14 Women Admit The Moment They Realized Their Relationship Was Doomed

14 Women Admit The Moment They Realized Their Relationship Was Doomed

"I couldn't even picture myself making it with another year with him."


Relationships become big parts of our lives when we hit adulthood. This is considered the time when relationships become serious by moving in together, getting a pet together or getting engaged and loving every moment of it. But for some people, that's not always the case.

I asked and these girls admitted to me when that one short moment hit where they realized their relationship needed to be over.

1. Lab partners

"My boyfriend at the time was in a biology class and they had partners they worked with out of class. My boyfriend was partners with this girl every single week and I didn't really think much of it until I walked in on them in his apartment with her hand down his pants."

2. Grind fest

"I was out with my friends and I thought I saw my boyfriend at the same bar. I started to walk towards where I thought I saw him. Turns out I was right, he was there but he was grinding with some other girl."

3. Unfair

"I was dating a guy for almost two years. Our relationship was good, but I knew I could start feeling my feelings diminishing. I told him I wanted a break for a little while so I could figure out what I wanted. I ended up talking to a new guy at this time and then realized I needed to break things off because what I was doing was not fair to my boyfriend."

4. Jealousy no more

"I'm the jealous type. I used to get super jealous whenever my boyfriend would bring up past flings or relationships where I'd be mad for days. One day I just stopped being jealous and eventually I realized I didn't like him anymore."

5. Messy life

"We moved in together and he was the messiest person ever. He'd leave dishes everywhere, his clothes all over the floor and would leave food out. I knew I couldn't keep going forward with our relationship if I couldn't live with him forever."

6. Love isn't in the air

"When I couldn't say 'I love you' without cringing because I knew I didn't mean it anymore."

7. Swipe left

"My friends told me they saw my boyfriend on Tinder. I didn't think much of it because I know sometimes people can still be on there if they didn't deactivate their account and just deleted the app. Until one of my friends matched with him and ended up messaging her if she wanted to come over and 'release some stress.'"

8. Bail

"Whenever my boyfriend and I made plans, I always wanted him to cancel because I couldn't stand being with him for more than an hour."

9. Secrets don't make girlfriends

"He stopped putting effort into our relationship like not texting me as much or I was the only one ever making plans and he usually cancelled. I found out he had a different girlfriend for two months."

10. Future plans?

"At first, I always thought about my future with my boyfriend like getting married and having kids. As time went on, that feeling went away and I couldn't even picture myself making it with another year with him."

11. Phone scam

"He was very sketchy with his phone. I was noticing small details like how he'd always have it face down or whenever he's receive a notification, he'd quickly turn his screen off. I found out a week later that he was cheating on me with one of his best girl friends."

12. Words hurt

"I deal with a lot of mental illnesses, especially anxiety. My boyfriend at the time and I started arguing and it got so heated that he blurted out, 'no wonder no one would ever love you, you're too messed up in the head.' That still sticks with me."

13. Straight to voicemail

"Whenever my phone vibrated, I didn't was it to be him."

14. Family matters

"I felt weird kissing him. Whenever he wanted to kiss me goodbye or anything like that, it almost felt like I was kissing a family member. I knew I had to cut it off at this point."

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To My Best Friend Dealing With A Broken Heart, We'll Get Through This Together

I can't actually fill that void.


To my best friend dealing with a broken heart,

It won't last forever.

Your heart, scratch that—you—will heal. You're already strong, but you'll become tougher. You're already smart, but you'll become wiser. You're already sexy, but you'll become even more irresistible.

And I'll be here the entire time. I can't wait to see who you become.

It won't be easy. I'm not going to sugar coat it and say that you'll be smiling and confidently strutting the streets by tomorrow. You have everything you need, but if your heart needs some time, take it. There's no rulebook. Honestly, I don't know how I got out of my rut, but I did and now I'm here. I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, I cried on end, but my support group–you–helped me through it one day at a time. Don't stress about what other people think—even me, forget my thoughts! Focus on you. What does your body need? What does your soul need?

I'm sorry. I wish I could take away this pain.

