7 Signs Your Single Friend Might Be Better At Dating Than You

7 Signs Your Single Friend Might Be Better At Dating Than You

They might be dating geniuses and you don't even know it.

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We all have a go-to friend who gives THE BEST dating advice. Somehow, whether they're single or in a relationship, they always know just what to say. Pretty soon, you can't help but wonder if your single friend might actually be better at dating than you...

1. Their advice is the best and you ask for it quite often.

Don't get me wrong here, asking for advice to someone is always a good thing because others may offer a clearer and more objective perspective of your relationship problems. However, if you are constantly recurring to the same person in order to get advice and that person happens to be your single friend, then you're probably not the best at making your own decisions like he or she might be.

2. They are more selective than you are.

Sometimes if you stop and wonder why they are not dating a lot or anyone for that matter, you may think they are either weird or questioning their own sexuality. Truth is, they're actually just looking for a person they know they can have a long and stable relationship with, and as you may know, those are kinda hard to come by.

They don't simply try to date anybody they've just met because they know their chances of making it work are slimmer than dating a person they know well. In short, they are more selective because they know what they want whereas you may not just yet.

3. They helped you find your current girlfriend/boyfriend.

Because they also probably know you better than you know yourself, they are also the best wingmen or real-life Tinder matchers. More likely than not, they probably helped you or contributed to finding your current lover. They might have helped you choose between one person or another or they might have simply made a suggestion on why you should date someone and you went ahead and followed it.

If you think about it, I'm sure you might remember a time or two when they were right in those kinds of situations.

4. They are not clingy.

After dating several people for a while and having experienced a lot of things, it is almost inevitable that sometimes negative thoughts will pop-up in your mind such as jealousy, the possibility that your counterpart might be cheating on you, or the need to do everything with them because you don't want to lose them. This sense of attachment and fear of losing your counterpart might suggest you to be with your couple all the time.

But in reality, giving each other space to breathe is essential, especially if you want to have a good relationship. Your single friend probably understands this concept better than you because since he or she has been alone for a long time, he or she probably values his or her time alone more than you do, making them less susceptible to be clingy.

They know that balance is key.

5. They are better at learning from their own mistakes than you.

If you think about it, dating is a constant cycle that revolves around screwing up and then making up. For this reason, when you're in a relationship, you always get the chance to always keep learning from the mistakes you make—whether that is by not dating someone who's crazy like you did in the past, or by not letting your significant other be too controlling or manipulating.

However, for some reason or another, your single friend seems to never fall for the same thing twice. This most likely means they learned something and they are probably going to take more precautions when considering other dating prospects. By the way, this also explains why they tend to be more selective.

6. They are more independent.

Don't know if you have heard this before but usually, people who are more independent and confident are overall more attractive than those who are not. Knowing how to be independent is a key characteristic in both life and dating. But when you've been dating a little too much and have not spent some time alone, you're probably lacking in this area. Mainly because by dating too much you can unconsciously develop a feeling of dependence upon someone else that your single friend most like does not have.

7. They understand timing and its effects.

If you have dated multiple people you probably know what I am talking about. At times you may find yourself in a situation where you seemingly find the ideal person to date but you can't because you either live far away from each other or either one of you is going through a situation that is not allowing you to date. This problem is quite relevant among relationships but a lot of people foolishly chose to date anyway while knowing they will probably won't be able to hold a sane relationship.

Single people, including your friend/s, have probably seen how this affects other people's relationships and they want to take no part of that. Thus, they avoid going for those kinds of relationships altogether because they rather invest their time in something that has greater chances of working out.

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I Asked 11 Strong Independent College Girls Why They Plan On Staying Single Alllllll 2019

We don't all need a man to be happy.

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Listen. Not every college girl wants a ring by spring or really even cares about finding a man. With the popularity of going to college just to walk out with a Mrs. Degree, all the confident and single ladies tend to get overlooked.

Well, ladies, in case you haven't caught on to 2019's biggest dating trend, I'll share it with you—it's loving yourself and staying single. Here what these 11 strong, independent, college girls say about their plans to stay single alllll 2019.

1. Boys are dumb. Simple as that.

"The male species literally is incapable of using their brain at 20-years-old, I'm going to wait until 30s so maybe they will know how to use their common sense. Sorry boys." - Shelby, 20

2. I want to grow on my own.

"I want to focus on learning more about myself and challenging myself. Also, relationships are complicated so I'd rather spend that time worrying about or focusing on school." - Molly, 18

3. Self-love is the best love.

"I need to learn to love myself more than I have been the past two years. I just got out of a two-year relationship (which I am still severely heartbroken over) but I am actually excited to be living life for me." - Caitlin, 20

