In Ariana Grande Style, 25 People Share Why They're So F*cking Grateful For Their Exes
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Ariana Grande released "Thank u, next" not long after her split with former fiancé Pete Davidson and tragic death of her former boyfriend Mac Miller. This song quickly became the anthem for anyone who has loved and lost... so basically, this song quickly became an anthem for the majority of the population. Ariana's song exudes a message of self-love, positivity and appreciation for former lovers—the good and bad.

Whether you admit it or not every ex played a major role in your life, and instead of holding onto negative feelings we should all follow Ari's lead in being grateful for even the toughest lessons our exes taught us.

One taught me love.

"I'm thankful for him because he truly was amazing and now my standards are so high because of him. I know we dated so that I could see what I deserve and what kind of man I want so that I wouldn't settle later on."

"My ex taught me what it means to love selflessly. Years later, after a lot of apologies, we're friends and she's going to med school. I'm really happy she's still in my life."

"I am grateful for my ex's because they taught me so many lessons. So many. Plus my most recent one taught me how to love myself and how to pick myself up after the hardest fall. He may have not intentionally done it but the way the break up happened, did."

"I am actually great friends with my most recent ex. He showed me that I needed to grow more as a person before committing myself to someone. He showed me a lot about myself that I was too selfish to see. He also showed me what love was—as I had never loved anyone before. We were friends for seven years before we started dating. That's why it didn't work. We just couldn't get passed the friendship that we had built with each other. But I am forever grateful for him. He is a big part of who I am today. If it weren't for him and his—brutal—honesty, I'd probably still be the same rotten person I was."

One taught me patience.

"I'm grateful for him because even though we aren't currently together, we're gonna get married one day. He knows it. I know it. Our family knows that. Everyone knows that."

One taught me pain.

"I'm grateful for my ex for making me see and feel what real toxicity is in a relationship. I expect better, and am better in a relationship and it took a SERIOUSLY toxic one to make me realize what good love is."

"He showed me what even the most subtle forms of abuse can look like."

"By the grace of God I survived a six-year marriage with someone who's mental and verbal abuse was so severe I tried taking my own life last winter. The months that followed became the most sobering and maturing months of my adulthood thus far. Did it suck? Absolutely. Did I learn and grow from it? Again, abso-freaking-lutely. So I'd like to thank my ex, for reminding me that self-love and preservation have to be had before you can love anyone else, until you love yourself the way you want to be loved, mentally and spiritually, you can't rely on others to do it for you."

"He taught me how to value my own self and what my next relationship should not be like. After our relationship ended I went into a deep depression but then I met my current boyfriend and he treats me so much better and I learned that I never wanted to be treated how I was by my ex and that I don't deserve to be treated like it. He helped me learn the warning signs of what I do and do not deserve. So yes, thank you ex."

Now I'm so amazing.

"I'm a bad bish and I don't need a man to treat me right."

"My ex is a piece of shit, but as damaging as our relationship was, I'm grateful that it happened because it made me a stronger person, and I wouldn't be with the wonderful guy I have now if I hadn't built up the courage to get out of my last relationship."

"They taught me that I don't need a man to make me happy and if I want to be spoiled with love I can spoil myself."

"I'm grateful for my ex for showing me that I was worth more. And for helping me grow as a person and seeing that I don't need a man to be happy and OK."

"Because had it not been for my ex, I would have never found out how strong I truly was. Which only helped me when life got rough in the years to follow. Also, I learned to pick myself back up again and do me because no one is worth hurting that much. Especially when they hurt you that badly."

"Because I realized my value isn't from guys who treat me like shit!!!!!"

I've loved and I've lost, but that's not what I see.

"Because while we didn't work out, they did all teach me something about love along our journey. Even the seemingly silly high school relationships that didn't last long. There was a point in life where they were my everything, and while we don't talk, may not even like each other now... I wish them nothing but the best for their futures."

"They ultimately always end up teaching you something you need for your next relationship, or even just for yourself in general—how to respect yourself, how to trust, how to be not-so trusting with every person, how to understand others feelings."

So look what I've got.

"He gave me the greatest gift ever, our daughter. "

"My kids are just one reason as to why I'm grateful for my ex. He's actually not that great of a dad but without him, I wouldn't have my two amazing kids. Also, when I was with him I had these different ideologies of what love is, what you tolerate, how you treat each other. When I look back on our relationship, it was definitely not love. He tore me down and I lost the best parts of myself in our relationship together. Because of him, I was forced to rebuild myself into a better, stronger version of myself. I do owe him a bit of gratitude because, without it, I would still be just as naïve about love as I was before. I know now how I should be treated and I definitely shouldn't be tolerant of misbehaviors."

Look what you've taught me.

