Love Is Patient, Because God's Best Is Worth The Wait

Love Is Patient, Because God's Best Is Worth The Wait

We have to be willing to wait for God's best!
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I got my first official boyfriend when I was a 15-year-old sophomore in high school. Ever since then I was always the girl who felt like she needed to be in a relationship, never taking the time to just simply enjoy being a teenage girl. There were moments in between my relationships where I was single, no longer than a few several months.

Looking back now, I wish that I was not so 'boy crazy' because none of them turned out to be the person I am supposed to be with, even though back then I could have sworn they were the true love of my life. I wholeheartedly believe I missed out on certain opportunities with my friends or family because of this.

Now that I am 21, granted it took me six years, but I have decided that I am going to not pursue a relationship with a boy, but one with the Lord. Over the past several months, I have had this tugging in my heart to get back into my walk with Him, to truly commit my life to Him. I have made this promise once before but my heart was not truly ready to accept the responsibility and the overwhelming love that the Lord has for me. I was too young and immature to understand but now that is not the case.

I had to go through some trials over the few years, go through experiences and find those to surround myself around that will be a positive influence in my walk in faith.

Our God wants every one of His children to know His overwhelming love, there is no lie, mountain, darkness, or anything in between where His love would not reach you. My love language is 'Words of Affirmation" meaning that to me words actually speak louder than actions. The Word of God has been nothing short of perfect because I can read through scripture, the love He has for us all. His word also talks about the love to have for others whether it be a neighbor or a significant other.

Finding love and finding "the one" is something that over the years people and society have stressed over, and if you haven't found someone by the time your 30 you might as well give up. Nowadays people turn to dating websites or go searching in all the wrong places for the one. I used to do that because I was so eager to find someone to just satisfy some of my ideal characteristics for a SO and for obvious reasons none of them worked out.

Another issue is that we give into the temptations of lust. Lust destroys consciousnesses. Lust destroys your walk with God. Our lust always costs us more, always thirsts. You can never fully satisfy its need.

Why? because we are not willing to wait for GOD'S BEST.

A lot of us are seeking somebody to just make us happy. But to truly be satisfied in life, you have to find the one. But "the one" isn't a boyfriend or girlfriend. It is God. We need to get into a relationship with God before we start dating. In Matthew 6:33 it states "But first seek His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well."

In 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 it says "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” This is the standards I want to hold myself and my future person to.

Though no human is perfect, it is important to always keep this verse in mind.I want to be so focused on God that the man, not boy, that I am meant to be with will be struck in awe. None of my previous relationships had God at its core, and I think that's the reason why it never worked out. I want someone who is completely and irrevocably in love with Jesus. Someone who can keep up with me spiritually, and keep pursuing God always.

I deserve a man after God's own heart. Not just some boy who goes to church. I vow to myself that I will not ever settle again just because I do not want to be lonely.

Instead of asking "why?" I am going to start asking "what?" What is the Lord trying to accomplish through me. I will devote all my free time, pouring myself into Him and his word. Our God has a perfect plan for each and every one of us. We just have to be patient, trust in His timing and wait for God's best. Until then, He is my one true love until He decides I am ready.

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31 One-Liners You Say To Your Boyfriend Before, After And During The Sunday Scaries Hit

Sunday scaries are much more intense that we like to believe.

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Ah Friday. The blessed day of the week that kicks off the wonderful weekend. You have it planned where you are going to tackle everything on your to do list. You're going to clean, you're going to do laundry and even have a special date night with your boo. Maybe even grab a couple drinks with some friends. No matter what, you are not letting the weekend go to waste. Then, before you know it,

Sunday hits.

It's as if the second you went to bed Friday night (or Saturday morning, I won't judge) it immediately skips over Saturday and you are left with one single day to get everything done. The Sunday scaries are real and if you feel the stress that comes with them, you've probably said these one-liners to your boyfriend at some point during the weekend.

Before

1. "Sunday scaries are a joke!"

2. You think just because it's 2 a.m. Sunday morning that we can't have another drink?"



3. "Babe, the laundry will get done, we have all weekend!"

4. "Let's go out with our friends tonight! We have plenty of time to clean the kitchen."

5. "What do you mean we should go home? It's not even midnight!"

6. "But, what if I never get a chance to sing "Man, I Feel Like A Woman" at a karaoke bar again!?"



7. "Oh don't worry, I'm not going to let the Sunday scaries stress me out!"

8. "I won't have a hangover tomorrow!"



9. "I'm a perfectly capable adult!"

During

10. "OMG, BABE WHAT DID I DO?"



11. "What do you mean I sang karaoke until 2 in the morning? I don't even like karaoke!"

12. "I had, HOW many drinks?"

13. "Babe, we NEED to get laundry done."

14. "Why is this house such a mess?"



15. "Why didn't you stop me?!"

16. "Please clean the bathroom, my head hurts too much."

17. "No, I do NOT have a hangover!"

