42 People Reveal How Their Grooming Habits *Down There* Change During Cuffing Season
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It's getting chilly outside and more and more people are dying to cuddle. It's official, cuffing season has begun.

With the wintery weather, flirtationships quickly turn into relationships as you yearn a snuggle buddy to order in Chinese food with and curl up against as you heat your feet by the fire. And as the leaves fall, bikini and short shorts are put away. Hence, you are no longer concerned about your garden and bush that's constantly growing—otherwise known as your pubic hair.

All body hair is different, it can be fine, dark, thick, light, orange, curly, long, stubby, the hairy descriptions go on and on, yet everyone has hair. Yet, grooming routines diverge and no one practice is better or worse. Some have a shaving schedule, some just let it grow out (I wonder how long is the longest pubic hair), and some choose to cut here and there.

Body hair is typical and all-embracing, but what you choose to do with it, is your choice!

It's your own private parts! Any and all ways of upkeep are perfect (as long as it's hygienic). Don't let anyone judge you if you choose to flaunt your armpit hair or leg hair. There's a long list of influencers who would back you up, from Julia Roberts to Madonna to Miley Cyrus to Bella Thorne to Penelope Cruz and many others. Remember when Amber Rose's bush shocked the Internet? #bringbackthebush

To see what college-aged students are doing with their happy trails and bird's nests, I collected responses from both guys and gals of different sexual orientations and relationship stages between the ages of 18-24.

Here are some of their responses:

1. Smooth as a baby

"Bare as a babies butt"–Female, 19-years-old, it's complicated

I hope that it smells as good as a newborn, as well.

2. Ew

"None of my habits change in the winter, but it has nothing to do with my boyfriend. Too much hair gets on my nerves, my legs included, so I shave on a regular basis throughout the year."–Female, 21-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

3. It's a party up in there!

"I do not shave at all! I only shave if I'm going out and wearing a tank top so that when I dance or raise my arms people don't see my armpit hair. My boyfriend and I do long distance so I only really shave if I know I'm going to see him, but other than that I don't see a reason to! Let it all hang out."–Female, 19-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

Dance as if no one is watching, hunny!

4. Not on a grooming timeline

"I get to it when I get to it. My partner doesn't care and it only bothers me after a long time." – Male, 19-years-old, in a new relationship

5. No more bikini line troubles (for the time being)

"Occasional shaving but not actively worried about traumatizing anyone (like at the beach)." – Female, NA, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

Society needs to stop freaking out about body hair–we all have it!

6. Keeping the heat in

"Not really any change. I just keep it natural. If anything, I trim hair less often now that it's less hot out." – Male, 20-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

Sounds logical, hair keeps everything nice and toasty.

7. The lazy lady

"If I'm not seeing him then I don't shave my legs or my vagina, not because it's winter or anything but just because I'm lazy and always in jeans. However, if I have something coming up then I shave it all off (as does he) the idea of hair during sex is just not for me." – Female, 19-years-old, friends with benefits

Procrastination at its finest.

8. Shaving takes time

"I shave whenever I want not based on when my boyfriend wants. In the winter, I go longer without shaving because I'm not wearing a bathing suit. I don't really have like a specific amount of days or anything just whenever I think it's time or when I have time when I'm in the shower." – Female, 20-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

You definitely need to find the extra few minutes for primping.

9. It itches!

"Nope, I shave for me because it's uncomfortable when I get too hairy. Although, I usually only do it once every 2-4 weeks" – Female, 20-years-old, single like a Pringle

Make sure you don't have crabs, also known as pubic lice!

10. It's a balance

"Still kept neat and tidy. Not bald but very trimmed." – Male, 23-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

This guy knows how he likes his genitals primed.

11. Key statement: all for me

"It depends every so often I will shave and trim but normally it's for myself. If I was in a relationship or trying to hook up with people I would probably do it more often, but when single I still groom and trim but won't shave as often." – Female, 19-years-old, on the lookout

The vital steps are the simple groom and trim.

