I Asked 27 College Men When They Think The 'Right Age' Is To Get Married
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When is the right age to get married? It can be a loaded question, especially for college guys.

Getting married is something many of us have planned for our future and we all have some sort of idea when we want to start settling down and getting on with a family. And some of us haven't even started thinking about it.

I went around at asked 27 college-age guys when they think a perfect age is to get married:

1. "23 to 24"

"I'm just excited to start a family and I want to be younger when my kids are like 16-17."

2. "Who cares"

"Who cares as long as you find someone worth it."

3. "26 or 27"

"I feel that right out of college you shouldn't be in any hurry to get married. You should take that time to travel and enjoy life. If you're in a healthy long lasting relationship, then great, bring that person with you. Even after you're married you could still travel and experience those things you never could have while stuck in college paying for multiple things. Around that age is also when I feel people really start to figure out their budget and will be able to make more responsible decisions with their money. Don't forget weddings are expensive. But you shouldn't be rushing marriage."

4. "24 or 25"

"Depends on the relationship honestly. Right now I would say after dating for two and a half years, I would get engaged now if dreams line up, and marriage around 24 or 25."

5. "28"

"You're more mature, been with the person longer since probably living together after college. Have a job, grown professionally and more stable to support a loved one or a family."

6. "28"

"I've been engaged before, I got engaged at 18, and thought I had everything ahead. Everything lined up, until she walked away because she wasn't ready to settle down. 28, life is still ahead, but plenty of living has been done. People can get married at when it feels right for them."

7. "28"

"Age is 28. More than likely we're both are out of college and are settled down a bit."

8. "25"

"I don't know why."

9. "25"

"Assuming you graduate in 4 years, that leaves most people around the age of 22 when they graduate. Once you graduate you should find a job and become financially stable. Then you can do things like traveling or anything else you want to do before your life really starts buckling down. Also you should make sure you can live with your S.O. And take the time to make the decision because you are committing your life to them. 25 to me seems like an appropriate age to wait till. Also shouldn't propose unless you've dated for a couple years in my opinion."

10. "24"

"Because it's far enough out of college where you've worked to be financially stable and you would've gotten enough world experience to know what you want in a partner."

11. "27"

"I would say that's the 'by the book' perfect age. Realistically, that gives you plenty of time to graduate college, build seniority at work, travel, and or get to know your partner to the best level. However, I know many very successful couples that were much younger and older, essentially completely invalidating the 'perfect age' idea."

12. "25"

"Young, yet mature. Usually have a steady job. Good time to start a family."

13. "28"

"28 is the perfect age because you and you're significant other can have established lives independently before you decide to go down a path together. Needless to say you may be 'together' before marriage but you aren't necessarily legally bonded at that point in time."

14. "Whenever you feel comfortable"

"Whenever you are comfortable. Marriage is something that shouldn't be forced at a 'certain age.' The worst thing to do is expect to get married at a certain age and get there and just not feel like you should. Getting married too early is a terrible thing to happen. If you feel like you are comfortable with your significant other, than go for it. But if you aren't comfortable or don't have a significant other, than don't get married; no matter the age."

15. "25"

"Hopefully career is set, been through some of your fun 20's to have experience, but have some of your 20's to spend some of that time with the one you're meant to be with."

16. "25 to 28"

"Mainly like a year after graduating grad school or getting done with college to figure things out first. Or else younger than that is just way too early because there's so much to do in the world, you never know where you're going to end up in the future and like where you get a job. Because you could end up being two completely different places from one another. But mainly because there's so much stuff to do in life and live it up as much as possible."

17. "25 to 26"

"You're settled in your career, hopefully have a place and hopefully have a dog by then."

18. "27"

"It is around the age most can get a good full time job after they graduate and can start to support their families."

19. Male, 20

"Whenever you feel right, age doesn't define how much you love someone."

20. "No perfect age"

"There's no perfect age to get married because that implies that everybody finds love at the same point in their lives which just isn't true."

21. "29 to 30"

"Financially stable, and past your wild party stage for hanging out with people!"

22. "25"

"Because my girlfriend and I will be out of college and ready to travel together as a married couple."

23. "25"

"Just beginning a whole new chapter in life with jobs and moving out by then, just seems like the right time to start a family."

24. "26"

"You're young enough to adventure and go on trips with your s/o and old enough to be mature enough to know what you're getting into and settle."