18. "Baby, can we pleaseeee take a nap?" *Says while crying*



19. "I just wanted to have ONE *sobs* GOOD *sobs* NIGHT."

20. *blows nose in boyfriends shirt*"We have NO time to get anything done!"

21. "I'm never going out again!"



22. "I can't adult!"

After

23. "Well, I guess it wasn't THAT bad.."

24. "I mean, we made some progress, we have clean underwear!"



25. "I can see the floor, I think we did a lot today."

26. "You know what would be a great idea? Drinks."

27. "Can we order buffalo wings for dinner?"



28. "I still don't think I was that drunk."

29. "The Sunday scaries did NOT get me."

30. "We should do this again next weekend!"

31. "Adulting is easy!"


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Now That I'm About To Graduate, I Wish 'College Freshman Me' Knew These 7 Things About Love

Remember the love. Measure in love. Measure your life in love.

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December 7th, 2018, is the date that I along with over 2,000 students at UNC-Greensboro have been waited for quite literally for years. Now that the graduation ceremony is approximately 9 hours, 25 minutes, and 4 seconds away I can't help but lie awake in anticipation while reflecting on the different relationships I've had over the past four years no matter how impactful or minor.

I think if I could go back into the past to tell 18-year-old self from freshman year some lessons about love, here are 7 things I would say.

1. It’s okay to play the field

Until you actually find the person you want to be with, it's okay to date multiple people. I feel like women especially have a tendency to put all their eggs in one basket even before things get too serious. Some people are naturally more of the relationship and that's fine, but I wish I had known not to be too loyal to guys too soon before anything was clearly established.

2. But don’t play the field to the point where it bites you in the ass

Ladies, it should be a no-brainer that if you're going to talk to a few people at once, at least make sure they aren't in the same friend group. At a time it wasn't as much of a no-brainer for me though. There has only been one time where I purposely talked to multiple guys at once as if I was on a dating show like "The Bachelorette." If I could go back and warn myself to be smarter about the situation I would, seeing as I didn't have enough sense at the time not to chat with half the guys living on the same floor in the dorm that we all lived in. At the time I felt like it was pretty harmless, but eventually, I found that quite a few of them were salty about it.

3. Even “good guys” can have trash tendencies

Sometimes you'll be involved with a "good guy" because he's seemingly different than the rest. He may not be as tall as the other guys or have as muscular of a physique, but you know deep down that you can be happy with him because you know for certain he'll treat you right. Well, that's not always the case. There have been times where I went for the typical shy guy who didn't really get all of the girls because he was seen as "too nice." Unfortunately, there have been instances when they felt extra entitled to having me just because they were seen as good guys.

4. Sometimes you can literally speak relationships into existence

I am a firm believer that the power of our words is crucial, but now I'm an even more firm believer that our words work in terms of finding a boyfriend as well. One night as I moved into the apartment I stay at now, one of my closest friends stopped by to see me and he brought two of his friends along. I introduced myself to both of them, but I was definitely fixated on the Italian friend. Was it because he has the most distinct greenish/grey eyes I've ever seen? Maybe. However, there was this weird feeling I had that he was going to be my boyfriend which was insane considering that we probably only spoke to each other on no more than three or four occasions that night, one of them being when he asked me if he could use my bathroom. I even told one of my roommates right before I went to bed that night that he was going to be my boyfriend someday. Later my sister and I would see him almost every other week at the same two spots in the library and I would whisper to her, saying "I don't really know that guy and I don't even like him like that yet, but I'm pretty sure we're gonna be boyfriend and girlfriend one day." About six or so months later we started dating for real and not just in my head.

5. Having sex for the first time doesn’t necessarily have to be a negative experience

The first time I had sex was halfway through my junior year in college. Prior to this experience, I had heard all of the worst-case scenarios—"Don't expect it to be great," "It's gonna hurt," and "you're probably going to get attached" are among the top three things I constantly heard. Contrary to what I've heard all those years, my first time having sex was pretty good. I think part of the reason because it wasn't this scheduled thing with a romantic dinner and a movie beforehand or rose petals leading up to the bed at a precise time. It was very laid back and natural.

6. Trying to make your ex jealous may leave you stranded alone in a different state

I've mentioned this situation briefly before, but the only time in my life when I legitimately had a grand scheme to make an ex jealous didn't actually go as planned. I used my magic charm on two MMA coaches and finessed my way on a free trip to one of the MMA events in South Carolina where they would coach their clients. It didn't take long for them to realize I wasn't being genuine. One of the coaches insisted that I wasn't showing him enough affection and the other coach who I rode down to the event with completely went ghost and blocked me. If one of my close friends weren't there as well then I wouldn't have had a ride back home to North Carolina.

7. Chicks over dicks

With all of that being said, whether or not I'm in a full blown relationship or just casually dating someone, I will ALWAYS need my friends more than I need the dick so there's no need to stress over guys when the time I spend with my best girlfriends is the most fulfilling.

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