12. Strong opinions

"STILL GROOM THEM." – Female, 20-years-old, single like a Pringle

13. Clean-up

"I still get my Brazilian waxes because you have to keep that up. Plus, it's annoying to have to deal with growing out the hair to get it waxed from the start all over again. My boyfriend and I both like it when it stays cleaned up!" – Female, 21-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

Can we talk about the look we give when the waxing woman is just about to rip?

14. I have to stay sane somehow

"I let it grow because there's no one in my life right now to groom it for, but I do the occasional trim to keep my humanity intact." – Female, 20-years-old, single like a Pringle

Self-grooming is for the self, not anyone else! It's all you.

15. If it's starting to get as long as your head-hair, you've definitely got an issue

"I haven't shaved since the summer but the other day I trimmed a little because it was getting too long" – Female, 19-years-old, single like a Pringle

Does anyone actually disagree?

16. Just trying to stay hygienic 

"Usually trim once a month because that's enough to maintain hygiene. Not worried about grooming down there to impress all that much seeing as I haven't gotten laid in two years. I do it for me because let's be real, who the fuck am I trying to impress?" – Male, 20-years-old, single like a Pringle

I hope you can hit a home run soon.

17. Persistant waxer taxer

"I wax every 4 weeks, no change with the seasons!" – Female, 20-years-old, it's complicated

Pro tip: use aloe vera after each session to cool down the area and alleviate redness.

18. Washing is what really matters

"I shave once every few days but always wash thoroughly. I used to shave every day over the summer, but there obviously is a smaller chance that I'll wear a bathing suit now and my sex friend does not care TBH." – Female, 23-years-old, friends with benefits

19. Here we go again, the bloody buddy is back

"I usually change and clean every day and take two showers when I'm on my period." – Female, 19-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

The monkey has a nosebleed.

20. Getting crazy now and then

"Well, I am in a long distance relationship. I am in college and he is in the military. So really, I am super lazy in the winter with grooming. Personally, I like to be clean and smooth down there but I do let myself go a lot of the times during the winter. Which is nice, but eventually I get annoyed and get it smooth again. When I know I am visiting him soon, I like to pick up the habit of grooming down there so that come to visit time I am already in habit of doing it diligently. He doesn't care what it's like down there. He says it's my body and I can do what I want, so I never feel pressured to do anything I don't want to which is great, so it's really a personal decision on what I do with my grooming." – Female, 19-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

Do what you need to do to feel confident and ready to carpe diem!

21. It's a bother

"If I'm 'involved' with someone I always trim or shave, but honestly I hate doing it. In the summer I'll typically trim just to make sure it doesn't get gross down there when it's too hot, but in the winter when I'm not sexually active? Pssh, who cares? I'll keep it clean and do the minimum." – Female, 21-years-old, on the lookout

No one needs the extra work, headache, and annoyance.

22. Legs for days

"Honestly don't shave my legs unless I'm wearing a dress." – Female, 19-years-old, single like a Pringle

No reason to shave if you're wearing pants!

23. It's a personal preference

"I continue to shave despite the fact that it's winter because I personally don't like body/pubic hair on me and prefer the feel of smooth skin. Sometimes though, when I feel lazy, not in the mood to shave, or it's that time of the month, I'd just let the hair "down there" grow out for a while, but not too much that it gets bushy, because the longer it is then the harder it is to shave it off." – Female, 18-years-old, single like a Pringle

24. Shaving isn't not for everyone

"I don't really shave down there. I did once but I don't [anymore] since I get ingrown hairs sometimes." – Female, 18-years-old, in a new relationship

Damn those pesky hairs!

