I Don’t Care About Valentine’s Day, I Have That 'Chocolates And Flowers Love' Every Day Of The Year

I Don’t Care About Valentine’s Day, I Have That 'Chocolates And Flowers Love' Every Day Of The Year

I don't need a fancy dinner, luxurious jewels, or an impressive love poem, it's the little gestures that matter.

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Every day feels like Valentine's Day when you're in love. Even so, that doesn't mean you are suffocated with daily gifts of chocolate, a dozen red roses, and gift cards to a luxurious spa. Instead, the small, day-to-day gestures that reveal your partner's endearment towards you carry the meaning of Valentine's Day.

Valentine's Day is not about the gifts, but about genuine care, affection, and love.

Although receiving Valentine's Day gifts, "Good morning beautiful" texts, and never-ending "I love you"s are pleasant, they might be deceptive and shallow. It's very challenging to see through the superficial. However, discerning the difference between habitual actions and behaviors caused by true desire and simple sincerity is essential. To do so, one must observe beyond the words and look for the small steps taken every day.

Heartfelt intimacy can be felt from miles away.

Valentine's Day means zilch if you only feel your partner's love once a year. Love is not a game. Throw out the Loves Me, Loves Me Not petals.

I'm not one to go on and on about my personal relationship since I'm definitely not an expert and I don't live in a fairytale. For all that, however, throughout my experiences, I've learned that no one deserves to question their significant other's love and I'm finally in a romance where I don't have to worry. He doesn't have to tell me he loves me, he shows it every day as he holds my hand in the car, makes me laugh, lifts my spirits, assures I'm fed, listens to the ins and outs of my days (although he isn't the best at remembering the details), etc.

Throughout the day, there is always a glisten in his eyes that expresses how strong our bond is. We don't have to squeeze out devotion from each other, it's naturally present. I couldn't ask for anything more. It's all that I ever dreamed of, and there was a time that I wasn't sure if it was even possible. But it is. I feel safe. Love is vulnerable, I can get hurt, but be that as it may, I sense security. No matter what happens in the future, I know that he cares for me right now and I don't have to question his love. I can always look back to this time with a peaceful nature because of that current confidence. What happens tomorrow, I'll see then, but today I'm happy and grateful.

The little things speak louder than any teddy bear paired with a shimmering, red heart-shaped box of chocolates can ever say.

Cupid's holiday is a way to keep your romance alive; that said, a relationship is strongest when sparks fly continuously. Even years and years after, couples who have been married for decades everlastingly astonish, excite, and intrigue one another whether through inside jokes, shared gazes, or fond memories. The relationship never gets boring (of course, there are ups and downs, but that's what keeps things interesting). Every day won't be a fairytale, but no relationship is perfect—that is what makes them enchanting. Valentine's Day is one day out of 365 that reminds couples to display their affection; nevertheless, your S.O. (and you) should feel spontaneously cared for every single day.

Don't stop searching until you naturally feel cherished for and when you can treasure your partner completely without hesitation and a prompt from Cupid.

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To The Woman Who Needs To Be Wanted, Don’t Let Men Be Your Vice

It will only make you begin to despise yourself.
Cai Parks
Cai Parks
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By definition, a vice is a habitual or trivial defect... a shortcoming. Everyone has a vice.

Mine was men.

I always felt abandoned by the men in my life. I always clung to the opinions and attention of the boys around me...fighting for it in any way I could.

When I was younger, it was easy to get the attention of the boys my age by just dressing cute and having a bubbly personality.

As I got older though, I noticed that I was having to work harder and harder for their attention. Eventually, it turned into me feeling like I had to give myself to them in any way they asked to get their attention.

So that’s what I did.

I used my body as a way to fill some kind of void that I thought could be filled with the love of a man.

As the years went on, I felt myself clinging to not their love, but their lust.

I no longer cared about their love.

I just wanted to hear them call me hot, sexy, or beautiful. I knew they were using me.

I didn’t care.

I needed them to want me.

I needed them to beg.

I needed to feel needed.

