From 'Attitude' To 'A Good Smile,' Here Are 20 Guys Saying What They First Look For In A Girl

Haven't you ever wondered what guys are really looking for when you first meet?

I took it into my own hands to ask 20 guys what catches their attention in a good way during your first interaction. I have to admit that I was shocked by how many responses weren't completely based off of physical attraction. Turns out personality does matter, ladies. Of course, there are still plenty of guys who will only be drawn to your looks first, then how silly and fun your personality is, but don't lose hope. These responses are proof that there are some softies out there—they really do exist.

1. Not awkward

"The way they talk to me has to be right."

So girls, don't let their cuteness distract you. Seriously play it cool and be yourself.

2. Attitude

"It's how they come off right away, a b*tchy attitude is a turn off. Also, that booty."

3. A good sense of humor

"I like a girl who can make me laugh."

4. Happiness

" I look at their smile first, and any trait that resembles happiness."

5. Kindness

Moral of the story, being mean isn't cute.

6. Can hold a conversation

"Obviously physical attraction at first, but further than that if she has a good sense of humor and can hold a conversation with me."

When in doubt, talk it out. Keep him interested!

7. Smile

"The first thing I look for in a girl is a nice smile and sense of humor for sure." Don't be bashful, flash him a big toothy smile.

8. Cohesiveness 

"I guess the first thing that everyone notices is their looks. Then I would say cohesiveness and if their personality fits mine."

Don't force it, but being a good match could go a long way for you.

9. Confidence

"Sense of humor and confidence in herself."

Ladies, don't forget who you are. Make your first impression memorable.

10. Attraction 

"If I'm attracted to them, then their personality."

At least if he thinks your cute, you have a good chance at wooing him with your personality.

11. If they look like a good time

"I look for someone who looks like they like to have fun."

Well don't hold back, be your fun and crazy self and bag him up!

12. Intelligence

Hit the books and they'll come swarming. Well, maybe it isn't exactly that easy, but it's worth a try.

13. Positivity 

"Looks will first catch my attention just because that's the way humans are wired, but after that I would probably say if she has a personality that vibes with mine, can carry on a conversation and is easy to talk to and she is someone who provides more positivity than negativity for me."

14. Eyes

"Her face, but especially the eyes."

15. Nice body

"A good laugh and sense of humor, someone who is funny and smart and has nice eyes. And of course has a nice body"

16. The way you hold yourself

"Appearance and the way people hold themselves."

Be proud of who you are, don't slouch or hide.

17. Takes good care of their skin

"Eyes and smile, and then I look to see if they take care of their skin. Sounds weird. But a girl with nasty teeth or skin that's not taken care of doesn't care."

18. Loyalty

"Adventurous, spontaneity, loyalty, and being a genuine person are at the top for that."

19. Nice laugh

"A good smile and a nice laugh."

20. Having a direction with their life

"Each girl has their own unique personality and beauty characteristics that make them attractive and likable. I'd have to say I don't look for anything specific besides a girl being smart, having a good sense of humor and a direction with their life."

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

5 Questions To Ask Yourself When You're On The Fence With A Guy

Is he worth it?


Whether you're contemplating if you want to continue your fling with a guy or contemplating breaking up with your boyfriend, there are always questions we're asking ourselves. Ranging from "is this right of me?" to "is this what will make me happy?" But if you are really sitting on the fence and don't know what to do next, check out these five questions you need to ask yourself if you're torn on what to do.

1. Do I want long term or short term?

This is a huge question to ask. If you're looking to settle down for a while, your guy may not want that. And it could always be the other way around as well. Make sure to decipher this with him so you both know what you want and no one gets a broken heart.

2. Can I see myself marrying this person?

I know this is a bold question to ask, especially if you're not dating. But really thinking about if you can see yourself with them for a long time can make it or break it. But say you're dating and you're on the fence of deciding you want to break up with them or not, think about if you can see yourself saying "I do" to them, and if you can't, let him go.

3. Can I see myself living with them/how do they live?

I've seen many people get engaged and move in together and later call it quits due to the way their partner lived. If you've been getting to know your guy for a while now and notices he lives like a pig, you may have to wonder if you'd be cleaning up those messes in the future.

4. How do they make me feel?

This question in a no brainer. If they make you feel bad, why even question continuing into the relationship.

