I asked 52 Women What They Wished Men understood

I asked 52 Women What They Wished Men understood

"Just because I am smiling at you, Brad, does not mean I want to suck your d***."

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I did an article a while back about men saying what they wished they could say to women (and if you have not seen that article, feel free to click the link right HERE to view it), and the results were so intriguing that I decided to do the exact opposite of that article, writing what women wished they could say to men.

The women I asked were offered a bit of a variety of question, so it ended up being more of a "What do you wish you could say to men/what do you wish men knew/ what do you wish men understood." Regardless, I ended up with a lot of answers, and a lot of #metoo thoughts.

1. I wish men understood what it’s like to always assume strangers have ulterior motives when they talk to you, and always have your guard up.

2. If I am frustrated or stressed or tired, don’t assume that ‘a good roll in the hay’ is going to solve my frustration/stress/tiredness.

3. Why do you have to be so awful? #patriarchy

4. Go see a therapist. Women aren’t things that you can take your issues out on. Be healthy and talk to a professional.

5. Not everything is about your dick.

6. Treat women as your equal and stand up to your guy friends when they are being disrespectful towards women. Women everywhere will thank you for respecting them enough to call out other people’s BS.

7. I wish men understood that they are NOT entitled to my time or attention.

8. I wish men understood that when I say I’m a feminist, that doesn’t mean i think women are better. Being a feminist means I want men and women to be held equally!

9. Men need to take more responsibility for themselves and their actions. In my experience men will not only get away with harmful behavior, but aren't expected to accept that they've done something wrong or be willing to change their behavior.

10. I wish men understood the concept of male privilege; For example, I won’t run outside at night because I’m worried I’ll be attacked. But men don’t have that worry. Or I don’t drink alcohol at parties because I’m worried that someone will slip something into my drink because I’m a female and they feel entitled to me.

11. I wish men understood that us (women, that is) being polite and nice to them is not flirting. Which means that just because I'm smiling at you, Brad, does not mean I want to suck your dick. Maybe I'm just trying to buy something at the convenience store, dude.

12. Women don’t get their hair and nails done for men to notice. Men should know we do those things for us to feel good! Self pampering! Not about men to notice, because they don’t!

13. We don’t always have to meet up perfectly to your standards.

14. I am more than my body, so stop ogling it when I am trying to have a conversation with you.

15. One bad boyfriend has ruined my thoughts about romance. I don’t mean to take it out on you, other men. I just don’t have the natural trust I used to in people.

16. Women always find out the truth. Always.

17. As a whole, you’re all perverted pieces of shit.

18. No means no.

19. I don’t want to have to act like the bitch who could knock your ass out just to be treated with professional courtesy. But if it comes to that, I WILL be the bitch who knocks your ass out.

20. A good massage from my boyfriend can fix anything. (I’ve never had a boyfriend give me a massage before).

21. I wish [men] went on a date with me or got to know me before not talking to me again.

22. Don’t only talk to me when you want attention.

23. You’re never going to know what I’m like or who i could be to you if you never make an effort to even get to know me.

24. Women evaluate everything. Even the tiny things make our minds conjure up millions of perceptions of one thing.

25. Life as a woman is challenging as it is, so just mean what you say and say what you mean to save us some stress.

26. I wish men understood BASIC CONSENT. Just ‘cause I didn’t scream or slap you in the face doesn’t mean what you’re doing is okay.

27. Don’t continue to do something if I say no or back away. If I am backing away and taking your hand off me, I mean no. Stop trying.

28. I wish both men and women received an adequate sex education. I wish men knew that women do not pee out of their vagina and understand that women can have multiple orgasms. I wish men knew how to find the clitoris.

29. Never ask a woman is she is pregnant, on her period, PMSing, or on the rag. It’s none of your business is we are, and until you can bleed from your vagina, birth a child from your body, or feel menstrual cramps, you have no right to judge.

