It has been tried and true, there comes a point where you need to decide for yourself whether the relationship you are in is worth fighting for, or whether you should call things off and say, "Hey, I tried my absolute hardest."
This little decision factor is something I like to call the 60/40 rule. This little rule states: "If breaking up with someone is 60 percent relief and 40 percent heartbreak, DO IT!"
There is so much about relationships that outsiders cannot see just from observing, we have no idea what goes on behind closed doors. We can look at a couple and think they have it all. We can think they have the most perfect relationship when in all actuality this couple could be fighting every single night and/or on the last straw of fighting for their relationship.
When you are in a relationship and the two of you get to this point, that is when you need to seriously take this little 60/40 rule and see if it would apply to you. I want you to seriously sit down in a space where you feel completely at peace and really think…
"Do I see a future with this person? Does this person make me feel like I want to be the best person I can possibly be? Or is this a person who is constantly tearing me down, and making me believe I am going nowhere in life without them?"
And finally,ask yourself: "How do I feel when this person is around me versus when I'm not around this person?"
If your answers to these questions are all negative then that is when it is time to re-evaluate.
After re-evaluating you can either decide to stay and work things out, which could be great! Or you could decide to call things off, which is also completely OK to do, too. Do whatever it is you have to do in order to be the best version of yourself. Even if that means getting wine drunk with your friends and crying your eyes out to them.
Do whatever you have to do to get out, and get over those toxic relationships.
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