18 Super Early Signs That Your Crush Might Be A Toxic Boyfriend

18 Super Early Signs That Your Crush Might Be A Toxic Boyfriend

Put your new relationship euphoria on hold and look out for these red flags that might mean your new boy toy is toxic.

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Having a new crush is exhilarating. The butterflies, late night talks, and mutual obsession are electrifying, but the euphoric feeling that comes with a new crush can disorganize one's thoughts making it easy to miss major red flags that point to a potentially toxic relationship.

Before you dive head first into a new relationship and completely lose yourself for a guy you know little about, be sure to put your euphoria on hold and look out for these super early warning signs that might mean your new boy toy is TOXIC.

1. They move too fast

People always say "when you know, you know," but it's important not to rush into anything too quickly, or to at least be cautious when you do.

2. All of their exes are "crazy"

If all of their exes are "crazy" and they constantly vilify their exes, there's more than likely a cycle. This person might be resentful and unable to forgive. Be careful, or you could be the next "crazy ex."

3. They wallow in self-pity

If you notice early on your crush hyper-focuses on all of life's misfortunes, this could overflow into your relationship and eventually he will start hyper-focusing on all of your mistakes—big or small.

4. They are self-absorbed

Being self-absorbed can be mistaken for confidence at first, but be careful, too much confidence can be a sign of narcissism.

5. They insist on knowing details you're uncomfortable sharing

If someone pushes to know things about your past that you aren't ready or willing to share this could mean your crush doesn't and won't respect any boundaries you may set in the future.

6. They don't have a desire to befriend your friends or family

If someone doesn't want to get to know your friends or family then this person will more than likely cause you to isolate yourself from them later in your relationship's future.

7. They sneak into your phone or social medias

This invasion of privacy is a huge red flag. Whether it's rooted in lack of trust or in the need to know your every move, it is a huge "no no." This means your crush doesn't trust you and trust is the foundation of any good relationship, this is also a huge sign of controlling behavior.

8. They sleep a lot

The occasional nap is no crime—I should know, but sleeping through work or taking naps every day shouldn't be ignored. If someone sleeps so much it is affecting their day to day, then odds are this person is struggling with things not even love can fix. Just remember it isn't your job to fix someone, and you can only help those who want help.

9. They have no drive

If you notice your crush has no life goals and relies on their parents for everything, then odds are this person is not only lazy but entitled with no work ethic. Unless you want a boyfriend who doubles as a kid, then run away cause you can't file "bum boyfriend" as a dependent for your taxes.

10. They're overly insecure

If you constantly have to reassure someone it can become tiring. This could be rooted in self-hatred and nothing you say or do can make this person believe you care. This can be draining and eventually make you feel like you're not enough.

11. They have double standards

If your crush gets jealous when you go to the gym in a tank top but spends his Thursday nights at Hooters, then you are experiencing a double standard. This double standard won't stop there, later in the relationship you will have all these rules that he doesn't have to abide by—and that's unhealthy, controlling and manipulative behavior.

12. Nothing is their fault

If your crush can do no wrong then you should start to worry. Being able to admit to one's faults is important and admirable.

13. Refuse to make things public

If your crush is adamant on keeping things "just between the two of us," then odds are he has commitment issues, and if he ever does commit you might be left with the feeling that you aren't enough.

14. Conversations seem shallow

If your conversations lack depth than that might mean your crush is emotionally closed off or just plain shallow. Either way, if you can't have a conversation with meaning the relationship probably isn't headed on the right track—or a meaningful track.

15. Taking forever to respond

If he responds every three hours even if he isn't at work and has nothing to do then he's probably just keeping you on a hook reeling every so often just to keep you around. He's probably not interested in you and only interested in what you can do for him.

16. Isolating you from others

Isolation is a huge red flag. If someone causes you to isolate yourself from the people and things you love the most then you might begin losing yourself. People who do this want control. Don't give it to them.

17. Hung up on an ex

If your crush is still heartbroken over an ex then he probably isn't ready for anything serious. But if they broke up over a year ago then this guy either has a weird obsession or is using his heartbreak as a way for attention. Either way, it's a no go.

18. Lacks appreciation

You could hang the moon and this guy still won't say thank you. Be sure that your crush is appreciative of even the smallest things you do. If not, then nothing you do will never be enough and you will lose yourself trying.

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Literally, so hot RN

Before You Double Text Read These 10 Reasons On Why He Hasn't Responded To Your Text

If he has left your last message on 'Read' or 'Delivered' here is why.

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It's all fun and games until your newest boo doesn't text you back. You're panicking wonder if you did something or how busy are they to not have responded to you. It's a shot to your pride when you are contemplating sending a double text, so you type a message and delete it, just to repeat the same process over.