30. [Men] occupy a space in privilege every single day.

31. Even with the current mood being ‘men are bad,’ they are in fact not. They are awesome.

32. I wish men knew about proper parenting techniques and healthy ways of expressing emotion and how to take care of the spaces in which they live, because they f***ing live there.

33. When a female dresses nice/does her makeup, it is not for a man. It is for herself.

34. Women are capable of just as much as men are and do not need men to accomplish their goals.

35. I wish men knew about the dangers of HPV and STIs that don’t have presenting symptoms.

36. I wish men knew about the wage gap and how it is exacerbated by the intersectionality of being a person of color.

37. I wish men knew that we don’t all think they’re bad. I get the feeling that they think women think they’re terrible, but not all men are terrible. There are some decent ones out there.

38. I wish men knew that when they ‘compliment’ random women as they pass by, we don’t feel complimented. WE FEEL AFRAID.

39. I wish I could be brutally honest with men. I feel like sometimes women have to be careful what they say to men to protect their egos and it’s incredibly frustrating.

40. I wish men understood how threatening and intimidating they can be to women. Sometimes they don’t mean to be, but it very easily comes across that way.

41. When girls say “I’m fine” or “I don’t want to talk,” they really are not fine and want to talk.

42. Sometimes when we tell you things, we don't expect or want you to fix it for us. We just want you to listen.

43. Stop just expecting shit..sometimes you need to ASK for it.

44. Look for something for yourself before asking me for it...like asking for where the peanut butter is when you KNOW where we keep it.

45. (From a wife to a husband)- If you see something that needs to be done, do it--don't leave it for me or someone else to do it.

46. Stop touching my boobs or trying to get frisky when you clearly see that I am BUSY…

47. Don’t you ever try and blame my attitude on my period.

PS. And even if I do have an attitude because of my period,I have the right. Cramps and PMS are like the fires at Hibachi inside of me.

48. If I am telling you something don't try to shut me down or invalidate my feelings. I f***ing matter.

49. Don't EVER tell me to calm down when it's YOU that pissed me off in the first place.

50. Stop expecting me to make all the decisions.

51. I'm not your mother. Act like a f***ing man and get yourself together.

52. Respect the safe word.

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6 Reasons You Should ALWAYS 'Fake-Type' Your Crush On Snapchat

It might work, it might not... but, it's always worth a shot!

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Fake-Type — Verb. 1. Pushing random letters on Snapchat messages without ever sending anything just so your name will pop up on that person's phone.

When your crush doesn't wanna talk to you, you can always send a "fake type" message to give him the hint you want to talk. It might work, it might not... but, it's always worth a shot!

Here are 6 reasons you should at least TRY fake-typing your crush on Snapchat!

1. Leave him wondering

Once he sees that "_______ is typing...", he will be staring at his phone to see what it is you have to say. Does it just say hey? Does it ask to hang? Does it ask to bang? Is it you bitching him out? He'll wait a couple minutes and realize you never sent anything? He might send you the "what's up" text then mission will be accomplished.

2. To just see if he replies

Maybe he's just waiting on you to make the first move? Maybe this is just the push y'all needed to start a conversation? Maybe he was going to talk to you later in the day, but you just moved up the time? And if he doesn't reply, just act like it was an accident.

3. To make yourself feel like you have balls without actually saying anything

No girl really wants to Snapchat her crush first even though she really wants to talk to him. The least you can do is make your name pop up on his phone and feel like you actually did something. And, you actually did do something either way. You either got his attention or made him talk to you. You got balls, girl.

4. To make yourself feel a little less pathetic all while being totally pathetic

Yeah, it's kind of embarrassing when he hits you with that "Did you mean to do that?" But not so much when he says, "Hey, what are you up to?" It's kind of up in the air on which will happen, but you always can blame it on an accident. That's not too pathetic, is it?

