Yes, I Pay For My Boyfriend Sometimes Because It's 2019 And We Know Better By Now

Yes, I Pay For My Boyfriend Sometimes Because It's 2019 And We Know Better By Now

We both put the same amount of effort into our relationship, so why would it be wrong if I decide to pay for a change?

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Recently I read this article called "As A Young Woman, I Should Never Have To Pay On Valentine's Day Or Any Day For That Matter," and I was appalled by what they had to say about it. If you have not read it, let me summarize it for you.

In this article, they mentioned how they believe that their boyfriend should be paying for everything and their reasoning behind it was because they were not making as much money as their boyfriend. What makes it worse is that they mention that Valentine's Day is their boyfriend's opportunity to show her how much he loves and appreciates her. Let me also mention that they believe that a man should be able to take care of her.



I know I'm not entitled to his money, but I was raised to be taken care of, and that a man's role in my life is to take care of me, and that is why I am majoring in M.R.S. and not some STEM field where I could easily find a job and support myself.

Now you have a glimpse of what I am talking about, you must be feeling what I am feeling, which is seeing how stupid this is. As a woman, I believe that we are in a generation where a relationship goes both ways. I believe that whether it is Valentine's Day or any other day, both partners should put the same effort into everything they do for each other, no matter if it is a holiday or not.

Even if it is Valentine's Day, it is a two-person holiday. Therefore, he should be spoiled as much as me.

We both put the same amount of effort into our relationship, so why would it be wrong if I decide to pay for a change?

I am special to my boyfriend as he is special to me and I want him to know that.

He should not have to buy my love to be with him. I am with him because he is my person.

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years now. Yes, he has a job while he is a full-time student and I do not, I am just a full-time student. But just because he has money does not mean anything. Yes, we do go out a lot on dates, but that does not matter to me. I never ask him to get me anything or to buy me anything. What matters is the amount of love and happiness I have with being around him. We could just be watching cuddling or even watching a series on Netflix, and I would absolutely love every second of it. I enjoy the small things in our relationship and cherish every moment of it. Money does not buy love or happiness.

I was raised to take care of myself and that it's not a man's role in life.

I am not entitled to my boyfriend's money and never will be. I grew up knowing that I am an independent person and that I can take care of myself. I am majoring not within the STEM field, but however, I am majoring in the Education field. I know I will not be making as much as anyone in the STEM field, but I still know that I can make it on my own and support myself.

I will never demand my boyfriend to support me. Both of us were raised to depend on ourselves, whether we are in a relationship or not. I am not saying that it is not okay to support each other by splitting bills and all of that. What I am saying is that it is not okay to depend on one person for everything. My boyfriend and I both provide financial support and emotion support to each other. We do that because that is part of us being together. These things should be done by both partners, not just your boyfriend. Just because he is a man does not mean that they have to provide us with everything.

I can do the same thing that a man does. I can pay for our dates, make plans with him, text him first, and pick what we are going to do together when we see each other.

I know this is not "normal" for most of us to do because we are all raised differently.

But it is 2019, and as a woman, we can show our love and appreciation to our boyfriend. If he is spoiling us so well, we should be doing the same thing.

I believe that both of us are capable of filling in roles other than the ones we have been defined by generations before us.

Why should we each have roles that we have to fill when we both can be capable of doing them? We should not have expectations for men and women and what they can and cannot do.

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11 Things The Man You Love Should Do For You, No Questions Asked

Sometimes it's just the simple things in life that mean a lot.

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Every girl feels special when the guy she's dating does simple things for her that not everyone thinks about. Here's a list of 10 things that every girl genuinely appreciates.

1. Open/Hold the door

I feel like this one is really simple because everyone has to walk through doors. Chivalry isn't dead, let him open the door for you. He's not trying to prove that you can't do it for yourself, but he's trying to be polite and show you that he cares for you.

