14 Things All College Girlfriends Should Be Grateful For

14 Things All College Girlfriends Should Be Grateful For

It may not seem big, but it's something to really be grateful for.

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Everybody does college differently. Some students are solely in it for the education. They go to class, study for exams, go home. They don't really go to parties, they don't go to school functions, they just do what they need to and get out. Others are in it solely for the partying. Going to frat parties every weekend, posting pictures of them with beers in their hands, surrounded by fellow college kids. It all varies.

The biggest difference in college lifestyle is dating. You're either dating around a bit, strictly exploring your sexual side or (like me) in a committed relationship. For college-age students nowadays, it's rare to be in a fully committed relationship.

So if you are that committed college girlfriend, these are 14 things you should be really grateful for:

1. Your boyfriend/girlfriend.

With whomever you are with, you should obviously be super grateful for them. Especially since we live in a hook-up society, a loyal partner is definitely something to be grateful for.

2. The sweatshirts.

The cold season approaches and you now have an extra 12 sweatshirts to use!

3. The affection.

As someone who is full of affection, I'm grateful that I have that every day with him. If I'm having a bad day and really just need some extra love, he's there.

4. The holidays.

Don't get me wrong, the holidays are always fun, single or not. But it's always so exciting during the holiday season with your boyfriend. You can go pumpkin picking, decorate the tree and open presents together!

5. Someone to kill the spiders.

Don't get me wrong, I'm fully capable of killing a spider. My boyfriend has even seen me do it. But it's nice to have someone do the scary stuff for you.

6. The cuddles.

Along with the affection comes the cuddling. Nothing beats curling up next to your man (or woman) and feeling the beat of their heart with your head on their chest.

7. You have someone to share life with.

Yes, you share your life with your friends and family as well. But there's something significant about the life you share with your partner. You give yourself to them in ways others don't get. It's something really special to be thankful for.

8. You have someone to spoil.

If you are anything like me, I try to spoil my boyfriend every chance I get. Especially on the holidays! It's fun being able to spoil someone, especially if they really deserve it.

9.  You have someone to be yourself with.

This is nice in so many ways. If you're dating someone, you have to be yourself. Getting to do that, is absolutely something to be grateful for.

10.  The laughs

My boyfriend and I could be making faces at each other on the couch and laugh endlessly.

11. You have someone to come home to.

Yeah going out with your girls is fun, but there's just something so warm and comforting about coming home to your babe.

12.  You always have a cute picture to post.

My boyfriend and I have a pretty good amount of pictures and I'd be lying if I wasn't tempted to post them all. But I save them for when I want to make a super mushy post!

13.  The dates.

Dates are fun! You can literally make anything into a date. Grocery store trip? Date. Movie at home? Date. Need to get a new jacket from the store? DATE.

14.  The love.

The thing that everyone in a relationship should be thankful for, not just girlfriends, is the love. Plenty of people "aren't the relationship type" and that's totally fine. But there's something about being in love. You can't fully describe it, but it just makes everything in your world a little brighter. You should always be thankful if you've found love.

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An Open Letter To The Girl In A Toxic Relationship Who Doesn't See The Signs To Let Go

"it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing" -R.H Sin

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Dear you,

I hope you're doing well. I once thought I was too. I once thought that if he would just change, for me, everything would work. However, my sweet girl, you should not have to change people, you should not have to push people to be better, for you. You cannot help anyone, that does not want to help themselves.

In the movies, we learn to love a bad boy that needs changing. However, it isn't always your job to be boys saving grace. However, his shaming and emotional abuse is not just something you should put up with so that you can love him. That is not loving.

Love is not a constant competition of who could belittle the other one first. Love is not asking for a hug and being told no. Love does not make you feel stupid for bringing up things that hurt your feelings.

Love does not grow angry because you talk to your mom about your feelings. Love does not body shame. Love does not constantly change the passcode to their phone.

Love does not laugh when you find out they're unfaithful. Love does not tell you that you are not smart enough to accomplish anything. Love does not force their hand up your thigh when the words "no" slip out of your mouth.

Love is the warmth of a hand on your cheek when you get anxious. Love is getting your backpack out the car for you. Love is turning around when you need them. Love compromises.

Love is encouraging. Love is proud. Love is forgiving. Love sees you for who you are. Love knows you are worthy.

God is your Father and you are His daughter, so do not believe for one second that this abuse is the love you think you deserve.

Love will not always be easy. Love will be challenging and a constant prayer to not anger so quickly.

However, do not mix up challenging with the abuse. If you are losing the good pieces of yourself, then it isn't love. I know that you put a lot of time and effort into this relationship, but it is no good, you are holding on to someone whose heart is not in the right place to love you.

I connected with a poem from R. H. Sin, once I left my toxic relationship which reads, "it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing."

Darling girl, you are so loved by so many people, do not let this relationship hold you back or make you feel less worthy than you are. I have always been the girl with her nose stuck up in the air smelling for smoke, to follow the trail to a burning house to find a boy that needed saving, but it is more than likely a boy that lit the fire in the first place and needs changing.

So, do not be me, be better. Be the girl that lights her own world on fire, for her work, for her family, for God. You are you and you are amazing, so do not fear being without him.

You will feel as if you have come up for air after drowning in an ocean that you had no idea you were swimming in.

The emotional abuse that this boy has put you through and maybe even physical abuse will leave you building walls around your heart. It will make other relationships hard, but you are so so strong.

You will meet someone that makes you so happy and feel so easy to love, you will never understand how you stuck around with the one that hurt you for so long.

You deserve to grow from this, and I promise you will.

Let go.

xoxo,

The girl who learned from a toxic relationship

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.

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Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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