Stop Running Away From Your Fear Of Being Hurt

Stop Running Away From Your Fear Of Being Hurt

Guarding yourself will not keep you from more hurt, it will keep you from happiness.
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One of the worst defense mechanisms that we subconsciously do is guard ourselves after so much past hurt. This is a mistake we make when we think that if we always protect ourselves from hurt, we will never be hurt. But in the end, we will never be happy.

If you keep protecting yourself from being hurt, you are going to protect yourself from good people. People that have no intention to hurt you or harm you in any way. People who only want what is best for you and to make you happy. People who now have to suffer because of those who have hurt you in the past. You will not get the chance to see any good that someone might bring you if you keep running away every time something close to what you have experienced, happens.

One thing we often forget is that people make mistakes. Yes, mistakes. Not an action that happens repeatedly, but the action that happens once and is learned from. People are going to hurt you in ways that remind you of past hurt, but you cannot compare every person's mistake to those that have been made in the past. And it is not only the things they choose to do but it is the people you have chosen to forgive, time and time again.

The people you have chosen to forgive over and over again is the source of a lot of your hurt. You thought that forgiving them and giving them the second or third chance would stop them from continuously hurting you. You were not only wrong but now, you are taking away anyone else's chance to get it right with you. You are holding yourself back from forgiving those who are trying to understand you and learn the parts of you that are guarded. You are blocking out anyone who tries to get close to you because you think that it is the right thing to do. You are so worried that you will get hurt that you do not make enough room to be happy.

So, stop running. Stop running away from anyone who tries to get close to you because you have been hurt by people who did not know how to love you. Stop running from someone who tries to understand you and makes mistakes along the way. Stop running away from any potential hurt in a situation, because you are scared. It is okay to be scared but you cannot be so scared to let anything come your way because of your past. You will never grow as an individual if you do not allow things to come your way naturally. You have no control over what happens to you, so you can either let it continuously stress you out and keep you from experiencing any real happiness, or you can embrace all that you have been through and realize that it is time to move on.

To stop running is to start understanding yourself and your behaviors. Those who continue to run and run, without the fear of missing anything good, are those who have not had the chance to get to know themselves. When you are aware of everything in your life and you are proud of how much you have grown through what you have gone through, you have no need to fear. Fear is only for those who do not believe that they are capable of moving on from hurt.

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10 Soulful Luke Combs Lyrics To Get You Through That Bad Breakup

Breakups are tough, but Luke Combs is here to help.

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Breakups are very hard to deal with, whether you ended the relationship or your significant other did. The clock on the wall will cure it all and so will Luke Combs, so here's 10 lyrics to do exactly that:

1. "But the clock on the wall will cure it all, even though that ain't how it seems"

2. "You wrecked my world when you came and hit me like a hurricane"

3. "Whoever said it ain't the end of the world and you'll find somebody new, must've never met you"

4. "I picked myself up off the floor and found something new worth living for"

5. "Don't know what you got 'till it's gone, and you're out on your own. All you want is what you can't get back"

6. "And I ain't gotta see my ex future mother-in-law anymore. Oh lord, when it rains it pours"

7. "I'm one number away from calling you. I said I was through, but I'm dying inside"

8. "The second I left, I was kicking myself cause I knew I should've stayed."

9. "I didn't know then, but I sure know now that long neck iced cold beer never broke my heart"

10. "There's a lot of things in this 'ole world I can stand, but when it comes to losing you I just can't"

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4 Reasons I Will NEVER Get Back Together With Any Of My Ex-Boyfriends

It's your loss babe, not mine.

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For being so young I have gone through so much unfair and unnecessary pain because I tried to find love too quick. I have not had one relationship end on good terms and I wish I could say it was all their fault, but I cannot help but to believe there must be something I am doing wrong.

In this generation, people say "I love you" too fast and goodbye too soon. We millennials put all our passion in the beginning of things, forgetting there are greater ends to be discovered. My soul has beaten down, broken, and lost to multiple men that I believed had true intentions. Even though I have never had a good relationship, to be extremely honest, if I knew when I was younger who would break my heart I would never try to change it.

Somedays, like the day I am writing this on, I feel empty and lost because of the suffering that I have experienced and I feel as though I will never be good enough and never find complete happiness. On other days I rejoice because the men that have broken my heart have humbled me. I am loathsome and grateful for them and my experiences with them all at the same time.

Although there are saddening times and certain things that I miss about my exes I will never get back together with any of them for four reasons.

1. Immaturity.

I started dating when I was 13. My first real boyfriend, and what I thought at the time to be first my first real love, broke up with me through text on New Year's Eve. My 13-year-old self was devastated and thought my entire world was ending. Clearly, that is an experience I remember and tell because the kids in middle school and junior high really believe that they are with their forever person, but they have a huge awakening because immaturity does not go well with relationships.

2. Cheating.

Getting cheated on broke my entire image of myself and I couldn't find one good quality about myself because I truly believed that if there was one that he would not have done it. I was wrong, and I wish the day that I found out he had cheated on me that I would not have begged for him to stay with me. After choosing another girl over me I should have realized he is and never will be the truly good man I need and he does not deserve the woman I am.

3. We changed.

I'm not completely the same person I was three months again, let alone 2 years again, and honestly, neither is he. Growing apart is not a bad thing, it is something that just happens naturally. Years later, when we speak, I may not laugh at the same jokes anymore and I may not smile at the same things that I did when I was 16. We both have been with other people and have seen and done new things, there is nothing wrong with that. It is just simply moving on. As Sam Waterson said, "If you're not moving forward, you're falling back." I chose to move forward with my life over falling back into my toxic relationships and for that, I have changed into someone I love and someone they will never have again.

4. You let me down.

I have two expectations of men when it comes to dating, to be loyal and to be loving. A relationship is nothing without trust and giving the same energy back that you put in. That is completely what all my past relationships have lacked. My exes have let me down because they could not fill my expectations that should be what is in any normal, healthy relationship. In today's world, everyone has commitment issues and not many people know how to let themselves just fall. That is devastating for the people that do because they, like myself, get hurt and are made to feel it's their fault.

To everyone I've dated or talked to, thank you for breaking my heart and showing me that you are exactly what I do not need in my life.

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