Everything I Wish I Could Say To The Boy Who Broke My Best Friend's Heart
1025
views

Watching your best friend get destroyed by someone is honestly harder than being hurt by someone yourself. I watched my best friend go through a period of her life where she was completely heartbroken over someone and tried so hard to keep their relationship afloat. Eventually, she found the strength within her to realize that trying with him wasn't going to work, but still, I know her heart is aching.

There are a lot of things I've wanted to say to the boy who broke my best friend's heart...

First, do you even realize how much you hurt her?

Dragging someone along for so long and making them think that this time things will be different can be BRUTAL. She gave you chance after chance because she believed you. She saw something within you. She wanted to make things work. She had all of the best intentions. Unfortunately, you can't say the same.

I wish you knew how hard it was for me to watch you treat her so poorly. It took everything in me to listen to her and give you a shot. And while at times you were great, and I'll always remember those times, ultimately what overshadows every good moment are the bad things that ended up happening.

I think you need to realize that if you're not interested in really dating someone and putting forth an effort, you shouldn't enter a serious relationship. I get that you want to be nice and make people happy, but entering a relationship you're not really going to put the effort in will eventually end badly. It would've made us all so much happier if you were just honest and said you didn't want a serious relationship if that isn't what you wanted.

I want you to know that you missed out on someone who would've treated you right. My best friend is a total catch, from her big heart and willingness to do anything for anyone to her fun-loving side that's always down for an adventure. She's something that's hard to come across anymore. I wish you luck trying to find someone who will treat you like she could've treated you forever because I know you're going to need it. The type of girls you wanted to cheat on her with aren't going to give you that. Simple as that.

I want you to know that you never, ever again deserve a chance to hurt my best friend, and I think she finally realizes that. But if she doesn't and one day the two of you ponder the possibility of getting back together, don't. It's just going to make the scars even deeper. Things aren't going to change. Leave her alone and let her grow and live her life on her own.

I wish I could look back on your relationship and see you as a good guy. I want with everything in me to look past your flaws and see someone who tried but was ultimately just a little too young and dumb. Sadly, I can't do that. You hurt my best friend too much for me to ever see good in you. I hope that one day you change and can actually treat a girl right, but when I look back on how you treated my best friend, I don't know if I can truly see that happening.

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

Dating Someone With Depression Is HARD, And Leaving Them For Your Own Mental Health Is Not Selfish

You have to take care of yourself first.

736
views

Even now it's hard to write, I hope my words don't offend anyone, as all I want to share is my experience as someone who dated an individual with depression and how the act of ending that relationship affected me as a person.

Being in a relationship is hard in general. It's work, commitment and requires communication from both ends but sometimes depression complicates that process whereas one of us is not communicating well.

Not understanding each other, in general, could lead to a lot of problems whether or not your significant other is struggling with a mental illness. It causes fights that lead to blaming. Next thing you know, you're in a toxic cycle you call your relationship.

It took me a while to overcome "blame" I didn't understand what he was going through and didn't know how to handle our relationship. I used to say things like "he was never open to me" but now I know that wasn't the case.

However, because he was struggling, I was as well.

I was struggling to understand what was going on. What was I doing wrong? Why I couldn't help or "fix" the situation? I ended up feeling hopeless, not enough and just sad all the time because no matter how many times I try to help, reach out or just try to "be there" nothing improved.

By staying with him, I ended up dragging myself down into a mental struggle.

I decided to end the relationship and I felt immensely guilty.

I felt guilty because I was walking away from someone who clearly needed my help. Someone who was struggling. Someone who needed me to be there. I felt guilty because I was selfish and I decided to take care of myself before others.

My mother would say "if you can't take care of yourself, how are you going to take care of others?" This can be interpreted many ways but I knew what she meant at the time. I needed to move on and take care of my own mental health. Although the situation at hand was hard to end, it needed to happen.

