10 Reasons You Keep Attracting Fuckboys Instead Of Your Knight In Shining Armor
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Step 1. Stop Snapchatting the guy who constantly leaves you on read.

Step 2. Realize that the guy who kindly, but unconsciously messages you, "Good morning, baby," every day has no genuine feelings for you.

Step 3. Take a deep breath in, stop blaming yourself, and start believing in your badass self.

Sometimes they seem like the perfect guy, the sweetest of them all, but then with a blink of an eye, his playboy character reveals himself. Fuckboys are all over the place. Heck! There are so many different of types of guys who intentionally or unintentionally behave like assholes and suffer from the fuckboy syndrome. They are just people, after all–with their own personal challenges and mishaps. Yet, that doesn't mean you should be giving them all your focus. Guys like that need their space to mature. Don't let their bad mojo rub off on you. You're putting too much attention on these guys who aren't ready for anything real and ignoring the dudes who want to solely pay attention to and adore you. It's time to clear the bad energy, heal your broken, bruised, beaten heart, and get to the bottom of the reasons why you're letting men hurt you.

You are not desperate. You are not stupid. You are not doomed.

1. Be patient with meeting new men

Don't jump on the first guy who winks at you, calls you beautiful, or asks for your number. Don't get swept off your feet by someone who doesn't deserve to catch you.

2. Not focusing on yourself

Being single can be scary, lonely, and uncomfortable. But, isn't there a saying that along the lines of, you find yourself within the uncomfortable. Or being comfortable with the uncomfortable is where you learn the most about yourself. I don't know, but there is merit behind it. Subscribe to Singles Swag, spend time with yourself and The Bachelor, and splurge on that finest French rosé you've been eyeing (or whatever it is that your heart desires). You don't need a fuckboy to senselessly spend money on you in the hopes of getting into your pants or tricking you into taking care of him, your first and foremost priority is you.

3. Would you let your friends date him?

You're not treating yourself the same way you treat your friends. Become your best friend and start talking to yourself the same way you encourage your bestie.

4. Your expectations have dropped too low

Drop it like it's hot, but not your standards! Keep those suckers high. In today's day and age, men are applauded for walking their dog, holding the door for others, and washing the dishes. Stop praising men for doing casual, nice things that everyone, man or woman, should be doing.

5. You're a fuckgirl

You read that correctly, you're a fuckgirl. Those exist. You're texting your group chat that men are messing with you, but, at the same time, you are playing games. That's not fair. Be real with guys and they will be authentic back. Forget the whole, "I wait five minutes to reply back because he waited for two" scheme because if he is entertaining himself with that trick, he isn't worth your time.

SEE ALSO: 10 Signs That Point To The Fact She's Definitely A Fuckgirl

6. The good old changing game

You can't change anyone until they change themselves. Walk away from the fella who keeps hurting you, but pleads that he'll change. Walk away from the guy you've been endlessly trying to charm. Walk away from the joe who is still preoccupied with their ex to center his attention on you. Find a project you don't have to fix.

7. You're not ready for commitment

That's okay! There is still time to enjoy the single life and keep commitment at an arm's length. It's time to come to terms with it, though. Don't waste your time on complaining about the men you keep meeting and just enjoy having fun, adventurous encounters with guys as you learn more about yourself before settling down.

8. Mistaking drama with attention

Drama queens generate drama but expect to be treated like princesses. There is nothing wrong with loving attention, but step back and observe the type of attention you are asking for. This has nothing to do with the clothes you wear, the drinks you drink, or any other bullshit that people blame women for. You aren't asking to be treated poorly, but sometimes you may be accepting disrespect because you live for the drama that follows. Girl, you deserve true compassion.

9.  You're looking in the wrong places

In reality, there is no "right" or "wrong" place to meet someone. You can bump into your soulmate at the bar, swipe right on Tinder, or rear end them on your drive home. But, you have to have your eyes open! Look up from your phone and notice the cute cashier who won't stop staring at you. Shake those jitters off and start a conversation with the hot AF guitarist at your local cafe. Take a risk and slip your phone number to the witty waiter who has memorized your salad order.

10. You don't know what you deserve

A lack of self-esteem brings about so much garbage and, on the contrary, confidence truly solves so many problems. Respect yourself and the people around you will respect you.

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I Asked 11 Strong Independent College Girls Why They Plan On Staying Single Alllllll 2019

We don't all need a man to be happy.

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Listen. Not every college girl wants a ring by spring or really even cares about finding a man. With the popularity of going to college just to walk out with a Mrs. Degree, all the confident and single ladies tend to get overlooked.

Well, ladies, in case you haven't caught on to 2019's biggest dating trend, I'll share it with you—it's loving yourself and staying single. Here what these 11 strong, independent, college girls say about their plans to stay single alllll 2019.