4. The time spent on focusing on gaining someone else's love will now be spent on finding love within myself.

"It's not that I plan on staying single, I'm just not going to actively put myself out there and fine tune myself. I have spent the past couple of years doing everything I could to find a guy, dating apps, blind dates, letting my friends run my dating apps, socializing a little extra and it just makes me so tired. I want to focus more on myself and what I like to do. Take myself out for a nice dinner and spend time with me. Not watching Netflix but actually getting to know who I am and love myself again, because how you can expect somebody to love you and know you if you don't even know or love yourself?" - Leah, 23

5. Time for some power moves, sister.

"I'm achieving my career dreams without any man holding me back or making me second guess myself or my decisions!" - Jenny, 21

6. Someone print this on a damn t-shirt or something.

"I'm trying to get A's, not Baes." - Holly, 20

7. Well, to put it simply...

"Men are trash." - Bobette, 22

8. Your potential should not be defined by a relationship.

"I've found there's more to life then having a boyfriend. Right now, I'm transitioning from being a college student to my career and I think the last thing I need is to worry about starting a relationship. I'm going to focus on loving myself this year." - Sarah, 21

9. So much time has already been wasted...

"I plan on staying single because boys have been too much of a waste of my time already." - Erin, 21

10. What's the move in 2019? Self love. That's the move in 2019.

"For myself, honestly. I just want to focus on me." - Lex, 19

11. I'm the best me when I'm single.

"I just function better when I'm by myself. There's no extra stress and no need to please or impress anyone." - Jordyn, 20

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11 Thoughts Single College Girls Experience On Valentine's Day

All the mixed emotions single girls feel on Valentine's Day

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Other than my junior year, any Valentine's Day that came across during my college years were filled with a wide range of emotions. Part of me was salty because I wanted the gifts and attention others were getting. Part of me was relieved that I didn't have to plan anything and could focus on classes the next day. Most of the time though Valentines Days were filled with anticipation for the "Fifty Shades of Grey" trilogy.

I've always wondered how my personal mixed emotions seemed to line up with the general population and research shows that it's complicated for many. Although singles aren't necessarily devastated by it, our thoughts about Valentines Day depend on many situational factors.

And if you're a single college girl, you may be thinking these 11 things on Valentine's Day:

1. “I wish I had a boyfriend just for the day.”

This is what some girls are thinking if they’ve been single for a while and they don’t necessarily miss being in a long-term relationship, but they just want completely undivided attention for the day and a romantic candlelight dinner.

2. “I’m glad I don’t have a boyfriend. I don’t need a man.”

This is what usually goes on through girl's heads if they're the independent type who don't place that much value on relationships. They might still scroll through Instagram out of pure nosiness, but if anything, they're probably thinking about how happy they are in the relationship they have with themselves.

3. “I wonder if he’ll send me a happy Valentine’s Day text...or maybe it’s too early for that.”

Valentines Day is already hyped up enough when you’re in a relationship and it’s to be expected that you probably won’t be doing anything romantic if you’re single on that day. But what about those who are in a situationship? Yes, it’s that awkward phase when an official title isn’t there, but that doesn’t mean Valentines Day can’t be brought up at all. Don’t you secretly hope that the person you’re involved with will at least send you a “Happy Valentines” text or stop by and give you a rose?

4. “Wait, they’re actually together?”

On Valentine's Day, the timeline on Instagram is similar to the Oprah Winfrey meme “You get a car! You get a car!" except it's with boyfriends instead. This girl has a boyfriend! *gasp* and this girl has a boyfriend too! *gasp*

5. “Wait...didn’t she just key his car and slash his tires after he hooked up with her best friend last week?”

This exact thought might be a tad bit of an overexaggeration, but it's still the most awkward thing when you see a picture of a couple looking as happy as can be, but deep down everyone knows that their relationship is nothing but drama behind closed doors.

6. “I’ll just hang out with my girl friends, eat pizza, and gossip.”

Girls who enjoy the company of their closest friends more than anyone else will most likely be thinking of hosting a Galentine's Day party rather than a Valentine's Day party. Besides, romantic love isn't the only love that exists.

7. “I’ll treat myself with chocolate.”

Let's be real. Valentine's Day is the perfect time to take a break from the diet and splurge on candy and chocolate.

8. “I’ll treat myself with wine.”

Other than candy and chocolate, wine would be the third option as a substitute for having someone special for Valentine’s Day.

9. “I can’t believe I got dumped.”

Believe it or not, the time of February is peak breakup time. A Facebook study showed that around the time of Valentine’s Day is usually when you’ll notice breakups start to happen in a more recurring manner.

10. “It’s literally no different than any other day.”

Then finally, there are the people who really don't give a damn about Valentine's Day at all because ultimately, it's just another day.

11. “Maybe this wouldn't be so bad if I wasn't dick deprived.”

Sometimes Valentine's Day doesn't have people thinking about intimacy and romance. Sometimes it's just a reminder of the sexual drought you've been going through for a while.

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