23 Things You Experience When You Continually Shack At His Fraternity

23 Things You Experience When You Continually Shack At His Fraternity

No, a MEDIUM frat tee is NOT OK... XL only please and thanks.

"SHACKER!!!" - The thought that is going through everyone's mind when they see you in the same clothes as yesterday with a messy head of hair. And sometimes, you're not even in your clothes because why would we put our jeans back on if we can just wear your comfy clothes or an XL Fraternity shirt???

To most people, shacking is an odd idea. But... once you've done it once or twice, it seems so casual, and no one really cares anymore. The brothers will literally get used to you being around and will almost expect you to be there.

Shacking can be defined by the Urban Dictionary as, "a term used when a member of one sex spontaneously spends the night with a member of the opposite sex in a non-platonic way."

So, here's some things that you experience over time if you continually shack with the same guy (hopefully you're not shacking with multiple... I hope that was obvious).

1. You will spend just as much time with his brothers as you will with him.

2. Some of the brothers will barge in and ask you for relationship advice.

3. Other brothers will just want you to smoke or drink with them.

4. You will either have to pee in the boys' bathroom upstairs or walk all the way down to the first floor to use the girls' bathroom.

And even then, you still make him turn on the sink if you choose to use the boys' because you're suddenly too shy to go.

5. Know that while you quietly pee in your stall like a lady, there is probably another brother using the urinal and aggressively yelling at anyone else in the bathroom.

6. Shacker sheets? Yeah, they're just a formality. Don't expect them (or the door) to stay closed.

7. His roommate will talk in his sleep, knock things off the bed, or move around and scare you half to death in the middle of the night.

Or better yet, you have to sleep in his cold air bed and be dead silent so that no one knows you're there.

8. You only get the room to yourselves if you've called it (and that's only if they have somewhere else to sleep).

Like the above point, if your only option is cold air... then the futon it is!! And even then, you're still lucky if you don't get walked in on. They get so used to you being there that it doesn't even phase them anymore. They just waltz in, tell their story or get what they need, maybe linger around for a second, and then leave.

9. Every word that leaves your mouth is turned into a dirty joke of some sort.

10. NEVER wear your favorite clothes. They WILL be lost and WILL end up being a public trophy of some sort.

One of my friends has a moose head in his room that has a girl's bra hanging from it... They will put it on display, just you wait.

11. He will make you walk through the kitchen or another common space in the morning so that he can show you off.

12. They want you to wear your shacker clothes home, especially if their name or letters are on it anywhere.

13. They will start to recognize you in their letters better than your own (if you're in a house).

14. If you stay there enough, the brothers will start to ask your guy where you are and greet you by name as you come and go each day.

15. Your friends will call you and ask you if you went home for the week because you've been gone so many nights in a row... and when you tell them that you're shacking again, all hell breaks loose.

16. People will start to wonder if you ACTUALLY went to his formal or if that's just your favorite shacker shirt.

17. He'll joke with you about getting an uber home.

18. You will start to brush your teeth there, and brothers will walk in and join you.

19. You expect to have a Juul or Vape offered to you each time you're there.

20. Do you smell that? Oh yeah... that's the laundry no one has done in over a month.

21. **Moves piece of furniture in room** ** Finds Juul pods, condoms, dirty socks, that underwear you thought was lost forever, old assignments, and hella trash**

22. You have group chats with him and his friends.

23. You'll never waste food again in your life.

If you order anything and end up not finishing it, there are a plethora of boys fighting for food at all times. Someone will eat it.

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I'm A 20-Year-Old Virgin And I'm Having More Fun Than My Deflowered Friends

I get it, sex is “fun” but I wouldn’t know.

If you know me then you know I’m not a prude and I fully support getting some. I WILL be your hype man. I just don’t feel the need to partake in the actual activity. That’s just who I am at this point in my life.

I'm not your typical virgin.

I guess I’m not your typical virgin because generally when someone finds out they’re initially in disbelief and sometimes it takes a little convincing until they actually believe me. Which I get, I’m loud, obnoxious, intimidating, and very far from shy. For whatever reason virgins are portrayed as frail, timid creatures. Well, news flash- we’re not. We look and act like you. Just like that horror movie where there are aliens among the humans and you can’t tell who’s an actual person. It’s like that, you’d never even know.

Not trying to toot my own horn but I’ve had plenty of opportunities to lose it.

But let’s be serious, I don’t like losing.

I’ve been told that once you lose "it" you crave it. Like you go crazy for it. Let’s all just thank the heavens above that that has happened to me yet because I don’t have enough time in my day to worry about that.

I’m currently thriving and living my best life.

When I go out with my friends I don’t worry about who I’m going home with, I only worry about having a good time with my friends. I don’t think about sleeping with every attractive person I see and when I’m looking for a potential mate I don’t actually care about the size of their package.

