18 Super Early Signs That Your Crush Might Be A Toxic Boyfriend

18 Super Early Signs That Your Crush Might Be A Toxic Boyfriend

Put your new relationship euphoria on hold and look out for these red flags that might mean your new boy toy is toxic.

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Having a new crush is exhilarating. The butterflies, late night talks, and mutual obsession are electrifying, but the euphoric feeling that comes with a new crush can disorganize one's thoughts making it easy to miss major red flags that point to a potentially toxic relationship.

Before you dive head first into a new relationship and completely lose yourself for a guy you know little about, be sure to put your euphoria on hold and look out for these super early warning signs that might mean your new boy toy is TOXIC.

1. They move too fast

People always say "when you know, you know," but it's important not to rush into anything too quickly, or to at least be cautious when you do.

2. All of their exes are "crazy"

If all of their exes are "crazy" and they constantly vilify their exes, there's more than likely a cycle. This person might be resentful and unable to forgive. Be careful, or you could be the next "crazy ex."

3. They wallow in self-pity

If you notice early on your crush hyper-focuses on all of life's misfortunes, this could overflow into your relationship and eventually he will start hyper-focusing on all of your mistakes—big or small.

4. They are self-absorbed

Being self-absorbed can be mistaken for confidence at first, but be careful, too much confidence can be a sign of narcissism.

5. They insist on knowing details you're uncomfortable sharing

If someone pushes to know things about your past that you aren't ready or willing to share this could mean your crush doesn't and won't respect any boundaries you may set in the future.

6. They don't have a desire to befriend your friends or family

If someone doesn't want to get to know your friends or family then this person will more than likely cause you to isolate yourself from them later in your relationship's future.

7. They sneak into your phone or social medias

This invasion of privacy is a huge red flag. Whether it's rooted in lack of trust or in the need to know your every move, it is a huge "no no." This means your crush doesn't trust you and trust is the foundation of any good relationship, this is also a huge sign of controlling behavior.

8. They sleep a lot

The occasional nap is no crime—I should know, but sleeping through work or taking naps every day shouldn't be ignored. If someone sleeps so much it is affecting their day to day, then odds are this person is struggling with things not even love can fix. Just remember it isn't your job to fix someone, and you can only help those who want help.

9. They have no drive

If you notice your crush has no life goals and relies on their parents for everything, then odds are this person is not only lazy but entitled with no work ethic. Unless you want a boyfriend who doubles as a kid, then run away cause you can't file "bum boyfriend" as a dependent for your taxes.

10. They're overly insecure

If you constantly have to reassure someone it can become tiring. This could be rooted in self-hatred and nothing you say or do can make this person believe you care. This can be draining and eventually make you feel like you're not enough.

11. They have double standards

If your crush gets jealous when you go to the gym in a tank top but spends his Thursday nights at Hooters, then you are experiencing a double standard. This double standard won't stop there, later in the relationship you will have all these rules that he doesn't have to abide by—and that's unhealthy, controlling and manipulative behavior.

12. Nothing is their fault

If your crush can do no wrong then you should start to worry. Being able to admit to one's faults is important and admirable.

13. Refuse to make things public

If your crush is adamant on keeping things "just between the two of us," then odds are he has commitment issues, and if he ever does commit you might be left with the feeling that you aren't enough.

14. Conversations seem shallow

If your conversations lack depth than that might mean your crush is emotionally closed off or just plain shallow. Either way, if you can't have a conversation with meaning the relationship probably isn't headed on the right track—or a meaningful track.

15. Taking forever to respond

If he responds every three hours even if he isn't at work and has nothing to do then he's probably just keeping you on a hook reeling every so often just to keep you around. He's probably not interested in you and only interested in what you can do for him.

16. Isolating you from others

Isolation is a huge red flag. If someone causes you to isolate yourself from the people and things you love the most then you might begin losing yourself. People who do this want control. Don't give it to them.

17. Hung up on an ex

If your crush is still heartbroken over an ex then he probably isn't ready for anything serious. But if they broke up over a year ago then this guy either has a weird obsession or is using his heartbreak as a way for attention. Either way, it's a no go.

18. Lacks appreciation

You could hang the moon and this guy still won't say thank you. Be sure that your crush is appreciative of even the smallest things you do. If not, then nothing you do will never be enough and you will lose yourself trying.

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10 Signs The Guy You're Texting During Sylly Week Will Be Your Boyfriend By Finals Week

Trust me hunny, if he is actually interested, you can tell.

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We've all had that guy in our message thread that we have a crush on but can't tell if he does too. It's a little nerve wrecking because us girls don't want to say to much and make him flee. It's a give and take kind of game that can be fun or stressful. When texting a guy, it's always a gamble.

Here are 10 signs that will tell you if he actually likes you:

1. He texts YOU first 

This is super, super telling. If he really likes you, he will want to initiate conversation. Plus, this means he is thinking about you.

2. He sends long, thought out messages 

Typically, guys aren't the biggest texters. They usually send short and to the point messages, but if he is sending you long and carefully constructed texts, you are heading in the right direction.

3. He texts you when he wakes up 

Everybody knows this is of extreme importance. There are so many things a guy thinks about when he first wakes up so if you receive that message it means you were one of the first things that came to his mind.

4. When you don't text back right away he asks what you were doing 

The longer you take, he either wont think anything of it or he will think nonstop why you're not responding. So, If he asks what you were doing you know he's interested.

5. He makes it a point to text throughout the day 

Guys typically hate texting and don't do it often. So if he texts you all day long you are important in his daily life.

6. Compliments, compliments, compliments 

Compliments tell it all! If he constantly is genuinely complimenting you he is 100% interested.

7. He is always asking you questions about yourself 

If he does this he wants to get to know you better, which is a very good sign.

8. He tries to make you laugh

Making a significant other laugh is normally incredibly important. So if he is always trying to make you laugh and it's successful, you are on the right track.

9. He lets you know what y'all would be doing if he was with you 

This means he is thinking and fantasizing about you and imagining what it would be like to be with you—the best sign you could receive.

10. He texts you when he is drunk 

Listen up girls, if he is texting you and he is blackout drunk then this is tell tale sign. Guys can rarely even remember their name when they are drunk let alone text. So, if this happens you are definitely on his mind.

There are always signs to let you know if a guy really likes you. Here are just a couple to give a little insider, but if he does these then girl you've got nothing to worry about. Go get him, girl.

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10 Reactions You Have When Your Ex-Boyfriend Has A BABY, As Told By Michael Gary Scott

"Oh, my God! OK, it's happening!"

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I don't know if I'm still too young or already old enough for my ex-lovers to start having children but either way, I'm freaking out.

Whether it's my ex or my friends, I am in utter shock because it's a reminder that I am not getting any younger. I'm stepping into a realm that I've never traverse before, and in all honesty, I don't think I'm ready.

There's nothing wrong about them having a child, settling down, and doing their thing but how the hell did time fly so fast? It's just that I can barely make my bed every day, let alone change a miniature human's diaper.

These were my reactions while stalking my ex on Instagram, as told by Michael Scott:

1. When you first hear the news 

2. "Wait how old were we?" 

3. "How old am I?" 

4. "No I'm not THAT old... am I?" 

5. "Can someone please tell me how and when did this happen?" 

6. "OMG, it's so small and chubbers" 

7. Two words—baby fever 

8. Then you remind yourself that you can't even take care of yourself 

9. Miss emotions about the whole ordeal 

10. You're actually really happy for them 

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