I'm Not A High Maintenance Girl, But If You Don't Talk To Me Every Day, You're Not Worth My Time
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I'm not a high maintenance girlfriend. I don't require large gifts, extravagant dates, or really anything that out of the ordinary in the bedroom. I like to keep things relaxed, fun, and full of love. Something that I do require? Daily communication. Talking with my partner (or potential partners) every single day is so important to me. Whether it's just texting back and forth throughout the day with a silly Snapchat here and there or a full-on two hour FaceTime call before I go to bed, I need my daily check-ins. If my potential partners can't seem to do this, they're getting cut. I know that I deserve so much better than them.

My mind races when people don't talk to me. If my Snapchats are constantly left open, my texts left on read, and my phone calls unreturned I assume that I've done something wrong. It's my own self-doubt and racing mind to blame. This is why I reply to texts within .5 seconds and why I'm always willing to talk with my friends and partners when they need it. It's what I want from them, so why wouldn't I give back?

Although I think that daily communication is one of the easiest things someone can do, I'd be lying if I said it was easy for me to find this. Nearly every person I've ever dated, whether casually or more committed, seems to find talking every day to be a chore. To me, that seems like a lack of love. Our conversations don't have to be anything intense. Just send me a few memes and tell me about how annoying work was. It'll make me happy just to know you're here and you're willing to talk to me.

It takes less than thirty seconds to send a text or Snapchat. Even if it's just to tell me that you're super busy and will talk to me when you get the chance, it's still better than leaving me in the dark.

Relationships aren't built off of sexual compatibility, the fun things you do together, or gifts you buy for each other. The foundation of any healthy relationship is communication. Finding someone willing to talk to you every day should not be a challenge, and if someone can't give that to you, you should keep searching until you find someone who can. It's the respect you deserve.

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7 Lifestyle Changes That Happen When Your College Roommate Gets A Boyfriend

Skills acquired: third wheeling, photography.

Lauren Yu
Lauren Yu
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Ladies and gentlemen, we are officially in cuffing season. These are some of the observations I made as my roommate got a boyfriend.

1.You become a third wheeler

Their plans are your plans.

2. You are the couple’s personal photographer

"Can you take our picture?" is one of your new nicknames.

3. You play the game, “Who has seen my roommate?”

Sometimes you go days without seeing either of them.

4. You learn when to stay a few paces back and let them have their own space

This skill might take some time to develop.

5. You learn how cringey your roommate can be when it comes to her boyfriend

You love her but also LOL.

6. You get to hear all the details (because accountability is important!!)

Living vicariously is all that you have most nights.

7. You give them your full support, unless she get hurts (then, boy bye)

At the end of the day, as long as she's happy, you're happy.

If your roommate gets a boyfriend, learn what it takes to be a good third wheeler, and get a phone with good camera quality. Good luck to all the roommates who have roommates with boyfriends!

Lauren Yu
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10 Things Every College Girl Can, And Should, Do Instead Of Sending A Text That Probably Will Ruin Her Life

Read this before pressing send.

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We're all human. We bleed red and we cry water.

We have emotions—violent, vivid, and sometimes uncontrollable. It's natural to feel, it's healthy to feel but sometimes we feel ugly and unpleasant emotions. We may not always be able to control our emotions, whether it's anger, sadness, or longing, but we can control our actions.

So instead of compulsively hitting the send button to a text that may very well lead to instant regret; let's take a step back from the phone and busy yourself with something else for a while.

1. Journal

This allows you to sort through you're feelings and thoughts in a designated safe place. No one has to read it so it's safe to write down your raw thoughts without concern for anyone else's judgment. This gives you an opportunity to process your intentions and possible consequences. You could journal on a physical piece of paper or digitally.

2. Take a nap

Nothing resets the mind and body like a good satisfying nap.

3. Tend to a pet

Our pets are always ready to give us unconditional love. They can soothe our woes if we allow them, so pet your furry pal, hold your reptile amigo, or watch your finny friend. Play with them, love them, and take care of them. Engaging with your animal friends will direct your attention to someone who needs you. You can even rant to them, they'll listen to what you have to say.

4. Play a video game

Engage in any world you'll like from petting "Nintendo Dogs" to shooting in "Call of Duty." Video games offer an outlet for us when we're in a rut, allowing us to escape into a world of virtually no consequence.

5. Create art 

Art is an abstract expression of the soul. Instead of verbalizing over a text, use your emotions as fuel in creating a masterpiece. Be messy with paint or charcoal, or perhaps more refined with pencil or digital art. Art is various and ultimately limitless; its a judgment-free zone where you can authentically be you and express your internal world.

6. Cook

Cooking is both practical and fun. You diligently work in preparing the dish and at the end of your hard work you have something yummy to eat. The effort you put into the meal is rewarding as you devour it. Plus nothing beats eating to distract you from your feelings.

7. Exercise

Exercise can mean taking a walk around the neighborhood, yoga, the gym, or playing on a playground. Something physical can help burn off excess energy you may harbor and may help level you out. Exercise gives your body and mind some love and may help clear your head.

8. Listen to music

Music offers us solace when we need it. It gives us comfort by helping us verbalize our emotions and express them in an art form. There's a song for every mood and mindset, so there's always something to listen to.

9. Read a book

Escape into another world through the pages of a book. Sometimes engaging in someone else's problems in their own plotline is what we need to become distracted from our own.

10.  Write an article

Take your stance or problem, and use it as fuel to create something worthwhile. Make something productive out of it, such as writing an article on Odyssey.

When I started writing this article I was fuming mad but as I wrote I gradually calmed down (See #1). I was about to text something nasty out of anger but I stopped myself. I didn't want to hurt someone I sincerely cared about. Sometimes we need a little time away from our phones to process our intentions and the consequences. In the age of instant gratification taking a step back may prove difficult but sometimes it's what we need. Hopefully, you can get to a place where you can text something you won't regret as I have.

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