25. What day is it today?

"Being the organized freak that I am, I try to schedule out when I'm hooking up with someone so I know when to shave and give it three days to grow out a little to be at max comfort. I'll make sure the lady parts are shaved around the edges, but I leave a little on top. It's how I like it, not how HE likes it, duh. But I totally understand that if a lady has a full-on bush, going down on her is probably really gross, so I will be a gentlewoman for my mans." – Female, 23-years-old, friends with benefits

This young woman deserves a round of applause and some chocolate. If she's this on top of her vag, imagine how managed the rest of her life is!

26. Mood-booster

"I just got out of a relationship where I would usually stay pretty clean shaven unless it was a super busy time (she didn't mind), but now that I'm basically single and only hooking up on the rare occasion, I usually shave maybe once a month. It's for me, it makes me feel more put together and in control of my body, but since I'm not with someone, I don't stay up on it as routinely, just when I have time and need a pick me up." – Female, 20-years-old, it's complicated

One of the best feelings is right when you shave and come out of the shower. You feel so... clean.

27. The pros and cons

"I always shave down there. I don't like the feeling of having a hairy bush. I especially groom down below if someone else will be taking a peek inside of my 'temple.' However, I do get red bumps sometimes after shaving, and it becomes more irritating than having the bush." – Female, 22-years-old, on the lookout

28. Self-heater

"Girl, I am not shaving. He better get used to me being hairy because it keeps me warm. My skinny ass barely makes its own heat." –Male, 19-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

These dudes really know what they are talking about.

29. Always

"I always try to stay 'groomed.' But since my boyfriend doesn't live here I don't shave until like the day before he gets in town and it gives me a break and I don't have as many razor bumps or itch. But definitely always always always slick and shaved and clean!" – Female, 21-years-old, in a new relationship

30. Too much is too much 

"They haven't changed, I still do not groom down there unless it gets out of hand." – Male, 20-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

There reaches a point when something must be done.

31. The best of 'Kim Possible' was Rufus, duh

"I was lasered a while ago so I'm just like a naked mole rat." – Female, 19-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

32.  My no-no zone

"Not at all, I don't really shave down there and I still don't." – Female, 19-years-old, single like a Pringle

Now that's what some may call a furburger.

33. It's a nude Christmas

"I literally only shave if I plan on seeing my boyfriend and getting some D. We live an hour away so I keep it bare for Christmas break, but January to February I'll only shave like once or twice when he comes to visit me." – Female, 20-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

34. A porn star in a sauna

"I just trim them because I come from Asia where grooming your pubic hair is considered weird unless you're a porn star. When I came to the US, I realized most people either shave or trim their pubic hair, but I didn't want to completely shave them just in case I ended up going to a public sauna with my family members (my culture has public saunas where you get butt naked with people of the same-sex) because they will think something is up. Other than that, I don't do anything. I know some dudes put lotion down there in the winter and shit, but my only grooming is trimming them. Oh, I don't touch the butt hole hair, just down to the balls area." – Male, 22-years-old, friends with benefits

So that's what makes a porn star.

35. Keeping your beaver hydrated

"I don't shave as much down there, but [I use] moisturizer more!" – Female, 18-years-old, friends with benefits

36. There's this stench

"Overall, since I'm not in a relationship I do not usually shave until it gets too much. I've noticed that once my hair gets too long, I start to smell, but also when I shave I also start to smell in the first two days or so. On the other hand, when I am with someone I continuously shave." – Female, 20-years-old, on the lookout

Everyone has an aroma, but it's helpful to make sure your odor is within range of normality.

37. Hoo-haw independence

"Nothing has entirely changed. I still groom for my own benefit and I don't care if I meet someone or don't. Sometimes, I might wait a few extra weeks before doing a grooming session, but even so, that doesn't stop me from fixing myself up every now and then." – Female, 19-years-old, "honestly not even sure"

It always feels good to pamper and prep.

38. There's a lot of moola that goes into grooming

"Still get regular waxes but it's okay if it's past 4 weeks! A little extra hair won't kill no one plus it's expensive to keep that upkeep." – Female, 24-years-old, friends with benefits

When deciding between saving money for food or a wax, always choose food.

