42 People Reveal How Their Grooming Habits *Down There* Change During Cuffing Season
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It's getting chilly outside and more and more people are dying to cuddle. It's official, cuffing season has begun.

With the wintery weather, flirtationships quickly turn into relationships as you yearn a snuggle buddy to order in Chinese food with and curl up against as you heat your feet by the fire. And as the leaves fall, bikini and short shorts are put away. Hence, you are no longer concerned about your garden and bush that's constantly growing—otherwise known as your pubic hair.

All body hair is different, it can be fine, dark, thick, light, orange, curly, long, stubby, the hairy descriptions go on and on, yet everyone has hair. Yet, grooming routines diverge and no one practice is better or worse. Some have a shaving schedule, some just let it grow out (I wonder how long is the longest pubic hair), and some choose to cut here and there.

Body hair is typical and all-embracing, but what you choose to do with it, is your choice!

It's your own private parts! Any and all ways of upkeep are perfect (as long as it's hygienic). Don't let anyone judge you if you choose to flaunt your armpit hair or leg hair. There's a long list of influencers who would back you up, from Julia Roberts to Madonna to Miley Cyrus to Bella Thorne to Penelope Cruz and many others. Remember when Amber Rose's bush shocked the Internet? #bringbackthebush

To see what college-aged students are doing with their happy trails and bird's nests, I collected responses from both guys and gals of different sexual orientations and relationship stages between the ages of 18-24.

Here are some of their responses:

1. Smooth as a baby

"Bare as a babies butt"–Female, 19-years-old, it's complicated

I hope that it smells as good as a newborn, as well.

2. Ew

"None of my habits change in the winter, but it has nothing to do with my boyfriend. Too much hair gets on my nerves, my legs included, so I shave on a regular basis throughout the year."–Female, 21-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

3. It's a party up in there!

"I do not shave at all! I only shave if I'm going out and wearing a tank top so that when I dance or raise my arms people don't see my armpit hair. My boyfriend and I do long distance so I only really shave if I know I'm going to see him, but other than that I don't see a reason to! Let it all hang out."–Female, 19-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

Dance as if no one is watching, hunny!

4. Not on a grooming timeline

"I get to it when I get to it. My partner doesn't care and it only bothers me after a long time." – Male, 19-years-old, in a new relationship

5. No more bikini line troubles (for the time being)

"Occasional shaving but not actively worried about traumatizing anyone (like at the beach)." – Female, NA, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

Society needs to stop freaking out about body hair–we all have it!

6. Keeping the heat in

"Not really any change. I just keep it natural. If anything, I trim hair less often now that it's less hot out." – Male, 20-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

Sounds logical, hair keeps everything nice and toasty.

7. The lazy lady

"If I'm not seeing him then I don't shave my legs or my vagina, not because it's winter or anything but just because I'm lazy and always in jeans. However, if I have something coming up then I shave it all off (as does he) the idea of hair during sex is just not for me." – Female, 19-years-old, friends with benefits

Procrastination at its finest.

8. Shaving takes time

"I shave whenever I want not based on when my boyfriend wants. In the winter, I go longer without shaving because I'm not wearing a bathing suit. I don't really have like a specific amount of days or anything just whenever I think it's time or when I have time when I'm in the shower." – Female, 20-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

You definitely need to find the extra few minutes for primping.

9. It itches!

"Nope, I shave for me because it's uncomfortable when I get too hairy. Although, I usually only do it once every 2-4 weeks" – Female, 20-years-old, single like a Pringle

Make sure you don't have crabs, also known as pubic lice!

10. It's a balance

"Still kept neat and tidy. Not bald but very trimmed." – Male, 23-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

This guy knows how he likes his genitals primed.

11. Key statement: all for me

"It depends every so often I will shave and trim but normally it's for myself. If I was in a relationship or trying to hook up with people I would probably do it more often, but when single I still groom and trim but won't shave as often." – Female, 19-years-old, on the lookout

The vital steps are the simple groom and trim.

12. Strong opinions

"STILL GROOM THEM." – Female, 20-years-old, single like a Pringle

13. Clean-up

"I still get my Brazilian waxes because you have to keep that up. Plus, it's annoying to have to deal with growing out the hair to get it waxed from the start all over again. My boyfriend and I both like it when it stays cleaned up!" – Female, 21-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

Can we talk about the look we give when the waxing woman is just about to rip?

14. I have to stay sane somehow

"I let it grow because there's no one in my life right now to groom it for, but I do the occasional trim to keep my humanity intact." – Female, 20-years-old, single like a Pringle

Self-grooming is for the self, not anyone else! It's all you.

