Sorry Virgins, But Never Having Sex Before Has Nothing To Do With Being A Good Person

Sorry Virgins, But Never Having Sex Before Has Nothing To Do With Being A Good Person

You are not a saint, being a virgin doesn't make you any prettier, smarter, or godly. You're just stuck up and annoying.

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Everyone approaches the concept of sex differently.

Some of us get the talk when we're 13 and wondering what's going on inside and outside of us, while others basically teach themselves what their parents neglected to tell them. Regardless, sex was still something we were all "supposed" to avoid until marriage. Save yourself for someone who really loves and respects you! Save yourself because whatever God you believe in taught you to your whole adolescent life!

The point is, we aren't supposed to put out to the guy who tells us we're pretty, but instead to the guy who calls us gorgeous.

Obviously, not all of us commit to the vow to remain pure until we're married, and those who don't shouldn't be judged for it. I don't think we should be judging each other for losing our virginity to some random frat bro from Tinder that you'll never talk to again. You go girl, you were probably really happy at the moment, and that is what matters.

Still a virgin? Good, stay that way if it's what you want, but stop being such a judgemental person towards those who have already lost theirs.

You are no better than me, or Stacy, or Brandy because you're still a virgin. Don't brag about your other sexual conquests, but then talk about what a pure angel you are two seconds after because you haven't had your cherry popped. One, it's gross and unnecessary to talk about the bedside things you do, and two, you're not as innocent as you claim to be, clearly. Babies and puppies are innocent, not you, little 20-something virgin.

We don't all share the same views, and just because you believe one thing doesn't mean everyone else should too.

You are not a saint, being a virgin doesn't make you any prettier, smarter, or godly. You're just stuck up and annoying.

Knock it down a few pegs. I'm happy you're sticking to your guns because it's not the easiest thing to do, especially on a college campus surrounded by the opposite sex. I think it's fine to lose your virginity before marriage, especially when it's with someone who you know cares about you, it doesn't have to be true love. It could turn into love depending on the situation like if you catch feels faster than the common cold, which is something that happens to a good amount of us college students.

Knowing you lost your v-card to a guy who genuinely cares for you at that moment, is a feeling every girl deserves to have. Maybe things went south after, or maybe you two just drifted apart. Either way, that's a memory you can tell your daughter about when you finally give her the talk. Everyone has a different story, but don't make it seem ok that you're judgmental viewpoints are in any way something to be proud of. Your virginity pedestal isn't a thing. Don't judge people having an active sex life because I know for a fact that those very people are too busy getting some to judge you for being a nun.

I'm not judging, but I will if I continue to hear of virgins who act like they are a gift to the morality of humanity. We are all allowed to think as we do, but when you cross the line of letting your opinions fly out one too many times, you'll lose people willing to be around you. My greatest piece of advice is to cool it with your pretentious attitude.

Put those negative vibes to bed, please.

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Hello, I'm 24, And Yes, I'm A Virgin — And Yes, I'll Answer All Of Your Redundant Questions At Once

You read that correctly.

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"What? Are you serious?"

"Wait a minute, there is no way you are telling me the truth."

"How are you still a virgin? Are you religious? Are you waiting for marriage? Why haven't you had sex yet? That's just so crazy..."

Welcome to my world.

First, let me introduce myself again. Hi there, my name is Reanna, I'm a 24-year-old writer and also a virgin, how do you do? The first thing in that sentence is the V word, you know exactly what I'm talking about.

Now that isn't something I start going and telling people, trust me it's the last thing I want to do. I get bombarded with almost every single question up above and I hate answering it every time. The only time I decide to share it is if someone asks me something along the lines of sex or when I can't offer my opinion.

It's a little-known fact that I tend to hide from people but not anymore. Let the world know, is it's any of their business but guess what? I'm not the only one out there. It's nothing to be ashamed of, I'm certainly not. What bothers me most is when people start questioning it and looking at me like I'm crazy.

Fine, I'll answer your simple questions above.