To me, it doesn’t matter.

Since I focus on looking for personalities that click with mine I usually have a better time compared to my deflowered friends. Like okay, awesome, the sex was great. That’s perfect. But what do you do when you’re not fooling around? I appreciate a good conversation.

Now, I’m not saying that’s all I’m looking for because let’s be honest, how attractive you are to someone does matter, and if you think it doesn’t you’re lying.

If you think I’m a goody-goody or insecure you should really get to know me.

I’m totally comfortable with my body and my sexuality. I don’t hide my truth and if you ask me any questions I’ll answer completely honestly. I was lucky enough to be raised by parents who were always honest and answered any questions I could think of. I know not everyone is that lucky. Shout-out to Susan and Darrell.

If you’re a virgin and you’re reading this, just know I’m right there with you!

If you’re waiting for marriage or until you find the love of your life, that’s honestly so great. That’s not really who I am though, I’m not waiting for a particular person, day, or moment. I’m not afraid to do it, I’m waiting until I really actually want to, and I just haven’t found that or felt that yet.

For now, I’ll just stick to saying no because let’s be honest. It’s fun saying no. I never have to say yes until I actually want to. This is something that is 100% mine and I get to choose what I do with it, and that’s empowering.

It’s so much easier for me to only worry about myself. Selfish, I know. Here I am, a young, selfish, college student and I’m having the time of my life.

For the males in my life that still keep trying, may the odds be ever in your favor.

And for those of you getting some on the regular, go an extra round for me.

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6 Ways To Be A Better Kisser, That Way They'll Never Forget Your Smooch

Learn to smooch them in a way that makes them swoon.

You're looking to improve your kissing game, either for yourself or in response to some past criticism you've received from your partner. Whatever the case may be, you need help and so you've sought this article for some worthwhile advice on how to impress your future lovers. Look no further than right here for some expert insight into the art of kissing.

1. Change your approach for the right kind of mood

For soft and sweet:

Be gentle and slow. Take your time admiring them with your foreheads pressed together; brush noses and watch the slow smile come over their lips. Kiss them with the edges of your lips just barely touching at first. Really concentrate on the sensation of their mouth brushing against yours. It's the kind of tentative softness that'll give you both butterflies.

For sensual and passionate:

Pull them in close, pressing your hips together, and kiss them hard. Run your fingers through their hair and up and down their neck and their back; there's so much more to kissing than just mouths and tongues. And speaking of which, remember that when it comes to tongue, less is usually more. Trace their bottom lip with the tip of your tongue or pull at it lightly with your teeth.

For playful and teasing:

You can drive your partner absolutely crazy with just a little bit of teasing. Don't be afraid to pull back from a deep kiss when they seem to want more. Whisper sweet nothings in their ear while nibbling on their earlobe. Dare them to kiss you first and smirk at them as they try to resist you. Let your hands hover over their body, hardly touching or not even touching them at all, encouraging them to make a move if they want you badly enough.

2. Use. Your. Hands!

It can be easy to forget about our hands when we're so focused on kissing our partner's lips. But to enhance the experience for you both, continue to move your hands from place to place as you kiss. You can put your hands on their waist, in their hair, or hold their cheeks. Find their hips and wrap your hands around them as you press your body into theirs. Rather than have your touch jump around, let your hands roam seamlessly up and down their body, pausing where you want them to go for as long as you want them to stay there.

3. Kiss somewhere that isn't their lips

You've got a whole other person to explore, and surely you don't want to devote ALL of your time to their lovely face, do you? Try kissing their neck, their ears, their collarbones, their chest…etcetera, etcetera. You get the idea - sneak in some variety to your technique so your partner can't anticipate your every move.

4. Leave hickeys somewhere else for a change

Those little love bruises shouldn't be limited to just your partner's neck. There are plenty of other more secretive, more sensitive places for you to leave marks - surely you can think of a few! Plus, it is a lot more intimate to give your partner hickeys where only you two know to look for them. (Note: ALWAYS make sure you have your partner's consent before you decorate their body in hickeys.)

5. Play some music in the background

Create a playlist that's perfect for setting the mood and have it playing softly in the background as things get heated between you and your partner. You can choose the songs yourself for a personal touch, or borrow one of Spotify's pre-made playlists. Either way, the experience of getting hot and heavy is greatly enhanced by the right kinds of music.

6. Don't use kissing only as a prelude to sex

While making out is a valued form of foreplay in a lot of cases, you shouldn't only kiss your partner to indicate your desires to have sex. Kissing in itself can be an extremely satisfying, and what's more is that it is a sweet demonstration of the love and affection you have for your partner. Don't let your beau come to associate a few kisses exclusively with your desperation to tear their clothes off!

Keep calm and kiss on, my friends.

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