5 Tips To Help Your Relationship Survive This Spring's Dreaded Breakup Season
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Spring. When you think of it, you think of flowers, newborn animals, and warm rainy days. In the back of your mind, though, you know that's not all it's known for. Spring means graduation, spring means summer is coming, spring means everyone moving away.

Spring means breakup season.

But here's the secret: It doesn't have to.

It's possible to survive the season of breakups with your relationship intact and thriving. Believe it or not, your love life doesn't have to cease to exist once the weather starts getting warmer. If you follow these tips for surviving breakup season, you'll be soaking up the summer sun with your bae in no time.

1. Vocalize your intentions for the relationship's future.

Don't let your S.O. think this is just a college fling. If you're wanting to be in your relationship for the long run, you need to make sure your partner knows that. If you don't tell them that you see a future with them and want to be with them well past when finals hit, they could think that you're not taking the relationship as seriously as they are. You want to know that your partner sees your relationship with the same seriousness as you do, too. When you vocalize your intentions and your love for each other, you can both go into summertime with nothing to worry about.

2. Understand that long distance is OK.

If they're going home for the summer, you don't have to panic and end the relationship. Summer is only two and a half months or so, right? So why would you throw away a relationship you've put so much time into when you'll be back in the same place come August? You shouldn't. Long distance is never easy, but if you understand that summer is just a short time period in the grand scheme of your relationship, you can absolutely head into it with a strong relationship. It's all going to be worth it when you're finally back together.

3. Understand you can still have fun while in a relationship.

Having a boyfriend or girlfriend shouldn't make you a stick in the mud. You don't have to break up with your S.O. right before summer so that you can "make the most of it" and have a good time. You can still go to festivals, vacation with your girls, and take sexy swim pics while being in a relationship. You're your own individual person, their love is just complementing everything that you are. Go get drunk on the beach with your friends. Go get crazy and have a good time. You should know you can Facetime your S.O. on your drunk walk home and they'll love you all the more for it.

4. Don't get caught up in everyone else cutting ties.

It doesn't matter if all of your friends are breaking up with their partners. Their relationships aren't yours. If you're focused on what everyone else is doing, you won't be able to give your relationship all the attention and love it deserves. You're not going to be spending the rest of your life with everyone you know now, and it would be a little weird if you were to marry all of them. So why would you base your love life, something that you're potentially going to be in for the long run, off of everyone else's college flings? Don't. You're an adult now, so you need to think for yourself. Be mature enough to know that the only people involved in making decisions about your relationship are you and your partner.

5. Let your partner know how grateful you are for them.

If you love them, let them know. There's honestly nothing worse than feeling like your partner doesn't really appreciate you and all you do for them anymore. It can make everything feel like a waste of time, including the relationship. Don't ever let your partner think these things. Do everything you can to make sure they know how much you appreciate them, their love, and everything they do for you. After all, everything they do, they do out of love for you. Vocalize your appreciation and feelings, say thank you, and always remind them of how much you care. Doing this helps them feel important, needed, and wanted.

They call this breakup season for a reason. With finals, graduation, summer, and moving home all happening during this time, a relationship can struggle to fit in the balance.

But it is possible to survive breakup season as a couple.

If you don't let what everyone else is doing impact you and instead focus on your love and commitment to making your relationship work despite distance or a busy schedule, your relationship can emerge from breakup season even stronger than it was before it. You entered the relationship you're in for a reason, and odds are, it wasn't just to waste a few months of your time just to breakup and go home.

If you love them, let them know. Work for what you want, and if that's the relationship you're in, you'll be perfectly fine.

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Subtle Ways You May Be Disrespecting Your Friend's Relationship

If they make your friend happy, you shouldn't be doing these things.

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No ones significant other wants to tell them they don't like their friends. And trying to tell anyone not to hang out with the people they're closest too is a disaster waiting to happen.

Some people really just don't like their friend's partner, but others have no idea the damage they may be doing to the relationship. If you are more aware of some things to avoid, hopefully, you, your friend, and their partner can all get along in peace.

1. When you see your friend, make sure to acknowledge their partner.

To be honest, this is a basic courtesy. If you go to say hi to anyone in a group of people, it is polite to greet, or at least acknowledge, everyone there. If you completely ignore that your friend's partner is even there, it will make them feel awkward and neglected. Just say hi.

2. Don't be overly touchy-feely with your friend, especially around their partner.

Obviously, this mostly applies to friends of the opposite sex (for heterosexual couples). Look, there is nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex but just know your boundaries. You may think your friend's partner is being jealous for no reason, but are you doing anything that might make them uncomfortable?

