'Break Up With Your Girlfriend, I'm Bored' Is Everything Right With Today’s Dating Scene

'Break Up With Your Girlfriend, I'm Bored' Is Everything Right With Today’s Dating Scene

If you're threatened by Ariana Grande's hit song, maybe you should reevaluate your relationship.

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Recently, a writer for the Odyssey published an article elaborating her disdain for Ariana Grande's song, "Break Up With Your Girlfriend, I'm Bored." The author of the article took her time to dissect why she believed that the song was "disgusting" and a menace to "today's dating scene." She even mentioned that a more fitting title for the song might be "Break Up with Your Boyfriend Because I'm a Whore." Real feminist of you, Megan Crabb.

There are so many conflicting factors at play here, so I wanted to float an alternate idea.

First of all, if your relationship with your boyfriend is threatened by a song, your relationship sucks. You shouldn't have to tell him to not get with other people, that should be a given. And if you're that insecure about him getting with other people, you shouldn't be in a relationship to begin with. Committing to growing with someone through a monogamous relationship is a voluntary choice, and not abiding by the expectations of your partner are grounds for being single — simple as that.

Second, can you blame Ariana Grande for wanting this guy to break up with his girlfriend so she can hook up with him? This guy's obviously a dime piece, and many people want a chance at him. At least she's asking that he break up with her instead of outright cheating on her. Don't you think it'd be much more disrespectful if she just took this girl's man without even waiting for them to be single? Frankly, she could probably just strut up to him and take him home, wordlessly, so maybe you should feel grateful she would respect you by at least asking him to break up with your sorry ass before she swooped in.

Crabb also mentioned that someone in a relationship is strictly "off-limits." There is no such thing as someone being "off-limits." The only person that can decide they are off-limits is that person, that individual gets to choose every day how "off-limits" they are. Other people that may be attracted to this individual get to try their hand at wooing them, and the individual can accept or decline. Oftentimes this is harmless: "Hey thanks, I'm flattered, but I'm in a relationship." If that individual continues to be approached by people that are cooler than the person they are in a relationship with, shouldn't they be allowed to opt out of their relationship? Most "relationships" these days are not real relationships, they act as placeholders because people don't want to be alone and they can't socially justify having more than one partner.

If my girl kept getting hit on by hot dudes, I'd be both flattered that: hey, my girl is hot and I should be aware that if I don't keep working on myself and constantly putting effort into this relationship, she will very easily leave me, as she should.

If Ariana Grande is asking you to break up with your man so she can hook up with him, you need to take a hard look at your life and realize you are winning, and getting insecure about her wanting to "hit it in the morning" is childish. If that's your man, and you think he's hot, don't you want to hit it in the morning too?

And lastly, ladies, let's stop with the slut-shaming. Ariana Grande is not a "whore" because she wants to have sex with a hot dude, and neither are you.

Maybe instead of resorting to name calling you could take a step back and realize that if you had as much social power as Ariana Grande, wouldn't you want the cream of the crop, too?

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

11 Things The Man You Love Should Do For You, No Questions Asked

Sometimes it's just the simple things in life that mean a lot.

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Every girl feels special when the guy she's dating does simple things for her that not everyone thinks about. Here's a list of 10 things that every girl genuinely appreciates.

1. Open/Hold the door

I feel like this one is really simple because everyone has to walk through doors. Chivalry isn't dead, let him open the door for you. He's not trying to prove that you can't do it for yourself, but he's trying to be polite and show you that he cares for you.

2. Give you really big hugs

Everyone has bad days, and sometimes you just need a really big hug. Whether it be a bear hug or the hug where he picks you up and spins you around, it will make you feel better in the long run.

3. Buy you really small gifts

One of the best things my boyfriend has ever done for me is simply bringing me a Dr. Pepper when he knows I'm tired from a long hard day full of exams or work. Sonic slushes will also make my day in a heartbeat.

4. Text/Call you just to tell you he loves you

This is pretty simple. It takes less than 10 seconds to text, and only a few minutes to call. Sometimes you get these texts right at the perfect moment, and it makes you feel so much better.

5. Come see you when you're sick

Everyone hates being sick. But seeing your friends and family while you're sick can make you feel so much better. Having your boyfriend come to see you and possibly even take care of you just makes being sick that much easier.

