Love Is Patient, Because God's Best Is Worth The Wait

Love Is Patient, Because God's Best Is Worth The Wait

We have to be willing to wait for God's best!

I got my first official boyfriend when I was a 15-year-old sophomore in high school. Ever since then I was always the girl who felt like she needed to be in a relationship, never taking the time to just simply enjoy being a teenage girl. There were moments in between my relationships where I was single, no longer than a few several months.

Looking back now, I wish that I was not so "boy crazy" because none of them turned out to be the person I am supposed to be with, even though back then I could have sworn they were the true love of my life. I wholeheartedly believe I missed out on certain opportunities with my friends or family because of this.

Now that I am 21, granted it took me six years, but I have decided that I am going to not pursue a relationship with a boy, but one with the Lord. Over the past several months, I have had this tugging in my heart to get back into my walk with Him, to truly commit my life to Him. I have made this promise once before but my heart was not truly ready to accept the responsibility and the overwhelming love that the Lord has for me. I was too young and immature to understand but now that is not the case.

I had to go through some trials over the few years, go through experiences and find those to surround myself around that will be a positive influence in my walk in faith.

Our God wants every one of His children to know His overwhelming love, there is no lie, mountain, darkness, or anything in between where His love would not reach you. My love language is "Words of Affirmation" meaning that to me words actually speak louder than actions. The Word of God has been nothing short of perfect because I can read through scripture, the love He has for us all. His word also talks about the love to have for others whether it be a neighbor or a significant other.

Finding love and finding "the one" is something that over the years people and society have stressed over, and if you haven't found someone by the time you're 30 you might as well give up. Nowadays people turn to dating websites or go searching in all the wrong places for the one. I used to do that because I was so eager to find someone to just satisfy some of my ideal characteristics for a SO and for obvious reasons none of them worked out.

Another issue is that we give into the temptations of lust. Lust destroys consciousnesses. Lust destroys your walk with God. Our lust always costs us more, always thirsts. You can never fully satisfy its need.

Why? because we are not willing to wait for GOD'S BEST.

A lot of us are seeking somebody to just make us happy. But to truly be satisfied in life, you have to find the one. But "the one" isn't a boyfriend or girlfriend. It is God. We need to get into a relationship with God before we start dating. In Matthew 6:33 it states "But first seek His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well."

In 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 it says "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."

These are the standards I want to hold myself and my future person to.

Though no human is perfect, it is important to always keep this verse in mind. I want to be so focused on God that the man, not boy, that I am meant to be with will be struck in awe. None of my previous relationships had God at its core, and I think that's the reason why it never worked out. I want someone who is completely and irrevocably in love with Jesus. Someone who can keep up with me spiritually, and keep pursuing God always.

I deserve a man after God's own heart. Not just some boy who goes to church. I vow to myself that I will not ever settle again just because I do not want to be lonely.

Instead of asking, "Why?" I am going to start asking, "What?" What is the Lord trying to accomplish through me? I will devote all my free time, pouring myself into Him and his word. Our God has a perfect plan for each and every one of us. We just have to be patient, trust in His timing and wait for God's best. Until then, He is my one true love until He decides I am ready.

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From The Girl Ready To Settle Down At 20

I am not trying to grow up too fast, but I had my run at living it up, and now I'm ready to settle down.

At my age, 20 years old, many people are just beginning the "live life to the fullest" phase. Many of the people I know my age are going to bars and parties, drinking, living the single life, having fun in college, joining sororities/fraternities, meeting new people, changing their style and getting a tattoo for the heck of it. This is when they are trying new things, "finding themselves," and don't want to be "tied down." There is nothing wrong with any of this. The older people in my life, such as parents and their friends, repeatedly tell me to stay young and enjoy life. I know most people think I should be living like the majority of the people my age, but lately, it just isn't me. I don't know if I just got an early start to the parties, being single, and venturing out lifestyle or what, but suddenly, this 20-year-old is perfectly happy with settling down.

At the age of 17, I had a pretty rough start with the whole relationship thing. My first serious relationship was enough to make anyone want to be single for a very long while. After that, I rebelled a little, like any teenager does at some point, and began to find myself. Of course, some bad decisions were made along the way, but how else are you supposed to mature and learn?

