How To Survive Vacation With Your S.O.'s Family Without Losing Your Cool

How To Survive Vacation With Your S.O.'s Family Without Losing Your Cool

Remember, you can never say "please" and "thank you" too much!


Being in a relationship comes with all the pros and cons you can think of. As a con, you have to deal with your S.O.'s farts until you come completely immune to them and no longer cringe at the sound of them, or have to run away from the cloud of vial ass juice.

And, of course as a pro, you get to go on vacation with them—whenever and wherever they go.

Now, for some of you that might sound like a con, but trust me. It's really, seriously not as bad at it seems. What's better than spending a few days with you boo? You'll get out alive, of course with a little help from me.

1. Stay Completely Calm, Everything is GOING to be OK.

The more you freak out about it, the more you're going to forget the most important things on your packing list, and literally freak out until you're on the terminal and decide that you're no longer going. Seriously, you're with him because you love him, odds are the rest of his family are just like him- you'll love them too. Even if you do have to spend more than 24 hours with them.

2. Bring Your Own Everything—Right Down to Snacks.

So, odds are they brought enough shampoo, conditioner, body wash and such for their family. You should most likely bring your share—save them money. It's better to have too much, than too little. If you're just going some where in drivable distance, go ahead and know their favorite snacks. Everyone bonds over food.

3. But, Be Sure Not To Bring TOO much.

Don't over pack to the point half of the car belongs to you. Either use a big suitcase to fit everything or bring two small ones. Seriously, you'll feel much better not over packing. Only bring what you absolutely need—maybe an outfit for each day and one extra one incase something doesn't fit.

4. Remember Your Manners

I cannot stress this enough, "please" and "thank you" should flow out of your mouth after every nice gesture, even if you're just asking for a bottle of water. Everyone loves a person with manners.

5. Go Number Two BEFORE You Shower.

TATTOO THIS ON YOUR BODY, HIGHLIGHT THIS, PRINT IT OUT. I'm telling you, after you read it, this will be your golden rule. If you have to use the bathroom, do it right before you get in the shower. No matter how smelly it is, the steam and the smells of (your own) shampoo and conditioner will literally wipe that right away. AND NO ONE WILL KNOW. I'm telling you, it's the best thing I ever thought of.

6. Always Want To Do Things With Their Family.

After all, it's their vacation...never ever be angry/annoyed with them when they want to go out to dinner or do family things. You are just a addition, you'll get your alone time. Just be patient, you'll get to know their parents a little better. Especially if the activities involve some booze.


Don't just sit there like a dummy, talk. Show the family why their daughter/son is with you—be as outgoing as possible. It can be hard to spark up conversation with the family if you don't relate but throw in a giggle, or a laugh or a nod every once in awhile. Try and see if you can get them to talk about your boo. Be yourself!

8. Be As Neat As You Possibly Can.

No one wants to live with a slob, even if it is for a few days. Pick a corner, specifically out of the way of their family and put your stuff in that area. Make sure not to make a mess wherever you go, and clean up after yourself! Don't expect the parents or grandparents of the house to do it for you...even if they do it for you S.O.

9. Have Fun

Remember that as much as it's their vacation it is yours too! Have fun, do things that are out of your comfort zone.

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An Open Letter To The Girl In A Toxic Relationship Who Doesn't See The Signs To Let Go

"it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing" -R.H Sin


Dear you,

I hope you're doing well. I once thought I was too. I once thought that if he would just change, for me, everything would work. However, my sweet girl, you should not have to change people, you should not have to push people to be better, for you. You cannot help anyone, that does not want to help themselves.

In the movies, we learn to love a bad boy that needs changing. However, it isn't always your job to be boys saving grace. However, his shaming and emotional abuse is not just something you should put up with so that you can love him. That is not loving.

Love is not a constant competition of who could belittle the other one first. Love is not asking for a hug and being told no. Love does not make you feel stupid for bringing up things that hurt your feelings.

Love does not grow angry because you talk to your mom about your feelings. Love does not body shame. Love does not constantly change the passcode to their phone.

Love does not laugh when you find out they're unfaithful. Love does not tell you that you are not smart enough to accomplish anything. Love does not force their hand up your thigh when the words "no" slip out of your mouth.

Love is the warmth of a hand on your cheek when you get anxious. Love is getting your backpack out the car for you. Love is turning around when you need them. Love compromises.

Love is encouraging. Love is proud. Love is forgiving. Love sees you for who you are. Love knows you are worthy.

God is your Father and you are His daughter, so do not believe for one second that this abuse is the love you think you deserve.

Love will not always be easy. Love will be challenging and a constant prayer to not anger so quickly.

However, do not mix up challenging with the abuse. If you are losing the good pieces of yourself, then it isn't love. I know that you put a lot of time and effort into this relationship, but it is no good, you are holding on to someone whose heart is not in the right place to love you.

I connected with a poem from R. H. Sin, once I left my toxic relationship which reads, "it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing."

Darling girl, you are so loved by so many people, do not let this relationship hold you back or make you feel less worthy than you are. I have always been the girl with her nose stuck up in the air smelling for smoke, to follow the trail to a burning house to find a boy that needed saving, but it is more than likely a boy that lit the fire in the first place and needs changing.

So, do not be me, be better. Be the girl that lights her own world on fire, for her work, for her family, for God. You are you and you are amazing, so do not fear being without him.

You will feel as if you have come up for air after drowning in an ocean that you had no idea you were swimming in.

The emotional abuse that this boy has put you through and maybe even physical abuse will leave you building walls around your heart. It will make other relationships hard, but you are so so strong.

You will meet someone that makes you so happy and feel so easy to love, you will never understand how you stuck around with the one that hurt you for so long.

You deserve to grow from this, and I promise you will.

Let go.


The girl who learned from a toxic relationship

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.


Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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