6 Reasons Why I'm Bad At Dating (But Why It's OK)

6 Reasons Why I'm Bad At Dating (But Why It's OK)

A date is an experience you have with another person that makes you appreciate being alone.
Aly Cook
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I’m self-admittedly bad at dating. Especially while in college, relationships have been on the back burner of my life. Recently, I’ve tried to change that and let some new people into my life. I’ve tried all the apps, talking people up at parties, and trying to bridge the gap between being classmates and being something more. Dating in college is not all it’s cracked up to be. I might be bad at dating, but I’m perfectly okay with it. Here are some reasons why I think this way.

1. College is too short to miss opportunities for a relationship.

This could be as big as skipping out on an opportunity to study abroad, or as small as canceling plans with someone to do some extra studying. I found that I would rather spend the little free time I have working on myself rather than meeting up with someone I had just met. At this point, I'm not willing to put someone else's needs before my own, and it's just not fair to the other person to be halfway in a relationship.

2. Some people just aren’t looking to commit.

It always seems that in every new relationship, one of the people just isn’t as ready. I’ve been on both ends. Whether we’re too busy, think we’re too young, or just are genuinely uninterested in dating one person, this seems to be the early downfall of most relationships. It sucks when you genuinely like someone who doesn't want to put the time in, but I understand. Sometimes the timing just isn't right.

3. Dating apps suck

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Whether you use Tinder, Bumble, OKCupid, or something else, I’m sure you have something to say about how they work. Although they’re a really convenient way to find someone who has mutual interests as you, or at the very least thinks you’re hot, it’s hard to move dating offline. Apps are good for finding hookups, but if you want something more, Tinder isn’t necessarily the way to go.

4. I have little tolerance for playing games.

I haven't been in or seen a relationship that doesn't have some kind of drama. There are so many expectations for what people should or shouldn’t do when it comes to technology that creates a lot of problems that shouldn’t be problems.

Should I really be upset my S.O. liked another girl’s photo on Instagram? Should my S.O. expect me to tell him what I’m doing every five minutes? For me, the answer is no. When these tiny problems start to pile up, I’m quick to cut the cord. I’d rather be alone than have an S.O. control me in the name of being in a relationship. I'm not willing to give my freedom up to someone else's love.

5. I’m genuinely okay with being alone.


I enjoy going out and meeting new people, but honestly, I need time to myself. We’re all so busy with classes, working, extracurriculars, and hobbies that the rest of the time I have left over is usually spent on myself or with friends. I have such a great group of friends that I don’t feel alone when I’m not dating someone. Besides, I believe college should be the time you find yourself, not someone else.

6. Life doesn’t end after college.

I don’t know where I’ll be after I graduate, so it doesn’t make sense to start planning for a future that’s unknown. What do you do in a few months or years when life starts to pull you in a different way than your relationship? That’s a decision I’d rather not make. Besides, with every new opportunity is more new people to get to know. I’m way too young to think now is the only time I have to find the person I want to spend my life with.

As I began to let more people into my life I ended up learning more about myself. I realized that I’m too smart and strong-willed to spend time with those who aren’t as driven as I am. And those who are were usually too busy to be in a relationship.

If dating isn’t working out for you, don’t worry about it. We have so much to do as college students, we shouldn’t feel bad if we’re not dating someone. Life doesn’t end after college, so spend the little time here doing what makes you happy, not what you think should make you happy.

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Aly Cook
Aly Cook

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Literally, so hot RN

10 Signs The Guy You're Texting During Sylly Week Will Be Your Boyfriend By Finals Week

Trust me hunny, if he is actually interested, you can tell.

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We've all had that guy in our message thread that we have a crush on but can't tell if he does too. It's a little nerve wrecking because us girls don't want to say to much and make him flee. It's a give and take kind of game that can be fun or stressful. When texting a guy, it's always a gamble.

Here are 10 signs that will tell you if he actually likes you:

1. He texts YOU first 

This is super, super telling. If he really likes you, he will want to initiate conversation. Plus, this means he is thinking about you.

2. He sends long, thought out messages 

Typically, guys aren't the biggest texters. They usually send short and to the point messages, but if he is sending you long and carefully constructed texts, you are heading in the right direction.

3. He texts you when he wakes up 

Everybody knows this is of extreme importance. There are so many things a guy thinks about when he first wakes up so if you receive that message it means you were one of the first things that came to his mind.

4. When you don't text back right away he asks what you were doing 

The longer you take, he either wont think anything of it or he will think nonstop why you're not responding. So, If he asks what you were doing you know he's interested.

5. He makes it a point to text throughout the day 

Guys typically hate texting and don't do it often. So if he texts you all day long you are important in his daily life.

6. Compliments, compliments, compliments 

Compliments tell it all! If he constantly is genuinely complimenting you he is 100% interested.

7. He is always asking you questions about yourself 

If he does this he wants to get to know you better, which is a very good sign.

8. He tries to make you laugh

Making a significant other laugh is normally incredibly important. So if he is always trying to make you laugh and it's successful, you are on the right track.

9. He lets you know what y'all would be doing if he was with you 

This means he is thinking and fantasizing about you and imagining what it would be like to be with you—the best sign you could receive.

10. He texts you when he is drunk 

Listen up girls, if he is texting you and he is blackout drunk then this is tell tale sign. Guys can rarely even remember their name when they are drunk let alone text. So, if this happens you are definitely on his mind.

There are always signs to let you know if a guy really likes you. Here are just a couple to give a little insider, but if he does these then girl you've got nothing to worry about. Go get him, girl.

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10 Reactions You Have When Your Ex-Boyfriend Has A BABY, As Told By Michael Gary Scott

"Oh, my God! OK, it's happening!"

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I don't know if I'm still too young or already old enough for my ex-lovers to start having children but either way, I'm freaking out.

Whether it's my ex or my friends, I am in utter shock because it's a reminder that I am not getting any younger. I'm stepping into a realm that I've never traverse before, and in all honesty, I don't think I'm ready.

There's nothing wrong about them having a child, settling down, and doing their thing but how the hell did time fly so fast? It's just that I can barely make my bed every day, let alone change a miniature human's diaper.

These were my reactions while stalking my ex on Instagram, as told by Michael Scott:

1. When you first hear the news 

2. "Wait how old were we?" 

3. "How old am I?" 

4. "No I'm not THAT old... am I?" 

5. "Can someone please tell me how and when did this happen?" 

6. "OMG, it's so small and chubbers" 

7. Two words—baby fever 

8. Then you remind yourself that you can't even take care of yourself 

9. Miss emotions about the whole ordeal 

10. You're actually really happy for them 

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