You don't need to always have your arm around them or be leaned up against them. It is really inappropriate to kiss them on the cheek or give them super long hugs, even if that is something you did before they had a partner, and even if it is completely platonic.

You can still hug and be close to your friend, just be respectful of their boundaries. If you don't give their partner any reason to be jealous then they will have no basis to dislike you.

3. If you invite your friend somewhere, it is polite to also invite their partner.

Even if you assume your friend's partner is going to come, it is nice to make them feel welcomed. And if you don't want their partner to come, make sure they are not together or planning to be together when you invite your friend.

You don't have to always have their partner around, but don't make it a habit of not inviting them. If they don't feel welcomed around their partner's friends, then they probably won't feel as confident in their relationship.

4. Don't ever bring up your friend's past relationships, especially around their partner.

Even if they are on good terms. Even if you are still friends with their ex. Just don't bring them up. No one wants to hear about their partner's past relationships or flings. It is embarrassing and uncomfortable to have to hear about your partner's exes.

5. If you are all out together, don't try to separate your friend from their partner.

There is a good chance that if you are out with your friend and their partner, their partner does not know many people there. If that is the case, don't try to separate your friend from their partner.

There may be an exception if their partner has friends around too, or if they are outgoing and can talk to anybody easily, but otherwise, it is really awkward to be in that situation alone. They are with their partner for a reason, and it is nice to make their partner feel included as well.

Just don't make it a habit to always pull your friend away.

6. Don't put your friend in any awkward or risky situations.

If your friend is a cheater, that is not really any fault of yours. But don't be the friend who is known for putting your partnered friend in risky situations.

There is nothing wrong with going out occasionally with your friends, but it does not need to be a regular occurrence, especially if it makes their partner uncomfortable.

Along the same lines, if you know an ex-partner or fling will be there, you don't need to put your friend in that awkward situation. Just be aware of the situation and how it might make their partner feel.

To wrap up, you don't need to completely change your relationship with your friend just to make their partner happy; just make sure to be polite and respectful of their partner and their relationship.

These are some subtle things you may be doing that are hurting your friend's relationship that you don't even realize have negative consequences. Simply be more aware of some of these situations and how they could potentially make your friend's partner feel. After all, the best relationships are the ones where your partner's friends also become your friends.

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My BF And I Were 'Just Friends' And Now We're Celebrating Our One Year Anniversary

Dating my best friend was the best decision I have ever made.

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In August 2017, Brendan and I met. A group of friends invited him and me to go to Wendy's after a meeting for a school club. We talked the whole time — the conversation seemed endless in the best way possible. Later that night, I called him to ask him what water balloons I should buy for a celebration the next day. From that day forward, I cannot remember a day where I have not called him. It started off as nothing more as a platonic relationship from my perspective, but he would advocate otherwise.

Fast-forward to January 2018, Brendan and I started seeing each other outside of school. We would make up excuses and white lies to our friends and parents, saying that we were going to the library to study when really we would just sit in the parking lot and talk for hours until he had to drive me home. He became my best friend. I wanted to tell him everything — good news, bad news, stupid rants, my blonde moments, random and unfiltered thoughts. However, day-in and day-out, I kept denying that it was anything more than a friendship. Again, he would argue otherwise.

On April 27, 2018, I gave in.

We were sitting in his parked Dodge Durango, listening to a pop radio station. I was leaning over the center console to rest my head on his shoulder, and we were waiting for the sun to go down at a park. Abruptly, I looked over at him and ironically asked if he would be my boyfriend. For some reason, we did not tell our family or friends for about a month (sorry, Mum and Dad). I wish I would have realized it sooner, but regardless of timing, dating my best friend was the best decision I have ever made.

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Since then, our relationship has overcome insane distances.

Being 12 miles away turned into 1,601 miles when he went on a service trip to Boca Chica in the Dominican Republic this past summer. It went back to 12 miles for a little while. However, at the end of the summer, it turned into 413 miles when I moved to the University of Kentucky. In October, we were only a few feet apart as I hid behind his car in his school parking lot to surprise him. After I have returned and left home for Thanksgiving, Christmas, and spring break, he decided it was time for him to come to Lexington in March 2019.

All the time spent together and apart brings us to our one year — April 27, 2019.

Hey, Brendan: Although we will be 413 miles apart for it, happy one-year. You have been my rock and my best friend for the past 20-some months, and there are not enough thank you's that I can say to express how thankful I am that God put you in my life. I am so beyond grateful and appreciative for everything you have done and sacrificed for me and for us. I cannot wait to see where our journey will go next, but until then — here's to me and you. I love you. See you very very soon.

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