6. Respect your decisions

You're not married yet, so your decisions are up to you! He should respect the decisions you make and support you, even if it's not what he thinks is the best decision. After all, you know yourself better than anyone else!

7. Give you a shoulder to cry on

We all have bad days, and sometimes you just can't stop the tears from coming. Even if he's not good with crying, he should give you hugs and love to help you get through it.

8. Compliment you

Even if you look horrible and know so, hopefully, he'll still tell you that you look good. Even if the clothes you're wearing aren't his style, he should still tell you that they look good on you and that you are beautiful each and every day.

9. Call you when you're away or he's away

If you're like me, I miss my boyfriend after being away for about three hours, so when we're apart for more than a couple days, I love getting random calls from him when he knows I'm not busy. It's definitely better than a text.

10. Deal with all your annoying quirks

So if you're anything like me, you enjoy screaming music as loudly and horribly as you can in the car and making a complete fool of yourself, but he should love you for that anyway. I also love to take really stupid pictures, and he should put up with that too. He shouldn't be annoyed by your quirks, he should love them and laugh along with you.

11. Love you no matter what

I honestly feel like this goes without saying, but I put it on here so that the girls who don't feel like they're being loved no matter what can realize. He should want to work out problems with you instead of calling it quits and holding a grudge. He should want you to be happy and support you in every decision you make in life. When he loves you unconditionally, he will do all of the above things and more.

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I Finally Got A Boyfriend Who Respects Open Communication And It's Changed My Whole Perspective On Dating

It's the most important thing a relationship can have.

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Growing up, I always thought that the person you're dating should be your best friend. I thought they should know absolutely everything about you, knowing you better than you know yourself. You knew you could always go to them about anything, no matter what it was, and they would be there for you and love you the same.

Unfortunately, sometimes that's not always the case. Sometimes an attempt at open communication only leads to yelling, shaming, and withholding.

I have a tendency to say how I'm feeling all the time, not really having boundaries about my private life and feelings. Part of that comes from my struggles with my mental health and wanting to talk about it to erase the stigma, and the other part of that comes from me just being an extrovert.

In my last relationship, this part of who I was became a burden to him. My feelings and the consequences of having spiraling mental health at the time only made him angry with me. I learned the hard way that I couldn't communicate openly with someone I had grown to love, someone I had thought I could always talk to about everything. I learned the hard way that this was no longer love, that this was no longer healthy.

It got to the point where I just shoved my feelings down inside me. I believed that everyone felt the way he did whenever I would open my mouth about things he didn't like or necessarily approve of. Instead of being the expressive person I was before, I became closed off, only opening up completely to one or two people I felt I could still trust.

Getting out of that relationship was like a breath of fresh air. I realized the toxicity of the way that I was being treated and how open communication became impossible. I realized I shouldn't have to be fearful of talking about how I feel or even just hanging out with friends due to the possibility of being yelled at for seemingly no reason again.

Now, I've learned what a healthy relationship is. When I was younger, I always thought my boyfriend would be my best friend and now he is. We talk about everything, and I know that if I'm feeling like my depression is acting up or if I get upset by something he did unintentionally, I can have a calm and genuine discussion with him. I don't have to tiptoe around my word choices to try to find a way to say how I feel without angering him.

I may get annoying, but he's never once yelled at me or shamed me for how or what I'm feeling. He treats every single thought and feeling I've ever had as if they are the most valid and important things he's ever heard of. He knows that talking about problems and feelings is important to me, and he makes sure that he communicates how he feels to me as well. We've created a safe and healthy environment with each other.

After my last relationship, I didn't really know what healthy love and communication were like anymore. I was very anxious the first time my boyfriend and I had a discussion about something that bothered me because I was afraid of being yelled at again. I thought that was just how people would treat me from that moment forward. He restored my faith in love, and he showed me that open communication is the most important thing a relationship can have. We are so strong and so in love, and a lot of that can be credited to how we talk to one another.

I finally got a boyfriend who respects open communication and it truly changed my entire perspective on dating. I learned that if a relationship doesn't feel like a safe place where you can talk about anything and everything to your best friend, it's not a healthy relationship like you think it is.

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