Yes, I said I was a virgin. Yes, again, I'm dead serious. I'm telling you the truth, why lie? I'm still a virgin because I choose to be. No, I'm not religious. I don't want to ever get married so I'm not waiting for marriage. Again, I just haven't found the guy to have sex with and it is still my choice. Think it's crazy, just don't judge me.

Sex is sex, what's the big problem here?

If I choose not to sleep with a guy, I have the right to it. I have the right to be a virgin until I decide it is the best time not to be anymore. I already know I shocked you by the title but why should you be so shocked? Is it because most people lose their virginity in high school? Is it usually to their first boyfriend?

Nothing separates me from you.

You don't need to laugh or really comment on the sentence. If I'm a virgin, I'm a virgin. If you are not, then you're not. If you are, you know exactly what I'm talking about. It's a strange situation to be in when people look at you like you are an alien from a different planet. People get so surprised as if you just said you came from Mars.

Maybe this is my experience but I'm in no rush to have sex.

There comes a day when it may happen but I'm not rushing to find the one so to speak. Until then, I'm glad this is off my chest and I'm glad for you to know that. You know why? Because any guy you tell that to is desperate to change your mind, trust me. If you can't respect it, why should I be the one you sleep with?

So guys here is a complete tip: If a girl tells you she is a virgin, don't act so shocked, don't act so surprised.

Nod your head, respect the choice and move on. It's as simple as that.

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What It's Like Being A 20-Year-Old Virgin In The 21st Century

For now, I wait. And that is perfectly okay.
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Sex. The topic we only spoke of in hushed tones in the past has quickly become a part of our everyday interactions. It seems to be the center of our motivations, thoughts, actions, and feelings. This is the reason I don't feel uncomfortable dedicating this week's article to the subject. Now, mom and dad, if you're reading this, I won't be offended if you stop. I'd actually be quite happy. Everybody else, do me a favor and ask yourself this:

What does it mean to be a virgin in today's society?

There is a social stigma associated with being a virgin. We're all prudes, are mega-religious, and have never even thought about what it would be like to share a night with Ryan Gosling. Right? Wrong. I promise you the majority of virgins you'll meet are virgins by choice - not because their moms have them chained to a metal post with their legs strapped shut. I've been racking my brain about questions and concerns and the million-dollar-question I have for y'all is: If it's no big deal to have sex, then why is it a big deal not to have sex? I mean really, whose business is it anyway?

I feel the criticism from my own doctor at times. She'd ask, "Are you sexually active?" I'd respond with a lightening fast "No", which she'd follow with a quick sigh and an even quicker response, "Have you ever been sexually active?" Unreal.

In a culture so consumed by "Netflix and chill" and the infamous right swipe, it's hard not to constantly wonder when (and with who) my time will come. It's almost like we're racing against the clock of chastity. I wonder if Marie Curie, Rosa Parks, or Amelia Earhart worried about who'd swipe their V-card as much as I do? Probably not, they were too busy making the world a better place.

I can't go a day without hearing about sex, talking about sex, or honestly... thinking about sex (sorry, dad). I remember a time when it was "shocking" to discover anybody was having sex and now it's "shocking" to discover anybody isn't. The reactions I get when people discover I still hold the key to my innocence aren't only mildly insulting but sad. When did it become shameful to be a virgin? I'm only 20 years old. I've only lived 1/4 of my life and in no means do I feel rushed to get down and dirty.

Don't get me wrong, I didn't plan for my life to go this way. Shocker, but my Magic 8-Ball didn't prepare me for this. I am a huge supporter of doing what you want, when you want, and with whom you want to do it with. Hell, half of my friends aren't virgins and I'm happy for them. They were with someone they loved (or at least liked) and made a choice. I've made a choice too. I am evolving with the world around me and taking life one wine bottle at a time. I don't want to settle for less than I deserve. I want somebody who loves me, respects me, and understands where I'm coming from.

I'm prepared to deal with the douchebags and the nobody losers who can't deal with the decision I've made equally as much as I'm prepared to meet the guy who can.

For now, I wait. And that is perfectly okay.

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