15. If it's starting to get as long as your head-hair, you've definitely got an issue

"I haven't shaved since the summer but the other day I trimmed a little because it was getting too long" – Female, 19-years-old, single like a Pringle

Does anyone actually disagree?

16. Just trying to stay hygienic 

"Usually trim once a month because that's enough to maintain hygiene. Not worried about grooming down there to impress all that much seeing as I haven't gotten laid in two years. I do it for me because let's be real, who the fuck am I trying to impress?" – Male, 20-years-old, single like a Pringle

I hope you can hit a home run soon.

17. Persistant waxer taxer

"I wax every 4 weeks, no change with the seasons!" – Female, 20-years-old, it's complicated

Pro tip: use aloe vera after each session to cool down the area and alleviate redness.

18. Washing is what really matters

"I shave once every few days but always wash thoroughly. I used to shave every day over the summer, but there obviously is a smaller chance that I'll wear a bathing suit now and my sex friend does not care TBH." – Female, 23-years-old, friends with benefits

19. Here we go again, the bloody buddy is back

"I usually change and clean every day and take two showers when I'm on my period." – Female, 19-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

The monkey has a nosebleed.

20. Getting crazy now and then

"Well, I am in a long distance relationship. I am in college and he is in the military. So really, I am super lazy in the winter with grooming. Personally, I like to be clean and smooth down there but I do let myself go a lot of the times during the winter. Which is nice, but eventually I get annoyed and get it smooth again. When I know I am visiting him soon, I like to pick up the habit of grooming down there so that come to visit time I am already in habit of doing it diligently. He doesn't care what it's like down there. He says it's my body and I can do what I want, so I never feel pressured to do anything I don't want to which is great, so it's really a personal decision on what I do with my grooming." – Female, 19-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

Do what you need to do to feel confident and ready to carpe diem!

21. It's a bother

"If I'm 'involved' with someone I always trim or shave, but honestly I hate doing it. In the summer I'll typically trim just to make sure it doesn't get gross down there when it's too hot, but in the winter when I'm not sexually active? Pssh, who cares? I'll keep it clean and do the minimum." – Female, 21-years-old, on the lookout

No one needs the extra work, headache, and annoyance.

22. Legs for days

"Honestly don't shave my legs unless I'm wearing a dress." – Female, 19-years-old, single like a Pringle

No reason to shave if you're wearing pants!

23. It's a personal preference

"I continue to shave despite the fact that it's winter because I personally don't like body/pubic hair on me and prefer the feel of smooth skin. Sometimes though, when I feel lazy, not in the mood to shave, or it's that time of the month, I'd just let the hair "down there" grow out for a while, but not too much that it gets bushy, because the longer it is then the harder it is to shave it off." – Female, 18-years-old, single like a Pringle

24. Shaving isn't not for everyone

"I don't really shave down there. I did once but I don't [anymore] since I get ingrown hairs sometimes." – Female, 18-years-old, in a new relationship

Damn those pesky hairs!

25. What day is it today?

"Being the organized freak that I am, I try to schedule out when I'm hooking up with someone so I know when to shave and give it three days to grow out a little to be at max comfort. I'll make sure the lady parts are shaved around the edges, but I leave a little on top. It's how I like it, not how HE likes it, duh. But I totally understand that if a lady has a full-on bush, going down on her is probably really gross, so I will be a gentlewoman for my mans." – Female, 23-years-old, friends with benefits

This young woman deserves a round of applause and some chocolate. If she's this on top of her vag, imagine how managed the rest of her life is!

26. Mood-booster

"I just got out of a relationship where I would usually stay pretty clean shaven unless it was a super busy time (she didn't mind), but now that I'm basically single and only hooking up on the rare occasion, I usually shave maybe once a month. It's for me, it makes me feel more put together and in control of my body, but since I'm not with someone, I don't stay up on it as routinely, just when I have time and need a pick me up." – Female, 20-years-old, it's complicated

One of the best feelings is right when you shave and come out of the shower. You feel so... clean.

27. The pros and cons

"I always shave down there. I don't like the feeling of having a hairy bush. I especially groom down below if someone else will be taking a peek inside of my 'temple.' However, I do get red bumps sometimes after shaving, and it becomes more irritating than having the bush." – Female, 22-years-old, on the lookout

28. Self-heater

"Girl, I am not shaving. He better get used to me being hairy because it keeps me warm. My skinny ass barely makes its own heat." –Male, 19-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

These dudes really know what they are talking about.

