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I ditched My Former Situation-ship and here's Why You Should As well

Actions don't always speak louder than words.

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It is not only common to hear how many people have been friendzoned, but it is even sadder that so many have stayed waiting for such a stagnant thing to become more.

Situationships are becoming more common nowadays, especially among young adults. For those who don't know what that is, basically is having a one-sided treatment similar to that of an amorous relationship but without the title.

I've been in a situation-ship before when I was in high school and let me tell you it was my best and worst teacher. Seeing other people where I was at one point, makes me want to shake them (okay not literally) but knock some sense into them.

If you're currently in a situation-ship, let me tell you that it is time to let go. Whether you have known them forever or not, anyone who does not value you as a person doesn't care for your feelings or time.

Clearly, you are wasting your time and energy with someone who is not reciprocating the same feelings back.

The one who is meant to be with you will not make you question where you stand. They will let you know how much they adore you and how much you mean to them.

They will show you off to the world, kiss you like they mean it, and will be straightforward.

The worst thing I had to learn when I was infatuated with someone was that they told me they didn't know what they wanted yet at the same time demonstrated affection.

And I really did take that saying "actions speak louder than words" too literally. Can you blame me?

Whoever wants to be with you will make every effort to be with you no matter what. The idea of somebody leaving you wanting more and not making it official can really break you emotionally.

But I tell you, it's time to ditch your situation-ship. Honestly, sometimes there are individuals out there who can't stand the idea of being with someone who is just more than them.

I'm not saying there are people who are better than others, but sometimes we are the ones who have our sh*t together while they don't and to them, that is intimidating.

Or maybe we don't want to give away certain things that come with relationships. Um, like sex.

The best things come when we least expect them. Learn to realize what it is that you deserve because obviously, your emotions aren't toys for some random person to be playing with them.

You are worthy of someone who sets your heart on fire, not someone who puts out your flame. Don't let anyone make you believe that love isn't a good feeling, it is and more.

There are billions of people out there, don't let one ruin your chance of finding your true love.

Part of loving yourself is letting go of those who use you for their benefit.

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