To Any Dude Who Jokes About Periods, PMS, And Cramps At Womens' Expenses, F*ck Off
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At a young age, before most boys even hit puberty, girls start going through menstruation. That means that in elementary school, little girls are getting their periods for the first time, living through the public humiliation of bleeding through their pants and walking around with a giant pad between their legs.

As we get older, it gets worse, and our attitudes and PMS and behaviors change. We've lived with our periods for most of our lives and to think that someone might have a say about our periods just baffles me.

Why should my cramps and bloating affect you?

Why can't I be excused from a day at the office because I can't stand up straight or walk?

Why should you be so concerned with my period?

How often have we heard men mock women for their periods?

If a woman is in a "bitchy" mood or snaps at someone, there's always a man around to pipe up and ask, "oh, is it your period?"

Wrong move, buddy.

For 4-8 days, we suffer, often in silence. We moan and cry and curse the skies for our pains, yet we attend our classes and slump to work, wishing we could be sitting in a bathtub with a heating pad and a plate full of our favorite foods.

Then 28 days later, we go through the horrible pains all over again.

It's terrible, sitting in silent agony, feeling like we're getting punched in the gut repeatedly, holding back our howls of pain, being forced to sit through lectures or meetings, all the while our mind is consumed with the pain. We don't get time off for our periods, we aren't excused early for our "lady problems."

We're told to get over it because "life doesn't care about our period."

But what about all those boys at school? Remember the first time a boy found out you had your period, you were mocked or ridiculed. Then when you got older, at work, when you couldn't sit comfortably at your desk because your back hurt so bad, and your boss yelled at you for not completing your given task.

The first time a boy saw your pad or tampon in your bookbag and you were so embarrassed, but why?

Why should any woman be embarrassed about having her period?

There is nothing to be ashamed of, at all. Menstruation is natural. It's something all women go through and understand that it's a part of life. It doesn't mean we aren't allowed to complain about how bad our periods can be, but we can all relate to it.

So again I say, why should my period affect anyone else?

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Time to find out how much you really know.

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I don't care what anyone says, safe sex is better than unprotected sex. There are a ton of myths regarding sex, STDs, and germs. It's time to learn the facts. Be kind to your body and protect it. Be honest with yourself and a partner. Even if it's a one night stand, STDs should be on your mind–don't let it be a turnoff. STDs have been on the rise and "The United States continues to have the highest STD rates in the industrialized world." This is your wake-up call.





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My Parents Didn’t Tell Me To Stay Pure Until Marriage, I Made That Decision On My Own

So, please respect my decision.

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As we evolve into a more open and accepting world, the one thing that is getting less taboo is sex. It's not something that is talked about behind closed doors. It's something that is on the television screens and easily accessible on our phones. People talk about it and promote it like it's small talk. It's so hard to escape, especially as a young adult.

To say that I am staying pure until marriage is a very uncommon thing, at least in my opinion. Sure, I have friends who are in the same boat as I am. But, even at a Christian college, sex is everywhere and most people are partaking in it. However, I decided to not.

Growing up, my parents never told me to stay pure until marriage directly. I went to church and heard about it in sermons. I knew that by keeping myself pure until marriage, I would enjoy it more knowing that I waited for my future husband. I understand that some people may not agree with me on this topic, but here's why I am saving myself.

1. I want to know that the man loves me.

For me, I want to have sex with someone that I love. Now, you may defend this with the fact that your boyfriend loves you. That's great. But, dating isn't always a sure thing. Boys (and girls) can say that they love you, just to get in your pants. And, they will. It happens all the time. And, because you are blinded by love, you will end up giving in and doing it. But, see, I don't want to be blinded by love. I want to know that the person I am with, is with me forever. By making the biggest commitment aka marriage, that is a clear sign that they love me and want me forever. This is a good example of actions show more than words do. They can say they love me, but when they showcase that love, that's when I know it is real.

2. I want to give all of me to one person.

I heard this great example my senior year that discusses this exact thing. For someone like Hugh Hefner, who was with HUNDREDS of women, when he got older, he said he didn't feel anything anymore when it came to sex. He was numbed by the whole experience. It wasn't pleasurable or for love. By having sex with countless women, he had given a little part of himself to each of them, until he had nothing left. Therefore, by saving myself for one person, they would be getting all of me. As a whole. 100%. This is special because no one else has that except for my future husband.

3. The idea of getting pregnant scares me because of the lack of security.

For the past three generations in my family, they have all had children young. 15, to 17, to 20 years old. Blinded by love. Manipulated by their hormones. They had sex and got pregnant. To see not only 1 woman, but 3 women in my life go through that, I know how difficult it is. You're a kid yourself. Personally, I do want children. However, I have so many dreams and goals for myself. I want to graduate from college. Get a good career. Travel. Fall in love. A lot of that can be halted by a child. I don't know if I would get to achieve everything I want to, especially if I would have to raise the child alone (which usually happens). So, by waiting for marriage, I am using the biggest form of birth control.

4. There's no comparing, if you have only been with one person.

Now, this is different for every relationship. However, everyone feels insecure or uncomfortable when it comes to dating and relationships. Knowing that someone has had sex prior, you wonder if you are shaping up or doing better than the previous. By only having sex with one person, it relieves the stress of comparison.

5. It brings me closer to God.

One important lesson I have learned from friends, college, and personal experience, is that relationships (when it isn't built on God), you tend to stray away from Him. Therefore, by making my relationship with God stronger, I fall in love with Him first. Then, I am capable of loving a boy and committing to something like marriage and sex.

So, no, my parents never convinced me to stay pure until marriage. It was my own decision. I have reasoning for staying pure and it's my choice. So, please stop shaming virginity in the 21st century, because I'm not shaming you if you aren't one.

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