5. To get your psycho girl fix

Sometimes you're just having a bad day and want to talk to your crush. When he is not talking to you, you just feel like being a psycho until he does. When the fake typing works, the psycho girl fix is gone, and you can act like a normal girl again.

6. Just to do it

If you really like this boy and have already snapped him first before, just go for the fake type. If you fake type a couple of times and he never replies, just take the hint and leave him alone. What really do you have to lose with a fake type?

I hope everyone fake types their crush at least once in their life just for the thrill of seeing what he will say or if he will ever say anything. Good luck, and I hope this inspires you to fake type that guy.

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The 7 Traits That Define An Alpha Female

Throw her to the wolves and she'll return with the pack.
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Women are weak.

Women are fragile.

Women are submissive.

Women are second.

Women are stereotyped.

We are frustratingly put second because that is just how it has always been. With this notion, the alpha woman stands out. She is unconventional and to many men, this scares them away. Her confidence oozes her alpha demeanor and instills levels of immense intimidation in the mindsets of many. With this unconventional mindset, alpha women are misunderstood in not only relationships but in daily life. By getting to know an alpha female's characteristics you will better be able to understand why dating an alpha-female may be the way to go.

Here are the characteristics of an alpha female:

1. She won't give up easily.

She is resilient. When an alpha female has a goal, it becomes a major focus that encompasses her mind. She sees herself as an investment. In this regard, she will tirelessly work to upkeep her social, physical, and emotional state of mind. She won't play victim to life and become thrashed by harsh-comings, but rather will take them head on.

2. She isn't afraid to make the first move.

This is where a lot of alpha and beta females may differ. Making the first move toward a guy at a bar is her specialty. Why should a boy be the one to always make the first move? So thankfully for you boys, alpha females can take that burden off you. This bold approach exemplifies her spontaneous, self-assured, confident, and outgoing nature. She knows what she wants and goes for it without hesitation.

3. She is extremely loyal.

She is loyal and respectful to the ones she loves. Once she has someone or something int heir life, they work hard to keep it around. She says what she wants and wants what she says. Letting people or things slip through her fingers is not a common occurrence. With an alpha female knowing what she wants, she won't jeopardize relationships or friendships over petty things. Not feeling the need to use dishonest tactics, she lives her life with integrity.

4. She lives with purpose.

She has direction in her life. While she knows how to relax and be adventurous, she does not just wander as a lost puppy in her life. Working toward goals of physical fitness, doing well in school, or attaining a good career are examples of purpose she works toward. She stays aware of her goals and keeps them in the center of her thoughts. Dating an alpha female, you can be ensured she will get what she will get things done and will work hard to ensure happiness in the relationship.

5. She isn't afraid to be or do things by herself.

The alpha female isn't afraid of independence, and in fact, often times will welcome it. Strong leadership skills are almost always a common trait. This often times can lead to a sense of intimidation from others as they feel threatened by her self-confidence. While company is a positive, it is not always necessary. In relationships, this has potential to be either a positive or negative. Allowing an alpha female to have her own times and space, or at least feel as if she is in control sometimes, is essential to the relationships well-being.

6. She knows how to love.

Strong-hearted and strong-willed describe her well. She won't experience damsel in distress moments and need to be saved by a boy, so you don't need to worry about her not being able to hold her own. When she loves, she loves hard in every way, shape, and form. She will challenge you to be the best you can be and provide support along the way, to any absurd idea you may have. She'll strive to make your duo the best team around. She doesn't live a mediocre life and won't let your relationship be that way either. She isn't afraid of her sexuality, either. If you have captured her heart, you can imagine she will love you well.

7. She is ambitious.

She dares to go there. As Kendrick would say, she has "hustle though, ambition, flow, inside her DNA." She believes she is responsible for her own life and if she has somewhere she wants or needs to be, she is the only means of which she will get there. Her personality thrives off taking responsibility for herself and for others. She lives void of the idea of restricting limitations.

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