Yes, I Pay For My Boyfriend Sometimes Because It's 2019 And We Know Better By Now

Yes, I Pay For My Boyfriend Sometimes Because It's 2019 And We Know Better By Now

We both put the same amount of effort into our relationship, so why would it be wrong if I decide to pay for a change?

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Recently I read this article called "As A Young Woman, I Should Never Have To Pay On Valentine's Day Or Any Day For That Matter," and I was appalled by what they had to say about it. If you have not read it, let me summarize it for you.

In this article, they mentioned how they believe that their boyfriend should be paying for everything and their reasoning behind it was because they were not making as much money as their boyfriend. What makes it worse is that they mention that Valentine's Day is their boyfriend's opportunity to show her how much he loves and appreciates her. Let me also mention that they believe that a man should be able to take care of her.



I know I'm not entitled to his money, but I was raised to be taken care of, and that a man's role in my life is to take care of me, and that is why I am majoring in M.R.S. and not some STEM field where I could easily find a job and support myself.

Now you have a glimpse of what I am talking about, you must be feeling what I am feeling, which is seeing how stupid this is. As a woman, I believe that we are in a generation where a relationship goes both ways. I believe that whether it is Valentine's Day or any other day, both partners should put the same effort into everything they do for each other, no matter if it is a holiday or not.

Even if it is Valentine's Day, it is a two-person holiday. Therefore, he should be spoiled as much as me.

We both put the same amount of effort into our relationship, so why would it be wrong if I decide to pay for a change?

I am special to my boyfriend as he is special to me and I want him to know that.

He should not have to buy my love to be with him. I am with him because he is my person.

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years now. Yes, he has a job while he is a full-time student and I do not, I am just a full-time student. But just because he has money does not mean anything. Yes, we do go out a lot on dates, but that does not matter to me. I never ask him to get me anything or to buy me anything. What matters is the amount of love and happiness I have with being around him. We could just be watching cuddling or even watching a series on Netflix, and I would absolutely love every second of it. I enjoy the small things in our relationship and cherish every moment of it. Money does not buy love or happiness.

I was raised to take care of myself and that it's not a man's role in life.

I am not entitled to my boyfriend's money and never will be. I grew up knowing that I am an independent person and that I can take care of myself. I am majoring not within the STEM field, but however, I am majoring in the Education field. I know I will not be making as much as anyone in the STEM field, but I still know that I can make it on my own and support myself.

I will never demand my boyfriend to support me. Both of us were raised to depend on ourselves, whether we are in a relationship or not. I am not saying that it is not okay to support each other by splitting bills and all of that. What I am saying is that it is not okay to depend on one person for everything. My boyfriend and I both provide financial support and emotion support to each other. We do that because that is part of us being together. These things should be done by both partners, not just your boyfriend. Just because he is a man does not mean that they have to provide us with everything.

I can do the same thing that a man does. I can pay for our dates, make plans with him, text him first, and pick what we are going to do together when we see each other.

I know this is not "normal" for most of us to do because we are all raised differently.

But it is 2019, and as a woman, we can show our love and appreciation to our boyfriend. If he is spoiling us so well, we should be doing the same thing.

I believe that both of us are capable of filling in roles other than the ones we have been defined by generations before us.

Why should we each have roles that we have to fill when we both can be capable of doing them? We should not have expectations for men and women and what they can and cannot do.

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PSA: Don't Text And Date, Do It Like Our Grandparents

Waiting for a text from a boy is like waiting for water to boil. Sometimes I think if I take a lap around my kitchen then the text will magically light up my phone.

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Texting in our relationships has become so prevalent that it has snuck its way into TV. shows and movies, as well as songs. This makes sense because it is such a large part of our lives. Texting boys can be great in some cases, especially in long distance relationships.

And don't get me wrong, it certainly can be exciting!

But I've realized is that it has the potential to be incredibly inefficient and waste a whole lot of everyone's time. The time that is wasted is a combination of the time spent texting in a conversation that leads absolutely nowhere, along with the time you spend thinking about when that next text is going to roll in. Not to mention all the time you spend screenshotting these texts and sending them to your friends and asking advice on how to craft a perfect reply and agonizing over the right wording, re-typing over and over again, having everyone from your best friend to your Mom weigh in on the perfect syntax.

For a generation that is obsessed with getting everything as fast as possible, why are we contacting each other so inefficiently? We think we will just send a quick text, but more often than not, it turns into a whole production.

Snapchat can be even worse. Taking time out of your day to take a well-lit selfie and send it to a boy just so he can send you a snap of his actual chin is just ridiculous.

