12 Fouls Every Girlfriend Of A College Athlete Deals With From The Sidelines

Most college girls dream of being able to say that they're dating a college athlete and while it does come with its obvious perks (hello, unlimited free t-shirts), it isn't a walk in the park. The girlfriends of college athletes put up with more inconveniences and strange dilemmas than any other girlfriend on the planet. But at the end of the day, you can say that you're dating a student athlete and you'd happily deal with every daily struggle. No matter how painfully awkward...

1. Trying to keep all of "the boys" straight

Matt's a forward and John is a forward but he can play defense sometimes too but only if they're playing the back up goalie, Bryson, and Seth is a defensemen but you'll never see him play at the same time as Brandon unless it's a Saturday. And you better be able to keep all of that straight.

2. Accepting the fact that no matter how much he loves you, he probably loves the boys even more

Saturdays are no longer for the boys. It's literally everyday.

3. Feeling obligated to make friends with every teammate's girlfriend

You'll be seeing them every week and may need a friend to sit with in the future... and it's not like your boyfriends aren't pressuring you two to be besties so they can go on double dates.

4. Dealing with the female "fans" who show up to every game

Everybody loves an athlete and clearly you do, too, considering that you're dating one. But somehow these self-proclaimed "fans" show up at every game and cheer for your man. Do I feel threatened? Maybe.

5. Constantly having your plans destroyed by pop-up practices and obligations

All plans are tentative and more than likely to be cancelled thanks to Coach.

6. Having to change your mood based on if he had a good game or not

Oh, you had a good night but he played bad? You're both having a bad night now.

7. Feeling personally attacked if another player gets rough with him

Um, nobody touches my man like that. Cash me ousside after the game, how bow dat?

8. Wanting to be the cute girlfriend who wears his jersey or coat to the game and looking more like a sack of potatoes

Cleary they were all designed to be worn with layers and layers of gear and padding underneath.

9. Wanting to hang out after every game and practice but watching him sleep instead

I mean, you only exercised for like, 2 hours straight. You cannot be THAT tired right now.

10. Awkwardly waiting 75 years for him to finish changing after each game

There are only so many times I can refresh Facebook before I lose my patience. A quick shower and change of clothes should not take close to an hour.

11. Trying to act like his smell post-practice or game doesn't bother you

You gotta suck it up and take that cute in-uniform picture sometimes and boy, is it hard.

12. Trying to keep every game straight

Not only do you have to figure out which games are home and away for your own schedule, but you need to keep track of which ones count for their conference and the record of each team they're going to play and the odds they have of winning going in.

13. Being forced to think that the team house is cool

An alternative, dirty frat-style house occupied by sweaty boys? Awesome!

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

An Open Letter To The Girl In A Toxic Relationship Who Doesn't See The Signs To Let Go

"it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing" -R.H Sin


Dear you,

I hope you're doing well. I once thought I was too. I once thought that if he would just change, for me, everything would work. However, my sweet girl, you should not have to change people, you should not have to push people to be better, for you. You cannot help anyone, that does not want to help themselves.

In the movies, we learn to love a bad boy that needs changing. However, it isn't always your job to be boys saving grace. However, his shaming and emotional abuse is not just something you should put up with so that you can love him. That is not loving.

Love is not a constant competition of who could belittle the other one first. Love is not asking for a hug and being told no. Love does not make you feel stupid for bringing up things that hurt your feelings.

Love does not grow angry because you talk to your mom about your feelings. Love does not body shame. Love does not constantly change the passcode to their phone.

Love does not laugh when you find out they're unfaithful. Love does not tell you that you are not smart enough to accomplish anything. Love does not force their hand up your thigh when the words "no" slip out of your mouth.

Love is the warmth of a hand on your cheek when you get anxious. Love is getting your backpack out the car for you. Love is turning around when you need them. Love compromises.

Love is encouraging. Love is proud. Love is forgiving. Love sees you for who you are. Love knows you are worthy.

God is your Father and you are His daughter, so do not believe for one second that this abuse is the love you think you deserve.

Love will not always be easy. Love will be challenging and a constant prayer to not anger so quickly.

However, do not mix up challenging with the abuse. If you are losing the good pieces of yourself, then it isn't love. I know that you put a lot of time and effort into this relationship, but it is no good, you are holding on to someone whose heart is not in the right place to love you.

I connected with a poem from R. H. Sin, once I left my toxic relationship which reads, "it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing."

Darling girl, you are so loved by so many people, do not let this relationship hold you back or make you feel less worthy than you are. I have always been the girl with her nose stuck up in the air smelling for smoke, to follow the trail to a burning house to find a boy that needed saving, but it is more than likely a boy that lit the fire in the first place and needs changing.

So, do not be me, be better. Be the girl that lights her own world on fire, for her work, for her family, for God. You are you and you are amazing, so do not fear being without him.

You will feel as if you have come up for air after drowning in an ocean that you had no idea you were swimming in.

The emotional abuse that this boy has put you through and maybe even physical abuse will leave you building walls around your heart. It will make other relationships hard, but you are so so strong.

You will meet someone that makes you so happy and feel so easy to love, you will never understand how you stuck around with the one that hurt you for so long.

You deserve to grow from this, and I promise you will.

Let go.


The girl who learned from a toxic relationship

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.


Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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