39. Trimming season

"I haven't shaved since the summer, but the other day I trimmed a little because it was getting too long." – Female, 19-years-old, single like a Pringle

40. Finding comfort in relationships

"Honestly, in previous relationships, I would shave everywhere (and I mean everywhere) like every other day. With myself practically living with my now boyfriend, there will be times I forget. At first when I did this, I would apologize and get super self-conscious. My boyfriend told me he actually prefers a little stubble, he says it reminds him I'm actually a woman and not a child. That I'm human and he loves my imperfections. I'm finally comfortable in a relationship where I can go a couple days not shaving (too much length causes itching and I'm not about that personally)." – Female, 21-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

One's imperfections make him/her perfectly unique.

41. Going back to our roots

"Au naturel all year long." – Female, 20-years-old, single like a Pringle

42. No f***ks given

"I literally will not shave until it starts to bother me. This goes for every part of my body (armpits excluded because I literally cannot handle my armpits to not be shaved during all seasons LOL) but as for every other area, if I'm not wearing shorts or going swimming I won't shave unless it's irritating me or whatever. My boyfriend doesn't really care–we've been together for almost five years now and quite honestly, I don't care either! Obviously, I'll be fully groomed if it's like a date night or something but for 99% of the season I do not care one bit." – Female, 21-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

Living life one hairy leg at a time.


These responses have been lightly edited for length or clarity.

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I Am A Hopeless Romantic Living In A World Where One-Night Stands Are The Norm

It's the little things.

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In today's society, it can certainly start to feel like no one takes love seriously anymore.

Whether it's that one couple who has broken up and gotten back together more times than you can count, the two friends-with-benefits no one can figure out, your local womanizer, or just hookups in general, love and lust are a huge part of specifically college life and culture.

As a hopeless romantic, being part of a generation that "just wants to have fun" can be really frustrating, especially when you just want to find something real. It is so easy for people to put on a fake act just to get what they want and sometimes this can be extremely hard to see through. I'm sure we've all had some kind of incident with someone who played nice but had ulterior motives and the sad truth is that it can be impossible to recognize a person's artificiality.

I am a hopeless romantic.

I have always classified myself as such, and it has remained true. Sure, I can make the most of the freedoms I have as a single college woman, but deep down I just want to find my person.

I've had my fair share of letdowns, and I think we all have, but being a hopeless romantic makes it that much more difficult to get past the "what ifs" and fantasies that come along with starting something with someone new. We may already have our hearts set on a person when they decide they've gotten what they wanted and leave.

For me, I find myself caught up in the little things that someone does. I have always been someone who picks up on small details in situations, and sometimes this works against me.

I pick up on the small facial expressions that he may not even realize he is making; the ones that tell you when their guard has been let down, even just for a split second.

I pick up on the way he sits our two cellphones side by side on the nightstand, taking care to line them up perfectly as if that's just their spot.

I pick up on the short moments of laughter where he actually lets himself laugh and forgets about the act.

I pick up on things, and sometimes I end up hurting because of it.

When it comes down to it, though, I wouldn't change the way that I am. I wouldn't change the fact that I find myself in the search for more in a society that mostly only offers me less.

The trait that tends to hurt me most is also the one that I value most. Even if noticing all the little things is something that contributes to my own heartache, I love those moments. There is something beautiful about those tiny things shared by two people, even if the connection ends there.

Sure, it can be hard. But so can everything.

It's just a matter of finding the beauty.

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5 Movie Sex Scenes That Would Never Go Down Like That In Real Life

There's a lot of time, scripts, makeup, and lights that are involved in these scenes that make them what they are, unlike the sex that happens in real life.

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When I was a child, my idea of sex was confined to what I saw in the media — two people rolling around underneath the sheets of their bed. I didn't understand what was going on at the time until my parents had the birds and the bees talk with me, but still, sex was not something that was discussed regularly in any setting so I couldn't help but use the movies and television as my main source for sex education. When I was a teenager, I started watching rom-coms so my idea of sex expanded to a scenario where two people who loved each other effortlessly fall into a euphoric experience and then they live happily ever after.

