20 College Guys Reveal The Worst Thing They've Ever Done To A Girl
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College is full of stress and mistakes. Everybody who is anybody has done something they regret. We're human. We all make mistakes whether we feel sorry about them or not, especially in college when many of us are really finding out who we are.

It can also be a rough time for anybody involved in a love life. Whether it's a long distance relationship or not having time for each other due to work or class. Man or woman, we've all broken some hearts here and there.

I went and asked 20 college-aged guys the worst thing they've ever done to a girl even if they regret it or not and here are their answers.

1. I cheated

"I cheated on her. That's all."

2. Tried to make her happy

"I tried to make her happy, but everything always ended up being my fault."

3. I led her on

"Probably the time that I led someone on into thinking we could have become something, then only to tell her that I simply don't date people. I felt like I was less manipulative and hurting her mentally by doing that."

4. Being her best friend

"I was her best friend for years without telling her how I really feel."

5. Over the phone

"I dumped her over the phone."

6. Fake number

"I gave out a fake number to a girl."

7. I was talking to her friend

"I was dating a girl for six months and was talking to one of her good friend's for three months out of the six. I ended up breaking up with my girlfriend for her friend. We're still together after a year."

8. Took the cheater

"My girlfriend at the time cheated on me so we broke up for a while. I was talking to this new girl who was amazing, but my cheater of an ex crawled back to me and I dropped the other girl and didn't respond to any of her messages. She ended up cheating on me again."

9. I used her

"I used this girl to get to her hot friend. Her hot friend then used me."

10. I played her

"There is no way to sugar coat this, but I led this girl on for almost a year. I would keep her interested by acting interested in her, but I was doing things with other girls and I knew she wasn't doing anything with other guys. I ended up just not texting her back one day."

11. I controlled my long term girlfriend

"I was in a relationship for two and a half years and my girlfriend would kiss my ass. I would make her do things that no guy should ever make a girl do like clean my room and my shoes. There was a lot more but after she broke up with me, I realized how horrible I treated her and wish I could take it all back."

12. I took a different girl to formal

"I had a fraternity formal and my girlfriend at the time was out of town, so I asked a different girl. My girlfriend didn't like that idea."

13. I was cheating

"I was in love with this girl for as long as I could remember and we finally started dating my freshman year of college. About a month passed and I met this girl in my chemistry class and I started to talk to her. She and I hit it off and I was cheating on my girlfriend for a solid ten months before I called it quits and broke up with her because she didn't deserve it. I still feel like trash from doing that."

14. I said I was a virgin

"I told this girl I was a virgin when she was the tenth girl I slept with."

15. I told her to leave college

"My girlfriend of two years went to a different college than me. We were about four hours apart. I let my own insecurities get to me and demanded that she went to school where I went or it was over. I don't know why I did that, but she ended up doing so and I basically ruined her dream school experience for her."

16. I was still in love with my ex

"I started dating this new girl to make my ex jealous. I didn't even like the girl at all."

17. I took her virginity

"Back in my sophomore year of college, I took this girl's virginity and never talked to her again. I didn't want to catch feelings."

18. I completely embarrassed this girl

"My friends and I were downtown at a bar for my friend's birthday and this girl came up to me and started to chat with me. I was being nice and talking with her throughout the night. As the night went on, it got late and I wanted to leave. The girl who was talking to me all night came up to my friends and I and asked for my number. I looked at her and said, 'no, I'm good.' and she walked away with a red face."

19. My ex came over

"My girlfriend and I were living together for a couple of months in our new college apartment. One day when she was in class, my ex came over and we ended up doing things in my bed. My girlfriend got let out of class early and caught us."

20. I showed her nudes

"This girl sent me nudes and I showed all my guy friends. I ended up sending the girl's nude to one of my friends and it got leaked to her. She never spoke to me again."

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As Much As You May Want To, You'll Never Get Over Your First Love

You never forget your first

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Your first love is just that: the first person you've ever truly loved (besides your family and friends). Maybe you've kissed a few people before, but with this person it's different. They mean something to you that no other person ever has before. Maybe you met this person when you were younger in high school or met them a little later in life as I did at the end of my first year of college. Meeting my first love transformed me, both for the good and the bad, and as much as I may want to, I'll never get over my first love and neither will you.

When we met, we didn't meet in some fantastical way, we met on Tinder right after a surprise breakup of mine. We had instant chemistry, and I didn't get to kiss him for weeks because I ended up getting mono right after the breakup (haha whoops). He was the first person I've ever kissed who I didn't want to stop kissing- ever. Yes, second semester freshman year me was super extra when it came to him, but being with him was so different than anyone else. Things progressed through the summer as we talked every single day, even though we never got to meet up because we were both busy, and at the beginning of my sophomore year, I lost my virginity to him. That was a big step for someone who thought she'd wait until she was married. He made sure I was fine and didn't push me to do anything I wasn't comfortable with. I'll treasure that forever.