2. Give you really big hugs

Everyone has bad days, and sometimes you just need a really big hug. Whether it be a bear hug or the hug where he picks you up and spins you around, it will make you feel better in the long run.

3. Buy you really small gifts

One of the best things my boyfriend has ever done for me is simply bringing me a Dr. Pepper when he knows I'm tired from a long hard day full of exams or work. Sonic slushes will also make my day in a heartbeat.

4. Text/Call you just to tell you he loves you

This is pretty simple. It takes less than 10 seconds to text, and only a few minutes to call. Sometimes you get these texts right at the perfect moment, and it makes you feel so much better.

5. Come see you when you're sick

Everyone hates being sick. But seeing your friends and family while you're sick can make you feel so much better. Having your boyfriend come to see you and possibly even take care of you just makes being sick that much easier.

6. Respect your decisions

You're not married yet, so your decisions are up to you! He should respect the decisions you make and support you, even if it's not what he thinks is the best decision. After all, you know yourself better than anyone else!

7. Give you a shoulder to cry on

We all have bad days, and sometimes you just can't stop the tears from coming. Even if he's not good with crying, he should give you hugs and love to help you get through it.

8. Compliment you

Even if you look horrible and know so, hopefully, he'll still tell you that you look good. Even if the clothes you're wearing aren't his style, he should still tell you that they look good on you and that you are beautiful each and every day.

9. Call you when you're away or he's away

If you're like me, I miss my boyfriend after being away for about three hours, so when we're apart for more than a couple days, I love getting random calls from him when he knows I'm not busy. It's definitely better than a text.

10. Deal with all your annoying quirks

So if you're anything like me, you enjoy screaming music as loudly and horribly as you can in the car and making a complete fool of yourself, but he should love you for that anyway. I also love to take really stupid pictures, and he should put up with that too. He shouldn't be annoyed by your quirks, he should love them and laugh along with you.

11. Love you no matter what

I honestly feel like this goes without saying, but I put it on here so that the girls who don't feel like they're being loved no matter what can realize. He should want to work out problems with you instead of calling it quits and holding a grudge. He should want you to be happy and support you in every decision you make in life. When he loves you unconditionally, he will do all of the above things and more.

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If You View Being In A Relationship As 'Losing Your Freedom,' You’re In The Wrong Relationship

Someone had to say it.

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Relationships are about being the best possible version of yourself separate and together. They're about growing with and doing life alongside your partner. They're fun, loving, and granted, they can sometimes be challenging.

Some challenges that frequently come up in relationships are disagreements (which are for sure gonna happen, because you're two individual people!), dealing with stress, and depending on where you're at in life, it could also be financial struggles. Of course, all relationships are going to have problems and everything won't always be “rainbows and butterflies" as Maroon 5 like to put it.

That being said though, one challenge that shouldn't ever be an issue in a relationship is the loss of freedom. Where did this idea come from?

I see it all the time, people talking about not wanting to get into a relationship because they don't want to "lose their freedom".

If you are in a relationship which causes you to lose your freedom, you are 100% in the wrong relationship.

Being in a relationship is not synonymous with not being able to be yourself or be able to do what you want. In a good relationship, you will be able to still have your alone time, be your own person, hang out with your friends, the list goes on and on. All of these things are so important. Relationships should never consume your life, they should complement it.

Why is this even a conversation we need to be having? Seriously.

Now obviously if you're referring to losing the option of getting with other people or dating around, then yes, you're right, you absolutely shouldn't get into a relationship... but that doesn't mean relationships mean losing your freedom.

If you are in a relationship with someone you love and respect, getting with other people isn't even going to be on your radar. It truly is that simple.

The trend of hating on relationships, for this reason, has gotten so out of hand in recent years, especially on social media. It's so frustrating, though, because it could not be any more inaccurate.

You should absolutely still have freedom in relationships. You can have it. I for one absolutely have it and do not view my relationship as the loss of freedom, at all. If you don't, maybe evaluate that relationship and realize it's not the best one to be in.

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