13 Reasons I Thank God That I Didn't Settle For Some Guy That's Not My Current Boyfriend

13 Reasons I Thank God That I Didn't Settle For Some Guy That's Not My Current Boyfriend

I thought it was too good to be true, but it's real, and it's genuine.


I spent most of my high school career in a mentally and physically abusive relationship.

I finally gained the courage to leave the situation, and still to this day, it's put quite a toll on me. I wasn't looking for a boyfriend, actually far from it, but one day this boy wandered into my life almost two years ago, and it's been the best thing that could have ever happened to me. I've been hearing horror stories from girls on my campus about boys they are involved with, and it made me really appreciate the guy in my life.

I thought a guy like him and the relationship we have only existed on the screen, but it's a real, and I'm so glad I didn't settle.

1. He does all the "gentleman" things

He rushes ahead of me to open the door, even my car door. He holds an umbrella over my head when it rains. He walks closest to curb. He carries my bags and leftovers. He cooks me dinner!

2. He checks on me

If my voice or my texts seem just a little off, he calls me as soon as he can and makes sure I'm okay and that everything is okay in my life.

3. He's my biggest fan and cheerleader

Even if I don't feel like getting out of bed and I do, he's there cheering for me and is so excited that I'm up and moving.

4. He encourages me to do whatever I want

I've heard so many stories of girls not being "allowed" to wear something or go out with their friends, but not this guy. He's always encouraging me to do things that he knows will make me happy.

5. He pushes me to be the best version of myself 

If I'm angry or upset for absurd reasons he helps me to calm down and think rationally, every single time.

6. He's so patient 

I can be a bit of a control freak, and when things don't seem to be going right in my mind, he just lets me be a little crazy for a bit and doesn't get mad or frustrated with me.

7. He listens to me

He calls to ask about my day, and actually listens to everything I have to say.

8. Always by side 

If I want to go somewhere or do something, he's right by side without a complaint.

9. He likes to spend time with my family

My family means everything to me, and he knows that, so any chance he gets, he's right by my side on the couch with the rest of my family. He's even in my family group chat.

10. He's thoughtful and considerate 

He remembers all my favorites, everything from my favorite color to my favorite food and he makes sure he includes those things in gifts and outings that he plans.

11. Our relationship is still fresh

We've been together for almost two years and I still feel the same way I did when we first started dating. I'm always so excited to see him and spend time with him.

12. We communicate 

There's a never a guessing game to what is wrong and there's never a screaming match. If there is a problem we talk about it and nothing ever last longer than a half hour because we work together to figure it out.

13. The fun we have together is incomparable 

I always say we are like preteen best friends. No matter where we are, we are always having so much fun. I never laugh as hard as I do when I'm with him. It's really the greatest feeling.

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Literally, so hot RN

11 Things The Man You Love Should Do For You, No Questions Asked

Sometimes it's just the simple things in life that mean a lot.


Every girl feels special when the guy she's dating does simple things for her that not everyone thinks about. Here's a list of 10 things that every girl genuinely appreciates.

1. Open/Hold the door

I feel like this one is really simple because everyone has to walk through doors. Chivalry isn't dead, let him open the door for you. He's not trying to prove that you can't do it for yourself, but he's trying to be polite and show you that he cares for you.

2. Give you really big hugs

Everyone has bad days, and sometimes you just need a really big hug. Whether it be a bear hug or the hug where he picks you up and spins you around, it will make you feel better in the long run.

3. Buy you really small gifts

One of the best things my boyfriend has ever done for me is simply bringing me a Dr. Pepper when he knows I'm tired from a long hard day full of exams or work. Sonic slushes will also make my day in a heartbeat.

4. Text/Call you just to tell you he loves you

This is pretty simple. It takes less than 10 seconds to text, and only a few minutes to call. Sometimes you get these texts right at the perfect moment, and it makes you feel so much better.

5. Come see you when you're sick

Everyone hates being sick. But seeing your friends and family while you're sick can make you feel so much better. Having your boyfriend come to see you and possibly even take care of you just makes being sick that much easier.

6. Respect your decisions

You're not married yet, so your decisions are up to you! He should respect the decisions you make and support you, even if it's not what he thinks is the best decision. After all, you know yourself better than anyone else!

7. Give you a shoulder to cry on

We all have bad days, and sometimes you just can't stop the tears from coming. Even if he's not good with crying, he should give you hugs and love to help you get through it.

8. Compliment you

Even if you look horrible and know so, hopefully, he'll still tell you that you look good. Even if the clothes you're wearing aren't his style, he should still tell you that they look good on you and that you are beautiful each and every day.

9. Call you when you're away or he's away

If you're like me, I miss my boyfriend after being away for about three hours, so when we're apart for more than a couple days, I love getting random calls from him when he knows I'm not busy. It's definitely better than a text.

10. Deal with all your annoying quirks

So if you're anything like me, you enjoy screaming music as loudly and horribly as you can in the car and making a complete fool of yourself, but he should love you for that anyway. I also love to take really stupid pictures, and he should put up with that too. He shouldn't be annoyed by your quirks, he should love them and laugh along with you.

11. Love you no matter what

I honestly feel like this goes without saying, but I put it on here so that the girls who don't feel like they're being loved no matter what can realize. He should want to work out problems with you instead of calling it quits and holding a grudge. He should want you to be happy and support you in every decision you make in life. When he loves you unconditionally, he will do all of the above things and more.

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If You View Being In A Relationship As 'Losing Your Freedom,' You’re In The Wrong Relationship

Someone had to say it.


Relationships are about being the best possible version of yourself separate and together. They're about growing with and doing life alongside your partner. They're fun, loving, and granted, they can sometimes be challenging.

Some challenges that frequently come up in relationships are disagreements (which are for sure gonna happen, because you're two individual people!), dealing with stress, and depending on where you're at in life, it could also be financial struggles. Of course, all relationships are going to have problems and everything won't always be “rainbows and butterflies" as Maroon 5 like to put it.

That being said though, one challenge that shouldn't ever be an issue in a relationship is the loss of freedom. Where did this idea come from?

I see it all the time, people talking about not wanting to get into a relationship because they don't want to "lose their freedom".

If you are in a relationship which causes you to lose your freedom, you are 100% in the wrong relationship.

Being in a relationship is not synonymous with not being able to be yourself or be able to do what you want. In a good relationship, you will be able to still have your alone time, be your own person, hang out with your friends, the list goes on and on. All of these things are so important. Relationships should never consume your life, they should complement it.

Why is this even a conversation we need to be having? Seriously.

Now obviously if you're referring to losing the option of getting with other people or dating around, then yes, you're right, you absolutely shouldn't get into a relationship... but that doesn't mean relationships mean losing your freedom.

If you are in a relationship with someone you love and respect, getting with other people isn't even going to be on your radar. It truly is that simple.

The trend of hating on relationships, for this reason, has gotten so out of hand in recent years, especially on social media. It's so frustrating, though, because it could not be any more inaccurate.

You should absolutely still have freedom in relationships. You can have it. I for one absolutely have it and do not view my relationship as the loss of freedom, at all. If you don't, maybe evaluate that relationship and realize it's not the best one to be in.

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