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Two years after the initial heartbreak that caused my slight rebellion, I met the man of my dreams. We have been dating for almost a year now, and I look back now and see how much I have changed in just three short years.

Thinking of going to the bar doesn't seem half as fun as it used to. I would rather have a glass of wine in a bubble bath than go drink with friends. I wonder how I ever thought being single was so great when now I have someone to share everything with. Joining a sorority no longer interests me. Parties aren't my scene. Everything that seemed so important back then no longer matters to me now.

My idea of fun is a movie night with my boyfriend, dinner with the girls, traveling, and making memories. I stay busy with a job, school, and barrel racing. I have a renewed interest in my relationship with God, and my Bible is something I try to look at more than social media.

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Sure, I've lost some friends because of this. Some just don't understand why I would rather go on a date with my boyfriend than go to the bars with them. I've accepted the fact that not everyone is going to agree with me "growing up too fast." Then again, everyone has their time when they get tired of the bars and being single, and everyone grows up eventually. As far as regrets, I don't see myself having any because this is the first time in a very long time that I can say I am truly happy.

So here's to all you people my age that are told on a regular basis that you act too old, or that you to need stay young and live a little. I feel ya. What they don't know is you can still have fun, and be in the bed by 9 o'clock. 😉

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Our Obedience To Our Husband Is The Greatest Act Of Love We Can Give Him

When we submit to our husbands, we give him the respect he needs.

In our culture today, submission has begun to lose its meaning. When Christ calls wives to submit, he is calling us to love our husband through giving him respect. Our husbands need the support of their wife. They may not always deserve it, and it may drive us crazy...but we can do it. We can make our men feel stronger than ever, if we decide to love and respect him.

But some ask, “But what if he asks us to go against our Christian faith?”

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey to word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.” 1 Peter 3:1-2 (ESV)

As a woman who is passionate about submission, I find the very act beautiful. When we submit to our husband, we are also honoring the Lord. Men care about respect from their woman, more so than anything else. Submission is a woman’s way of saying, “I will honor you.”

However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” Ephesians 5:33 (ESV)

Respecting our husband is our way of loving him. We honor him and the Lord when we fulfill our duty of honoring our husband. Submission is work, and a choice you must make daily. But I promise, it is worth it.

But with submission comes the fact that our men are not perfect. I wanted to share the verses from 1 Peter to tell you that, when our men are not perfect, we honor him through submission anyway. We pray over him, that through our obedience and love, he may be steered towards God again.

Our submission is a daily decision, but also our testimony in our marriages. When we show our husbands grace, we also show him the love of Christ. But maybe sometimes, our men will request us to do something against what Christ has called us to do.

An example of that is Abraham and Sarah in the Old Testament. Abraham asked Sarah to lie about being his wife. She obediently did so. Through her obedience Abraham saw his mistake. Her obedience is now a testimony of how God worked in their marriage and their lives. We can now look at that example as a chance to understand a godly marriage.

A woman’s strength is in the way she stands behind her husband, and how she supports her family. It's in the way she is willing to place her life in front of God and her husband, seeking to be obedient is honorable and worthy of praise.

It is hard to submit without exceptions, and it’s hard to understand our men sometimes. We don’t always understand what they’re doing. Sometimes we need time to process and understand him. But in all things, we must honor and love him. He needs respect, and he needs love.

So, we are now asking ourselves, “Where do we draw the line?”

I’ve asked that too. I have always wondered where submission goes too far. My answer is this: submission should not equate to an abusive relationship. When our husbands lose the love factor, and when they stop honoring their wife, we are no longer in a godly, loving relationship. As I say that, I do want to point out that we don’t have to give up on our marriages. When we respect our husbands, and our marriages, we can see our lives together, changed.

So, when asked, “Why do you submit, and what if he goes against your Christian beliefs?”

Remember this, 1 Peter 3:1-5 (ESV)

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external – the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear – but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him Lord.”

We are called as women to submit and honor our husbands. When he isn’t perfect, we show him through our obedience that God loves him anyway. Our obedience to our husband is our greatest act of love we can give him.

Find the beauty in submission without exceptions.

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