9 Things About Our Sex Lives We Should Be Thankful For

9 Things About Our Sex Lives We Should Be Thankful For

The little things about sex that we should be thankful for

Dr King
Dr King

During the holiday season, you'll often find yourself being asked by others what you're thankful for. Most of the time your response will be "My family and friends," "my significant other," "my pets," or anything to that effect.

However, let's take a moment to be thankful for something not so obvious. Sex.

There are quite a few underrated reasons why we should be thankful for getting it on:

1. The bond it brings

Whether it's casual or with the love of your life, I don't think we can ignore the bond sex brings. It may not give you some eternal attachment to the person, but at least in that moment, you can bond with someone in one of the most intimate ways possible.

2. The funny sounds it makes

I can't stress enough how many interesting sounds come from sex. This is probably the main reason why I don't like music being on during sex because I love to focus on the natural sounds that I'm hearing. For starters, when you're both lubricated enough the wet nature of it all is the equivalent to the sounds like something squishy. Second, a queef has to be one of the funniest sounds I've ever heard in general.

3. The funny faces it creates

The ironic thing about orgasms is that when you have one, you don't actually look sexy while it's happening. More often than not it actually looks like you're in pain. If you can imagine your "O" face or ejaculation face right now it probably looks more like someone kicked you in the shin than anything else.

4. Eye contact during strokes 

Some people may find eye contact uncomfortable, but something about it is hypnotizing. Looking deeply into each other's eyes during strokes in the missionary position is liable to steal souls. Literally.

5. Sex bruises

Have you ever woken up and you saw a huge dark bruise and then you wonder where you actually got it from? Then you immediately re-play each move from the bedroom during the night before and then realize you probably got it from being paddled or slapped multiple times. It's especially invigorating when your bruise is so large that it hurts to sit down the next day.

6. Love bites

Just like sex bruises, bite marks are a steamy reminder of what happened between you and the person you had sex with. It's almost like a sexy way to mark your territory without even thinking of it.

7. Random flexibility

One of the best feelings in the world is trying a completely new position in the heat of the moment and actually being able to do it because you've have a random range of flexibility out of nowhere. Standing doggy style or missionary with a split? Girl on top with a split? Missionary with both legs stretched up my your ears? The possibilities are endless, but it's amazing when your body forms certain angles you didn't think were possible.

8. Risky bedroom moves

There are a few angels that can be looked at from here. Choking specifically is something that is often associated with pain but can be turned into something memorable when done with caution. It's risky, but it's done because of the thrill similar to the way our adrenaline jumps when riding on a roller coaster. Hair pulling as well, while not as risky as choking, is something that still pushes the boundary of complete security and makes sex all the more unforgettable.

9. Sharing water after sex

And last but not least, the most reviving part of sex is sharing water together afterwards. Plus it tastes ten times better on this occasion. You're both tired from going at it and need something to cool yourselves down. Now one of you go to the fridge and bring out an ice cold water bottle for the both of you to share. It's the little things like that which make the ending to sex the icing on the cake.

Dr King
Dr King

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

I'm A Christian Girl Who Lost Her Virginity In A Frat House With A Lil Dicky Song On Repeat, And No I'm Not Any Less Blessed

If you're not a virgin you are not a paper plate, you are not a used piece of tape and despite what those sorry illustrations exemplify, you are not worthless.


12-years-old. That's how old I was when I was told that if I were to have sex before marriage that my wedding night wouldn't be special.

I was given sorry illustrations about being "fine China" and that I would be comparable to a paper plate if I had sex before marriage. I was also compared to tape. With each premarital act, I would become a dirty piece of tape with no value—unable to stick or "connect" with the husband God meant for me.

I went through my church's version of "True Love Waits." Yes, I know the intentions were good, but what stuck with me like a very unused piece of tape was that my worth was in my virginity. I still have letters I wrote to my future husband 11 years ago, pledging to save myself for him on our wedding night. I wore a purity ring to signify that promise and it served as a reminder every day that I wouldn't fall into the temptations of premarital sex.

I am now 23 and *surprise*—not a virgin. I lost my virginity in a frat house with a Lil Dicky song on repeat.

I was in and out of consciousness and this guy wasn't taking no for an answer. I was just too drunk to "stop it" like I wanted to. I still feel pretty worthless when I think about that night—and for good reason.

