If Watching Netflix's 'You' Freaked You Out, Here Are 10 Ways To Avoid Falling In Love With A Psychopath
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So if you are a human being who owns a Netflix account and doesn't live under a rock, you have heard of the show, "You."

The show that terrified all my roommates to never want to date ever again, in fear that the guy might just be a psychopath serial killer. Then this serial killer might just also manipulate your life perfectly to make you fall in love with him. Has this show made you question every rom-com you've ever seen, to think maybe the pursuer is manipulating the person they are going after and then you start to overthink everything you know about love—glad we're all on the same page.

Now, this isn't to scare you from ever wanting to date again, and taking risks when it comes to your love life. You still have to go out of your comfort zone and meet new people, you can't hide away forever and never trust another living soul. Listen to your gut—as cliche as that is—my gut has gotten me out of an abundance of sticky situations. And my gut has also shown me who to trust off the bat. Use those instincts at first, but then really get to know the individual if you are hoping to pursue a relationship further, and hopefully, from there, you will be able to tell if they are a sound individual. But be aware, don't ignore the thoughts of your friends and the signs.

Well without further adieu here are 10 things to look out for so that you don't end up dating a serial killer!


1. If he has a soundproof cage in his work's basement, maybe don't go on a second date

Do I have to expand further on this one?

2. If he turns up everywhere you go, it's not cute, get out

If he runs into you out of town, at an obscure Hemingway festival, it's not coincidence honey. And definitely not a romantic gesture if you didn't tell him where you were going and have been dating a week.

3. LOOK AROUND AT YOUR SURROUNDINGS EVERY NOW AND THEN

Being a single individual living in a big city can be scary, so you just gotta be aware of your surroundings.

4. If he's threatened by your friends, he's a wimp

"If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends"

5. If everyone who ever wronged you, slowly start to drop like flies, check in on that

Is there a common denominator?? Is that your boo thang?

6. If he knows the size of your bedroom before he's ever been there, maybe move

I've heard Yemen is nice this time of year?

7. If he's completely off the grid, it may seem refreshing—but also what are you trying to hide, or hide from?

If he's "not a social media guy"—that can be fine. If there is zero trace of this guy ever existing maybe ask him (or the police department who knows the real name), "what's up?"

8. If he never introduces you to his friends, he probably doesn't have any cause all he can focus on is you

And yes girls this is a problem, let Saturdays keep being for the boys, they need that.

9. If his ex-girlfriend disappeared out of thin air after she wronged him, maybe look into that.

It's alright to ask about past relationships, if they have nothing to hide, they will be an open book.

10. Don't leave your frickin blinds open 24/7.

Especially when you're changing, sleeping, getting down to business, etc.

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

Sorry Boys, But I Won’t Be That Girl Who Waits Around For You Anymore

Just because I know my worth doesn't mean I should have to wait around for you to realize it too.

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I'm like most girls. I am such a hopeless romantic when it comes to dating and all that jazz. With that being said, I have also been the type of girl who has waited around for that guy once or twice (OK let's be real, one too many times).

I am a nice person and a lot of my friends know that I have a kind heart. You can do me dirty and I will forgive you. When it came to guys they could have led me on or ghosted me and later on came back out of nowhere and apologized, more than likely I would have given them a second chance at redemption.

I waited around for that guy to either realize how great we would be together or realize how great of a girl I was. All of my friends would tell me how great I was and how worthy I was but in the end, they weren't the ones I wanted to hear that from. Which was why I waited around and thought up of an excuse to defend the guy I was waiting around for.

The older I got the more I realized how silly I was for waiting around for a guy who probably did not appreciate me the way I should have been appreciated. I realized that I was much better than that and I made a promise that I would stop waiting around. Of course, I did slip up here and there (I mean, I am only human after all).

It wasn't until I was beyond over the male species that I realize how ridiculous I was being for crying over someone who stopped talking to me without rhyme or reason. That was the moment that I realized how worthy I was of a great relationship. A relationship that you see in movies or see in old couples who have been married for 65 years.

I decided I was no longer going to be THAT girl who waited around for a guy. I was no longer going to defend him when my friends asked me why I was still talking to him. I was no longer going to wait around for him to realize how worthy I was. Ever since I promised myself that I was going to live MY best life I have been beyond happy.

Yeah sometimes I say to myself "he was different" but then I remind myself that if he truly cared for me the way I cared for him then I would not have to wait around. He would not only pursue me but also my heart.

So ladies, realize your worth. Stop waiting around for that guy to come to the conclusion how amazing you are. You are a queen and if he can't see that right off the bat, he is NOT worth your time. Wear your crown with your head held high, live your best life, and slay the day away, queen.

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You’re Not Going To Meet Someone On Your Couch Watching Netflix, So Get Your Ass Up

Dating isn't easy, but getting off the couch shouldn't be too hard.

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I don't mean to come off as harsh.

The words are directed at me just as much as they are anyone else. Dating isn't easy, especially when most of us have been out of practice. Even as an extroverted person, the idea of striking up a conversation with an attractive guy makes me anxious. If you are fine with being single then this article isn't for you but for the rest of us who want to change our stagnant relationship status, keep on reading.

Dating has changed drastically since our parents' days. In-person conversations have shifted to words on screens, while dinners and drive-in movie theaters have turned into "Netflix and chill." While some of us might be OK with these casual meetings, others want to be wooed. No matter what kind of relationship you're looking for, I can tell you that you aren't going to find it while laying on your couch. Starting something new is stressful and nerve-wracking, but you have to start somewhere. Sometimes we need to get out of our comfort zones in order to put ourselves in a situation to meet someone new. Whether it's a house party, a nice night out with your girls, or maybe even an invite to study with a new group of friends, these all have the possibility of you putting yourself out there.

There is the potential to meet someone new anywhere: the library, the grocery store, or even in class. While it's important to put yourself out there, don't put so much pressure on everyone you meet. Some people are meant to just be friends, while others have the possibility to be so much more. If you try and it doesn't work out with one person, don't beat yourself up — maybe it wasn't meant to be, or the timing just wasn't right. All I'm trying to say is that you will never know what's out there if you don't get off the couch. I've had a lot of heartbreak in my life and sometimes I think that stops me from trying something new. It's hard to come to terms with that you might be what's stopping you from having a relationship with somebody. We need to remind ourselves that we deserve to be loved and be happy, and a healthy romantic relationship can give us that, we just have to be willing to try.

So strike up a conversation with the cute guy in your English class. Text the boy who you've always wondered "what if." Flirt with the guy who you make eye contact with across the bar. Or don't. The choice is yours. Sitting on the couch hasn't been working for you though, so you might as well try something new.

If you're truly content with being single, I'm happy for you. Keep watching Netflix on your couch, don't let me stop you. But for everyone else who wants to change their relationship status, pause the show, close the laptop or turn off the TV. Try something new, even though it's scary. I'm not saying a boyfriend will just fall into your lap, but it certainly doesn't hurt to try.

Someone could be out there waiting for you, all you have to do is get off the damn couch.

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