He was someone I loved with all of my being, to the point where it was physically hurting me in the end because I knew what I felt wasn't going to ever be reciprocated the way I wanted it to be. That's when I had to end it, which was one of the hardest things I've ever done. To me, he was a boyfriend, but to him, I was a friend with benefits. I wanted something more and he wanted less, and I didn't want to accept that. I wasn't his first love but he was mine, which he doesn't know and probably never will. I have had moments where I thought I was over him, but then all the emotions flood right back. In hard moments of hurt is when I miss him the most, but also in moments of joy too. If I see a nice car I think of him, or of other little things, like a french bulldog or The Fast and The Furious.

Your first love leaves such a monumental effect on you as a person. They have seen parts of you others have not. You will always remember your firsts more than anything else, which is why your first love never leaves you. As roughly as things ended between he and I, he's always going to have a piece of me that no one else will ever have. The relationship we had wasn't what you'd expect from someone you call your first love, but his mark on me is what helped shape me into who I am today for better or for worse.

Don't let any negativity remain when it comes to your first love (if there is any). Let it go and remember the good. They will be a part of you forever, so you can never truly get over you.

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Why You Keep Falling In Love With People Who Don’t Love You Back In Your 20s

It's embedded in our human psychology to always desire deeper connections and meaningful relationships with the people we hold close to our heart, even if the feeling aren't necessarily mutual.

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Can love truly be both beautiful and heartbreaking?

It's a question I silently asked myself, sitting shotgun in a car next to someone I considered my friend.

A "friend" seemed to be the right label to define our relationship. To him, I was just a friend—who just happened to be a girl, a girl he texts regularly, jokes around, and can grab a drink with. And we loved each other as friends, because we both trusted each other, we had fun together and each had our own independent lives which would connect occasionally in a complete, non-questionable platonic way.

But slowly, for me, he was becoming everything I've ever wanted in a guy, standing right in front of me. But he wasn't mine to have.

And imagine being so close to someone you want except you can't have him because it might just ruin everything you've already shared together. Because what if you scare him away? What if he replies by telling you "No"?

That's the simple nature of falling in love with someone you can't be with.

In our early part of our lives—particularly in our 20s and during our college years, we all experience this type of heartbreak.

To name a few: A high school boyfriend who lives halfway across the country now. The hot guy you sit next to in lecture who already has a girlfriend. The casual hookup who you just can't manage to stop thinking about as you endlessly toss and turn at night. The platonic friend who doesn't quite see you as being something more.

We all at one point in our thoughts have imagined "coupling" or sharing a life with a guy who we can't seem to have for ourselves. We've always dreamt how things could actually work out if you actually shared your feelings with him except the closest we'll ever reach to it is in our dreams, not reality.

And to examine the logic behind why this happens, we have to first admit how we always want what we can't have.

Because it's embedded in our human psychology to always desire deeper connections and meaningful relationships with the people we hold close to our heart, even if the feeling aren't necessarily mutual.

So, it's not really this case of the whole Romeo and Juliet "star-crossed lovers" BS but rather, it's purely a one sided love which can most definitely be beautiful and heartbreaking at the same time. Beautiful because there's always a connection you feel which makes you all warm and bubbly inside but heartbreaking because you know this connection is merely flowing in a one way track.

So then, why do we tend to maintain our connections with these people who hurt us?

One reason is because you're afraid to lose him altogether. Perhaps you think he's going to go on full freak-out mode after you spill the beans to him. My piece of advice in this scenario would be to just suck it up and take the chance. Talk to him about how you feel because honestly, what's there to lose? Unless you're not reciting some sappy, over-the-top love story about how many kids you plan to have with him, you're fine.

But perhaps, the most common reason is because we assume he might eventually fall in love with us, too.

And if this pertains to you, gear up because I can write on for days about why this is a big no-no. Heck, I can probably teach a class or lecture to all of you about my elaborative theory of why you will definitely know whether a boy truly loves you or not. It's plain and simple—if he loves you, he'll make sure you know.

And you can't force someone to fall in love with you. Even if you pay them a million bucks, you can get them to pretend to love you or force them to be with you—but it's never going to be true love. Because true, unrequited love is effortless. It comes naturally. The fiery passion will be shared mutually and you won't ever have to question whether or not you belong with him.

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