10 Signs You're Ready To Date Again After A Breakup

10 Signs You're Ready To Date Again After A Breakup

Life's too short to be hung up on an ex.

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How can you be sure that you're ready to date again after a bad breakup with the person you thought you'd be with forever?

You and your ex probably agreed that it is best to just be friends and unfollowed each other on all of your social media and now after your heart has begun to heal, you're ready to get back out on the dating scene. It is difficult to know when you're completely ready to date again but hopefully, these ten tips will guide you in the right direction to going out. If you can check off quite a few of them, take that as a good sign and put yourself out there, but if you can't, give your heart a little bit more time to heal. And remember, don't worry your time will come when you're completely ready.

1. You've stopped crying for no reason.

Breakups can leave us feeling all sorts of way. If you can make it through the day without crying for absolutely no reason, it's probably a good sign your heartbreak is passing.

2. You're not interested in a rebound anymore.

When you've gotten over your urge to have a casual hookup and you're ready for meaningful dates again, it's a good time to start looking for a new relationship.

3. You also don't hate everyone anymore.

When you're hurting after a breakup, the urge to never date again and ignore everyone else in your life. The time will come that you're missing your friends' company and that usually is a good sign.

4. Songs are just songs.

In a relationship, we like to link songs to memories and hearing these songs post-breakup and bring out the waterworks. When you no longer get in the feels after a hearing a song, take this as a nod in the right direction.

5. You are happy by yourself.

So many times after a breakup people feel empty and sad. As time passes and you begin to rebuild who you are and what your life is, you'll come to realize that you're ready to find someone that compliments your goals.

6. You don't think of your ex every second of the day anymore.

Once you've reached the point of no longer agonizing over what your ex is doing, you'll finally be able to see the world as a bright happy place again. This is a good sign for you that you'll be able to start seeing new people for all of the greatness that they are.

7. You've reclaimed who you are.

Before you can jump back into dating, you have to take some time for yourself to rebuild your heart for the next person. That kind of recovery doesn't just happen, but when it does, take it as a sign that you're ready to date again.

8. You're emotionally available.

Your emotional availability is dependent on you recovering from the heartbreak and you being mentally prepared to love again. When you decide that you can give your whole self to someone else, take that leap. If you're not ready yet don't worry, it'll happen.

9. You've started reminiscing less.

If you can finally listen to that song, drive past that restaurant, or wear that outfit again it is definitely a step in the right direction.

10. When you're ready, you'll know it. 

Simply put, you really will know when you're ready to date again. Listen and trust yourself. Take your time and be patient, the heartbreak will pass and you'll be back out there before you know it.

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Cuffing Season May Have Ended But That Doesn't Mean My Shot At Love Has Gone With It

Hurt leads to happiness, never stop looking for it

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This time last month, I thought I'd met a guy who would put an end to my vacant cuffing season. He checked off every box on my list and created new ones to add to it. I was in a daze and things went fast and I was perfectly fine with that. Voices in one ear said be careful, while voices in another said go for it. I let my guard down, and I got played, it's as simple as that. He got what he was after. It stung and it still does. He took a part of me with him through the door, and I don't think I'll ever get that back.

I am still coping, but I'm better than I was when it happened just two weeks ago. I'm ready to get back up on my horse and ride the trail of single life confidently again. Some may say cuffing season is over, but I have to disagree. I refuse to give up on the search for a relationship and neither should you.

Some people find their person earlier than others, and while I am jealous of that, I have to remember to remind myself that there's someone out there for everyone. He's probably figuring out life, just like I am, maybe wondering where the girl of his dreams is. I'll never know what he's up to, but I'm sure he's probably going through or has gone through similar issues. If I give up, and consume myself with the fact that I always end up single and will be forever, I'll never get anywhere in life. I know my worth and the right person will see that and snatch me up. In the meantime, there is no need to just sit around and wait for him to show up.

I'm a work in progress waiting for the mechanic to oil me up and set me free. I'm free, but I want someone to be free with if that makes sense. Yes, I'm struggling with some self-image issues at the moment, but everyone has their struggles. I'm at peace with the woman I am and am proud of how far I've come in my almost twenty-one years I've been on this Earth. You and I, we don't need to be with anyone who's anything less than what we want.

You deserve the moon and the stars and everything that lies beyond. You are priceless, and don't let anyone make you feel differently. Relationships are meant to develop as their destined to, so forcing anything won't work in anyone's favor. That being said, be open and honest with who you talk to, and let yourself be hurt. Hurt leads to happiness, whether we see it that way at the moment or not.

I've had my moments of hoping that boy will message me again, professing how sorry he is, and asking for another chance. I'm a forgiving person, so I try and hear everyone out, even if it's against my better judgment. I know that this trial is just leading on to someone better, and I refuse to let myself give up because a few busybodies think cuffing season is over.

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Having A 'Talking Stage' Proves Why Millennials Just Suck At Dating

Because who actually "commits" in 2019?

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As a millennial who is currently in college, I've noticed that dating isn't how it used to be like back in 1995. We are the generation that can't live without our phones, are tech-savvy, and sadly, the ones who suck at dating.

This is not another bitter article because I "don't have a man," or I'm "jealous of what people have." In fact, I am actually in a good place and I am speaking on behalf of what I've seen. I'm tired of my friends coming up to me crying because their "man-who-isn't-really-their-man" isn't acting right.

I've seen more friends with benefits and flings rather than relationships.

Maybe I'm different, but I can't imagine just being around someone only to have sex. After a while, that gets extremely boring and if you have nothing else to offer, you just get "ghosted" instead of telling that person how you really feel.

See, in my opinion, that's the problem with this generation. Sex is considered meaningless now and it is basically easy to get. With all of these dating apps swirling around, it's almost impossible to avoid it. People would rather have meaningless sex than get to know a person and commit. It's like every time the word "commitment" or "relationship" is brought up, that person runs away. But they're so comfortable to have sex.

What really irritates me is that after two weeks, a lot of guys, in particular, get mad when a girl asks him to get rid of his "hoes" or "other girls he's talking to," but still expect a girl to drop their pants after talking to them for two hours.

That's another thing too. Let's talk about the "talking stage." So basically, by INFORMAL definition, the "talking stage" is basically when two people just TALK before dating. Did you make a face yet? Because that exists now. But seriously, talking about WHAT honestly? Don't you do that when you're I don't know, DATING? And even during the talking stage, people still have sex, which makes no sense to me. You guys aren't dating but you're not dealing with anyone else. In fact, they'll get mad when you're hooking up with someone else. And when you start to catch feelings, it ends with "Oh, I'm not ready for a relationship right now."

So what exactly are we doing then?

Wasting my time?

Imagine filling out a relationship status on a ballot or something and the options are; "single," "married," "widowed," or "we're talking." And no, that's not what "it's complicated" is for.

It's sad because I feel as if this generation forgot how to love again. There are many people who are currently in relationships who are lucky. But for the rest of this generation, people would rather bang it out then talk it out. And people would rather "talk" than "date." I mean, what's wrong with both? If you're happy with what you are doing, then do what ever you want girl! If you are in this situation and you're unhappy, then what exactly do you want? Attention is nice, but after a while, if that person isn't really fulfilling your needs, what's the point of being with them then?

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