Don't Ghost Me And Then Text Me Like We're Cool

It always goes like this. Boy meets girl, whether it's IRL, in the DM or a match on a dating app and things go fetchingly well. Days go by, and maybe you guys met up, or maybe not, and suddenly, the texts start to decrease in both quantity and quality. In the end, he just stops responding and you decide, screw it, and unadd him on everything. You're bummed because you know you did literally nothing wrong to this guy. Everyone says it's him, not you, but a small part of you is hurt by being ghosted, and that slowly builds with each time this happens.

Out of nowhere, after you've moved on, he texts you again, with a simple hey. It's almost as if he never ghosted you to begin with! I'm the person to always give second chances, and most of the time when I do, they show me why they didn't deserve a second chance to begin with by repeating the same behaviors of the past. Some of us are smarter and call the guys out for their actions, or better yet, just ignore them as they ignored you.

After this happened to me multiple times this summer, I've wondered why; what's the psychology behind ghosting and why can't guys just be honest with a girl? It's the least they owe us. This behavior is so beyond childish and I'm so sick of it. How can you just drop a girl who's clearly into you, and then magically regain feelings months later when she's totally moved on from you?

It's hard to not care, I care about everyone and everything, even after they betray me somehow. It's good to care, it shows that I'm human, and you're human too. We shouldn't be ashamed to feel bad, but we shouldn't linger on it. We're stronger than we think we are.

I'm tired of watching myself get slowly ghosted, it's mentally draining and I don't deserve it and neither does the next girl. I don't understand how communication got so bad between guys and girls. A guy can't handle when a girl dishes what he gave to her back. They unfollow you and treat you like you're the bitch in the situation. Maybe I am a bitch for treating you like you treated me, but I just simply don't care anymore.

Why guys are so fickle with their feelings boggles my mind. I don't get how you can be so interested in a girl just to change your mind a few weeks or even days later. I know I'm an open person but I've really reigned back on how much I've ever open up anymore. My standards are high and I'm picky with everything in life, particularly men now more than ever.

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I won't settle for a guy who ghosted me three times because he's "sorry" and knows I'd go back to him without a second thought. There is a guy out there who's not going to ghost me and he's going to be the one keeping convos flowing and wanting to learn things about me that matter, like what I love for breakfast instead of what I'm doing at 3 am on a Saturday.

Let's get something straight. You'll always end up with a girl who seems great but isn't into you because you're ghosting everyone who is because you think there's always someone better out there. Chances are, months from now, you probably have realized this. It's a pity. She will take a lot of groveling and persuasion to ever look your way again. Maybe she'll give you a shot, but she more than likely won't, because she's a little stronger now.

You're old news and will continue to be old news if you keep treating girls like this. Ask your sister, or your best friend who happens to be a girl, how they'd feel if someone did this to them.

My hope is that guys grow out of this ghosting phase and start being real, whether it may hurt a girl or not. We'd rather be hurt than lead on, because that hurts longer and deeper.

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To The Ex Who Won’t Move On, It’s Time To Let Go

Moving on is hard, but it’s time for you to realize I’m gone.


It's been a year. It's been 365 days since I left you. I was ready for a change. Our relationship was unhealthy and very toxic. We argued constantly. You were very controlling, and it was time to end it. You knew you were the issue in the relationship and you knew what needed to be fixed.

You couldn't change.

After figuring out I couldn't live the rest of my life unhappy, I left. It was hard no doubt. We had good memories, but the bad outweighed the good. You never appreciated me. You weren't loyal to me and I never understand why. You always made me feel as if I was never enough.

I finally left you. You couldn't accept the fact that I was done. I told you I discovered my self-worth and you were angry. You didn't want to see me go. You called and texted me for weeks.

I ignored you.

You were so mad because I was finally done. You had convinced yourself that I would come back but little did you know, I wouldn't. You called and texted daily. You even called my job. You didn't understand. I could no longer listen to ongoing insults and constant accusations. I had enough of it.

When I didn't respond to your calls and texts, you began using text apps and calling me from restricted. You wouldn't stop. When you found out I moved on, it got worse. I begged you to stop and you wouldn't. I finally stopped responding. You still continue to try to contact me.

I need you to move on. I want to put everything behind us. I want you to go out and find someone to make you happy. I need you to realize you and I are over. I want you to move on like I did. I am happy now and I don't need you ruining that. To my ex who is struggling to move on, it's time to let go and move on.

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11 Sneaky Signs Your Relationship Is Headed For A Breakup

Sometimes it just comes out of nowhere.


When you think of a breakup, you may think of weeks of screaming at each other, cheating, lying, and pretty much every other obvious sign you aren't meant for each other.

Sometimes, these signs aren't even there. There may be underlying signs that have been there for a while until it all bubbles up and, BOOM, the breakup happens.

Here are 11 subtle signs your relationship is headed for a breakup:

1. When your S.O.'s name pops up on your phone you feel like groaning.

Throughout your relationship, you would get butterflies when your S.O's name came on your phone. You would be dying to talk to them and tell them all about your day. If it feels like a chore, it might be time to revaluate the relationship.

2. If you live together, you find yourself hoping they aren't home when you get there.

Coming home to your S.O. at the end of every day should be rewarding and exciting. You need to be comfortable in your own living space.

3. You stop wanting to spend time together.

You don't need to spend every waking moment together, but when it seems more like more of a task to take time out of your day that isn't okay.

4. FaceTimes and phone calls become nonexistent.

And if they are existent, the love isn't there and they seem distracted.

5. When you are hanging out, you are checking the time and figuring out when you should leave.

Before, time would fly by and you would be wishing you had more time.

6. Going out on a date seems like a hassle more than an actual treat.

Date nights are rare in busy lives, but when planning them isn't exciting anymore it usually isn't a good sign.

7. When you look into the future you don't see them in it.

You had all your kids names picked out and now you can't even see the relationship getting through the next month.

8. The time between talking to each other increases.

You find yourself forgetting that you haven't talked in a while. And it doesn't necessarily bother you.

9. They irritate you more.

Just their face could bring out anger you didn't know you had.

10. The quirks you once found endearing are now annoying.

Remember the way he'd easily fall asleep in your arms and how it made you feel all gooey inside? Yeah, now it's like he's never awake when you're around.

11. When they stop doing the little things that once put a smile on your face.

No more random "you're beautiful" comments or spontaneous trips to your favorite places in town.

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