18 Ways To Occupy Your Thumbs So You Don't Think About Texting Him

18 Ways To Occupy Your Thumbs So You Don't Think About Texting Him

This one is for the girls who can't seem to get that fuckboy off their mind.


It's late at night, you're stuck in your thoughts and you can't stop thinking about that guy. The guy who strung you along for far too long, and then out of nowhere left you feeling absolutely worthless. You replay every single memory you have together over and over again wondering what went wrong. You know you shouldn't text him, but you have so many questions left unanswered, but whatever you do, DO. NOT. TEXT. HIM. He is not worth your time and there is a 99 percent chance texting him will only leave you more hurt with even more questions.

So, here are 18 things to do instead of texting him:

1. Text your bestie

If you can't get it off your mind just text your bestie about it. Get it off your chest, but to someone who cares.

2. Read a book

There's nothing better than distracting yourself from your life problems by delving into a fictional book about fictional people who have fictional problems that are fictionally much more dramatic than your real life.

3. Write an article

Write about how you feel in a way that is relatable to other people. Don't let this guy have power over you. You rock and sometimes writing about it can bring the clarity that dwelling in your thoughts cannot.

4. Watch a movie

I watched "P.S. I Love You" for the first time ever the other day and I cried the entire time. I also set my standards much higher than they were because we all deserve a love like that.

5. Workout

Endorphins will take you far.

6. Delete your pictures together

If this person was toxic, then it is probably best to not have those pictures to constantly remind you of him when you are scrolling through your phone trying to find a throwback picture.

7. Block his number

If you find yourself hoping every text you receive is from him, then block his number. That way you can rest assured his name won't pop up on your phone. You can unblock it once you've moved on.

8. Get a Bumble or Tinder

Swiping right on hot guys will for sure occupy those thumbs of yours. It's refreshing to know there are hot guys out there who are interested. Who knows? Maybe you will find your new bae.

9. Trash his T-shirts

Nothing triggers bad memories of him like his T-shirts at the bottom of your dresser drawer. Trash those shirts, girl. If he is ever like, "hey can I have my T-shirts back?" You can say, "yeah you can have your T-shirts back when I can have my wasted time back." (I may or may not have hoped this exact situation would happen to me).

10. Doll yourself up

Make yourself look good. It might be just the confidence you need to finally realize what everybody else already knows, you're too good for him.

11. Hook up with someone

I have found this to be a harmful coping mechanism for myself personally, but for some people this actually works. To each their own.

12. Buy yourself flowers

"To: Me, From: Me." And guess what... they'll actually be your favorite flowers this time.

13. Order a pizza in bed

Your fingers will be so greasy and drenched in ranch that you won't even be able to text him without completely ruining your phone.

14. Don't allow yourself to talk about him

The less you talk about him the quicker you will move on and forget. Brad who? Irrelevant!

15. Volunteer

Do something to help others. You'll realize how minuscule your problems are in the grand scheme of things.

16. Travel somewhere

Go backpacking in Colorado or lay out on a beach in Florida. Whatever it takes.

17. Clean house

This can be symbolic of cleaning that fuckboy out of your life.

18. Hang out with your friends

Hang up and hang out. Odds are, if you've been investing so much time into one guy your friends probably miss you... a lot.

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

I Am A Hopeless Romantic Living In A World Where One-Night Stands Are The Norm

It's the little things.


In today's society, it can certainly start to feel like no one takes love seriously anymore.

Whether it's that one couple who has broken up and gotten back together more times than you can count, the two friends-with-benefits no one can figure out, your local womanizer, or just hookups in general, love and lust are a huge part of specifically college life and culture.

As a hopeless romantic, being part of a generation that "just wants to have fun" can be really frustrating, especially when you just want to find something real. It is so easy for people to put on a fake act just to get what they want and sometimes this can be extremely hard to see through. I'm sure we've all had some kind of incident with someone who played nice but had ulterior motives and the sad truth is that it can be impossible to recognize a person's artificiality.

