18 Ways To Occupy Your Thumbs So You Don't Think About Texting Him

18 Ways To Occupy Your Thumbs So You Don't Think About Texting Him

This one is for the girls who can't seem to get that fuckboy off their mind.


It's late at night, you're stuck in your thoughts and you can't stop thinking about that guy. The guy who strung you along for far too long, and then out of nowhere left you feeling absolutely worthless. You replay every single memory you have together over and over again wondering what went wrong. You know you shouldn't text him, but you have so many questions left unanswered, but whatever you do, DO. NOT. TEXT. HIM. He is not worth your time and there is a 99 percent chance texting him will only leave you more hurt with even more questions.

So, here are 18 things to do instead of texting him:

1. Text your bestie

If you can't get it off your mind just text your bestie about it. Get it off your chest, but to someone who cares.

2. Read a book

There's nothing better than distracting yourself from your life problems by delving into a fictional book about fictional people who have fictional problems that are fictionally much more dramatic than your real life.

3. Write an article

Write about how you feel in a way that is relatable to other people. Don't let this guy have power over you. You rock and sometimes writing about it can bring the clarity that dwelling in your thoughts cannot.

4. Watch a movie

I watched "P.S. I Love You" for the first time ever the other day and I cried the entire time. I also set my standards much higher than they were because we all deserve a love like that.

5. Workout

Endorphins will take you far.

6. Delete your pictures together

If this person was toxic, then it is probably best to not have those pictures to constantly remind you of him when you are scrolling through your phone trying to find a throwback picture.

7. Block his number

If you find yourself hoping every text you receive is from him, then block his number. That way you can rest assured his name won't pop up on your phone. You can unblock it once you've moved on.

8. Get a Bumble or Tinder

Swiping right on hot guys will for sure occupy those thumbs of yours. It's refreshing to know there are hot guys out there who are interested. Who knows? Maybe you will find your new bae.

9. Trash his T-shirts

Nothing triggers bad memories of him like his T-shirts at the bottom of your dresser drawer. Trash those shirts, girl. If he is ever like, "hey can I have my T-shirts back?" You can say, "yeah you can have your T-shirts back when I can have my wasted time back." (I may or may not have hoped this exact situation would happen to me).

10. Doll yourself up

Make yourself look good. It might be just the confidence you need to finally realize what everybody else already knows, you're too good for him.

11. Hook up with someone

I have found this to be a harmful coping mechanism for myself personally, but for some people this actually works. To each their own.

12. Buy yourself flowers

"To: Me, From: Me." And guess what... they'll actually be your favorite flowers this time.

13. Order a pizza in bed

Your fingers will be so greasy and drenched in ranch that you won't even be able to text him without completely ruining your phone.

14. Don't allow yourself to talk about him

The less you talk about him the quicker you will move on and forget. Brad who? Irrelevant!

15. Volunteer

Do something to help others. You'll realize how minuscule your problems are in the grand scheme of things.

16. Travel somewhere

Go backpacking in Colorado or lay out on a beach in Florida. Whatever it takes.

17. Clean house

This can be symbolic of cleaning that fuckboy out of your life.

18. Hang out with your friends

Hang up and hang out. Odds are, if you've been investing so much time into one guy your friends probably miss you... a lot.

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

Sorry Boys, But I Won’t Be That Girl Who Waits Around For You Anymore

Just because I know my worth doesn't mean I should have to wait around for you to realize it too.


I'm like most girls. I am such a hopeless romantic when it comes to dating and all that jazz. With that being said, I have also been the type of girl who has waited around for that guy once or twice (OK let's be real, one too many times).

I am a nice person and a lot of my friends know that I have a kind heart. You can do me dirty and I will forgive you. When it came to guys they could have led me on or ghosted me and later on came back out of nowhere and apologized, more than likely I would have given them a second chance at redemption.

I waited around for that guy to either realize how great we would be together or realize how great of a girl I was. All of my friends would tell me how great I was and how worthy I was but in the end, they weren't the ones I wanted to hear that from. Which was why I waited around and thought up of an excuse to defend the guy I was waiting around for.

The older I got the more I realized how silly I was for waiting around for a guy who probably did not appreciate me the way I should have been appreciated. I realized that I was much better than that and I made a promise that I would stop waiting around. Of course, I did slip up here and there (I mean, I am only human after all).

It wasn't until I was beyond over the male species that I realize how ridiculous I was being for crying over someone who stopped talking to me without rhyme or reason. That was the moment that I realized how worthy I was of a great relationship. A relationship that you see in movies or see in old couples who have been married for 65 years.

I decided I was no longer going to be THAT girl who waited around for a guy. I was no longer going to defend him when my friends asked me why I was still talking to him. I was no longer going to wait around for him to realize how worthy I was. Ever since I promised myself that I was going to live MY best life I have been beyond happy.

Yeah sometimes I say to myself "he was different" but then I remind myself that if he truly cared for me the way I cared for him then I would not have to wait around. He would not only pursue me but also my heart.

So ladies, realize your worth. Stop waiting around for that guy to come to the conclusion how amazing you are. You are a queen and if he can't see that right off the bat, he is NOT worth your time. Wear your crown with your head held high, live your best life, and slay the day away, queen.


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You’re Not Going To Meet Someone On Your Couch Watching Netflix, So Get Your Ass Up

Dating isn't easy, but getting off the couch shouldn't be too hard.


I don't mean to come off as harsh.

The words are directed at me just as much as they are anyone else. Dating isn't easy, especially when most of us have been out of practice. Even as an extroverted person, the idea of striking up a conversation with an attractive guy makes me anxious. If you are fine with being single then this article isn't for you but for the rest of us who want to change our stagnant relationship status, keep on reading.

Dating has changed drastically since our parents' days. In-person conversations have shifted to words on screens, while dinners and drive-in movie theaters have turned into "Netflix and chill." While some of us might be OK with these casual meetings, others want to be wooed. No matter what kind of relationship you're looking for, I can tell you that you aren't going to find it while laying on your couch. Starting something new is stressful and nerve-wracking, but you have to start somewhere. Sometimes we need to get out of our comfort zones in order to put ourselves in a situation to meet someone new. Whether it's a house party, a nice night out with your girls, or maybe even an invite to study with a new group of friends, these all have the possibility of you putting yourself out there.

There is the potential to meet someone new anywhere: the library, the grocery store, or even in class. While it's important to put yourself out there, don't put so much pressure on everyone you meet. Some people are meant to just be friends, while others have the possibility to be so much more. If you try and it doesn't work out with one person, don't beat yourself up — maybe it wasn't meant to be, or the timing just wasn't right. All I'm trying to say is that you will never know what's out there if you don't get off the couch. I've had a lot of heartbreak in my life and sometimes I think that stops me from trying something new. It's hard to come to terms with that you might be what's stopping you from having a relationship with somebody. We need to remind ourselves that we deserve to be loved and be happy, and a healthy romantic relationship can give us that, we just have to be willing to try.

So strike up a conversation with the cute guy in your English class. Text the boy who you've always wondered "what if." Flirt with the guy who you make eye contact with across the bar. Or don't. The choice is yours. Sitting on the couch hasn't been working for you though, so you might as well try something new.

If you're truly content with being single, I'm happy for you. Keep watching Netflix on your couch, don't let me stop you. But for everyone else who wants to change their relationship status, pause the show, close the laptop or turn off the TV. Try something new, even though it's scary. I'm not saying a boyfriend will just fall into your lap, but it certainly doesn't hurt to try.

Someone could be out there waiting for you, all you have to do is get off the damn couch.

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