1. Boys are dumb. Simple as that.

"The male species literally is incapable of using their brain at 20-years-old, I'm going to wait until 30s so maybe they will know how to use their common sense. Sorry boys." - Shelby, 20

2. I want to grow on my own.

"I want to focus on learning more about myself and challenging myself. Also, relationships are complicated so I'd rather spend that time worrying about or focusing on school." - Molly, 18

3. Self-love is the best love.

"I need to learn to love myself more than I have been the past two years. I just got out of a two-year relationship (which I am still severely heartbroken over) but I am actually excited to be living life for me." - Caitlin, 20

4. The time spent on focusing on gaining someone else's love will now be spent on finding love within myself.

"It's not that I plan on staying single, I'm just not going to actively put myself out there and fine tune myself. I have spent the past couple of years doing everything I could to find a guy, dating apps, blind dates, letting my friends run my dating apps, socializing a little extra and it just makes me so tired. I want to focus more on myself and what I like to do. Take myself out for a nice dinner and spend time with me. Not watching Netflix but actually getting to know who I am and love myself again, because how you can expect somebody to love you and know you if you don't even know or love yourself?" - Leah, 23

5. Time for some power moves, sister.

"I'm achieving my career dreams without any man holding me back or making me second guess myself or my decisions!" - Jenny, 21

6. Someone print this on a damn t-shirt or something.

"I'm trying to get A's, not Baes." - Holly, 20

7. Well, to put it simply...

"Men are trash." - Bobette, 22

8. Your potential should not be defined by a relationship.

"I've found there's more to life then having a boyfriend. Right now, I'm transitioning from being a college student to my career and I think the last thing I need is to worry about starting a relationship. I'm going to focus on loving myself this year." - Sarah, 21

9. So much time has already been wasted...

"I plan on staying single because boys have been too much of a waste of my time already." - Erin, 21

10. What's the move in 2019? Self love. That's the move in 2019.

"For myself, honestly. I just want to focus on me." - Lex, 19

11. I'm the best me when I'm single.

"I just function better when I'm by myself. There's no extra stress and no need to please or impress anyone." - Jordyn, 20

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11 Thoughts Single College Girls Experience On Valentine's Day

All the mixed emotions single girls feel on Valentine's Day

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Other than my junior year, any Valentine's Day that came across during my college years were filled with a wide range of emotions. Part of me was salty because I wanted the gifts and attention others were getting. Part of me was relieved that I didn't have to plan anything and could focus on classes the next day. Most of the time though Valentines Days were filled with anticipation for the "Fifty Shades of Grey" trilogy.

I've always wondered how my personal mixed emotions seemed to line up with the general population and research shows that it's complicated for many. Although singles aren't necessarily devastated by it, our thoughts about Valentines Day depend on many situational factors.

And if you're a single college girl, you may be thinking these 11 things on Valentine's Day:

1. “I wish I had a boyfriend just for the day.”

This is what some girls are thinking if they’ve been single for a while and they don’t necessarily miss being in a long-term relationship, but they just want completely undivided attention for the day and a romantic candlelight dinner.

2. “I’m glad I don’t have a boyfriend. I don’t need a man.”

This is what usually goes on through girl's heads if they're the independent type who don't place that much value on relationships. They might still scroll through Instagram out of pure nosiness, but if anything, they're probably thinking about how happy they are in the relationship they have with themselves.

3. “I wonder if he’ll send me a happy Valentine’s Day text...or maybe it’s too early for that.”

Valentines Day is already hyped up enough when you’re in a relationship and it’s to be expected that you probably won’t be doing anything romantic if you’re single on that day. But what about those who are in a situationship? Yes, it’s that awkward phase when an official title isn’t there, but that doesn’t mean Valentines Day can’t be brought up at all. Don’t you secretly hope that the person you’re involved with will at least send you a “Happy Valentines” text or stop by and give you a rose?

4. “Wait, they’re actually together?”

On Valentine's Day, the timeline on Instagram is similar to the Oprah Winfrey meme “You get a car! You get a car!" except it's with boyfriends instead. This girl has a boyfriend! *gasp* and this girl has a boyfriend too! *gasp*

5. “Wait...didn’t she just key his car and slash his tires after he hooked up with her best friend last week?”

This exact thought might be a tad bit of an overexaggeration, but it's still the most awkward thing when you see a picture of a couple looking as happy as can be, but deep down everyone knows that their relationship is nothing but drama behind closed doors.

6. “I’ll just hang out with my girl friends, eat pizza, and gossip.”

Girls who enjoy the company of their closest friends more than anyone else will most likely be thinking of hosting a Galentine's Day party rather than a Valentine's Day party. Besides, romantic love isn't the only love that exists.

7. “I’ll treat myself with chocolate.”

Let's be real. Valentine's Day is the perfect time to take a break from the diet and splurge on candy and chocolate.

8. “I’ll treat myself with wine.”

Other than candy and chocolate, wine would be the third option as a substitute for having someone special for Valentine’s Day.

9. “I can’t believe I got dumped.”

Believe it or not, the time of February is peak breakup time. A Facebook study showed that around the time of Valentine’s Day is usually when you’ll notice breakups start to happen in a more recurring manner.

10. “It’s literally no different than any other day.”

Then finally, there are the people who really don't give a damn about Valentine's Day at all because ultimately, it's just another day.

11. “Maybe this wouldn't be so bad if I wasn't dick deprived.”

Sometimes Valentine's Day doesn't have people thinking about intimacy and romance. Sometimes it's just a reminder of the sexual drought you've been going through for a while.

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