What's Your Number? Here's How Many 'Bodies' The Typical College Student Has

What's Your Number? Here's How Many 'Bodies' The Typical College Student Has

I asked 100+ college students what their body count was, and oh my god.

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Nope, this doesn't mean how many people you killed (and I really seriously hope no one got that mixed up on my poll).

Urban Dictionary described the "body count" as "how many people you've has sex with"—this is either talked about way too much or not enough.

The responses I got were either super cute or super duper honest.

I asked two important questions: what's your number? And how do you feel about it?

Let's start with the lowest: 0.

Out of the 100 students I asked, a whopping 17 said their count was zero.

Most said that they were completely comfortable with it: here's why

"Yes, because it shows that I'm saving myself for the right person. It also shows that I have a great deal of self-control."

And that you do, whether it's a religion or just a personal choice: I completely respect ya and applaud you.

Here's another one:

"Yes. Sex is a serious thing, and I think that most people in our society don't take it seriously. We're comfortable with sleeping around and giving away the most precious and vulnerable things±our bodies. I'm not saying that I'm going to wait until marriage, but I want to wait until I've found someone who will value me and who I trust to see me at my most vulnerable."

I'm excited for you to find the right one! Best wishes.

Let's switch it up, here's a person who is NOT comfortable with such a low number.

"No, I feel at my age if you haven't had sex people judge you. They call you a prude and every guy you talk to thinks it's crazy that 'someone as beautiful as you has never been with anyone.'"

Well, lady, I hope that the responses above can calm you down. Everyone moves at different paces,no matter what age you are own your body count number. You'll get there—no worries.

Everything happens for a reason.

Plus, you're not too far away from these people, 20 people said that they have only slept with ONE person.

You have those who have waited for the right one and are super happy about it. I mean just listen to this person!

"Yeah, because he's the person I'm most comfortable around with and the person I want to be with for the rest of my life. I'm so grateful that I waited for him."

"Yes! I knew I was with the right person when I lost my virginity and we're still together after all these years."

So, I mean waiting can be worth it. So here's a person who only wants the one body for their lifetime.

"Yes, I am very comfortable with that number. I have only had one serious boyfriend enough to sleep with. We've been together for 8 and I do not plan on adding to my number."

Those with 5-10 "bodies" (which made up more than half of my poll) said that they really don't care about their number and that they're having "fun."

More bodies, more power to ya.. right? Sometimes, that number can show growth—in more ways than one.

"Yeah because I feel like it accurately describes me going through all the steps. I lost my virginity to get it over with the first one, when that fling didn't work out I had a hoe phase and now I'm with my very committed relationship."

Sometimes, it can be a learning experience. Here's what one student said:

"Totally! All experiences have taught me more about myself. I regret one occasion, but even that time came with learned lessons."

You can learn lessons from people—which helps you grow. and after all—your body count DOESN'T define you.

"I guess it's not really a huge deal to me because not everyone is open to sex and I don't think a body count should define someone on how sexually active they are or whether they're experienced or not, and so on. At the end of the day, I don't think it should really be a big deal on what someone's number is, as long as they're doing what makes them most comfortable and happy (and sexy)."

And some people, still want more. *wink, wink*

"Not really, kinda wish I had more. Feel like it's low for my age and in my 20s I just want to experiment and have fun!"

Although, more and more people think that sometimes a body count is the most important thing about someone, some people politely disagree. Just like this "poll taker" and honestly, no matter his/her count I seriously respect the heck out of them:

"Honestly that's just a guess, I stopped counting a long time ago but my number is in that area. I don't really care about my number and I think any potential long-term partner who does is very close-minded. As long as I'm being safe (which I am) there is no reason for it to matter. Having sex with a lot of people is okay and the stigma around it sucks! I'm comfortable for the most part with my number it's just the reaction from others when I tell them my number that I'm not okay with."

PREACH SISTA (or mista).

Either way, your count doesn't define you. YOU DEFINE YOU.

Sex is.. well, sex. but more importantly, your body is YOURS. and YOU decide what YOU do with it. You decide if you want the body count of three or forty-three.

Rock your count either way but, always practice safe and consensual sex.

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

I Am A Hopeless Romantic Living In A World Where One-Night Stands Are The Norm

It's the little things.

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In today's society, it can certainly start to feel like no one takes love seriously anymore.

Whether it's that one couple who has broken up and gotten back together more times than you can count, the two friends-with-benefits no one can figure out, your local womanizer, or just hookups in general, love and lust are a huge part of specifically college life and culture.

As a hopeless romantic, being part of a generation that "just wants to have fun" can be really frustrating, especially when you just want to find something real. It is so easy for people to put on a fake act just to get what they want and sometimes this can be extremely hard to see through. I'm sure we've all had some kind of incident with someone who played nice but had ulterior motives and the sad truth is that it can be impossible to recognize a person's artificiality.

I am a hopeless romantic.

I have always classified myself as such, and it has remained true. Sure, I can make the most of the freedoms I have as a single college woman, but deep down I just want to find my person.

I've had my fair share of letdowns, and I think we all have, but being a hopeless romantic makes it that much more difficult to get past the "what ifs" and fantasies that come along with starting something with someone new. We may already have our hearts set on a person when they decide they've gotten what they wanted and leave.

