Listen Up, People: There Is NEVER An Excuse For Pursuing A Married Individual
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Listen Up, People: There Is NEVER An Excuse For Pursuing A Married Individual

Marriage is hard enough without outside temptation, so please, have some respect.

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Listen Up, People: There Is NEVER An Excuse For Pursuing A Married Individual
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You know that often-overlooked saying that concludes most Christian wedding ceremonies? Where the pastor decrees that "what God has joined, let no man put asunder?"

Yeah, that line actually means something to a lot of people.

For the people within the marriage relationship, it means that the relationship is sacred. It can't be broken because God is an integral member of it. Temptation can't break it because each partner only has eyes for the other.

Marriage is a commitment for life. It's a promise to completely disregard any other potential mates in favor of adoring your one and only spouse for as long as the marriage endures. If two people have consented to get married, it's a really huge deal, and it should be respected. Period.

That being said, it is NEVER okay to pursue a married individual. Ever.

It completely baffles me that infidelity still exists. Seriously, there is something very wrong with you if you engage inappropriately with a married individual. At the end of the day, regardless if that individual seems enticing to you sexually or emotionally, you need to remember that you are not his or her spouse.

Just to be clear, no amount of seduction, inappropriate behavior, or unprofessional communication with that person will EVER compare to the intimacy and special relationship that the individual shares with his or her spouse.

Therefore, you should respect the boundary of marriage. If you are a member of the opposite sex, you should just stay away from a married person. Period.

In case you are confused, here are some basic ground rules for interacting with married individuals:

1. Don't kiss someone who is married.

2. Don't have sexual relations with someone who is married (in any location whatsoever).

3. Don't try to meet with them privately at work (or ever, for that matter).

4. Don't ask them to go out for drinks or food with you after work.

5. Don't text or call them for personal matters.

6. Don't try to invade their personal life.

7. Don't flirt with them.

8. Don't touch them inappropriately.

9. Dress modestly when you are around them.

10. Behave as if his or her spouse is always with them.

11. Be respectful and keep it in your pants.

At the very least, behave towards a married person in the same way that you would want someone of the opposite sex behaving towards your spouse or significant other. Marriage is hard enough without outside temptation, so please, have some respect.

Maybe you think that if someone is unsatisfied or unhappy in their current marriage, then it's OK for them to cheat on their spouse with you. Maybe you feel that you deserve to sleep with the individual because you've worked really hard to get their attention and make them feel interested in you.

Even in these cases, though, it's our responsibility to remind people that as long as they are married to their spouses, infidelity is never OK.

There are plenty of unmarried (or non-taken) individuals out there with which you can hook up, date, or marry during your lifetime. If you're dying to kiss someone or have sexual relations with someone, seriously, just download Tinder.

A married individual is not your fix.


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