I ditched My Former Situation-ship and here's Why You Should As well
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It is not only common to hear how many people have been friendzoned, but it is even sadder that so many have stayed waiting for such a stagnant thing to become more.

Situationships are becoming more common nowadays, especially among young adults. For those who don't know what that is, basically is having a one-sided treatment similar to that of an amorous relationship but without the title.

I've been in a situation-ship before when I was in high school and let me tell you it was my best and worst teacher. Seeing other people where I was at one point, makes me want to shake them (okay not literally) but knock some sense into them.

If you're currently in a situation-ship, let me tell you that it is time to let go. Whether you have known them forever or not, anyone who does not value you as a person doesn't care for your feelings or time.

Clearly, you are wasting your time and energy with someone who is not reciprocating the same feelings back.

The one who is meant to be with you will not make you question where you stand. They will let you know how much they adore you and how much you mean to them.

They will show you off to the world, kiss you like they mean it, and will be straightforward.

The worst thing I had to learn when I was infatuated with someone was that they told me they didn't know what they wanted yet at the same time demonstrated affection.

And I really did take that saying "actions speak louder than words" too literally. Can you blame me?

Whoever wants to be with you will make every effort to be with you no matter what. The idea of somebody leaving you wanting more and not making it official can really break you emotionally.

But I tell you, it's time to ditch your situation-ship. Honestly, sometimes there are individuals out there who can't stand the idea of being with someone who is just more than them.

I'm not saying there are people who are better than others, but sometimes we are the ones who have our sh*t together while they don't and to them, that is intimidating.

Or maybe we don't want to give away certain things that come with relationships. Um, like sex.

The best things come when we least expect them. Learn to realize what it is that you deserve because obviously, your emotions aren't toys for some random person to be playing with them.

You are worthy of someone who sets your heart on fire, not someone who puts out your flame. Don't let anyone make you believe that love isn't a good feeling, it is and more.

There are billions of people out there, don't let one ruin your chance of finding your true love.

Part of loving yourself is letting go of those who use you for their benefit.

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Hometown Tinder Is Every College Girl's Worst Nightmare When She's Home For The Holidays

It's full of all the boys who made fun of you in high school.

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Ah, the holidays. Three whole weeks where college students pack up their dorm necessities and return back home, to Christmas carols and grandma's famous fudge and some well-deserved rest. However, the holidays also come with quite a bit of extra spare time, and without your college friends three doors down, it can be hard to figure out what to do with yourself. This may lead to quite a few naps and Netflix binges, or if you're anything like me, swiping left and right on Tinder until you're completely out of people around you.

And while I'll whole-heartedly admit that I turn to Tinder over my holiday breaks to cure my boredom, I also know damn well that hometown Tinder is every single college girl's worst nightmare during the holidays. Here's why.

1. All of the boys who made you cry in high school are on it.

Remember when you had the biggest crush on Jake when you were sixteen and he made you cry at the homecoming dance when he wouldn't slow dance with you to "Someone Like You"?

No matter how hard you try to push that memory to the darkest parts of your mind, ten swipes on hometown Tinder will lead you to his picture on your iPhone. And while it may be fun to laugh at how he went from a 8 out of 10 in high school to a 6 out of 10 on a good day now, you don't want to be stuck contemplating whether or not you should swipe right on the boy who ruined your makeup on what should've been a good night.

2. And so are the awkward ones who you never really talked to.

Yeah, you always thought Aaron was cute, but you never struck up a conversation on the bus ride home. Now, you're stuck with a question that could go many ways: do you swipe right or not?

3. Most of the people you're swiping on will never leave your hometown.

Girl, you have goals. You were one of the few people who actually left your hometown and went off to school, and the last place you want to end up when you graduate is back in those hometown streets. Why in the world would you want to end up with someone who never plans on leaving?

Yeah, you may think it's "just Tinder," but truth is, you never know what could happen with the guys you talk to on there.

4. So. Many. Exes.

Your first crush from 5th grade, your senior prom date, your first kiss, the first guy who ever broke your heart...hometown Tinder is stacked FULL of so many of your exes in one place. If you choose to navigate hometown Tinder, well, good luck, sis.

5. You're going to end up doing something you regret.

Whether it's hooking up with a guy you've known since you were in diapers or getting back with your ex, hometown Tinder leads to nothing but bad decisions. Trust me on this.

6. You know people in your hometown run your mouth.

When you're away at school, the only time someone MIGHT talk about your Tinder is if some guy from work or one of your class recognizes you and thinks your bio is witty. When you're back home, however, your Tinder profile is going to be a featured screenshot and every "Saturdays are for the boys" group chat within a 15-mile radius. People are going to run their mouth about you even having a Tinder and they'll tear apart all your pictures and your bio. Yeah, it's shitty, but isn't that expected?

7. You're forced to lower your standards.

Let's be real for a second: the guys on hometown Tinder simply just aren't as cute as the boys you're swiping right on like crazy back at school. If you want a hometown hookup or even just someone to entertain you with conversation while you're bored binge-watching "Friends" for the fifth time, odds are you're going to have to lower your standards a bit.

8. One wrong swipe and you've ruined your holiday season.

Y'all, these are the holidays we're talking about. Three weeks to rest and recharge. Time to enjoy family and friends and the joy that comes with the holidays. You don't want to be stuck upset or annoyed or pissed at some rando and whatever they said to you on an app. Maybe, no matter how bored you get, it's best you let things settle for a bit and stay far away...

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8 New Year's Resolutions That Every Single College Girl Should Make In 2019

This is your year.

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Despite what you have probably been repeatedly preached, starting off the new year single doesn't suck. You may not have a definite New Year's Eve kiss, but you have plenty of opportunities to improve yourself and succeed in your goals, without the obligations of a relationship holding you down.

1. Dedicate more time to your friends.

When you're in a relationship, friendships can fall to the back burner. Single life is the perfect opportunity to invest more time in your friendships. Whether it's staying in or going out, organizing a wine night or a study session, make your friends a priority this year.

2. Have more confidence with guys and dating.

Text a crush from class first. Don't be afraid to leave a situation that doesn't feel right, of losing a date out of fear that you won't get another. Even if you get turned down, deal with confrontation, or remain single for a while, things will work out.

3. Break a bad habit.

The "New Year, New Me" mentality can often be daunting (and very ridiculous). The reality is, you are still you, faults and all. But making a goal to change one thing that's been holding you back can be helpful. Maybe this is going out for more, or procrastinating on studying, or a personal thing you really want to change, for yourself.

4. Improve your study and work habits.

This is the year to succeed in academics and career. Don't let procrastination and laziness hold you back. Get organized and get your goals accomplished.

5. Go on dates.

Don't make your goal to get into a relationship. But being single doesn't mean locking yourself off from possibilities. Get to know different people and options. Whether this is simply casual, disastrous, or has the potential to develop into more, don't try to force anything, and remember that everything is a learning experience.

6. Learn a new skill (or improve an old one).

When you're single, your schedule is yours. Why not take the opportunity to learn a new skill or hone in an old one that you've abandoned? It doesn't have to be a huge conquest that feels impossible. Take painting or cooking classes. Dedicate time every day to learn a new language.

7. Don't be afraid to try some new styles.

Get some bold lipstick, spice up your wardrobe, take some style risks.

8. Treat yourself.

Whether this means taking yourself out to dinner once in a while or having a face mask and Sex and the City marathon night, invest time in giving yourself the treatment you deserve.

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