The Best Type Of Sex, According To 21 20-Somethings

I asked 18 people to tell me what their favorite kinds of sex are. The question was completely open-ended: it could be a specific position, a situation, a point in their relationship, anything. The answers I received were amazing and enlightening. Here are the 21 kinds of sex young adults are dying to have:

1. Angry sex

Because everything is so passionate from the fighting, that sex is the only way to calm it down

- Female, 24

2. Oral sex 

Oral sex is the best kind of sex due to the intimacy and pleasure that you bring to the other person and that the other person brings to you

- Female, 22

3. High sex

It's like you tap into another kind of sense of touch

- Female, 20

4. Anal sex 

It's what works best for my partner and me

- Female, 22

(And apparently, she's not alone! More people than expected have admitted to having anal before.)

5. Emotional, passionate sex

Ain't no one got time for meaningless encounters.

- Female, 21

6. Missionary 

While missionary gets a bad rep for being boring, it's the best for the person on the bottom (usually the girl). It's such a close intimate position because your partner is right there, you get to lie down and relax, and it's the only position I can finish in.

- Female, 20

7. Romantic sex

The kind of sex with someone you love and trust completely, where after you feel safe wrapped up in each other's arms

- Female, 20

8. When you need a minute to bring your brain back into your body

If the sex was really good and you're okay just laying on opposite sides of the bed until you cool off

- Female, 20 (same as #7)

9. When distance makes the heart grow fonder 

"I've missed you" sex

- Female, 19

10. Drunk sex

Because we're both giggly and happy

- Female, 19

11. That happy feeling

Being in love with the other person and orgasming at the same time definitely takes the cake

- Female, 22

12. Total comfort

When you've been together for long enough that you totally know each other's bodies and both finish every time, even if it's a quickie.

- Female, 20

13. Doggy style 

I get the most pleasure out of that one

- Female, 21

It's the perfect way to get spanked and have my hair pulled

- Female, 22

14. Cowgirl

The woman gets to be in control

- Female, 22

15. Wild sex when high

All the inhibitions and walls come down and it's an amazing sensory experience

- Male, 27

16. Rough, passionate sex 

There's no better sex than when you are both completely comfortable with each other and you know what each other wants and that makes you feel connected in a certain way. I personally like rougher sex (hair pulling, choking, gagging, pinning me down etc). And when I trust a guy enough to do all those things there is some type of passion that develops. It's a different type of intimacy that I crave. It's almost like full submission to that person. I have only found that with two men (who I am still sleeping with) and my sex life has never been more satisfying.

- Female, 22

17. Heart-to-heart sex

Sex after a heart-to-heart. There's no better time to be physically close to your partner than when you're emotionally close to them too.

- Female, 20

18. Long-time-coming sex 

There's no better sex than with someone you've waited so long to be with. Whether it's a crush you can finally have or you and your partner choose to wait, the longer the sex has been coming, the sweeter it is when it finally happens.

- Female, 20

19. Sneaky sex

Whether your roommate's sleeping across the room or someone will be home any minute, sneaky sex is the best sex. It's fueled by the passion of the moment, is quick and straight to the point, and has the added thrill of risking getting caught.

- Female, 20

20. Make-up sex

Why apologize to your partner any other way than with your body?

- Female, 23

21. Munchie sex 

Post-Sex Pizza Is The Best Way To Get To Know Someone

Have great sex, then eat a pizza after.

- Female, 22

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

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My Parents Didn’t Tell Me To Stay Pure Until Marriage, I Made That Decision On My Own

So, please respect my decision.


As we evolve into a more open and accepting world, the one thing that is getting less taboo is sex. It's not something that is talked about behind closed doors. It's something that is on the television screens and easily accessible on our phones. People talk about it and promote it like it's small talk. It's so hard to escape, especially as a young adult.

To say that I am staying pure until marriage is a very uncommon thing, at least in my opinion. Sure, I have friends who are in the same boat as I am. But, even at a Christian college, sex is everywhere and most people are partaking in it. However, I decided to not.

Growing up, my parents never told me to stay pure until marriage directly. I went to church and heard about it in sermons. I knew that by keeping myself pure until marriage, I would enjoy it more knowing that I waited for my future husband. I understand that some people may not agree with me on this topic, but here's why I am saving myself.

1. I want to know that the man loves me.

For me, I want to have sex with someone that I love. Now, you may defend this with the fact that your boyfriend loves you. That's great. But, dating isn't always a sure thing. Boys (and girls) can say that they love you, just to get in your pants. And, they will. It happens all the time. And, because you are blinded by love, you will end up giving in and doing it. But, see, I don't want to be blinded by love. I want to know that the person I am with, is with me forever. By making the biggest commitment aka marriage, that is a clear sign that they love me and want me forever. This is a good example of actions show more than words do. They can say they love me, but when they showcase that love, that's when I know it is real.

2. I want to give all of me to one person.

I heard this great example my senior year that discusses this exact thing. For someone like Hugh Hefner, who was with HUNDREDS of women, when he got older, he said he didn't feel anything anymore when it came to sex. He was numbed by the whole experience. It wasn't pleasurable or for love. By having sex with countless women, he had given a little part of himself to each of them, until he had nothing left. Therefore, by saving myself for one person, they would be getting all of me. As a whole. 100%. This is special because no one else has that except for my future husband.

3. The idea of getting pregnant scares me because of the lack of security.

For the past three generations in my family, they have all had children young. 15, to 17, to 20 years old. Blinded by love. Manipulated by their hormones. They had sex and got pregnant. To see not only 1 woman, but 3 women in my life go through that, I know how difficult it is. You're a kid yourself. Personally, I do want children. However, I have so many dreams and goals for myself. I want to graduate from college. Get a good career. Travel. Fall in love. A lot of that can be halted by a child. I don't know if I would get to achieve everything I want to, especially if I would have to raise the child alone (which usually happens). So, by waiting for marriage, I am using the biggest form of birth control.

4. There's no comparing, if you have only been with one person.

Now, this is different for every relationship. However, everyone feels insecure or uncomfortable when it comes to dating and relationships. Knowing that someone has had sex prior, you wonder if you are shaping up or doing better than the previous. By only having sex with one person, it relieves the stress of comparison.

5. It brings me closer to God.

One important lesson I have learned from friends, college, and personal experience, is that relationships (when it isn't built on God), you tend to stray away from Him. Therefore, by making my relationship with God stronger, I fall in love with Him first. Then, I am capable of loving a boy and committing to something like marriage and sex.

So, no, my parents never convinced me to stay pure until marriage. It was my own decision. I have reasoning for staying pure and it's my choice. So, please stop shaming virginity in the 21st century, because I'm not shaming you if you aren't one.


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