25. "28"

"It's right before you hit 30, by that time too you should be done or almost done with school and have some type of stable job. And if you have kids you won't be so old either by the time they grow old!"

26. "30"

"You can get your hoe stage out of the way."

27. "No perfect age"

"There is no universal perfect age. And I'd even argue that there is no individual age that is perfect for marriage. In my opinion, circumstances dictate a lot about your life's timeline so it varies for different people. Also some people are ready to have sex at 18 and others aren't ready at 30. Maturity and readiness is subjective."

As you can see, many of these guys relate and some don't at all. It appears to me that the most average answer is mid to late 20s when they want to start picking out that engagement ring.

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7 Essential Details To Remember When Planning YOUR Wedding

Because after all, it is YOUR damn day.

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Recently I've been really struggling to figure out what to do for my wedding. This isn't because I don't know what I want, but because deciding anything ultimately effects someone. I decide I want to do it this year but this year doesn't work for Denise, so I could do it the year after, but Susie Q is going back to school and that conflicts with her schedule.

I could do a small, simple wedding, but my Grandma always wanted me to get married in a Church. Oh, what about a destination wedding? Well, that would work for a lot of people, but not Tiffany-she can't afford it…Becky has other obligations the only week my favorite resort is open in my dream year of getting married. Maybe a courthouse wedding? Yeah, I could do that…but my dad always dreamed of walking me down the aisle.

You see ladies-I'm freaking exhausted.

I'm exhausted trying to plan the wedding that EVERYONE ELSE BUT MYSELF wants me to have. I'm tired of having to justify why I want something to someone else. I'm tired of having to reason with people. I'm tired of feeling bad for not accommodating others.

I'm just mentally and physically exhausted planning my own wedding-something I really wanted to enjoy.

In times of frustration, I've scribbled down a few reminders to mutter to myself when things get a little chaotic. It's important in some way or another-we embed these thoughts into our minds because honestly? We deserve to be reminded, even if it's us doing the reminding.

1. THIS IS YOUR DAMN DAY!

It's weird we even have to tell ourselves this right? I mean we are the ones shelling out thousands, spending late nights planning centerpieces, and trying to find the perfect photographer. Sadly, yes, we have to remind ourselves because of a lot of people that know you close to you or not-will try to make it about them. ---It's your day. It's your day. It's your day.

2. Not everyone is going to be pleased with your decisions.

I'm a people pleaser. I thoroughly enjoy searching for ways to make everyone happy because I get insane anxiety from thinking anyone is mad at me. ESPECIALLY when it's someone I deeply care for. However, there is no way I'm able to get approval from everyone I really love. No matter what I decide, someone won't be able to make it, another won't like the dress, and someone else may be furious you're serving meat when they're vegetarian. YOU CAN NOT WIN, so stop trying to win for other people. Just win for yourself.

3. Whoever makes it about them is selfish.

It sounds harsh, I know, but ask yourself this one question: "Would you ever make THEIR day about you?" The answer is probably no. Me personally, no matter who it was my brother, best friend, or cousin-I would not make their day about me. Even if I hated the dress she chose, even if she picked a date that I couldn't make, even if my brother ran off to elope…It's their damn day-not mine. I would never make it about me because *drum roll *: it's not about me. If you're constantly double checking and worrying about people being upset by something YOU decided for YOUR wedding on YOUR day, then those people are shitty because they have made it about them, and that's extremely selfish.

4. The people who love you will be supportive with whatever you decide.

My fiance and I have decided on a destination wedding. There are a lot of reasons why, and ultimately it just ended up working the best for us. With deciding this-we knew a lot of people:

A.) Wouldn't be able to make it

B.) Wouldn't be able to afford it

C.) Wouldn't want to travel outside of the country

D.) Have other obligations that prevent them from attending

Never ONCE did we get angry or upset with anyone who straight up said-"Hey I know I won't be able to swing this." We get it, and it was just a risk we were willing to take. However, some people were still mad about our decision-even though it wasn't their decision to make. However, there are so many people that have been nothing but supportive, and that love and support have been something I'll never forget. For as many people that make it difficult for you, you'll have another handful who will make it a day to remember. There's always some silver lining in the mix at some point.

