's something in the air that just feels different. It's the feeling of true acceptance of my single status.

Last summer I was single when I really didn't want to be. My heart with still holding out for a guy who wasn't interested in anything more than my friendship. It took me from late March all the way until Halloween to get over those feelings. However, while working through those tough feelings that summer, I came to enjoy my time on my own and not talking to anyone except my best friends. I didn't have to worry about when I'd get a text back, or if I'd be left on read, or who he'd be out with since I wasn't around. The only thing I needed to worry about was my paychecks and tan lines.

Sometimes after breaking things off with someone who you put so much effort into, whether it was a boyfriend, an almost relationship, or even a friend with benefits, it's easy to want to show off on social media and make them regret ever hurting you or ending things. Why? It's a nice little ego boost, sure, but after those few seconds of glee from the fact that you know they've seen and maybe even liked your picture or your tweet, or saw your story on Snapchat, do you still feel happy? No, you go right back to feeling like crap, whether you want to admit it or not. Stop making yourself all about them when that ship has sailed and start being all about you.

Your ex is off doing their own thing, maybe thinking about you, but obviously not enough to want you back in their life the way you used to be. They are probably out there finding a new person to take your spot because they don't have you at their beck and call anymore. If they're also showing off to show you how much better they are without you or to make you jealous...why are you still following them or still participating in this sick little game for attention? Grow up and block them so you don't have to keep seeing their posts, or be adult enough to stop if you're doing the same as well. If it's only you posting, chances are you just look stupid, so stop before you really embarrass yourself. I was that person, and I know first hand how embarrassed I am for acting the way I did.

Summer is synonymous for doing whatever the hell you want. Wear what you want, say what you want, and be the best version of yourself that only a high dose of Vitamin D can bring out. Your ex is an ex for many reasons. You have to set aside the summer for you and what benefits you only. Don't concern yourself with an ex who doesn't care in the least about you anymore. Coming from someone who posted thirst traps aimed at a specific person along with countless shady AF stories on Snap and Insta in the hopes that this one person and their friends would see it, just stop and save yourself the energy as well as regret.

We're all adults, it's time to stop the petty posts and photos. Post your thirst trap for yourself because you're a sexy queen who doesn't need anyone but herself. Once you start focusing on yourself this summer, instead of your ex, you'll realize just have great it feels to truly be free.

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