14 Things All College Girlfriends Should Be Grateful For

14 Things All College Girlfriends Should Be Grateful For

It may not seem big, but it's something to really be grateful for.

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Everybody does college differently. Some students are solely in it for the education. They go to class, study for exams, go home. They don't really go to parties, they don't go to school functions, they just do what they need to and get out. Others are in it solely for the partying. Going to frat parties every weekend, posting pictures of them with beers in their hands, surrounded by fellow college kids. It all varies.

The biggest difference in college lifestyle is dating. You're either dating around a bit, strictly exploring your sexual side or (like me) in a committed relationship. For college-age students nowadays, it's rare to be in a fully committed relationship.

So if you are that committed college girlfriend, these are 14 things you should be really grateful for:

1. Your boyfriend/girlfriend.

With whomever you are with, you should obviously be super grateful for them. Especially since we live in a hook-up society, a loyal partner is definitely something to be grateful for.

2. The sweatshirts.

The cold season approaches and you now have an extra 12 sweatshirts to use!

3. The affection.

As someone who is full of affection, I'm grateful that I have that every day with him. If I'm having a bad day and really just need some extra love, he's there.

4. The holidays.

Don't get me wrong, the holidays are always fun, single or not. But it's always so exciting during the holiday season with your boyfriend. You can go pumpkin picking, decorate the tree and open presents together!

5. Someone to kill the spiders.

Don't get me wrong, I'm fully capable of killing a spider. My boyfriend has even seen me do it. But it's nice to have someone do the scary stuff for you.

6. The cuddles.

Along with the affection comes the cuddling. Nothing beats curling up next to your man (or woman) and feeling the beat of their heart with your head on their chest.

7. You have someone to share life with.

Yes, you share your life with your friends and family as well. But there's something significant about the life you share with your partner. You give yourself to them in ways others don't get. It's something really special to be thankful for.

8. You have someone to spoil.

If you are anything like me, I try to spoil my boyfriend every chance I get. Especially on the holidays! It's fun being able to spoil someone, especially if they really deserve it.

9.  You have someone to be yourself with.

This is nice in so many ways. If you're dating someone, you have to be yourself. Getting to do that, is absolutely something to be grateful for.

10.  The laughs

My boyfriend and I could be making faces at each other on the couch and laugh endlessly.

11. You have someone to come home to.

Yeah going out with your girls is fun, but there's just something so warm and comforting about coming home to your babe.

12.  You always have a cute picture to post.

My boyfriend and I have a pretty good amount of pictures and I'd be lying if I wasn't tempted to post them all. But I save them for when I want to make a super mushy post!

13.  The dates.

Dates are fun! You can literally make anything into a date. Grocery store trip? Date. Movie at home? Date. Need to get a new jacket from the store? DATE.

14.  The love.

The thing that everyone in a relationship should be thankful for, not just girlfriends, is the love. Plenty of people "aren't the relationship type" and that's totally fine. But there's something about being in love. You can't fully describe it, but it just makes everything in your world a little brighter. You should always be thankful if you've found love.

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8 Qualities That Still Hold Up When Looking For The 'Perfect Guy' In 2019

He hasn't come along yet, but I'll know him when I see him.

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Ah, the mythical "perfect guy." Technically, he doesn't exist.

But there are guys that seem perfect to the people who love them despite their flaws. Over the years, I've compiled a mental list of things I look for in a guy. The list has changed over the years as different things became important to me. It's probably as complex and comprehensive now as it'll ever get, but I can't be sure.

The following are in order of importance, at least for me. Here are the best qualities to look for in a man in 2019:

1. Having strong faith.

This is crucial! I'm Christian, so for me, that means if he's not a Christian, it's a dealbreaker. My morals and beliefs are very strongly linked to my faith in God, and I just can't be with someone who doesn't share that conviction. I wouldn't marry a man who's not a Christian, so why even bother dating one?

"Imagine a man so focused on God that the only reason he looked up to see you is because he heard God say, 'That's her.'"

2. Kind

This is also very important! I've liked guys in the past who had some of the other qualities I looked for I but weren't kind. A relationship without kindness is toxic. Everyone deserves someone who treats them well, but that person should treat everyone well. They shouldn't discriminate with their kindness.

3. Funny

I need a guy who can make me laugh! He also needs to be able to understand my sense of humor, which is mostly sarcasm. I find a lot of things funny: jokes, puns, memes, no matter how seemingly stupid. If you've got those, you're golden.

4. Smart

Intelligence is attractive. It's true. I want a guy who's smart but isn't conceited. He knows he knows a lot but he doesn't think he's better than everyone else. He doesn't have to be a genius. He could be really smart in one subject, or kind of smart in many subjects. I just want him to know a thing or two about a thing or two.

