5 Tips To Help Your Relationship Survive This Spring's Dreaded Breakup Season
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Spring. When you think of it, you think of flowers, newborn animals, and warm rainy days. In the back of your mind, though, you know that's not all it's known for. Spring means graduation, spring means summer is coming, spring means everyone moving away.

Spring means breakup season.

But here's the secret: It doesn't have to.

It's possible to survive the season of breakups with your relationship intact and thriving. Believe it or not, your love life doesn't have to cease to exist once the weather starts getting warmer. If you follow these tips for surviving breakup season, you'll be soaking up the summer sun with your bae in no time.

1. Vocalize your intentions for the relationship's future.

Don't let your S.O. think this is just a college fling. If you're wanting to be in your relationship for the long run, you need to make sure your partner knows that. If you don't tell them that you see a future with them and want to be with them well past when finals hit, they could think that you're not taking the relationship as seriously as they are. You want to know that your partner sees your relationship with the same seriousness as you do, too. When you vocalize your intentions and your love for each other, you can both go into summertime with nothing to worry about.

2. Understand that long distance is OK.

If they're going home for the summer, you don't have to panic and end the relationship. Summer is only two and a half months or so, right? So why would you throw away a relationship you've put so much time into when you'll be back in the same place come August? You shouldn't. Long distance is never easy, but if you understand that summer is just a short time period in the grand scheme of your relationship, you can absolutely head into it with a strong relationship. It's all going to be worth it when you're finally back together.

3. Understand you can still have fun while in a relationship.

Having a boyfriend or girlfriend shouldn't make you a stick in the mud. You don't have to break up with your S.O. right before summer so that you can "make the most of it" and have a good time. You can still go to festivals, vacation with your girls, and take sexy swim pics while being in a relationship. You're your own individual person, their love is just complementing everything that you are. Go get drunk on the beach with your friends. Go get crazy and have a good time. You should know you can Facetime your S.O. on your drunk walk home and they'll love you all the more for it.

4. Don't get caught up in everyone else cutting ties.

It doesn't matter if all of your friends are breaking up with their partners. Their relationships aren't yours. If you're focused on what everyone else is doing, you won't be able to give your relationship all the attention and love it deserves. You're not going to be spending the rest of your life with everyone you know now, and it would be a little weird if you were to marry all of them. So why would you base your love life, something that you're potentially going to be in for the long run, off of everyone else's college flings? Don't. You're an adult now, so you need to think for yourself. Be mature enough to know that the only people involved in making decisions about your relationship are you and your partner.

5. Let your partner know how grateful you are for them.

If you love them, let them know. There's honestly nothing worse than feeling like your partner doesn't really appreciate you and all you do for them anymore. It can make everything feel like a waste of time, including the relationship. Don't ever let your partner think these things. Do everything you can to make sure they know how much you appreciate them, their love, and everything they do for you. After all, everything they do, they do out of love for you. Vocalize your appreciation and feelings, say thank you, and always remind them of how much you care. Doing this helps them feel important, needed, and wanted.

They call this breakup season for a reason. With finals, graduation, summer, and moving home all happening during this time, a relationship can struggle to fit in the balance.

But it is possible to survive breakup season as a couple.

If you don't let what everyone else is doing impact you and instead focus on your love and commitment to making your relationship work despite distance or a busy schedule, your relationship can emerge from breakup season even stronger than it was before it. You entered the relationship you're in for a reason, and odds are, it wasn't just to waste a few months of your time just to breakup and go home.

If you love them, let them know. Work for what you want, and if that's the relationship you're in, you'll be perfectly fine.

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An Open Letter To The Girl In A Toxic Relationship Who Doesn't See The Signs To Let Go

"it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing" -R.H Sin

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Dear you,

I hope you're doing well. I once thought I was too. I once thought that if he would just change, for me, everything would work. However, my sweet girl, you should not have to change people, you should not have to push people to be better, for you. You cannot help anyone, that does not want to help themselves.

In the movies, we learn to love a bad boy that needs changing. However, it isn't always your job to be boys saving grace. However, his shaming and emotional abuse is not just something you should put up with so that you can love him. That is not loving.

Love is not a constant competition of who could belittle the other one first. Love is not asking for a hug and being told no. Love does not make you feel stupid for bringing up things that hurt your feelings.

Love does not grow angry because you talk to your mom about your feelings. Love does not body shame. Love does not constantly change the passcode to their phone.

Love does not laugh when you find out they're unfaithful. Love does not tell you that you are not smart enough to accomplish anything. Love does not force their hand up your thigh when the words "no" slip out of your mouth.

Love is the warmth of a hand on your cheek when you get anxious. Love is getting your backpack out the car for you. Love is turning around when you need them. Love compromises.

Love is encouraging. Love is proud. Love is forgiving. Love sees you for who you are. Love knows you are worthy.

God is your Father and you are His daughter, so do not believe for one second that this abuse is the love you think you deserve.

Love will not always be easy. Love will be challenging and a constant prayer to not anger so quickly.

However, do not mix up challenging with the abuse. If you are losing the good pieces of yourself, then it isn't love. I know that you put a lot of time and effort into this relationship, but it is no good, you are holding on to someone whose heart is not in the right place to love you.

I connected with a poem from R. H. Sin, once I left my toxic relationship which reads, "it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing."

Darling girl, you are so loved by so many people, do not let this relationship hold you back or make you feel less worthy than you are. I have always been the girl with her nose stuck up in the air smelling for smoke, to follow the trail to a burning house to find a boy that needed saving, but it is more than likely a boy that lit the fire in the first place and needs changing.

So, do not be me, be better. Be the girl that lights her own world on fire, for her work, for her family, for God. You are you and you are amazing, so do not fear being without him.

You will feel as if you have come up for air after drowning in an ocean that you had no idea you were swimming in.

The emotional abuse that this boy has put you through and maybe even physical abuse will leave you building walls around your heart. It will make other relationships hard, but you are so so strong.

You will meet someone that makes you so happy and feel so easy to love, you will never understand how you stuck around with the one that hurt you for so long.

You deserve to grow from this, and I promise you will.

Let go.

xoxo,

The girl who learned from a toxic relationship

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.

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Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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