Picture this: You hear faint music outside your window. You are curious and look outside to see the guy you have had a crush on for ages. He is playing the gushiest song that speaks about the love that is only unique to you. He has a bouquet of flowers in one hand and your favorite candy in the other hand. As you descend the stairs to meet him outside, he wraps his arms around you and dips you in for a kiss. Get real, right? This is something that you only see in the movies. Specifically romantic comedies.
Romantic comedies, also known as chick flicks, are scripted for the perfect story where you always know what is going to happen at the end. Which is great if you are a hopeless romantic like me! I live for the moment when the guy that has a crazy past, or is quite the playboy, meets the girl who has a gorgeous smile and focused on herself.
Usually, it's love at first sight.
Have you ever met someone who has fallen in love at first sight?? As much as it would be nice, it doesn't exist. Even though I want to believe that it does exist, life is too complicated for such a black and white way of thinking. No guy will look at me unless they truly know who I am.
They get closer throughout the story with cute montages doing cute couple things even though they aren't (come on people?! Stop being in denial!!). Then you get to the point in the story where a complication arises. An ex gets back in the picture, they are doing this to prove themselves to their friends, or they are trying to win a bet (I'm looking at you "10 Things I Hate About You"). You have the huge falling out between the couple where they go on for several days without talking to each other. They are clearly miserable without each other.
I get it. You need your personal space because the guy was a d*ck or she was just leading you on. But don't burn your bridges. Just communicate. Like any realistic relationship, you need communication for it to work. Like at all.
Then the man runs across the blocks of New York City or rushes to the girl's door with a sweet gesture. Whether it be a boombox above his head, big posterboards of words of sentiment, or just him grabbing the girl's face and looking at her with a look you hope that you get one day. He eventually kisses her and all is good again.
I love rom-coms, but this is nothing like real life.
This may feature the "honeymoon phase" of a relationship, at best. With being a hopeless romantic, this only gets my hopes up for a man with gorgeous blue eyes, a chiseled body and a personality that isn't superficial and so self-absorbed. Nobody is that perfect. I'll leave those kinds of relationships to the movies.