"He showed me everything love wasn't."

"He helped spark my creativity and encouraged me to be expressive."

"She conditioned me to be overly trusting in the face of her sketchy-ass behavior with other guys. Now I know how to create and set generous boundaries, and what I will and will NOT tolerate."

"As toxic as our co-dependency was, he taught me how to be an adult."

"He taught me that even darkness can masquerade as light. Be careful because that light is definitely a fucking forest fire."

"He taught me that your world should not revolve around your significant other. This stems from selfishly using another person to fill a void or make yourself whole. You have to be comfortable with yourself and love yourself before someone else can come along and love you too."

And for that I say—thank you, next.

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Once You Become My Ex, Please Know I Never Want Another Text From You Again

Block my number. I've already blocked yours.

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Growing up, it was always super important to me to end a relationship on good terms, at least as best as I could. I was friends with pretty much all of my exes, whether we talked frequently or not. It just made things easier in a small town with one high school.

I had it all wrong, though.

The truth is, I don't want to be your friend if we break up. Hell, I don't even want you to text me. There's no reason for it.

Be up in arms all you want at the "pettiness" or "drama" of this if that's what you want to do, I don't really care either way. Each relationship I've experienced in my lifetime has a specific place in my past, but that's exactly where they'll stay: my past. Every ex has their own designated chapter in a closed book.

When you end on terms that are even remotely OK, it's easy to stay checked in into each other's lives, whether that's texting or following them on social media. Something reminds you of them and you both text and reminisce about it, you congratulate them on a Facebook post, you watch their Snapchat and Instagram stories.

I don't care if you think we ended on good terms or not, don't check up on me. Don't tell me you hope I'm doing well. Don't try to contact me at all, frankly.

We're not friends. We were a couple, but now we're not. Any form of a relationship between the two of us ceased to exist the moment we ended our relationship. I'm not in high school anymore, I'm not still in that small town. I don't need to be your friend and keep up appearances to ensure the friend group still feels like nothing's really changed or to make everyone feel comfortable when we're both around.

So who are we kidding? There's just no reason for you to interact with me in any capacity. I don't need to be checked up on. I don't need you to text me for any reason, ever. Trust me, I'm doing just fine.

To all of my exes, you've held a significant place in my life, sure.

But your friendship isn't crucial to my happiness anymore.

I learned how to be just fine without you, so it's time for you to do the same.

I don't need the pleasantries, so just forget them. It's fine and all that maybe they matter to you, but they don't to me. I can promise you that I don't want to hear from you. I don't want to know how you've been, I don't want to know what you've been up to.

I've moved on. I don't need you in my life anymore, and frankly, I don't want you in it. I don't need to be your friend. So don't follow me on Twitter, delete me from your Snapchat, and block my number. I've already blocked yours.

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To My Best Friend Dealing With A Broken Heart, We'll Get Through This Together

I can't actually fill that void.

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To my best friend dealing with a broken heart,

It won't last forever.

Your heart, scratch that—you—will heal. You're already strong, but you'll become tougher. You're already smart, but you'll become wiser. You're already sexy, but you'll become even more irresistible.

And I'll be here the entire time. I can't wait to see who you become.

It won't be easy. I'm not going to sugar coat it and say that you'll be smiling and confidently strutting the streets by tomorrow. You have everything you need, but if your heart needs some time, take it. There's no rulebook. Honestly, I don't know how I got out of my rut, but I did and now I'm here. I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, I cried on end, but my support group–you–helped me through it one day at a time. Don't stress about what other people think—even me, forget my thoughts! Focus on you. What does your body need? What does your soul need?

I'm sorry. I wish I could take away this pain.

There's nothing that can compare to this feeling and I know I can't actually fill that void—no one can, other than you.

You never think it'll happen to you.

You had the future planned out. You shared your deepest darkest secrets. You both shared, I love you's and genuinely meant it. Of course, there were happy times. It was all real. I won't bash your ex unless you need me to (personally, I cringe anytime someone speaks badly of my ex... at the end of the day, I loved that man) but, just know, you did everything you could.

It wasn't meant to be and, one day, you will find your happily ever after. That love will be greater than anything you can ever imagine.

I'm not going to sit here and let you mope. The memories will never fade, but at this moment, forget about the past and the future, only the now. If you are angry, punch a wall, but steer away from feeling regret. Nothing in life is worth regretting over. It is all lessons-learned and adventures to remember later on.

This will pass and you will laugh about it. When I heard that for the first time, I wanted to scream, I could never laugh at the situation, but here I am now. You lost someone and that's never easy, but you've also gained so much experience.

You are gorgeous and breathtaking, you better start believing it because anyone would be so lucky to have you in their life.

Today, you start loving yourself.

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