29. Always

"I always try to stay 'groomed.' But since my boyfriend doesn't live here I don't shave until like the day before he gets in town and it gives me a break and I don't have as many razor bumps or itch. But definitely always always always slick and shaved and clean!" – Female, 21-years-old, in a new relationship

30. Too much is too much 

"They haven't changed, I still do not groom down there unless it gets out of hand." – Male, 20-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

There reaches a point when something must be done.

31. The best of 'Kim Possible' was Rufus, duh

"I was lasered a while ago so I'm just like a naked mole rat." – Female, 19-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

32.  My no-no zone

"Not at all, I don't really shave down there and I still don't." – Female, 19-years-old, single like a Pringle

Now that's what some may call a furburger.

33. It's a nude Christmas

"I literally only shave if I plan on seeing my boyfriend and getting some D. We live an hour away so I keep it bare for Christmas break, but January to February I'll only shave like once or twice when he comes to visit me." – Female, 20-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

34. A porn star in a sauna

"I just trim them because I come from Asia where grooming your pubic hair is considered weird unless you're a porn star. When I came to the US, I realized most people either shave or trim their pubic hair, but I didn't want to completely shave them just in case I ended up going to a public sauna with my family members (my culture has public saunas where you get butt naked with people of the same-sex) because they will think something is up. Other than that, I don't do anything. I know some dudes put lotion down there in the winter and shit, but my only grooming is trimming them. Oh, I don't touch the butt hole hair, just down to the balls area." – Male, 22-years-old, friends with benefits

So that's what makes a porn star.

35. Keeping your beaver hydrated

"I don't shave as much down there, but [I use] moisturizer more!" – Female, 18-years-old, friends with benefits

36. There's this stench

"Overall, since I'm not in a relationship I do not usually shave until it gets too much. I've noticed that once my hair gets too long, I start to smell, but also when I shave I also start to smell in the first two days or so. On the other hand, when I am with someone I continuously shave." – Female, 20-years-old, on the lookout

Everyone has an aroma, but it's helpful to make sure your odor is within range of normality.

37. Hoo-haw independence

"Nothing has entirely changed. I still groom for my own benefit and I don't care if I meet someone or don't. Sometimes, I might wait a few extra weeks before doing a grooming session, but even so, that doesn't stop me from fixing myself up every now and then." – Female, 19-years-old, "honestly not even sure"

It always feels good to pamper and prep.

38. There's a lot of moola that goes into grooming

"Still get regular waxes but it's okay if it's past 4 weeks! A little extra hair won't kill no one plus it's expensive to keep that upkeep." – Female, 24-years-old, friends with benefits

When deciding between saving money for food or a wax, always choose food.

39. Trimming season

"I haven't shaved since the summer, but the other day I trimmed a little because it was getting too long." – Female, 19-years-old, single like a Pringle

40. Finding comfort in relationships

"Honestly, in previous relationships, I would shave everywhere (and I mean everywhere) like every other day. With myself practically living with my now boyfriend, there will be times I forget. At first when I did this, I would apologize and get super self-conscious. My boyfriend told me he actually prefers a little stubble, he says it reminds him I'm actually a woman and not a child. That I'm human and he loves my imperfections. I'm finally comfortable in a relationship where I can go a couple days not shaving (too much length causes itching and I'm not about that personally)." – Female, 21-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

One's imperfections make him/her perfectly unique.

41. Going back to our roots

"Au naturel all year long." – Female, 20-years-old, single like a Pringle

42. No f***ks given

"I literally will not shave until it starts to bother me. This goes for every part of my body (armpits excluded because I literally cannot handle my armpits to not be shaved during all seasons LOL) but as for every other area, if I'm not wearing shorts or going swimming I won't shave unless it's irritating me or whatever. My boyfriend doesn't really care–we've been together for almost five years now and quite honestly, I don't care either! Obviously, I'll be fully groomed if it's like a date night or something but for 99% of the season I do not care one bit." – Female, 21-years-old, cuffed up and in a long-term relationship

Living life one hairy leg at a time.


These responses have been lightly edited for length or clarity.

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How to Explore Your Sexuality Safely and Without Strings Attached

Is it bi-curiousity or is it something more?

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When you're young and in college, you're searching for ways to express and discover yourself—and often do so through other people. You might have even had some thoughts or fantasies that led you to believe that you might be LGBTQ+. While you're in the perfect setting for sexual exploration, you should take the opportunity to be curious and let yourself dabble in some same-sex shenanigans.

