In Ariana Grande Style, 25 People Share Why They're So F*cking Grateful For Their Exes

Ariana Grande released "Thank u, next" not long after her split with former fiancé Pete Davidson and tragic death of her former boyfriend Mac Miller. This song quickly became the anthem for anyone who has loved and lost... so basically, this song quickly became an anthem for the majority of the population. Ariana's song exudes a message of self-love, positivity and appreciation for former lovers—the good and bad.

Whether you admit it or not every ex played a major role in your life, and instead of holding onto negative feelings we should all follow Ari's lead in being grateful for even the toughest lessons our exes taught us.

One taught me love.

"I'm thankful for him because he truly was amazing and now my standards are so high because of him. I know we dated so that I could see what I deserve and what kind of man I want so that I wouldn't settle later on."

"My ex taught me what it means to love selflessly. Years later, after a lot of apologies, we're friends and she's going to med school. I'm really happy she's still in my life."

"I am grateful for my ex's because they taught me so many lessons. So many. Plus my most recent one taught me how to love myself and how to pick myself up after the hardest fall. He may have not intentionally done it but the way the break up happened, did."

"I am actually great friends with my most recent ex. He showed me that I needed to grow more as a person before committing myself to someone. He showed me a lot about myself that I was too selfish to see. He also showed me what love was—as I had never loved anyone before. We were friends for seven years before we started dating. That's why it didn't work. We just couldn't get passed the friendship that we had built with each other. But I am forever grateful for him. He is a big part of who I am today. If it weren't for him and his—brutal—honesty, I'd probably still be the same rotten person I was."

One taught me patience.

"I'm grateful for him because even though we aren't currently together, we're gonna get married one day. He knows it. I know it. Our family knows that. Everyone knows that."

One taught me pain.

"I'm grateful for my ex for making me see and feel what real toxicity is in a relationship. I expect better, and am better in a relationship and it took a SERIOUSLY toxic one to make me realize what good love is."

"He showed me what even the most subtle forms of abuse can look like."

"By the grace of God I survived a six-year marriage with someone who's mental and verbal abuse was so severe I tried taking my own life last winter. The months that followed became the most sobering and maturing months of my adulthood thus far. Did it suck? Absolutely. Did I learn and grow from it? Again, abso-freaking-lutely. So I'd like to thank my ex, for reminding me that self-love and preservation have to be had before you can love anyone else, until you love yourself the way you want to be loved, mentally and spiritually, you can't rely on others to do it for you."

"He taught me how to value my own self and what my next relationship should not be like. After our relationship ended I went into a deep depression but then I met my current boyfriend and he treats me so much better and I learned that I never wanted to be treated how I was by my ex and that I don't deserve to be treated like it. He helped me learn the warning signs of what I do and do not deserve. So yes, thank you ex."

Now I'm so amazing.

"I'm a bad bish and I don't need a man to treat me right."

"My ex is a piece of shit, but as damaging as our relationship was, I'm grateful that it happened because it made me a stronger person, and I wouldn't be with the wonderful guy I have now if I hadn't built up the courage to get out of my last relationship."

"They taught me that I don't need a man to make me happy and if I want to be spoiled with love I can spoil myself."

"I'm grateful for my ex for showing me that I was worth more. And for helping me grow as a person and seeing that I don't need a man to be happy and OK."

"Because had it not been for my ex, I would have never found out how strong I truly was. Which only helped me when life got rough in the years to follow. Also, I learned to pick myself back up again and do me because no one is worth hurting that much. Especially when they hurt you that badly."

"Because I realized my value isn't from guys who treat me like shit!!!!!"

I've loved and I've lost, but that's not what I see.

"Because while we didn't work out, they did all teach me something about love along our journey. Even the seemingly silly high school relationships that didn't last long. There was a point in life where they were my everything, and while we don't talk, may not even like each other now... I wish them nothing but the best for their futures."

"They ultimately always end up teaching you something you need for your next relationship, or even just for yourself in general—how to respect yourself, how to trust, how to be not-so trusting with every person, how to understand others feelings."

So look what I've got.

"He gave me the greatest gift ever, our daughter. "

"My kids are just one reason as to why I'm grateful for my ex. He's actually not that great of a dad but without him, I wouldn't have my two amazing kids. Also, when I was with him I had these different ideologies of what love is, what you tolerate, how you treat each other. When I look back on our relationship, it was definitely not love. He tore me down and I lost the best parts of myself in our relationship together. Because of him, I was forced to rebuild myself into a better, stronger version of myself. I do owe him a bit of gratitude because, without it, I would still be just as naïve about love as I was before. I know now how I should be treated and I definitely shouldn't be tolerant of misbehaviors."

