Sorry Virgins, But Never Having Sex Before Has Nothing To Do With Being A Good Person

Sorry Virgins, But Never Having Sex Before Has Nothing To Do With Being A Good Person

You are not a saint, being a virgin doesn't make you any prettier, smarter, or godly. You're just stuck up and annoying.

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Everyone approaches the concept of sex differently.

Some of us get the talk when we're 13 and wondering what's going on inside and outside of us, while others basically teach themselves what their parents neglected to tell them. Regardless, sex was still something we were all "supposed" to avoid until marriage. Save yourself for someone who really loves and respects you! Save yourself because whatever God you believe in taught you to your whole adolescent life!

The point is, we aren't supposed to put out to the guy who tells us we're pretty, but instead to the guy who calls us gorgeous.

Obviously, not all of us commit to the vow to remain pure until we're married, and those who don't shouldn't be judged for it. I don't think we should be judging each other for losing our virginity to some random frat bro from Tinder that you'll never talk to again. You go girl, you were probably really happy at the moment, and that is what matters.

Still a virgin? Good, stay that way if it's what you want, but stop being such a judgemental person towards those who have already lost theirs.

You are no better than me, or Stacy, or Brandy because you're still a virgin. Don't brag about your other sexual conquests, but then talk about what a pure angel you are two seconds after because you haven't had your cherry popped. One, it's gross and unnecessary to talk about the bedside things you do, and two, you're not as innocent as you claim to be, clearly. Babies and puppies are innocent, not you, little 20-something virgin.

We don't all share the same views, and just because you believe one thing doesn't mean everyone else should too.

You are not a saint, being a virgin doesn't make you any prettier, smarter, or godly. You're just stuck up and annoying.

Knock it down a few pegs. I'm happy you're sticking to your guns because it's not the easiest thing to do, especially on a college campus surrounded by the opposite sex. I think it's fine to lose your virginity before marriage, especially when it's with someone who you know cares about you, it doesn't have to be true love. It could turn into love depending on the situation like if you catch feels faster than the common cold, which is something that happens to a good amount of us college students.

Knowing you lost your v-card to a guy who genuinely cares for you at that moment, is a feeling every girl deserves to have. Maybe things went south after, or maybe you two just drifted apart. Either way, that's a memory you can tell your daughter about when you finally give her the talk. Everyone has a different story, but don't make it seem ok that you're judgmental viewpoints are in any way something to be proud of. Your virginity pedestal isn't a thing. Don't judge people having an active sex life because I know for a fact that those very people are too busy getting some to judge you for being a nun.

I'm not judging, but I will if I continue to hear of virgins who act like they are a gift to the morality of humanity. We are all allowed to think as we do, but when you cross the line of letting your opinions fly out one too many times, you'll lose people willing to be around you. My greatest piece of advice is to cool it with your pretentious attitude.

Put those negative vibes to bed, please.

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I Am A Hopeless Romantic Living In A World Where One-Night Stands Are The Norm

It's the little things.

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In today's society, it can certainly start to feel like no one takes love seriously anymore.

Whether it's that one couple who has broken up and gotten back together more times than you can count, the two friends-with-benefits no one can figure out, your local womanizer, or just hookups in general, love and lust are a huge part of specifically college life and culture.

As a hopeless romantic, being part of a generation that "just wants to have fun" can be really frustrating, especially when you just want to find something real. It is so easy for people to put on a fake act just to get what they want and sometimes this can be extremely hard to see through. I'm sure we've all had some kind of incident with someone who played nice but had ulterior motives and the sad truth is that it can be impossible to recognize a person's artificiality.

I am a hopeless romantic.

I have always classified myself as such, and it has remained true. Sure, I can make the most of the freedoms I have as a single college woman, but deep down I just want to find my person.

I've had my fair share of letdowns, and I think we all have, but being a hopeless romantic makes it that much more difficult to get past the "what ifs" and fantasies that come along with starting something with someone new. We may already have our hearts set on a person when they decide they've gotten what they wanted and leave.

For me, I find myself caught up in the little things that someone does. I have always been someone who picks up on small details in situations, and sometimes this works against me.

I pick up on the small facial expressions that he may not even realize he is making; the ones that tell you when their guard has been let down, even just for a split second.

I pick up on the way he sits our two cellphones side by side on the nightstand, taking care to line them up perfectly as if that's just their spot.

I pick up on the short moments of laughter where he actually lets himself laugh and forgets about the act.

I pick up on things, and sometimes I end up hurting because of it.

When it comes down to it, though, I wouldn't change the way that I am. I wouldn't change the fact that I find myself in the search for more in a society that mostly only offers me less.