There's nothing that can compare to this feeling and I know I can't actually fill that void—no one can, other than you.

You never think it'll happen to you.

You had the future planned out. You shared your deepest darkest secrets. You both shared, I love you's and genuinely meant it. Of course, there were happy times. It was all real. I won't bash your ex unless you need me to (personally, I cringe anytime someone speaks badly of my ex... at the end of the day, I loved that man) but, just know, you did everything you could.

It wasn't meant to be and, one day, you will find your happily ever after. That love will be greater than anything you can ever imagine.

I'm not going to sit here and let you mope. The memories will never fade, but at this moment, forget about the past and the future, only the now. If you are angry, punch a wall, but steer away from feeling regret. Nothing in life is worth regretting over. It is all lessons-learned and adventures to remember later on.

This will pass and you will laugh about it. When I heard that for the first time, I wanted to scream, I could never laugh at the situation, but here I am now. You lost someone and that's never easy, but you've also gained so much experience.

You are gorgeous and breathtaking, you better start believing it because anyone would be so lucky to have you in their life.

Today, you start loving yourself.

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I Asked 4 Guys To Describe The Lover They'll Never Forget, And I'm Still Sobbing

"I know we're not meant to be together, but I just don't think we're meant to be kept apart either."


Ever since I fell in love with Joseph Gordon Levitt's character from "500 Days of Summer," combined with my ever growing obsession in the intensity and infidelity of Johnny Cash's love life, I have decided that guys are the ones who tell the hea stories better. They don't pull any punches. Their statements are raw, genuine and honest. They're typically awful with their words, but I swear, ask them about their own recollection on someone from their past who made an impact on them, and you'll be moved to tears. I was. Especially that one of the responses were from an ex of mine, who I now see has a completely different outlook on the situation that we both went through. Together.

Isn't that crazy?

If this article does anything for you, I hope it is to give yourself permission to be happy about people in your past. Things aren't always remembered the same way as time passes. However you and another person felt in the exact moment things went bad, may not necessarily be true anymore. Actually, I can almost promise you that it isn't.

Let the guys talk. They really have something to say.

Here are four guys on their biggest heartbreak:

A stormy affair

"Well, she and I met through my current girlfriend. It was a short-lived affair I guess you could say. Had great sex and deep conversations. She still touches a part of my being that I can't seem to even name. For that, I could definitely admit a slight addiction to her. I'll probably marry my current girlfriend, and I'll do that happily. But I can tell you every time there's bad weather, I think about her because of how much she loved storms. Both in the weather and our relationship. I miss getting caught in them. I think I always will. Make sense?" - anonymous

The screenshots to prove it

"I have so many screenshots of a song on Spotify that I take right when I hear something that reminds me of her. Usually, a random text like that between us was actually not all that random at all. But, it's been three years since we've seen or spoken to each other. I shouldn't still think of her. I know that. But I am so careful that I don't accidentally delete the screenshots. Why?" - anonymous

What's meant to be will be

"The one thing I learned from that relationship was that time is no factor in emotions. I swear we spent four solid months together but I still tear up when I see a video of us and I check the license plates that pass me when I see her car. I know we're not meant to be together, but I just don't think we're meant to be kept apart either. She still touches parts of me that I don't even have a name for. What does that mean, Chey?!" - anonymous

F*cked up, but ours

"She was an absolute maniac but I lived for it. She kept me on my toes. I always felt high on the way she could make me feel so damn secure and loved... and then the next day her 'good morning' text reading the simplest of sentences that could somehow destroy your insides and you feel like you've lost her. It was awful, some of the time. But I loved the continued uncertainty of the relationship. It was frightening, it was passionate, it was so f*cked up, but it was ours, and I'm truly jealous of whoever is in that position with her right now." - anonymous

It is so important to give the people their credit for the way they affected you. There are not two people in this world who meet by accident. Find your reason for meeting. Acknowledge it. Explore it. Remember it.

And let's give these guys credit!

"Please, remember this: There was a love and it was ours. It was ours." - Sue Zhao

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