5. Hardworking

My guy needs to be ambitious. He needs to have goals that he works toward. He can't be lazy. I believe that it is primarily the man's duty to financially support his woman. This is most applicable in marriage, but it works in dating relationships, too. I don't want someone who is unable to provide for me. In order to do that, he needs to be able to provide for himself.

6. Cute

You knew I'd get to this! I'm not blind, after all. Trust me, I think it's important for a guy to be attractive. But it's not as important as everything listed above this. I've been told I have weird taste in guys in terms of looks. What I see as cute doesn't always line up with society's definition. The important thing is that I'm attracted to him. Physical attraction is important in a relationship. To be picky: I don't like facial hair or too much muscle. I do like chest hair and back muscles.

7. Creative

This can mean a lot of different things. He could draw, paint, write, sing, play an instrument, etc. As long as it shows that he's inclined to use the right side of his brain. I'm a writer, so I'm naturally more drawn to people who prefer creativity over logic.

8. Interested in Me

Despite being last, this is extremely important! Without this, none of the other things matter. It's just like every other crush I've ever had. Nothing different. Nothing special. While I've been able to find guys who exhibit the first seven qualities, the eighth has been much harder to come by. I've never been in a relationship, so I imagine it will be really wonderful when I eventually find someone who reciprocates my feelings.


Some people may think my standards are too high, but I refuse to lower them. I believe that God has someone out there for me who lives up to these standards and even exceeds them. I just have to be patient and trust His timing.

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The Friend You Like Romantically Doesn't Owe You Anything

The friend-zone can be escaped, but not in the way you might want
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We've all heard the story of the "friend-zone." Boy is in love with his best friend, she dates all the wrong guys and fails to notice how perfect he is, then eventually realizes how wrong she was and they live happily ever after.

I used to think that the friend-zone was a myth that lonely men created to feel better about themselves. But then I got friend-zoned myself.

Yes, it sucked, but the second I realized I had feelings for a friend (that I knew had no such feelings for me), I decided to suppress the feelings. When that wasn't enough, I cut them off for a bit, then, slowly, I felt OK. I could communicate with them without having unwanted romantic feelings pop up. I had escaped the friend-zone.

Having gone through that, I had more sympathy for someone I had to friend-zone a little while later. I had been friends with this guy for a few months. I didn't have many college friends yet and I was really lonely, so having his company really meant a lot at the time.

This caused me to not be able to see what should have been clear: he had a crush on me. When I finally made the realization, I immediately let him know that I didn't feel that way about him. He said it was OK, but I could tell it wasn't.

We didn't talk at all over the summer and when we came back for the fall semester, he would barely look at me. I had started dating his friend, which caused an even bigger rift between us.

Though I understand where he's coming from, I was also really mad at him for a long time.

It was as if he was only nice to me because he wanted romance in return. But people are not vending machines. You can't put in your "nice guy" coins and expect love, sex, or whatever the hell it is you want in return.

It hurt me to know that he only wanted romance and once that was off the table, he no longer wanted anything to do with me.

But then I thought back to the friend that had friend-zoned me. Unrequited affections really suck, especially when they're for someone that you spend a lot of time with. But the key is to work to escape it.

Yes, liking someone you're friends with and them not liking you back is a real thing, but people tend to treat the friend-zone like this mythic hell dimension that can never be escaped. But you can escape. Just maybe not in the way you'd like to.

Now there are three ways you can escape the friend-zone:

The first option is to confess your feelings and try to win them over. Now, this isn't completely unheard of. I've had friends that have dated people who had previously friend-zoned them, but it's extremely rare and risky. You have to risk your entire friendship in order to do this. If it doesn't work out, it could strain the friendship or sometimes break it beyond repair.

You can also do what my ex-friend did and completely cut the person off. If you're being a love-zombie and only doing nice things for the friend because you expect romance in return, leaving the situation might be the most healthy decision for you. I understand now that my friend might have stopped talking to me out of self-preservation. But it still hurts the people involved.

The third and final option is to just get over it. It's harsh, but it's real. Why try something you know is going to fail and cause pain to both sides? Yes, getting over crushes can be really difficult, but getting a normal friendship back rather than being stuck a love-zombie for them is worth the pain.

Whichever one you choose, just remember this: Your friends do not owe you any romantic affection. The work you put into making them happy should just come out of the goodness of your own heart. If you expect romance in return, you're not being a good friend to them. If you really care about them, don't put that kind of pressure on them. They don't want a mindless love-zombie that does their bidding for the hope that they'll get a tiny love kernel out of it. They just want a friend.

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