Look what you've taught me.

"He showed me everything love wasn't."

"He helped spark my creativity and encouraged me to be expressive."

"She conditioned me to be overly trusting in the face of her sketchy-ass behavior with other guys. Now I know how to create and set generous boundaries, and what I will and will NOT tolerate."

"As toxic as our co-dependency was, he taught me how to be an adult."

"He taught me that even darkness can masquerade as light. Be careful because that light is definitely a fucking forest fire."

"He taught me that your world should not revolve around your significant other. This stems from selfishly using another person to fill a void or make yourself whole. You have to be comfortable with yourself and love yourself before someone else can come along and love you too."

And for that I say—thank you, next.

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10 Soulful Luke Combs Lyrics To Get You Through That Bad Breakup

Breakups are tough, but Luke Combs is here to help.


Breakups are very hard to deal with, whether you ended the relationship or your significant other did. The clock on the wall will cure it all and so will Luke Combs, so here's 10 lyrics to do exactly that:

1. "But the clock on the wall will cure it all, even though that ain't how it seems"

2. "You wrecked my world when you came and hit me like a hurricane"

3. "Whoever said it ain't the end of the world and you'll find somebody new, must've never met you"

4. "I picked myself up off the floor and found something new worth living for"

5. "Don't know what you got 'till it's gone, and you're out on your own. All you want is what you can't get back"

6. "And I ain't gotta see my ex future mother-in-law anymore. Oh lord, when it rains it pours"

7. "I'm one number away from calling you. I said I was through, but I'm dying inside"

8. "The second I left, I was kicking myself cause I knew I should've stayed."

9. "I didn't know then, but I sure know now that long neck iced cold beer never broke my heart"

10. "There's a lot of things in this 'ole world I can stand, but when it comes to losing you I just can't"

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4 Reasons I Will NEVER Get Back Together With Any Of My Ex-Boyfriends

It's your loss babe, not mine.


For being so young I have gone through so much unfair and unnecessary pain because I tried to find love too quick. I have not had one relationship end on good terms and I wish I could say it was all their fault, but I cannot help but to believe there must be something I am doing wrong.

In this generation, people say "I love you" too fast and goodbye too soon. We millennials put all our passion in the beginning of things, forgetting there are greater ends to be discovered. My soul has beaten down, broken, and lost to multiple men that I believed had true intentions. Even though I have never had a good relationship, to be extremely honest, if I knew when I was younger who would break my heart I would never try to change it.

Somedays, like the day I am writing this on, I feel empty and lost because of the suffering that I have experienced and I feel as though I will never be good enough and never find complete happiness. On other days I rejoice because the men that have broken my heart have humbled me. I am loathsome and grateful for them and my experiences with them all at the same time.

Although there are saddening times and certain things that I miss about my exes I will never get back together with any of them for four reasons.

1. Immaturity.

I started dating when I was 13. My first real boyfriend, and what I thought at the time to be first my first real love, broke up with me through text on New Year's Eve. My 13-year-old self was devastated and thought my entire world was ending. Clearly, that is an experience I remember and tell because the kids in middle school and junior high really believe that they are with their forever person, but they have a huge awakening because immaturity does not go well with relationships.

2. Cheating.

Getting cheated on broke my entire image of myself and I couldn't find one good quality about myself because I truly believed that if there was one that he would not have done it. I was wrong, and I wish the day that I found out he had cheated on me that I would not have begged for him to stay with me. After choosing another girl over me I should have realized he is and never will be the truly good man I need and he does not deserve the woman I am.

3. We changed.

I'm not completely the same person I was three months again, let alone 2 years again, and honestly, neither is he. Growing apart is not a bad thing, it is something that just happens naturally. Years later, when we speak, I may not laugh at the same jokes anymore and I may not smile at the same things that I did when I was 16. We both have been with other people and have seen and done new things, there is nothing wrong with that. It is just simply moving on. As Sam Waterson said, "If you're not moving forward, you're falling back." I chose to move forward with my life over falling back into my toxic relationships and for that, I have changed into someone I love and someone they will never have again.

4. You let me down.

I have two expectations of men when it comes to dating, to be loyal and to be loving. A relationship is nothing without trust and giving the same energy back that you put in. That is completely what all my past relationships have lacked. My exes have let me down because they could not fill my expectations that should be what is in any normal, healthy relationship. In today's world, everyone has commitment issues and not many people know how to let themselves just fall. That is devastating for the people that do because they, like myself, get hurt and are made to feel it's their fault.

To everyone I've dated or talked to, thank you for breaking my heart and showing me that you are exactly what I do not need in my life.

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