After that happened, despite the fact that it was just an unfortunate situation all around, I felt like I had nothing to give.

I saw myself as a used paper plate and a dirty piece of tape.

I had let down God, myself, my family, my church and my future husband. My wedding night wasn't going to be special anymore because I had nothing to give. So I just thought, what's the point?

Thankfully now, I know that I was completely and utterly wrong. Two years later and I have reestablished my self-worth and don't buy into the lies I was told as a prepubescent teen.

A person's worth is not in their virginity.

Whether you lose your virginity with someone you love, with a one-night stand or are taken advantage of, you still have your entire self to give to your future spouse. Those scare tactics and illustrations do nothing more than misconstrue where a person's purity truly lies.

I am not saying to not teach about waiting until marriage. I believe the Bible and God calling Christians to wait until marriage. I am saying that, as Christians, we should change the way we teach this value.

Yes, by all means, encourage teens and young adults to wait until marriage. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. But as Christians, we should also teach that no matter what—you are loved. You are loved whether you sleep with nobody or everyone. You are valuable. You will always be valuable and no one and no experience can take that from you.

As a Christian, you will always be pure, valued and whole so long as God is in your heart.

I agree that God calls Christians to wait, but:

I will never agree that a person's wedding night won't be special if they don't wait.

I will never agree that a person can't fully give themselves to their husband or wife if they've had premarital sex.

I will never agree that a person is comparable to a paper plate or dirty piece of tape (why this is even a popular illustration I don't know).

If you are a Christian and you've lost your virginity you still are worthy. You are still pure. You still have your entire self to give your husband or wife. Your wedding night will be special. You will be able to connect strongly with your spouse no matter who you've slept with. Why? Because Jesus died on the FREAKING CROSS. He died for our sins, and that's not exclusive to premarital sex.

Your value and identity is in Christ—not something as overrated as your virginity.

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31 One-Liners You Say To Your Boyfriend Before, After And During The Sunday Scaries Hit

Sunday scaries are much more intense that we like to believe.


Ah Friday. The blessed day of the week that kicks off the wonderful weekend. You have it planned where you are going to tackle everything on your to do list. You're going to clean, you're going to do laundry and even have a special date night with your boo. Maybe even grab a couple drinks with some friends. No matter what, you are not letting the weekend go to waste. Then, before you know it,

Sunday hits.

It's as if the second you went to bed Friday night (or Saturday morning, I won't judge) it immediately skips over Saturday and you are left with one single day to get everything done. The Sunday scaries are real and if you feel the stress that comes with them, you've probably said these one-liners to your boyfriend at some point during the weekend.


1. "Sunday scaries are a joke!"

2. You think just because it's 2 a.m. Sunday morning that we can't have another drink?"

3. "Babe, the laundry will get done, we have all weekend!"

4. "Let's go out with our friends tonight! We have plenty of time to clean the kitchen."

5. "What do you mean we should go home? It's not even midnight!"

6. "But, what if I never get a chance to sing "Man, I Feel Like A Woman" at a karaoke bar again!?"

7. "Oh don't worry, I'm not going to let the Sunday scaries stress me out!"

8. "I won't have a hangover tomorrow!"

9. "I'm a perfectly capable adult!"



11. "What do you mean I sang karaoke until 2 in the morning? I don't even like karaoke!"

12. "I had, HOW many drinks?"

13. "Babe, we NEED to get laundry done."

14. "Why is this house such a mess?"

15. "Why didn't you stop me?!"

16. "Please clean the bathroom, my head hurts too much."

17. "No, I do NOT have a hangover!"

18. "Baby, can we pleaseeee take a nap?" *Says while crying*

19. "I just wanted to have ONE *sobs* GOOD *sobs* NIGHT."

20. *blows nose in boyfriends shirt*"We have NO time to get anything done!"

21. "I'm never going out again!"

22. "I can't adult!"


23. "Well, I guess it wasn't THAT bad.."

24. "I mean, we made some progress, we have clean underwear!"

25. "I can see the floor, I think we did a lot today."

26. "You know what would be a great idea? Drinks."

27. "Can we order buffalo wings for dinner?"

28. "I still don't think I was that drunk."

29. "The Sunday scaries did NOT get me."

30. "We should do this again next weekend!"

31. "Adulting is easy!"

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