Then something about the idea I had changed as I watched the series premiere of "Secret Life of the American Teenager," a popular teen drama from ABC family about a girl who struggles with being a mother in high school. One of the first and most memorable scenes of the show is when Amy Juergens talks to her best friends about what it was like to have sex for the first time. Her friends were ecstatic for her at first until she revealed her dismay, telling them "I didn't exactly realize what was happening until, like, after two seconds, and then it was just over. And it wasn't fun and definitely not like what you see in the movies, you know, all romantic and stuff."

I heard those words and was immediately taken aback. As a 13-year-old, sex wasn't on my mind much, but I couldn't help but hope that I could experience the magic I saw on screen. Then eight years later I have sex for the first time and I realized that what she said was right...not about the part about it not being fun, but more-so about the part that sex is not actually like what is depicted in the movies.

Here are five examples in movies that created unrealistic sex scenes for its viewers:

1. "Skyfall"



This steamy scene between Bond and Severine make shower sex look passionate and trouble-free, but do its expectations match reality? No. What they don't show you is the sting from the water getting into your eyes, the awkward positions your bodies have to accommodate with if there's a significant height difference between you and your partner and the fact that water is a terrible substitute for lube because it strips away the natural lubrication your genitals produce.

2. "No Strings Attached"



Sometimes there are those moments when you want to have sex, but you don't have that much time on your hands so you have to fit in a quick session before work in the morning, in between classes, or right before the kids come back home. Though Natalie Portman's "O" face is spot on, the main thing that makes her quickie with Ashton Kutcher's unrealistic is that she still manages to climax after 45 seconds without any kind of foreplay, lube, or toys involved. The female orgasm is still possible during a quickie, but in real life, there will still have to be creative measures involved so that enough stimulation outside of penetration is involved to get her warmed up.

3. "Fifty Shades of Grey"



As much as I enjoyed the playfulness behind Ana and Christian dipping ice cream on each other's bodies and licking it off each other, I couldn't help but roll my eyes at how over exaggerated it became. Yes, I understand that when something feels good, a moan or some type of vocalization will happen, but getting some kisses and licks on your thighs isn't going to have you arching your back like a demon going through an exorcism.

4. "Mr. & Mrs. Smith"



Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie's chemistry and passion in this scene is undeniable and it almost makes you want to start a fight with your partner just so you two can have some hot, angry sex just like them. Here's the problem though. They go from nearly killing each other to being boo'ed up like nothing happened. While angry sex can be a way for some couples to express emotions through adrenaline, it isn't the answer to our problems and shouldn't be a substitute for healthy communication.

5. "Titantic"



The moment in the movie when Kate Winslet's hand slams against the door of the car and drifts down as we stare at her steamy handprint and secretly wish we were sleeping with Leonardo DiCaprio will always be a classic. However, this scene is still a scam for those who hope car sex is as passionate and heartfelt as that. Truth be told, there's limited space to feel comfortable so leg cramps are inevitable and sliding against leather feels awful on your skin. To top things off, if you aren't careful enough, you may get caught by the police and ultimately have to register as a sex offender depending on your state's laws.

I truly hope for the day that sex in the media is represented in more of a realistic way, but until then, we just have to remember to take movies for what they are. Acting. There's a lot of time, scripts, makeup, and lights that are involved in these scenes that make them what they are, unlike the sex that happens in real life. As a matter of fact, sometimes sex isn't romantic. Sometimes it's not a fairy tale. There are times when it can be mind-blowing and other times when it's awkward, funny, or simply not what we expect. Do I appreciate fictional sex? Of course. But mainstream entertainment should also take the time to show us more than the sex we supposedly fantasize about and also show us sex that we can look at and see ourselves.

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