I am a hopeless romantic.

I have always classified myself as such, and it has remained true. Sure, I can make the most of the freedoms I have as a single college woman, but deep down I just want to find my person.

I've had my fair share of letdowns, and I think we all have, but being a hopeless romantic makes it that much more difficult to get past the "what ifs" and fantasies that come along with starting something with someone new. We may already have our hearts set on a person when they decide they've gotten what they wanted and leave.

For me, I find myself caught up in the little things that someone does. I have always been someone who picks up on small details in situations, and sometimes this works against me.

I pick up on the small facial expressions that he may not even realize he is making; the ones that tell you when their guard has been let down, even just for a split second.

I pick up on the way he sits our two cellphones side by side on the nightstand, taking care to line them up perfectly as if that's just their spot.

I pick up on the short moments of laughter where he actually lets himself laugh and forgets about the act.

I pick up on things, and sometimes I end up hurting because of it.

When it comes down to it, though, I wouldn't change the way that I am. I wouldn't change the fact that I find myself in the search for more in a society that mostly only offers me less.

The trait that tends to hurt me most is also the one that I value most. Even if noticing all the little things is something that contributes to my own heartache, I love those moments. There is something beautiful about those tiny things shared by two people, even if the connection ends there.

Sure, it can be hard. But so can everything.

It's just a matter of finding the beauty.

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Dedicate Your Summer To Bettering Yourself For Yourself, Not Your Ex

Why waste energy on an ex who doesn't care about you anymore?


I'm single for the summer (yet again, no shock there) but this summer there's something in the air that just feels different. It's the feeling of true acceptance of my single status.

Last summer I was single when I really didn't want to be. My heart with still holding out for a guy who wasn't interested in anything more than my friendship. It took me from late March all the way until Halloween to get over those feelings. However, while working through those tough feelings that summer, I came to enjoy my time on my own and not talking to anyone except my best friends. I didn't have to worry about when I'd get a text back, or if I'd be left on read, or who he'd be out with since I wasn't around. The only thing I needed to worry about was my paychecks and tan lines.

Sometimes after breaking things off with someone who you put so much effort into, whether it was a boyfriend, an almost relationship, or even a friend with benefits, it's easy to want to show off on social media and make them regret ever hurting you or ending things. Why? It's a nice little ego boost, sure, but after those few seconds of glee from the fact that you know they've seen and maybe even liked your picture or your tweet, or saw your story on Snapchat, do you still feel happy? No, you go right back to feeling like crap, whether you want to admit it or not. Stop making yourself all about them when that ship has sailed and start being all about you.

Your ex is off doing their own thing, maybe thinking about you, but obviously not enough to want you back in their life the way you used to be. They are probably out there finding a new person to take your spot because they don't have you at their beck and call anymore. If they're also showing off to show you how much better they are without you or to make you jealous...why are you still following them or still participating in this sick little game for attention? Grow up and block them so you don't have to keep seeing their posts, or be adult enough to stop if you're doing the same as well. If it's only you posting, chances are you just look stupid, so stop before you really embarrass yourself. I was that person, and I know first hand how embarrassed I am for acting the way I did.

Summer is synonymous for doing whatever the hell you want. Wear what you want, say what you want, and be the best version of yourself that only a high dose of Vitamin D can bring out. Your ex is an ex for many reasons. You have to set aside the summer for you and what benefits you only. Don't concern yourself with an ex who doesn't care in the least about you anymore. Coming from someone who posted thirst traps aimed at a specific person along with countless shady AF stories on Snap and Insta in the hopes that this one person and their friends would see it, just stop and save yourself the energy as well as regret.

We're all adults, it's time to stop the petty posts and photos. Post your thirst trap for yourself because you're a sexy queen who doesn't need anyone but herself. Once you start focusing on yourself this summer, instead of your ex, you'll realize just have great it feels to truly be free.

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