We are talking to people constantly about absolutely nothing. And quite frankly, we all deserve more. Technology is great, but just because it is advanced doesn't mean it's advancing our communication skills. Boys, I think it might be time to pick up the phone again. Imagine if instead of spending countless hours in a Snapchat conversation grasping at straws to make a plan with the girl you like, you actually just picked up the phone. The call would take maybe two minutes to set up a plan instead of whittling away a whole day. It seems like just because we have the option to text or message someone, we forget that we have the alternative of a trusty phone call.

If our grandparents had dated the way that we did, would they have ever worked out? Would our parents ever have been born? Would we even exist?

As I am re-watching "Sex and The City," "Gilmore Girls" and "Friends" yet again, I am overcome with nostalgia about what dating was like during these times. I'd love to come home to a message on my machine.

Maybe you're reading this and you think I'm lame and old fashioned and you're absolutely right, but I think I have a point. In order to have better success in our romantic relationships, we need to work on actually saying something. Why are we claiming we are "talking" to someone when we have never talked to them in person? How did we end up in this reality of sulking when we have been left on read, or obsessively checking to see if someone has viewed our Snapchat story?

We've been given all these ways of pseudo-communicating and endless time to do it and absolutely no rule book of what is acceptable. When you really think about it, it's a recipe for disaster that could be destroying our relationships before they even start. We need an Emily Post of technology to teach us how to behave. We need to stop abusing the convenience of technology and start challenging ourselves to communicate better.

I challenge you if you're a single lady that the next time a boy asks for your Snapchat, tell them you'd prefer it if they called you to make plans.

Guys, just call a girl! It might really impress her! Everyone who tries this has full permission to call me and yell at me if the person who calls you/you call says you're a huge freak. But do me a favor and start leaving your ringer on when you're not in class. Let's talk.

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13 Reasons To Date An Aries Girl ASAP

Once she's in, she is in with her entire heart.

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It's my absolute favorite season: Aries season! As an Aries, I tend to flourish as my best self once Aries season rolls around. I'm here to lead the way into the new astrological year, and as a single Aries, I'm here to convince single guys why they should date an Aries girl like me ASAP.

1. She's adventurous

She's not content with humdrum dates, she needs action or she'll leave you out of boredom. She'll be down for something to get her adrenaline pumping and will keep you on your toes.

2. She's driven

She's a girl with goals. She's independent and doesn't need anyone holding her back from what she wants. Support her or get out of her way.

3. She's all in whole-heartedly

When she falls, she falls all at once with her entire being. This is a girl who is willing to put her heart on the line for love once she knows it's real. You'll never have to worry about her heart being anywhere else but with you.

4. She's very direct with her likes and dislikes

She isn't a sugar coater since she hates liars, so she'll be honest about everything. Whether you like it or not, you'll always get the truth from an Aries girl.

5. She's super passionate

Whatever it may be, an Aries will be passionate for what she loves. I am passionate about writing, and I never let anything get in the way of it. In a relationship, an Aries girl will bring the heat that comes with her passion for you.

6. She's not a clinger

She hates clingers SO MUCH. Over the top PDA or romantic things generally make an Aries cringe (maybe not all of us, but I know that's how it is for me). She loves getting attention, but being clingy is a major turnoff, and she isn't one herself. She's not going to beg to see you 24/7, she likes to lead her own life.

7. She's a great listener

She loves to talk, but something she's just as great at is listening. She'll ask you so many questions to get to know you and really listen to what you have to say when you answer them.

8. She's big on friends and family, they come first

She's a big proponent of valuing her friends and family above all else. She will likely go to them for advice about everything. Meeting them is more important to an Aries than many people realize. If you're big on family, she's the girl for you.

9. She's open to anything in the bedroom

Got a fantasy? She's game to indulge. She's adventurous and that extends to bedroom activities as well. The same old routine bores her, so don't be afraid to experiment and try new things.

10. She only uses the past as a means to learn

She's probably got a rough past she doesn't necessarily want to talk about. The past is the past and she tries to use this as a lesson. It takes a lot for her to open up about it. She tries to be optimistic and keep herself in the present, and this optimism may rub off on you eventually.

11. Her cuddle game is epic

You'll never want to leave bed once your Aries girl gets her hands on you. You'll be too comfortable to leave.

12. She loves fashion and wears trends well

She loves wearing what's in fashion and looking her very best. Her outfits may put yours to shame. She's the kind of woman you want on your arm while you're out on the town.

13. She'll be the woman you'll never forget

You may break up or drift apart, but she's the girl that will leave a permanent mark on your heart. She's unforgettable.

Get your Aries while you can, because if you don't scoop her up, someone else will.

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