5. You DO NOT owe anyone an explanation or justification.

-Why have I felt the need to justify to friends, family, and my own bridal party WHY I'm deciding on something for my wedding? The last time I checked it was my wedding, right? Listen because this is super important: You don't need to justify anything you want for your wedding to anyone that isn't your fiance. You want it at a certain location-not anyone else's decision. Do you want to have it in the middle of the winter? Not anyone else's decision. Do you want to have the bridal party wearing cowboy boots with their dresses? NOT THEIR FREAKING DECISION. Stop feeling bad and explaining yourself for something YOU WANT TO HAPPEN on YOUR DAY! If you remember anything from this article-remember that.

6.  Life happens

Life is always unpredictable. There will be things that arise during your planning that you didn't anticipate. Though it's easier said than done, try not to let it alter your day or attitude. Some people you love won't be able to make it, your dream venue may be booked up the year you desperately want to get married in, a bridesmaid may drop out, and a caterer might screw up a dish. This shit happens, but your guests won't care one way or the other. As long as you don't let this ruin your wedding experience overall-everything will be okay…That's something I can promise.

7. All that matters at the end of the day is that you're married to the person you want to spend your life with

In all of the chaos that has already arisen (still pretty far away from my wedding) I have been telling myself from the beginning that at the end of the day I only really care about being the wife to the guy I love. Every time someone says something to hurt me tries to talk me out of something I feel passionate about doing or informs me of something intentionally meant to stress me out-I breathe, tell myself I'll marry a guy that I love, and move on with my business. I'm not saying it never gets to me, but the thought of spending my life with my fiance excites me more than these people's negative thoughts stress me out. At the end of all of this, you won't look back at your wedding and think of all the things you didn't like because you'll be too busy gleaming over the fact it happened. You're lucky enough to find someone you WANT to spend your life with, and seriously not everyone is lucky enough to say that. Though it's challenging, try to remember people are selfish, and not everyone has your best interest at heart. However, there are ALWAYS people that'll go above and beyond to make you focus on yourself, and I'm lucky to have some of those people apart of my special day. So when it gets stressful and yes it will get stressful…remember that you've got this. It's your day, and you can do whatever the hell you want with it.

Sincerely,

The Bride-To-Be

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To My Future Fiance, If You’re Proposing To Me For The Instagram Content, Have Fun Posting A Video Of Me Saying ‘No’

Whoever you are, take notes for future reference.

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OK, OK, he can propose to me in public, but if it's a grand event that has nothing to do with my character, then 100% I'm saying, "No, try again."

I hope that one day someone special has my heart and wants to spend the rest of their life with me. But I want them to really know who I am. Inside and out and all around. I'm not a showy person, I'm not into social media, and I don't want a 20-carat ring. There's nothing wrong with any of those things, but it's never been for me. It's just not me.

I'm never going to do anything because someone else or the general society thinks or says I should do it. I like to defy society and do what's best for me. Even if I do something that is acceptable by society's standards, I'm not doing it for them, I'm doing it for me. I always say, "If someone wants to get to know me then they shouldn't judge what they see, read, or hear, they should just say, 'Hi,' and we can go from there." I don't post something for others to see, I post it for myself. Because it makes me feel good. Because I impulsively want to.

So, I want my fiancé's initial feeling of complete and absolute love to be blurted out to me ASAP. You don't have to keep your passions hidden while you plan a huge fiasco with balloons and confetti and "Will you marry me?" clouds in the sky. I don't need that for you to tell me you love me.

My dream proposal would be us cooking and taste tasting dinner, dancing, and singing to our favorite song when you just pause to look at me and ask, "You wanna get married?"

Of course, I'd question if you're being serious or not, but if we've already discussed the future and our hearts are in the right place, I'd melt in your arms.

You're not proposing to me to show off our love to your Facebook friends. You're proposing to me because you want nothing else but me. If you want to plan something special afterward, go ahead. Thoughtful surprises make me feel so special, but make sure that it's planned for me.

My long-distance boyfriend recently surprised me with a visit by calling my parents to figure out just how to leave me open-mouthed. I realized how much I appreciated the planning and arrangement. No one has ever done that for me before and I won't lie, I loved it. I wouldn't mind a fun proposal. I would be eternally grateful for the thought behind it, but I want the initial question to be intimate, personal, and tailored for me.

At the end of the day, sure, the proposal can be out and about in public, but I want the focus to be us. Not just me or you, but our relationship and our future. I don't care if other people don't think you love me enough because the proposal wasn't a showstopper. I know how you feel about me and that's all that matters.

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