To Those Unlucky With Love, It Will Find You When It's Ready

To Those Unlucky With Love, It Will Find You When It's Ready

Love is patient, love is kind — stop trying to rush it.

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Everybody's idea of love is different. Some people want a love that takes their breath away, that makes them feel lightheaded. Others want a love that's like being wrapped up in their favorite blanket or like basking in the sunshine- they want their love comfortable and carefree. Many of us know the love that is right for us. Sometimes, though, we have this ideal version of the type of love that we think we want, and that can hold us back from finding the love we truly need and crave.

I am no expert on love, and I will never claim to be. However, I consider myself pretty blessed to have a love that has proven true time and time again, that has lifted me up when I have been at my lowest, and that has grown and changed along with my boyfriend and myself. So, from my own experience, I have a few things to say to those that find themselves struggling to find a love worth keeping.

The most important thing to note about love is that everyone's love language is uniquely different to each relationship. Too often we compare our relationship to other couples', and all this does is lead to frustration, insecurity, and hurt feelings. Another person's relationship does not set the standard for how all relationships should be; just because one couple likes spontaneity does not mean you should feel insecure about enjoying your nights well-spent on the couch with your significant other. While we live in a culture that encourages competition, I believe that love should not be treated as a contest between couples. Focus on the happiness between you and your partner rather than worrying about what other's think of or how they view your relationship.

Another vital thing to realize is that love shouldn't take away your individuality. Your relationship, while it should be nurtured and given attention, should not leave you without any time for yourself. You are still your own person and a true love would not take that away from you. Instead of losing yourself and putting all of yourself into a relationship, a real love will help you grow into a better, happier you. A real love should make you feel confident in the person you are, inside and outside of the relationship.

Love is not perfect. I repeat, love is not perfect.

There will be arguments and hurt feelings, times you just need alone time, and moments when you and your significant other may just be a little out of sync. While a relationship should not be constantly filled with these downs, it's completely normal for love to have its fair share of low points. All love goes through some ups and downs, but what matters most is how you and your significant other react to those highs and lows. Make sure you always let the other know they are loved. Make sure you speak your truth even if it's hard to say. Don't just give up on a love because of a minor disagreement, and don't cling on to a love that disrespects and hurts you.

There isn't a time limit on love; you could have found the love of your life at sixteen or maybe you'll find them at sixty. Finding someone that makes you feel at home with just a brush of your fingertips can't be forced. Love takes patience and hope. You'll find your person one day. Until then, stop forcing things that just aren't meant to be.

Love will find you when its ready to.

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If You Go Into Summer 2019 Only Wanting A Summer Fling, You're Only Going To Be Disappointed

They may be fun but sometimes come with consequences.

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We've all been through the summer flings. Summer is THE season where you have no commitment and are as free as can be with no care in the world. I've been on both ends of summer flings, from having one and cutting things off when summer ended and having one and gaining feelings for the other person... I've actually been dating my summer fling from 2017 for almost a year and a half now which was totally unexpected.

Back in Summer 2017, I was newly single and wasn't intentionally looking for a relationship since I just got out of one. I had a couple of small flings in the beginning, nothing serious at all. Until I met a boy in July from social media. We started talking and hit it off. We had a lot in common and enjoyed a lot of the same things. After a few weeks of talking, some flirting and a couple of dates... we had a fling going on. We weren't committed or anything, but we were both interested in each other. Long story short, I ended up really liking this guy and I could feel our fling diminishing, so I guess you could say I played some hard to get and "won" him over for good. It took a lot and I could definitely say it wasn't a care-free summer since I was trying to get him to make it official with me but now, here we are as boyfriend and girlfriend still to this day.

From my experiences and from friends experiences, summer flings almost always end with someone falling for you or you falling for them. And if you're really not looking for a relationship after summer, it can be quite hassle ending things for good due to feelings. Summer flings can also take time away from your family and friends. Everyone knows spending summer with someone you're interested in is fun, although it most likely won't be permanent, so why waste your time on them when you could be making those summer memories with your friends who will be there always?

A lot of the times, summer flings just involve hooking up and casual dates... nothing too serious. They don't involve "relationship" type feelings. But when you start to gain attachment to that person, sometimes they won't care like you do since summer flings are meant to be temporary. Of course, the person you have a fling with is someone you're into or at least think is good looking and when you find out you're not their only summer fling, jealousy can hit. Like stated above, summer is the season of no worries, and you shouldn't let jealousy take over your care-free attitude.

Summer flings, almost all the time, end in some sort of heartbreak when that isn't the intention in the beginning at all. But other times, they do work out and you guys call it quits and both move on or both end up in a relationship with each other (which was my case and I couldn't be happier to this day!). So, if your plan is to have a fling this upcoming summer, make sure you plan ahead for any type of scenarios that could potentially happen as well as know what you both want in the end.

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