To The One Who Got Away, I Wouldn't Be Who I Am If It Wasn't For You

I could thank him for all the concert tickets, the shoes, and clothes, the expensive jewelry, the flowers, but that wasn't our relationship at all. That's what people saw and it was superficial, those things don't mean a single thing now.

I never realized how much truth was behind the saying, "you don't know what you have until it's gone."

After saying goodbye to a three and a half year relationship, I look back and reflect on the beautiful moments him and I shared.

We sure as hell weren't perfect, but there are so many things I wish I said to him before it was too late. I'll admit it right here, I took the damn kid for granted and I'll always live with that regret.

What I failed to acknowledge is how valuable the small parts of a relationship are.

He wrote me love letters on every occasion. I wish that in the ones I wrote back I poured my heart out to him in the way I want to now. I always thought there would be more time.

For some reason, we loved to run errands together. We'd stop by the mall or Target or the supermarket for some item with no relevance today, but together we made the monotony fun. I wish I told him that.

Every morning and every night he would be sure to call me so I started and ended my day with a smile on my face. I wish I never rushed him off the phone.

After he worked long hours at his mind-numbingly boring job, he would pick me up and we'd get Wendy's. He would park and end up talking until all hours of the night. I wish I spent a few more hours in that parking lot thanking for him for all he does.

When I had a bad day or was feeling down, he always knew what to say to cheer me up. I wish he was still my go-to person.

I called him the one that got away because that's truly who he was.

The flowers die and the jewelry tarnishes and when the material items fade and the person standing before you is still everything good the world has to offer wrapped up into one single human, you know he has to be the one. In a desperate time of need, he was always there and it's sad to think how I could share some of the biggest parts of my life with a single person and now we have to walk past each other as though nothing happened.

I would not be who I am today if it weren't for his love and dedication.

This realization did not come easy.

The beauty in this pain is that I get to find myself in a new setting, with new people and I get to take this internalized pain and let it drive my ambitions. So in short, thank you, ex-boyfriend, for some of the best years of my life.

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To The Ex Who Won’t Move On, It’s Time To Let Go

Moving on is hard, but it’s time for you to realize I’m gone.


It's been a year. It's been 365 days since I left you. I was ready for a change. Our relationship was unhealthy and very toxic. We argued constantly. You were very controlling, and it was time to end it. You knew you were the issue in the relationship and you knew what needed to be fixed.

You couldn't change.

After figuring out I couldn't live the rest of my life unhappy, I left. It was hard no doubt. We had good memories, but the bad outweighed the good. You never appreciated me. You weren't loyal to me and I never understand why. You always made me feel as if I was never enough.

I finally left you. You couldn't accept the fact that I was done. I told you I discovered my self-worth and you were angry. You didn't want to see me go. You called and texted me for weeks.

I ignored you.

You were so mad because I was finally done. You had convinced yourself that I would come back but little did you know, I wouldn't. You called and texted daily. You even called my job. You didn't understand. I could no longer listen to ongoing insults and constant accusations. I had enough of it.

When I didn't respond to your calls and texts, you began using text apps and calling me from restricted. You wouldn't stop. When you found out I moved on, it got worse. I begged you to stop and you wouldn't. I finally stopped responding. You still continue to try to contact me.

I need you to move on. I want to put everything behind us. I want you to go out and find someone to make you happy. I need you to realize you and I are over. I want you to move on like I did. I am happy now and I don't need you ruining that. To my ex who is struggling to move on, it's time to let go and move on.

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11 Sneaky Signs Your Relationship Is Headed For A Breakup

Sometimes it just comes out of nowhere.


When you think of a breakup, you may think of weeks of screaming at each other, cheating, lying, and pretty much every other obvious sign you aren't meant for each other.

Sometimes, these signs aren't even there. There may be underlying signs that have been there for a while until it all bubbles up and, BOOM, the breakup happens.

Here are 11 subtle signs your relationship is headed for a breakup:

1. When your S.O.'s name pops up on your phone you feel like groaning.

Throughout your relationship, you would get butterflies when your S.O's name came on your phone. You would be dying to talk to them and tell them all about your day. If it feels like a chore, it might be time to revaluate the relationship.

2. If you live together, you find yourself hoping they aren't home when you get there.

Coming home to your S.O. at the end of every day should be rewarding and exciting. You need to be comfortable in your own living space.

3. You stop wanting to spend time together.

You don't need to spend every waking moment together, but when it seems more like more of a task to take time out of your day that isn't okay.

4. FaceTimes and phone calls become nonexistent.

And if they are existent, the love isn't there and they seem distracted.

5. When you are hanging out, you are checking the time and figuring out when you should leave.

Before, time would fly by and you would be wishing you had more time.

6. Going out on a date seems like a hassle more than an actual treat.

Date nights are rare in busy lives, but when planning them isn't exciting anymore it usually isn't a good sign.

7. When you look into the future you don't see them in it.

You had all your kids names picked out and now you can't even see the relationship getting through the next month.

8. The time between talking to each other increases.

You find yourself forgetting that you haven't talked in a while. And it doesn't necessarily bother you.

9. They irritate you more.

Just their face could bring out anger you didn't know you had.

10. The quirks you once found endearing are now annoying.

Remember the way he'd easily fall asleep in your arms and how it made you feel all gooey inside? Yeah, now it's like he's never awake when you're around.

11. When they stop doing the little things that once put a smile on your face.

No more random "you're beautiful" comments or spontaneous trips to your favorite places in town.

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