Leading Someone On Is The Worst Thing You Can Do

Leading Someone On Is The Worst Thing You Can Do

Just be real.

There are few things worse than finding out the guy or girl you thought was really into you actually couldn't care less. It's hard not to feel deflated when weeks or months of texting, talking and hooking up results in a big fat nothing. It's horrible when something that you thought was valuable and important turns out to be a joke to someone else.

We all know how much this feeling sucks, so why is it that we still go around leading people on?

In case you need a quick definition, if you are "leading someone on," then you are letting them believe that you have sincere, romantic feelings toward him or her and that you are interested in pursuing a relationship that is more than simply physical when, in reality, you are only interested in the other person physically or possibly not at all.

Falling for people isn't exactly hard. After all, the heart wants what it wants. The process is made even easier when someone seems to be reciprocating feelings or interest. So imagine the massive letdown when it is discovered that the feelings are one-sided.

Being led on makes coming to terms with the end of a romantic relationship — or lack thereof — extremely difficult, because what seemed to be something exciting and promising turns out to be a bust for no apparent rhyme or reason. The person who has been "dumped" is usually left with hundreds of unanswered questions to try and muddle through.

The person left behind often wants to know what happened that changed the mind of the other individual. Was it something I did or said? Is there someone else? What went wrong? What did I do wrong? How can I make it better? In reality, this person did nothing aside from follow his/her heart and trust another's.

It's never OK to make someone believe you care for them and want to be with them when you're only looking for a casual hookup at most. Don't be one of those people who lets weekly phone calls and goodnight texts turn into unanswered voicemails and ignored messages. Don't tell someone you care when you know that they hardly cross your mind. Don't take advantage of someone physically because you know that they have feelings for you. Say what you mean, not what you think they want to hear.

Faking feelings is cruel. Do us all a favor and simply be honest from the get-go about your intentions in a romantic relationship. Even if you perceive it to be harmless and casual, the other person may be taking it far more seriously. Intent and feelings should be addressed at the beginning, not down the line when someone can truly get hurt.

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10 Soulful Luke Combs Lyrics To Get You Through That Bad Breakup

Breakups are tough, but Luke Combs is here to help.


Breakups are very hard to deal with, whether you ended the relationship or your significant other did. The clock on the wall will cure it all and so will Luke Combs, so here's 10 lyrics to do exactly that:

1. "But the clock on the wall will cure it all, even though that ain't how it seems"

2. "You wrecked my world when you came and hit me like a hurricane"

3. "Whoever said it ain't the end of the world and you'll find somebody new, must've never met you"

4. "I picked myself up off the floor and found something new worth living for"

5. "Don't know what you got 'till it's gone, and you're out on your own. All you want is what you can't get back"

6. "And I ain't gotta see my ex future mother-in-law anymore. Oh lord, when it rains it pours"

7. "I'm one number away from calling you. I said I was through, but I'm dying inside"

8. "The second I left, I was kicking myself cause I knew I should've stayed."

9. "I didn't know then, but I sure know now that long neck iced cold beer never broke my heart"

10. "There's a lot of things in this 'ole world I can stand, but when it comes to losing you I just can't"

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4 Reasons I Will NEVER Get Back Together With Any Of My Ex-Boyfriends

It's your loss babe, not mine.


For being so young I have gone through so much unfair and unnecessary pain because I tried to find love too quick. I have not had one relationship end on good terms and I wish I could say it was all their fault, but I cannot help but to believe there must be something I am doing wrong.

In this generation, people say "I love you" too fast and goodbye too soon. We millennials put all our passion in the beginning of things, forgetting there are greater ends to be discovered. My soul has beaten down, broken, and lost to multiple men that I believed had true intentions. Even though I have never had a good relationship, to be extremely honest, if I knew when I was younger who would break my heart I would never try to change it.

Somedays, like the day I am writing this on, I feel empty and lost because of the suffering that I have experienced and I feel as though I will never be good enough and never find complete happiness. On other days I rejoice because the men that have broken my heart have humbled me. I am loathsome and grateful for them and my experiences with them all at the same time.

Although there are saddening times and certain things that I miss about my exes I will never get back together with any of them for four reasons.

1. Immaturity.

I started dating when I was 13. My first real boyfriend, and what I thought at the time to be first my first real love, broke up with me through text on New Year's Eve. My 13-year-old self was devastated and thought my entire world was ending. Clearly, that is an experience I remember and tell because the kids in middle school and junior high really believe that they are with their forever person, but they have a huge awakening because immaturity does not go well with relationships.

2. Cheating.

Getting cheated on broke my entire image of myself and I couldn't find one good quality about myself because I truly believed that if there was one that he would not have done it. I was wrong, and I wish the day that I found out he had cheated on me that I would not have begged for him to stay with me. After choosing another girl over me I should have realized he is and never will be the truly good man I need and he does not deserve the woman I am.

3. We changed.

I'm not completely the same person I was three months again, let alone 2 years again, and honestly, neither is he. Growing apart is not a bad thing, it is something that just happens naturally. Years later, when we speak, I may not laugh at the same jokes anymore and I may not smile at the same things that I did when I was 16. We both have been with other people and have seen and done new things, there is nothing wrong with that. It is just simply moving on. As Sam Waterson said, "If you're not moving forward, you're falling back." I chose to move forward with my life over falling back into my toxic relationships and for that, I have changed into someone I love and someone they will never have again.

4. You let me down.

I have two expectations of men when it comes to dating, to be loyal and to be loving. A relationship is nothing without trust and giving the same energy back that you put in. That is completely what all my past relationships have lacked. My exes have let me down because they could not fill my expectations that should be what is in any normal, healthy relationship. In today's world, everyone has commitment issues and not many people know how to let themselves just fall. That is devastating for the people that do because they, like myself, get hurt and are made to feel it's their fault.

To everyone I've dated or talked to, thank you for breaking my heart and showing me that you are exactly what I do not need in my life.

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