Where Do Broken Hearts Go?

Where Do Broken Hearts Go?

Heartbreak is one of the most powerful emotions within the human catalogue
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I always thought I had the perfect idea of what heartbreak was. To me, it was staring out the window at a rain-drenched garden, the only sounds being the rain as it fell upon the window and the crackle and pop of a record as it made its revolutions upon the turntable. I thought it was eating a gallon of ice cream, tears streaming down your face while watching the final scene from some romantic comedy where the lovers declare their love for one another. I thought it was when we find the ones who'll truly love us. But, it is none of these things. It is something more intense than that

Heartbreak is when you lay awake at night, staring at the darkened ceiling, wondering what you could have done to make them stay. Heartbreak is replaying the happy moments of the past in your head, remembering the way their lips felt upon yours. Heartbreak is seeing their image everywhere you go, in everything you do. Heartbreak is when you're listening to a song and suddenly you're transported back to the exact moment you fell for them. Heartbreak is feeling like you've had a great big hole blown through your chest and you realize how empty and alone you are without them.

It is not, unfortunately, a constant feeling: it comes in waves. Some days, the waves are large and engulfing, thrashing you about as you try to keep your head above water. Other days, they are small and gentle, pushing you back to shore with the force of a child.

When you're heartbroken, people will try and comfort you with such cliché phrases as "it'll get easier" and "you were too good for them anyways!". While I understand these are meant to provide comfort, it sounds like a cheap sentiment meant to change the subject.

I think what's the most heartbreaking thing is when you look back at your messages and watch as the timestamp changes from a couple of days ago, to a month ago. You wonder if the person is thinking of you, if they're suffering just as much as you are, if they regret ever leaving you behind. All you can do is hope that they are.

No matter how long a relationship lasts, whether it be one month or one year, heartbreak will still be there.

Don't allow anyone tell you how you're supposed to feel about it.

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11 reasons It's important to Be a 'Good Ex'

Because being petty and vengeful isn't cute

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Bad exes are truly an epidemic and, for all of our peace at mind, they need to be stopped. There's the exes who blow up our social media and our phones, leave desperate voicemails, stalk us in public, ask our friends how we're doing all the time…and plenty others who go to extensive ends just to get our attention (mostly in a bad way).

But what about you? Are you being courteous, sophisticated, and respectful of each other's boundaries and privacy?

If not, you really should be...and here's why:


It can definitely be tempting to be petty and subtweet your ex-boyfriend just so the world can know how awful he is. It's even more satisfying to rant about him to one of his close pals, or to throw armfuls of eggs at your ex-girlfriend's white Jeep until you've stopped crying. But at the end of the day, know that whatever karma you put out into the universe will come back to you in time. Make sure that you're being a good ex— and ultimately, a good person— if you want to draw your forever love even closer to you.

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Loving The Wrong Person Can Make You Lose Yourself, Trust me, I would Know

You're just stuck loving the wrong guy in an okay situation.

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In a perfect world, we wouldn't ever have to fall in love with the wrong person. Falling in love with the wrong person means you have to feel all of the right things just to eventually feel all the wrong things too. There's no preparing you for this, and there's no going back once you're already there. You're just stuck loving the wrong guy in an okay situation.

It becomes comfortable, and not too long after, you become stuck.

Loving the wrong guy didn't get me much but it definitely taught me a thing or two.

I'm weak when I'm with the wrong guy. I stop voicing my opinion because I know it's never actually heard. I let things go unsaid because even saying something got me nowhere with him. I allowed for his mistakes to be swept under the rug while we continually played out the ones I made day by day. I was a coward when it came to what I deserved, and that's actually something I will always take credit for. He didn't force me to be weak. He didn't threaten me if I voiced my opinion. He never stopped me from bringing up his mistakes. I did all of that. It was because I knew the aftermath of all of those things came with arguments I didn't have the energy to have, or tears that I didn't have the willpower to cry.

The wrong guy means different things to different people. Some may use you for what you have, while another could cheat, lie, and steal with no problem. Mine just made me feel small and insignificant. He took away my character and molded me into a person I didn't recognize. I became what I promised myself I never would, which was a puppet for him to control. I started to be someone who made decisions based on what I thought a repercussion might be. Not long after that, I noticed every decision I made lose it's meaning because it wasn't actually me making them. I was so caught up in thinking I loved the right person that I realized it was more of that person just loving himself and making me think I did too.

Loving the wrong guy is like falling in a 12-foot hole, and never trying to understand a way out. In that hole, you have everything you actually need to survive, so instead of trying to dream about the ways you can get out and how your life will be different, you accept what it is. You just adapt to what's around you and love the things you have. It's when you finally figure a way out of that soul-depriving ditch when you realize your life was so limited and time was just wasted.

Do you ever stop to look around and ask yourself if this is the life you want for your future kids? Is your happiness enough that you'd feel content with your kids having it for the rest of their life? We love the wrong person, and then we try to tell ourselves he isn't wrong for us. We stay with the wrong person. We get comfortable. We settle into a lifestyle we are not head over heels in love with. We watch the person we once were, turn into a person that is making it work. All because we loved, settled, and stayed with the wrong guy.

I loved the wrong guy.

It taught me obvious things, like strength and clarity.

However, it also taught me deeper things, like what I actually wanted out of my life. It took me way too long to say it to myself, but when I did, I realized there was nothing or no one I would ever settle for again. I'd never let my opinion go unheard, and I would never fear a single repercussion. I'd start to accept who I was and make anyone who couldn't fuck right off. I learned that courage is most respected and deserved when it hurts, but that it makes you truly feel alive. I learned to try actually falling in love with the right guy, but if I don't, take what I learned from the last wrong one, and kick the next one's ass to the curb.

Maybe I lost part of myself when it came to him, but I got it back and made that part even stronger than it used to be.

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