It's easier said than done, though, because not everyone is quite so sure where they should start. If you find yourself unsure of how to experiment with your sexuality in college, try to keep these in mind:

1. Stock up on necessary protection

No matter who you're hooking up with, protection will never be any less important. Consider using a female condom or a dental dam if you're hooking up with a girl. If you're getting with a guy, always use a condom and even think about bringing lubricant with you in case you have penetrative anal sex.

On that note, it's a common misconception that men who have sex with men are inherently dirty and diseased. Their sexual practices can be really risky, though (like anyone's), if they don't use condoms or aren't careful about how they have anal sex. You're also mistaken if you think that sex between two women doesn't carry any STD risks. While you are less likely to contract chlamydia, gonorrhea, and HIV through lesbian sex, women are still capable of transmitting nasty infections like HPV, herpes, and pubic lice. So regardless of what's in your partner's pants, it's critical that you're guarding yourself against STDs and other unwanted surprises.

SEE ALSO: 8 Excuses To Use To Get Out Of Wearing A Condom

2. Educate yourself on same-sex relationships and sexuality in general

How can you expect to explore your sexuality if you hardly have a grasp on how same-sex relationships work? Like with any other unfamiliar topics, do some research before you dive into a world you barely know. You can even ask your LGBTQ+ friends for some information and they'll happily give you some pointers about same-sex love and even the sex itself. If you'd rather keep your questions to yourself, simple Google searches like "what is it like to kiss a girl/boy" and "how do gay men/lesbians have sex" will suffice.

3. Be honest with yourself about what YOU want

What are you looking to take away from your same-sex experience? Are you looking for a little bit of drunken fun with one of your gal pals? Are you genuinely questioning your sexual orientation and want to put your feelings to the test? Whatever your reason is for sexual exploration, remember that you are always in control of how you act upon the thoughts you've been having. Whether or not you choose to experiment is solely your decision and no one has the authority to pressure you one way or the other. You need to be honest with yourself about your intentions before you can even consider moving forward.

4. Visit your campus's LGBTQ+ center for some advice

Almost every college and university has an on-campus LGBTQ+ center that's fully equipped to answer any questions you may have on the subjects of gender and sexuality. The staff members are likely LGBTQ+ individuals themselves, so they can offer you personal words of wisdom on how to gently go about questioning and experimenting. And who knows, you might even meet someone there who's willing to help you along, if you catch my drift…

5. Be picky about who you choose to experiment with

Life isn't exactly like a John Green novel. You probably won't find the perfect hookup as soon as you go looking for them. Go with your gut and don't be afraid to hold your potential hookup to your dating standards. You might not want to go out with them, per se, but if you're planning on being physically intimate with them, it's in your best interest to find someone you can trust to be kind and understanding of your situation. Whether your ideal partner is someone you bumped into at a party or your best friend, ensure that they respect your boundaries and are open to being your "guinea pig."

6. Tread carefully if you're thinking about hooking up with a friend

A friend might seem like the best option for a no-strings-attached hookup, but complicating the emotional relationship you already have with physical intimacy might spell out disaster in the future. Even though you know and trust this person with the connection you already have, you're moving on to completely unchartered territory when you decide to make out or have sex with them. Unrequited crushes and awkwardness may very well ensue when you least expected them to. There's no telling how either of you will react to the encounter after it's over, so you have to be prepared for the worst.

If you're that certain that your friendship will be unharmed, though, then by all means, go for it.

7. Always go into a hookup with a clear, (mostly) sober mind

It's okay and perfectly understandable if you need some liquid courage to jumpstart your self-exploration. At first glance, experimenting with your sexuality can seem like a daunting task, so approaching it in a buzzed state might be a good way to keep yourself moving. However, with drinking to calm your nerves, moderation is key. It's important that you're not so drunk that you become vulnerable to unwanted advances from the people around you. Being too drunk to control yourself is never the answer to any problem, no matter how intimidating it seems. If you plan on drinking to psych yourself up for a same-sex hookup, make sure you limit your intake and surround yourself with trusted friends who can keep an eye on you.

Also, it's best that you don't use same-sex exploration as a coping mechanism for a bad breakup. Don't save the decision to hook up with a random person for the heat of the moment. Make sure you've given the idea plenty of thought and that you don't use your emotions as an excuse to act out sexually.

8. Be honest with your partner about your intentions

Before you set someone up as your homosexual "test drive," make sure that they are fully aware of what's happening and why it's happening. Your partner deserves to know that your connection is strictly physical and that it was initiated in your quest to explore your sexuality. Clarifying the nature of your relationship from the start prevents either of you from reading too far into your interactions, sparing you both from hurt feelings later on.

