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To The 20-Something Girl Who's Ready For Marriage Before Others, Be Patient — Your Time Will Come

We all have a timeline of when we would like to be married. What happens when you're ready, but other people aren't?

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To The 20-Something Girl Who's Ready For Marriage Before Others, Be Patient — Your Time Will Come
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Every female has an idea of her dream wedding from a very young age.

What kind of dress she would want, what color dresses her bridesmaids will have, what the floral arrangements will look like, and what venue it'll be at. Over time, some of those ideas may change but she still has that dream wedding planned.

We grow up, we watch television shows and movies, we see family members and maybe some friends get married, and our dream wedding becomes clearer and clearer to us. We can perfectly envision it.

As time goes on, though, it also seems like that wedding gets further and further away from us.

But then, we meet a guy. We fall in love. We think "this is it." You either date for a long time or very briefly. Either way, we feel that dream wedding finally getting closer. So close, you can see it, hear it. But the day never comes.

It seems like no matter what, it won't ever happen. It will, eventually. When the time is right.

As a female, we have the dream wedding, yes, but we also have a timeline of when we want to get married, when we want to have our first child... things like that. And as time goes on and we approach those "deadlines," or even surpass them, we have to change our timeline, which we are reluctant to do.

My personal timeline was always to be married by 25 and have my first child by 30.

Currently, I don't see either of those happening, and I will have to change my timeline as time goes on, which sucks but that's life. I wish these things were simple, but males and females have different ideas of marriage or any future plans in the first place. Which makes things super complicated.

So besides changing timelines to fit what is going on in your life, what do we do when it seems like other people aren't ready when we are? We just have to wait it out. As much as that sucks and you don't want to, you have to. Talk about it. Figure things out.

Things happen for a reason, take life and live it. Compromise.

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