I was blamed for leaving, blamed for the downfall of the relationship, blamed for looking for my own happiness, and blamed for moving on. I continued to struggle because of that. As I grew older, I realized now that my actions were never wrong, and I shouldn't have been blamed for leaving a relationship that made me feel like, excuse my French, absolute shit.

I had to make a tough decision for myself and I applaud those who are strong enough to stay, I wasn't.

He has a great support system and that gave me comfort. It allowed me to free myself from the responsibility of taking care of someone else. I was a lot younger than I am now and was not ready to sacrifice and commit to a situation that serious. I didn't even know who I was and what I wanted at the time and that played a huge role in my decisions.

I can't ask anyone of this but if you are in a relationship and your significant other is struggling with mental health try to understand them as best as you can but if you are struggling as well, it's ok to end it and take care of yourself first, that should be everyone's priority.

I wasn't properly trained to take care of an individual with depression. I didn't know how to handle the situation and in all honesty, I think that was dangerous for both of us.

OMG, check these out

Connect with a generation
of new voices.

We are students, thinkers, influencers, and communities sharing our ideas with the world. Join our platform to create and discover content that actually matters to you.

Learn more Start Creating

Ariana's 'break up with your girlfriend, i'm bored' Rubs Me The Wrong Way After I've Been Cheated On

If you convince my boyfriend to break up with me because you're bored, I may just snap your neck... because I'm bored.

9764
views

Last week Ariana Grande released her 5th audio album, "thank u, next" which included the highly anticipated track "break up with your girlfriend, i'm bored." Believe me when I say that as an Ariana fan since 2014, this was the one track on the album that I was the most excited to hear and was definitely the first one that I streamed when the album dropped.

And I'll say it: it's an absolute bop.

But no matter how hard I try to enjoy its catchiness and not think about the lyrics, the whole concept of the song leaves an extremely bitter taste in my mouth.

While hard-core Ariana fans try to defend it claiming that "it's a joke" and that "Girlfriend" by Avril Lavigne and "Don't Cha" by the Pussycat Dolls had the same concept, I can't take it as a joke. The message that Ariana is sending to girls everywhere that it's OK to step in and try to and ruin a relationship based on what you want is extremely toxic.

And while Ariana tries to claim that we all miss understood the meaning and that the song is actually about self-love, the lyrics definitely seem to say otherwise:

Usually don't give it away (Yeah, yeah)
But you know I'm out here thinkin' 'bout it

[Pre-Chorus]
Then I realize she's right there
And I'm at home like, "Damn, this ain't fair"

[Chorus]
Break up with your girlfriend (Girlfriend)
Yeah, yeah, 'cause I'm bored









The album was undoubtedly a hit, but as someone who has had their relationship destroyed by a girl with this exact same mindset, I can't believe that there is someone else out there who not only thinks this way but also feels no shame in what they're doing to the point where they need to promote it.

The similarities between my situation and Ari's are absolutely uncanny. I was with my boyfriend for close to a year when a girl that he knew through family friends had just broken up with her boyfriend. She literally was bored (and if we're being honest, probably pretty sad she wasn't getting any male attention).

She ended up sliding into my boyfriend's DMs and pulling the "yeah your girlfriend is pretty" but somehow convincing him to break up with me for her in the same message. Did she co-write this song with Ariana? Very, very possible.

Her and all of her friends can make excuses for it all they want, but at the end of the day, there's no excuse for coming in between two people and trying to end a relationship because of your own personal wants. Not even because you're bored, @Ariana.

It's caused me years of insecurities and more than likely, a whole lifetime of trust issues. It continues to hurt me when I hear "break up with your girlfriend, i'm bored" and I'm reminded of not only what happened to me, but that Ariana Grande, who has a following of millions, is telling girls that this behavior is okay. And unfortunately, many of these girls will listen.

If you convince my boyfriend to break up with me because you're bored, I may just snap your neck... because I'm bored.

OMG, check these out

Facebook Comments