Also, keep in mind that not every LGBTQ+ individual is open to bi-curious hookups. Your desired partner might be looking for a relationship with somebody who is more sure of their identity, and that's okay! There will definitely be another person down the road who's willing to guide you through your experimenting. Finding the ideal partner may take some time, but the search will be well worth it when you finally meet someone who satisfies all of your expectations.

9. Pace yourself and only go further if you're 100% comfortable

Regardless of your and your partner's sexuality or gender, consent is ALWAYS mandatory. BOTH of you must be consenting to what's happening at all times with the utmost enthusiasm for it to be a consensual encounter. As you explore your sexuality, know that you can revoke your consent at ANY TIME without having to make any excuses. Should you lose interest or start to feel anxious, you have every right to stop and remove yourself from the situation. Just because your partner is also a girl or is also a guy doesn't mean they are entitled to your body any more than a partner of the opposite sex is.

Don't feel ashamed for giving up on a same-sex hookup because you got too self-conscious or even felt afraid. You can experiment in small doses and go as slowly as you need to so you can maximize your comfort.

10. Don't be afraid to admit that experimenting isn't for you

So you kissed a girl and you didn't like it. Or you got with another guy and didn't feel any sort of spark when he touched you. It's okay for you to acknowledge that your same-sex encounter didn't ignite a major transformation in how you see yourself. It could have been that you didn't vibe with your partner or that you just don't vibe with the same sex altogether. Only you can determine why it didn't work for you. Don't assume that you MUST be heterosexual if your hookup didn't leave you feeling any different. Likewise, don't assume you must be gay if your hookup DID affect you physically and emotionally.

11. Don't let anyone label you— not even yourself

Labels do not determine your self-worth, nor do they get to dictate how you "should" behave and feel. Just because you had a homosexual encounter doesn't mean you're automatically gay, lesbian, bisexual, or anything else. Sometimes, a kiss is just a kiss, sex is just sex, and a crush is just fleeting and not deserving of a full-on identity crisis. You can apply a label to yourself if you feel it fits, but don't force yourself into a rigid mindset that doesn't work for you. Only use a specific label if you are 100% comfortable with what it entails. And if you're still confused about who you are, give yourself time to sort it out. In terms of your sexual orientation (and gender identity, for that matter), when you know, you know.

12. Let your feelings go wherever they're meant to

So what you anticipated to be a one-night stand seems to evolved over time into a romantic crush that you can't stop thinking about. Your first instinct might be to panic because "this wasn't supposed to happen," but honestly, how can you be so sure of that? If you are meant to develop feelings for someone of the same sex, then so be it! Clearly you are attracted to this person in more ways than one and clearly they have the potential to make you happier, so why not go for it? You deserve endless love and adventures with your special person, whomever they turn out to be. Let your heart guide you in the right direction and it will all work out in the way it's destined to.

Whether you're gay, straight, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, or whatever else, you are every bit as valid as anyone else and you are entitled to love and happiness however you come by it. Experimenting may be a defining experience for you or it might not turn up any revelations at all, and it's okay either way. At least you know you put yourself out there and were brave enough to challenge conventional society and explore your sexuality.

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Take This Quiz To Discover What Your Sexual New Year's Resolutions Should Be Based On Your Personality

Let's actively nurture our sexuality in 2019

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Everytime late December and early January approach us, it's inevitable that we'll hear some sort of discussion about resolutions in preparation for the new year. Often you'll hear people talk about how they want to start going to the gym again, developing better study skills, or quitting a bad habit. While all of these things are wonderful, I don't want us to forget about the importance of affirmations within our sex lives as well.

I know what you're thinking right now as you read this. You're probably thinking one of two things. Either (1) you don't care about making any sexual resolutions as long as you're not having bad sex or (2) your sexual resolutions may be too ambitious. Well due to the fact that only 8% of people successfully fulfill their New Year's resolutions, I don't blame you for thinking it's unobtainable. However, maybe you should try a different angle.

Make sure your sexual New Year's resolutions that are tailored toward your personality. Based on psychological research conducted by Paul Costa and Robert R. Mcrae, there are ultimately five primary personality traits that can be used in order to sum up people on a general basis. The five factors are openness to experience, conscientiousness, extroversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. If you're wondering which trait broadly describes your personality the most then take this quiz! The results will also show you what New Year's resolutions you should make for your sex life in 2019 based on your personality so that your sexual needs will match up with your personal needs as well.

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