For any woman who might feel as though a man’s lust for you can fill that deep void in your heart, take a step back. Trivial, temporary things like that will only make your heart heavier.

It will only make you begin to despise yourself.

There’s nothing wrong with living life the way you want or with who you want, but don’t use that lifestyle simply as a way to make you feel wanted.

Because my Prince Charming came into my life and I no longer needed any other man.

I finally felt truly loved and he helped me to learn that even without him, I would be more than a body.

He helped me see that I was a body, face, brain, smile, laugh, personality, and everything in between.

I am a strong woman now that I know my worth.

You are a strong woman.

Show your strength.

Know your worth.

Cover Image Credit: @thersagrant/Instagram
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Everything You Should Know Before Dating A Fitness Instructor

Sex, weights, cheat meal dates.

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As a fitness trainer, I know how much we love our job. How much we love the people we help and encourage. How much we never want to stop doing what we do. Yet, it's not all sunshine and rainbows. My boyfriend has to put up with some things that probably, kinda sorta are unconventional. But, he's living his dream (his words).

No matter what they teach, personal training, yoga, pilates, barre, HIIT, I could go on and on, but either way, they are passionate about the people they work with. This fire follows them throughout their life and will most definitely influence you.

1. Constant practicing

Don't be alarmed if you wake up to find her up and about practicing her routines for a class/client.

2. Gushing about a client who has been killing it 

No matter how much of a tough cookie we are, clients touch our hearts.

3. She's flexible

You. Are. Welcome. My best friends always introduce me to guys with, "She's really flexible ;)"

4. There's a routine, stick to it

We may be flexible, but don't come between her and her schedule. She is supported by her routine.

5. You are now a fitness class guinea pig

She needs you to help her rehearse. Approach her practice tests with enthusiasm and just have fun.

6. She'll never judge you

Don't ever feel pressured or intimidated. We love you for you. And, news flash, we are not perfect.

7. Always learning

Learning never ends. Learning new routines, learning new people, learning new emotions, learning new approaches to life.

8. And always eating

Teaching a few classes a day is tough on the body. We need our snacks. All. The. Time.

9. Stretches before bed... every night

No matter how tiring and long the day was, she will make sure to fit it a quick bend and no break.

10. The funny things that happened during class

Story time: One time I taught and my pants ripped. Only made the class more fun!

11. Shaker bottle vases

There's no need for vases, when shaker bottles do you justice. The first time my boyfriend brought home roses, I didn't have a vase so we improvised and used a shaker bottle. Now, that's the only vase we will ever need.

12. Free personal training

It's your dream come true. Fitness is at your right hand at all times. Plus, we will be pumped to start talking to you about our passion.

13. She talks endlessly about how well/not well your class went

Sometimes we kill it and sometimes... we fall a little short.

14.  Chugging water

We need to stay hydrated! Plus, she'll be your water tracker as she bugs you to drink with her. Shots! Shots! Shots (of water)!

15. Team work makes the dream work

There is no "I" in team and fitness instructors know the strength of collaboration and support. No one can go through journey a journey alone.

16. She wakes you up early to go on a run

Let's take a jog to the beach and watch the sunrise!

17. Protein, protein, and more protein

She doesn't have to be a weight lifter to assure that she nourishes her body with enough protein (from any source you prefer). My cupboard is always stocked with lentils and chickpeas.

18. Watching her watch fitness videos to get ideas

While you're reading the news, scrolling through Instagram, or just chilling out, she'll be watching workout videos or saving posts from fitness accounts.

19. Goes to bed super early

We need at least eight hours of beauty sleep and, let's be real, we are grandpas.

20.  She lives off of Spotify playlists

Wait, do you hear that song? What's it called, I need to add it to my workout playlist. Plus, she loves to sing (even if she isn't that good).

21.  Pulse 2, 3, 4

While she does chores, she'll start reciting her catchphrases and mantras.

22.  She's your forever cheerleader

Getting out of bed? If you don't squeeze it, no one else will! Washing the dishes? Let's go, you've got this! Running to the bathroom? One more minute! 30 more seconds! Mowing the lawn? You better feel it tomorrow!

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