The trait that tends to hurt me most is also the one that I value most. Even if noticing all the little things is something that contributes to my own heartache, I love those moments. There is something beautiful about those tiny things shared by two people, even if the connection ends there.

Sure, it can be hard. But so can everything.

It's just a matter of finding the beauty.

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5 Movie Sex Scenes That Would Never Go Down Like That In Real Life

There's a lot of time, scripts, makeup, and lights that are involved in these scenes that make them what they are, unlike the sex that happens in real life.

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When I was a child, my idea of sex was confined to what I saw in the media — two people rolling around underneath the sheets of their bed. I didn't understand what was going on at the time until my parents had the birds and the bees talk with me, but still, sex was not something that was discussed regularly in any setting so I couldn't help but use the movies and television as my main source for sex education. When I was a teenager, I started watching rom-coms so my idea of sex expanded to a scenario where two people who loved each other effortlessly fall into a euphoric experience and then they live happily ever after.

Then something about the idea I had changed as I watched the series premiere of "Secret Life of the American Teenager," a popular teen drama from ABC family about a girl who struggles with being a mother in high school. One of the first and most memorable scenes of the show is when Amy Juergens talks to her best friends about what it was like to have sex for the first time. Her friends were ecstatic for her at first until she revealed her dismay, telling them "I didn't exactly realize what was happening until, like, after two seconds, and then it was just over. And it wasn't fun and definitely not like what you see in the movies, you know, all romantic and stuff."

I heard those words and was immediately taken aback. As a 13-year-old, sex wasn't on my mind much, but I couldn't help but hope that I could experience the magic I saw on screen. Then eight years later I have sex for the first time and I realized that what she said was right...not about the part about it not being fun, but more-so about the part that sex is not actually like what is depicted in the movies.

Here are five examples in movies that created unrealistic sex scenes for its viewers:

1. "Skyfall"



This steamy scene between Bond and Severine make shower sex look passionate and trouble-free, but do its expectations match reality? No. What they don't show you is the sting from the water getting into your eyes, the awkward positions your bodies have to accommodate with if there's a significant height difference between you and your partner and the fact that water is a terrible substitute for lube because it strips away the natural lubrication your genitals produce.

2. "No Strings Attached"



Sometimes there are those moments when you want to have sex, but you don't have that much time on your hands so you have to fit in a quick session before work in the morning, in between classes, or right before the kids come back home. Though Natalie Portman's "O" face is spot on, the main thing that makes her quickie with Ashton Kutcher's unrealistic is that she still manages to climax after 45 seconds without any kind of foreplay, lube, or toys involved. The female orgasm is still possible during a quickie, but in real life, there will still have to be creative measures involved so that enough stimulation outside of penetration is involved to get her warmed up.

3. "Fifty Shades of Grey"



As much as I enjoyed the playfulness behind Ana and Christian dipping ice cream on each other's bodies and licking it off each other, I couldn't help but roll my eyes at how over exaggerated it became. Yes, I understand that when something feels good, a moan or some type of vocalization will happen, but getting some kisses and licks on your thighs isn't going to have you arching your back like a demon going through an exorcism.

4. "Mr. & Mrs. Smith"



Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie's chemistry and passion in this scene is undeniable and it almost makes you want to start a fight with your partner just so you two can have some hot, angry sex just like them. Here's the problem though. They go from nearly killing each other to being boo'ed up like nothing happened. While angry sex can be a way for some couples to express emotions through adrenaline, it isn't the answer to our problems and shouldn't be a substitute for healthy communication.

5. "Titantic"



The moment in the movie when Kate Winslet's hand slams against the door of the car and drifts down as we stare at her steamy handprint and secretly wish we were sleeping with Leonardo DiCaprio will always be a classic. However, this scene is still a scam for those who hope car sex is as passionate and heartfelt as that. Truth be told, there's limited space to feel comfortable so leg cramps are inevitable and sliding against leather feels awful on your skin. To top things off, if you aren't careful enough, you may get caught by the police and ultimately have to register as a sex offender depending on your state's laws.

I truly hope for the day that sex in the media is represented in more of a realistic way, but until then, we just have to remember to take movies for what they are. Acting. There's a lot of time, scripts, makeup, and lights that are involved in these scenes that make them what they are, unlike the sex that happens in real life. As a matter of fact, sometimes sex isn't romantic. Sometimes it's not a fairy tale. There are times when it can be mind-blowing and other times when it's awkward, funny, or simply not what we expect. Do I appreciate fictional sex? Of course. But mainstream entertainment should also take the time to show us more than the sex we supposedly fantasize about and also show us sex that we can look at and see ourselves.

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