For me, I find myself caught up in the little things that someone does. I have always been someone who picks up on small details in situations, and sometimes this works against me.

I pick up on the small facial expressions that he may not even realize he is making; the ones that tell you when their guard has been let down, even just for a split second.

I pick up on the way he sits our two cellphones side by side on the nightstand, taking care to line them up perfectly as if that's just their spot.

I pick up on the short moments of laughter where he actually lets himself laugh and forgets about the act.

I pick up on things, and sometimes I end up hurting because of it.

When it comes down to it, though, I wouldn't change the way that I am. I wouldn't change the fact that I find myself in the search for more in a society that mostly only offers me less.

The trait that tends to hurt me most is also the one that I value most. Even if noticing all the little things is something that contributes to my own heartache, I love those moments. There is something beautiful about those tiny things shared by two people, even if the connection ends there.

Sure, it can be hard. But so can everything.

It's just a matter of finding the beauty.

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5 Movie Sex Scenes That Would Never Go Down Like That In Real Life

There's a lot of time, scripts, makeup, and lights that are involved in these scenes that make them what they are, unlike the sex that happens in real life.

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When I was a child, my idea of sex was confined to what I saw in the media — two people rolling around underneath the sheets of their bed. I didn't understand what was going on at the time until my parents had the birds and the bees talk with me, but still, sex was not something that was discussed regularly in any setting so I couldn't help but use the movies and television as my main source for sex education. When I was a teenager, I started watching rom-coms so my idea of sex expanded to a scenario where two people who loved each other effortlessly fall into a euphoric experience and then they live happily ever after.

Then something about the idea I had changed as I watched the series premiere of "Secret Life of the American Teenager," a popular teen drama from ABC family about a girl who struggles with being a mother in high school. One of the first and most memorable scenes of the show is when Amy Juergens talks to her best friends about what it was like to have sex for the first time. Her friends were ecstatic for her at first until she revealed her dismay, telling them "I didn't exactly realize what was happening until, like, after two seconds, and then it was just over. And it wasn't fun and definitely not like what you see in the movies, you know, all romantic and stuff."

I heard those words and was immediately taken aback. As a 13-year-old, sex wasn't on my mind much, but I couldn't help but hope that I could experience the magic I saw on screen. Then eight years later I have sex for the first time and I realized that what she said was right...not about the part about it not being fun, but more-so about the part that sex is not actually like what is depicted in the movies.

Here are five examples in movies that created unrealistic sex scenes for its viewers:

1. "Skyfall"



This steamy scene between Bond and Severine make shower sex look passionate and trouble-free, but do its expectations match reality? No. What they don't show you is the sting from the water getting into your eyes, the awkward positions your bodies have to accommodate with if there's a significant height difference between you and your partner and the fact that water is a terrible substitute for lube because it strips away the natural lubrication your genitals produce.

2. "No Strings Attached"



Sometimes there are those moments when you want to have sex, but you don't have that much time on your hands so you have to fit in a quick session before work in the morning, in between classes, or right before the kids come back home. Though Natalie Portman's "O" face is spot on, the main thing that makes her quickie with Ashton Kutcher's unrealistic is that she still manages to climax after 45 seconds without any kind of foreplay, lube, or toys involved. The female orgasm is still possible during a quickie, but in real life, there will still have to be creative measures involved so that enough stimulation outside of penetration is involved to get her warmed up.

3. "Fifty Shades of Grey"



As much as I enjoyed the playfulness behind Ana and Christian dipping ice cream on each other's bodies and licking it off each other, I couldn't help but roll my eyes at how over exaggerated it became. Yes, I understand that when something feels good, a moan or some type of vocalization will happen, but getting some kisses and licks on your thighs isn't going to have you arching your back like a demon going through an exorcism.

4. "Mr. & Mrs. Smith"



Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie's chemistry and passion in this scene is undeniable and it almost makes you want to start a fight with your partner just so you two can have some hot, angry sex just like them. Here's the problem though. They go from nearly killing each other to being boo'ed up like nothing happened. While angry sex can be a way for some couples to express emotions through adrenaline, it isn't the answer to our problems and shouldn't be a substitute for healthy communication.

5. "Titantic"



The moment in the movie when Kate Winslet's hand slams against the door of the car and drifts down as we stare at her steamy handprint and secretly wish we were sleeping with Leonardo DiCaprio will always be a classic. However, this scene is still a scam for those who hope car sex is as passionate and heartfelt as that. Truth be told, there's limited space to feel comfortable so leg cramps are inevitable and sliding against leather feels awful on your skin. To top things off, if you aren't careful enough, you may get caught by the police and ultimately have to register as a sex offender depending on your state's laws.

I truly hope for the day that sex in the media is represented in more of a realistic way, but until then, we just have to remember to take movies for what they are. Acting. There's a lot of time, scripts, makeup, and lights that are involved in these scenes that make them what they are, unlike the sex that happens in real life. As a matter of fact, sometimes sex isn't romantic. Sometimes it's not a fairy tale. There are times when it can be mind-blowing and other times when it's awkward, funny, or simply not what we expect. Do I appreciate fictional sex? Of course. But mainstream entertainment should also take the time to show us more than the sex we supposedly fantasize about and also show us sex that we can look at and see ourselves.

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