Why Does Everyone Want To Get Married?
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Why Does Everyone Want To Get Married?

Is my love not credible until I say "I do"?

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Why Does Everyone Want To Get Married?
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I’ve never been one of those girls whose had their wedding planned since high school and knows where exactly they want to get married. Marriage has never been my “thing.” I don’t spend my nights wondering if someone will ever propose to me, or thinking about how they’ll do it. I don’t dream of walking down any aisles or saying I do. It’s for this reason that I’m constantly stumped when I see and hear people talking about what they expect from a partner and they’ve got these lists of expectations for their partner to satisfy. It’s all a bit odd for me really.

I’ve never understood the need to solidify a relationship with a ring and a piece of paper that legally or spiritually joins two people together. Why do I have to get married to prove I love someone? Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been to several weddings and they’ve all been beautiful, the newlyweds are always so happy and I wish them the best. If getting married is important to you and it’s going to make you happy- please do it! I’m not here to ruin your dreams of your happy day, this is purely my personal opinion.

Getting married has never been on my to-do list, it’s never been a goal. Anytime people ask me when I plan on getting married a shiver goes through me; should I already have this planned? Was this a step in "The Guide To Being An Adult" that I skipped over? Just because I have a boyfriend and we’re serious doesn’t mean we’re getting married, and just because I don’t plan on getting married, doesn’t mean I’m not serious about the relationship. I don’t feel the need to validate my relationship through marriage, is that so wrong?

Maybe I’ll get proposed to one day, maybe I’ll get married, but until that day comes I’m really not concerned with how it will all go down. So in answer to your question, I don’t know when I’ll get married. You should really stop pressuring people into believing that they don’t truly feel serious about a person until they “put a ring on it.” If you love someone, you love them and that should be enough.

When do you plan on getting married?

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