1. He is overwhelmed with school

School can be very stressful at times, and everyone processes that stress differently. He may be able to give you the attention you desire because his proprieties lie with his academics.

2. He is not interested and doesn’t know how to tell you

Communicating is important, but not all guys know how to. He does not want to hurt your feelings, so instead of telling you straight up he is not interested, he just doesn't give you any more of a reason to be interested in him.

3. Your last message was not response worthy

Whether it was a bad joke or a dying conversation, he did not feel the need to respond. He did not feel like the conversation was worth continuing or that he could bring anymore excitement to it.

4. You are making assumptions about him

Don't make assumptions about a guy and push those assumptions upon him. If you want to grow with him, you can't believe everything you hear. Guys find it disrespectful when you take false information and try to use it against them.

5. He is busy

If he is apart of athletics, has a job or takes part in any extracurricular activities his amount of free time is very minimal. Scrolling through twitter feed or Instagram is a force of habit, but texting takes a little more energy he is not willing to use.

6. He is napping

Boys sleep. A lot. They stay up all night playing video games and get exhausted during the day. His phone is probably on Do Not Disturb while he takes a three hour nap, just to wake up and forget to take his phone off Do Not Disturb.

7. He has heard rumors

You have potentially done something in your past that he is not fond of and he would rather not continue talking to you. Whatever has been said, he believes it and does not see a point in continuing something with you.

8. Someone else is occupying his time

No girl wants to deal with the thought of her guy dealing with another woman, but there is always a chance. He may not be giving you attention because his attention is with another a girl. He trying to play both sides of the fence but cannot equally give you you both all his time. You just so happen to be the girl that receives the lesser of his time.

9. Playing video games

You know it. I know it. We all know it. Guys are addicted to the controller. Whether it be Fortnite or 2K, they are always some how online gaming. They game for hours and do not want to take a break to text you back.

10. He forgot

Boring, but true. Once he forgets to reply he probably won't reply period. Once forgotten, they typically feel like there is no point and it is just too late to say something back. If you see him in person, don't take it personal, make a funny joke out of it and forget it ever happened.

Now you no longer have to wonder why he hasn't texted you back. There are so many reasons why guys don't respond or even text back hours later. You have to decide whether it is because of his schedule or if he is up to no good.

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If He Won’t Post You On His Insta, Sis, You’re Wasting Your Time

So he posted a picture with you, but didn't tag you... that's a red flag.

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Over the years, I wasted a lot of time chasing people, and I mean, haven't we all?

There is always some part of us that keeps us believing that eventually if we stick with it, they might come around, but... it never happened. We could use all the plays in the book: hard-to-get, wearing red, and even claiming them with cute pictures on social media (my personal go-to), but let's face it, if they weren't feelin' it then they just weren't feeling it.

If this sounds familiar, then here's the good news—today is the day we are going to set you free from this trap.

Don't be like me, wasting your time on someone who doesn't show they care isn't just a bummer, but it's holding you back. For one, it's holding you back from someone who will make you the start of their show. Every minute you pine for someone who doesn't appreciate you is a moment you could be out there finding someone who can appreciate you and make you happy. And two, it's holding you back from spending your precious time on doing you and living your best life. Don't let that be you.

So yes, it's time for you to quit spending your time pining when you should be out there shining. The first step is to start getting real about the social media red flags someone is waving that tell you they are less then what you deserve.

1. He doesn't let you follow him 

Ok, this is a given. If he won't let you follow him, block him, right now, I'll wait. Did you do it? Good. If a potential S.O. is hesitant to accept your follow request, he's hiding something and that's no way to start a relationship. Whether it's a girlfriend back home or a couple of unwarranted MAGA posts, he's gotta go.

2. Refusing to post pictures with you

If instead of posting the cute couple candid of you two swooning he posts a friend group picture where he's mid-sneeze, that's a no-go. For one, he could have other chicks he's trying to hide you from OR he's just not that into you. Boys know IG official is a thing, don't let him rope you into this childish game.

3. Yay, he posted a picture with you, but he didn't tag you

This is the biggest red flag in the book. You go from being S.O. potential with a brain and bangin' personality to just a hot side-piece to up their IG game. If he can't tag your name then he is way less then you deserve, and you should untag him ASAP.

When it comes to relationships, it is so easy to glorify the good moments while dismissing anything that looks bad. When in reality if someone likes you it'll will all feel pretty dang good.

Sometimes we hang on so tight to someone, we don't realize it's only us making the effort and I know, it's hard to hear that someone you care about may feel differently than you—I won't ignore that—but in a weird way, do yourself a favor. You know that you can do better, you deserve better, and you should never settle for less.

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