5. Are they worth it?

Is he worth it? I know I have had some experiences when I was on the fence with a couple of guys and I've had to ask myself the same question. And when I'd question if he was worth it or not, my gut feeling always came out right. If you're looking to keep him around, always ask yourself if he's worth it.

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Girls, You NEED To Understand That Fuckboy Texting You ‘wyd’ 24/7 Will Never Give You A 24 Karat Ring

I finally managed to crack the code as to why your casual hookup will never try to make you his wife.

Elle Hong
Elle Hong

There are five unofficial steps of hookup culture: Find a guy. Get to know him a little bit, but not too much (because you have to keep "boundaries," remember?) Make a pact to keep things "casual" and promise to still be "friends" with each other. Then, hookup with him. And keep hooking up with him without any emotional attachment — just over and over again and never expect anything more.

From a birds eye view, hookup culture seems so harmless. I mean, what's more convenient than having a booty call at your doorstep with the swipe of a screen? When you want to hook up, all you have to do is shoot that 2 a.m. "U Up?" text.

Hell, I even wrote a whole article about the perfect FWB situation.

Yet suddenly—here I am, Elle Hong, resident "Uncuffed" writer on Swoon and self proclaimed fuckgirl who glorifies hookup culture above anything else, catching feelings and falling for the wrong guys just like any other girl out in the world.

Consider this blasphemy. Or maybe I'm just dying to make a confession.

A confession that I, too, have experienced the feeling of wondering why I was never enough for the guys I hooked up with. Why they never chose me over the girls they would eventually form serious relationships with and why to them I only was nothing more than a casual hookup.

So, I thought about it. I critically analyzed it. I "Aristotle-d" my way into trying to find an answer behind the impossible question of wondering why I was never considered to be anything more. Over the past few weeks, it essentially became my new research topic and now, I finally managed to crack the code as to why your casual hookup will never try to make you into wifey material. Here's why.

First and foremost: Guys usually (but not always) choose to hookup with girls who they don't see as anything more.

Now, keep in mind I'm not saying that guys will NEVER fall in love with the girls they hookup with because it can happen. It's life. Life is unpredictable. No doubt, people have fallen in love on Tinder and married a random match who just happened to become The One. But we all know what Tinder is really for. Generally speaking, guys will seek random hookups with the types of girls they think are "easy" and if they're desperate enough, it's definitely not going to be someone they view as their future wife.

If he thinks you're cute, you're within 10 miles radius and you can hold a conversation, it doesn't matter what your annual salary is or how many siblings you got—he wants one thing and it's to get you in bed. And until a guys find this girl who captures his heart and inevitably makes him want to settle, he's going to go around hooking up with random girls left and right. So in this case, it's not your fault. You're just with the wrong type of guy who only thinks of you as his sexual conquest.

See also: Guys want to settle with girls that don't go around hooking up with other people.

Ironic as hell because I just talked about why guys would never want to settle, period. But think about it—guys are humans with rational thoughts and animalistic desires. When they find their territory, they mark it. Once he finds a girl who is the one, he never wants to let her go. And he never wants to see that girl be with another guy or god forbid, go around hooking up with other guys. So here's the moral of the story to get my point across: I hate to break it to you, but bragging about how many other guys you're f*cking outside of your current FWB situationship isn't going to help develop the relationship any further.

Finally: A girl's "hoe phase" might seem empowering but for guys they see it as a threat.

Thanks to the wonderful millennial encyclopedia that we call Urban Dictionary, we have a definition behind this certain life style: A phase in life which occurs when a girl goes around social settings exploring herself, committing promiscuous acts and connecting with random people. For girls, it seems pretty damn empowering, doesn't it? For us it's a chance to let loose, to live a lil bit more and to run around as independent women. Nothing wrong with that of course.

But for guys to perceive this type of lifestyle, they see it as a threat which could arise if they form a relationship with you. It's simple logic here. A girl who's in her "hoe phase" is more likely to be unfaithful since they're always out and about with this person and that person. Put it this way: a guy doesn't care if you're a hoe—but he only wants you to be HIS hoe and not everyone else's. So you might think that it's a great way to express yourself and to enjoy your college years, but keep in mind that it could possibly be holding you back from taking the next step with your casual FWB.

Elle Hong
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