Rom-Coms Only Set People Up For Unrealistic Expectations About Love

Rom-Coms Only Set People Up For Unrealistic Expectations About Love

I love rom coms, but this is nothing like real life.

Picture this: You hear faint music outside your window. You are curious and look outside to see the guy you have had a crush on for ages. He is playing the gushiest song that speaks about the love that is only unique to you. He has a bouquet of flowers in one hand and your favorite candy in the other hand. As you descend the stairs to meet him outside, he wraps his arms around you and dips you in for a kiss. Get real, right? This is something that you only see in the movies. Specifically romantic comedies.

Romantic comedies, also known as chick flicks, are scripted for the perfect story where you always know what is going to happen at the end. Which is great if you are a hopeless romantic like me! I live for the moment when the guy that has a crazy past, or is quite the playboy, meets the girl who has a gorgeous smile and focused on herself.

Usually, it's love at first sight.

Have you ever met someone who has fallen in love at first sight?? As much as it would be nice, it doesn't exist. Even though I want to believe that it does exist, life is too complicated for such a black and white way of thinking. No guy will look at me unless they truly know who I am.

They get closer throughout the story with cute montages doing cute couple things even though they aren't (come on people?! Stop being in denial!!). Then you get to the point in the story where a complication arises. An ex gets back in the picture, they are doing this to prove themselves to their friends, or they are trying to win a bet (I'm looking at you "10 Things I Hate About You"). You have the huge falling out between the couple where they go on for several days without talking to each other. They are clearly miserable without each other.

I get it. You need your personal space because the guy was a d*ck or she was just leading you on. But don't burn your bridges. Just communicate. Like any realistic relationship, you need communication for it to work. Like at all.

Then the man runs across the blocks of New York City or rushes to the girl's door with a sweet gesture. Whether it be a boombox above his head, big posterboards of words of sentiment, or just him grabbing the girl's face and looking at her with a look you hope that you get one day. He eventually kisses her and all is good again.

I love rom-coms, but this is nothing like real life.

This may feature the "honeymoon phase" of a relationship, at best. With being a hopeless romantic, this only gets my hopes up for a man with gorgeous blue eyes, a chiseled body and a personality that isn't superficial and so self-absorbed. Nobody is that perfect. I'll leave those kinds of relationships to the movies.

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If You Go Into Summer 2019 Only Wanting A Summer Fling, You're Only Going To Be Disappointed

They may be fun but sometimes come with consequences.


We've all been through the summer flings. Summer is THE season where you have no commitment and are as free as can be with no care in the world. I've been on both ends of summer flings, from having one and cutting things off when summer ended and having one and gaining feelings for the other person... I've actually been dating my summer fling from 2017 for almost a year and a half now which was totally unexpected.

Back in Summer 2017, I was newly single and wasn't intentionally looking for a relationship since I just got out of one. I had a couple of small flings in the beginning, nothing serious at all. Until I met a boy in July from social media. We started talking and hit it off. We had a lot in common and enjoyed a lot of the same things. After a few weeks of talking, some flirting and a couple of dates... we had a fling going on. We weren't committed or anything, but we were both interested in each other. Long story short, I ended up really liking this guy and I could feel our fling diminishing, so I guess you could say I played some hard to get and "won" him over for good. It took a lot and I could definitely say it wasn't a care-free summer since I was trying to get him to make it official with me but now, here we are as boyfriend and girlfriend still to this day.

From my experiences and from friends experiences, summer flings almost always end with someone falling for you or you falling for them. And if you're really not looking for a relationship after summer, it can be quite hassle ending things for good due to feelings. Summer flings can also take time away from your family and friends. Everyone knows spending summer with someone you're interested in is fun, although it most likely won't be permanent, so why waste your time on them when you could be making those summer memories with your friends who will be there always?

A lot of the times, summer flings just involve hooking up and casual dates... nothing too serious. They don't involve "relationship" type feelings. But when you start to gain attachment to that person, sometimes they won't care like you do since summer flings are meant to be temporary. Of course, the person you have a fling with is someone you're into or at least think is good looking and when you find out you're not their only summer fling, jealousy can hit. Like stated above, summer is the season of no worries, and you shouldn't let jealousy take over your care-free attitude.

Summer flings, almost all the time, end in some sort of heartbreak when that isn't the intention in the beginning at all. But other times, they do work out and you guys call it quits and both move on or both end up in a relationship with each other (which was my case and I couldn't be happier to this day!). So, if your plan is to have a fling this upcoming summer, make sure you plan ahead for any type of scenarios that could potentially happen as well as know what you both want in the end.

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